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I am going throught the grieving phase. It doesn't seem to affect my husbad

the same way >>

Dear Terri,

Me too... Today at the school book fair lo and behold there was a book

mentioned on this site " Kissing Doorknobs " . I sorta gasped in surprised and

then picked it up to read the back. I started to cry right there not because

my son shares the same symptoms of the girl in the book, but the pain is SO

familiar. My son calls his bad thoughts BT's and until just a few days ago I

thought that they were basically worries about something bad happening. As

it turns out, it is his worries that if he does something (touch something)

then something bad will happen unless he undoes it by touching it (or

something else) again. He also worries that he has damaged things by just

brushing against them. So, if misery loves company, babes you got it ;-) It

is good to hear you are doing something for yourself. We have a daughter

starting college in the fall, so I have just had to take a part time job. My

son is NOT happy about this, and I am afraid it could adversely affect him

(It is the 6-10 shift at night). His dad will be home, and I'll be home

after school and for dinner, so I hope he can adjust. This is a case where

mom has to do something for the family (like...pay bills ha). Keep us posted.

Elaine

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Welcome!

You need to check the resources at www.ocfoundation.org and at

www.ocdsca.org

Dr. Grayson is located near Philadelphia. I think Drs Edna

Foa and Jon Abramowitz are near there also

Grayson, Ph.D.

Director

Anxiety & Agoraphobia Treatment Center

Bala Cynwyd, PA

(610) 667 - 6490

S. Abramowitz, Ph.D.

University of Pennsylvania

Center for Treatment and Study of Anxiety

3535 Market Street, 6th floor

Philadelphia, PA 19104

tel: 215-746-3327

fax: 215-746-3311

e-mail: abramow2@...

Good Luck

jim in san diego

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Hi Terri:

Welcome to the list and thank you for posting about yourself and your

family. Yes you are lucky to be in PA. Here is some information about Dr.

Edna Foa and her affiliations:

Edna B. Foa, Ph.D. Profesor at Allegheny University of the Health Sciences,

East Falls Campus (formerly the Medical College of Pennsylvania and

Hahnemann University) and Director of the Center for the Treatment and

Study of Anxiety, is an internationally renowned authority on the

psychopathology and treatment of anxiety.

There are also other great OCD docs in PA, but I think Dr. Foa is the one

who has the treatment center you have been reading about.

CBT with E & RP is the first line treatment recommended by the Expert

Consensus Guidelines for treating kids with OCD. We have on this list

several moms with kids even younger than Evan who are doing E & RP. The

challenge is to find professionals skilled in working with young children

and doing this kind of therapy with them. Many kids can be treated just

with therapy and no meds. Many docs do not know this however. For kids

whose OCD is severe or complicated by other tricky alphabet soup, meds may

be required as well as CBT.

My son, Steve, also has violent and sexual obsessions. He has told me very

little about the violent obsessions (mostly non-verbal communication on

this) and even less about the sexual obsessions. These are very normal for

OCD and I hope Evan realizes this.

It can take 10-12 weeks to get an OCDer up to the effective SSRI dosage for

OCD. This does take a lot of patience and determination. What dosage of

Zoloft is Evan on?

Response to CBT can happen within a few sessions if the mental health

practitioner is skilled. When Steve did his last round of the March

protocol he would get therapy three times a week for a couple of hours each

time and things really started to turn around fast. The first couple of

times on the March protocol he really struggled to get going, we had to

learn never to give up.

Thanks again for posting, please write again soon and tell us how you are

coping with the grieving, it is a hard job to do this. Take care, aloha,

Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

At 12:21 PM 03/07/2000 -0500, you wrote:

>From: twmom@...

>

>Dear OCD Parenting list,

>

>I have been lurking on here for several weeks and learning alot, decided

it's

>time to introduce myself. I'm another Theresa, but I go by Terri. Like some

>others, I got on this list before my son was diagnosed officially, as soon

as

>i suspected OCD.

>

>My children are Cara, 10, a precocious reader and spirited child,

>Evan, 7 , OCD and ADHD, and , 4.

>

>We homeschool, and always have, not because of OCD or for religious reasons.

>I decided my educational philosophy when my first child was a toddler.

Mostly

>it works well for us, but I have been feeling very stressed lately, in part

>because Evan's behavior interferes with learning.- his and his sisters'. On

>the other hand,because of homeschooling, I feel his self esteem is still

>intact, a big plus.

>

>We live in Lancaster,PA, so i was wondering about the references to an OCD

>therapy program in PA - Where is this? more details, please?

>

>Evan was officially diagnosed 2 weeks ago, He started on Zoloft the next

day.

>I haven't seen any effect yet. I was told it could take 6 - 8 weeks - that

>seemd really long to me! Anyone have any info to share on that? The dr hopes

>to get theOCD, a bit under control before we tackle the ADHD with any meds.

>The hyperactivity and defiance is making me crazy some days and I wish I

>could give him something, This is a big change for me - a year ago - when

the

>ADHD was confirmed, I was so against medication and explored many

>alternatives - none of which helped him.

>

>We are seeing a pyschologist, weekly at the moment. Still just getting some

>rapport there and getting him to focus and be willing to talk about his " bad

>thoughts " . Is Eand RP therapy possible at his age? I appreciated the recent

>expalanations of it on this list and I plan to get the March books soon. He

>has thoughts about killing people, about being killed, about being in others

>families, about seeing peoples privates. He can not promise anything, has

>(totally unfounded) concerns about having damaged things, about whether he

>has told the truth. Often he has to whisper these things to his Dad or me.

He

>is one very anxious kid. He did have a brief bout with handwashing about 2

>years ago, but it was only about 2 weeks, we attributed it to learning about

>germs. The intense bad thoughts started in January. he also has worries

about

>bad things he may have done in the past, ie not told the truth when asked

>whether he had ever tried a certain kind of cracker. only folks on this list

>can understand about obsessing about something like that.

>

>I am going throught the grieving phase. It doesn't seem to affect my husbad

>the same way. He is supportive, but not as stressed as I am. I do have

>supportive family near. one sister with 5 kids of her own, who will watch

>mine as neede for the appointments, and another, with a MEd in Special Ed

who

>is very supportive emotionally. And I do try to take care of myself - for me

>that's going to the gym, allowing time for my reading and phone calls.

bit, I

>do appreciate the reminders I see on this list. Sorry this is so

long-winded,

>it has taken time and courage for me to post. Thanks in advance for any

>answers.

>Terri in PA

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Hi Terri:

Welcome to the list and thank you for posting about yourself and your

family. Yes you are lucky to be in PA. Here is some information about Dr.

Edna Foa and her affiliations:

Edna B. Foa, Ph.D. Profesor at Allegheny University of the Health Sciences,

East Falls Campus (formerly the Medical College of Pennsylvania and

Hahnemann University) and Director of the Center for the Treatment and

Study of Anxiety, is an internationally renowned authority on the

psychopathology and treatment of anxiety.

There are also other great OCD docs in PA, but I think Dr. Foa is the one

who has the treatment center you have been reading about.

CBT with E & RP is the first line treatment recommended by the Expert

Consensus Guidelines for treating kids with OCD. We have on this list

several moms with kids even younger than Evan who are doing E & RP. The

challenge is to find professionals skilled in working with young children

and doing this kind of therapy with them. Many kids can be treated just

with therapy and no meds. Many docs do not know this however. For kids

whose OCD is severe or complicated by other tricky alphabet soup, meds may

be required as well as CBT.

My son, Steve, also has violent and sexual obsessions. He has told me very

little about the violent obsessions (mostly non-verbal communication on

this) and even less about the sexual obsessions. These are very normal for

OCD and I hope Evan realizes this.

It can take 10-12 weeks to get an OCDer up to the effective SSRI dosage for

OCD. This does take a lot of patience and determination. What dosage of

Zoloft is Evan on?

Response to CBT can happen within a few sessions if the mental health

practitioner is skilled. When Steve did his last round of the March

protocol he would get therapy three times a week for a couple of hours each

time and things really started to turn around fast. The first couple of

times on the March protocol he really struggled to get going, we had to

learn never to give up.

Thanks again for posting, please write again soon and tell us how you are

coping with the grieving, it is a hard job to do this. Take care, aloha,

Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

At 12:21 PM 03/07/2000 -0500, you wrote:

>From: twmom@...

>

>Dear OCD Parenting list,

>

>I have been lurking on here for several weeks and learning alot, decided

it's

>time to introduce myself. I'm another Theresa, but I go by Terri. Like some

>others, I got on this list before my son was diagnosed officially, as soon

as

>i suspected OCD.

>

>My children are Cara, 10, a precocious reader and spirited child,

>Evan, 7 , OCD and ADHD, and , 4.

>

>We homeschool, and always have, not because of OCD or for religious reasons.

>I decided my educational philosophy when my first child was a toddler.

Mostly

>it works well for us, but I have been feeling very stressed lately, in part

>because Evan's behavior interferes with learning.- his and his sisters'. On

>the other hand,because of homeschooling, I feel his self esteem is still

>intact, a big plus.

>

>We live in Lancaster,PA, so i was wondering about the references to an OCD

>therapy program in PA - Where is this? more details, please?

>

>Evan was officially diagnosed 2 weeks ago, He started on Zoloft the next

day.

>I haven't seen any effect yet. I was told it could take 6 - 8 weeks - that

>seemd really long to me! Anyone have any info to share on that? The dr hopes

>to get theOCD, a bit under control before we tackle the ADHD with any meds.

>The hyperactivity and defiance is making me crazy some days and I wish I

>could give him something, This is a big change for me - a year ago - when

the

>ADHD was confirmed, I was so against medication and explored many

>alternatives - none of which helped him.

>

>We are seeing a pyschologist, weekly at the moment. Still just getting some

>rapport there and getting him to focus and be willing to talk about his " bad

>thoughts " . Is Eand RP therapy possible at his age? I appreciated the recent

>expalanations of it on this list and I plan to get the March books soon. He

>has thoughts about killing people, about being killed, about being in others

>families, about seeing peoples privates. He can not promise anything, has

>(totally unfounded) concerns about having damaged things, about whether he

>has told the truth. Often he has to whisper these things to his Dad or me.

He

>is one very anxious kid. He did have a brief bout with handwashing about 2

>years ago, but it was only about 2 weeks, we attributed it to learning about

>germs. The intense bad thoughts started in January. he also has worries

about

>bad things he may have done in the past, ie not told the truth when asked

>whether he had ever tried a certain kind of cracker. only folks on this list

>can understand about obsessing about something like that.

>

>I am going throught the grieving phase. It doesn't seem to affect my husbad

>the same way. He is supportive, but not as stressed as I am. I do have

>supportive family near. one sister with 5 kids of her own, who will watch

>mine as neede for the appointments, and another, with a MEd in Special Ed

who

>is very supportive emotionally. And I do try to take care of myself - for me

>that's going to the gym, allowing time for my reading and phone calls.

bit, I

>do appreciate the reminders I see on this list. Sorry this is so

long-winded,

>it has taken time and courage for me to post. Thanks in advance for any

>answers.

>Terri in PA

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Hi Amy,

When my son was about 5, he would only wear shorts for the whole year. He refused to wear long pants. Luckily we live I n southern Ca. so that wasn't a problem(LOL) but at the time we just thought it was a quirk. Now we know it's OCD.

Terry

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Hi Everyone,I've been reading the list for a few weeks now, and lately have decided tojump in and introduce myself, so here goes! My 5.75-year-old son, Graham,was diagnosed with OCD by a developmental pediatrician this past May. Westarted working with a psychologist recommended by the pediatrician in June.The psychologist also feels Graham has OCD, and has already (after only 5sessions) started telling us we may need to see a psychiatrist about puttingGraham on medication, which came as a shock to both my husband and myself,as we didn't think the subject of medication would be discussed before allpossible cognitive behavioral interventions had been tried, although whatexactly CBT could do for us I don't know yet.The best way to describe Graham is to say he is a child who is just brimmingwith anxiety. As I mentioned in my earlier post about fire drills, he isvery sensitive to loud noises and any other sudden surprises. He startlesvery easily (and has since day one). He is in constant motion here at home,except when he's watching t.v. or playing a computer game. His ritualisticbehavior is a movement-based one. He likes to jump back and forth on thecouch or pace back and forth on the floor while shaking a key on a key chainin front of his eyes and telling a "story" based on his favorite t.v. show("Digimon") accompanied by repetitive noises. This ritual (which somehow wenamed "jiggling"; don't ask me why) usually lasts anywhere from five totwenty minutes, and Graham probably spends a total of one to two hours everyday doing it. When he isn't "jiggling", he seems to need to self calm inother ways, so he jumps on the bed, or spins, or repeatedly presses his faceinto his favorite blankie or pillows, or stands on his head on the couch, oris aggressive toward his two-year-old brother (which may be more than anattention-seeking behavior; it almost seems cathartic for him in some ways).Graham seems to lack, I guess because of the anxiety, a locus of motivationwithin himself. He can't self-initiate play in the way other kids do. Hehas to be entertained, either by me, his dad, or another person, or the t.v.or computer. Despite the fact that he seems to need to move to self-calm,he refuses to learn to ride a bike or play any backyard sports.Graham has attended a Montessori school for the past three years. Up untilabout eight months ago, he showed no interest in playing with other childreneither at school or outside of school. Thankfully, in the latter part ofthis past school year the desire to have friends appeared, and he made a fewfriends at school and started playing regularly with three boys in ourneighborhood. He plays so nicely with his friends, which is just a joy tosee. And it does provide a kind of break for me, because he is able towithhold the anxiety symptoms to a certain extent when he's with his friends(or at school).I do have some questions for the list. Graham's psychologist seems focusedon getting to know Graham in therapy to try to find out if there are anyobsessive thoughts and addressing Graham's lack of eye contact anddifficulty approaching his teachers at school. Should we also try to beaddressing the jiggling, self-calming, lack of ability to self-initiate athome? Wouldn't it be the case that if we tried to "extinguish" thejiggling, we'd be cruelly depriving him of his primary means ofself-calming, and forcing him to channel the anxiety into some other ritual?What exactly should our goals be, and is medication the only answer? Also,what exactly is E & RP and how does it work with regard to rigid behaviors(like his refusal to wear shirts with collars, to name one of manyexamples).Sorry to have gone on so long. I will echo what others have said about itbeing such a relief to have found a list where I can talk openly about oursituation. Thank you for being here, and for being such a supportive,well-informed, and positive group.Amy in NJYou may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing listserv@... . In the body of your message write: subscribe OCD-L your name. You may subscribe to the Parents of Adults with OCD List at parentsofadultswithOCD . You may access the files, links, and archives for our list at http://www.egoups.com/group/ . Subscription issues, problems, or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at harkins@... .

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Hi Amy:

Thanks for introducing yourself and Graham to the list. YOu are very lucky

to have a pediatrician who recognizes OCD and who can refer you to someone

who can help. Have you asked Graham's psychologist why he is recommending

medication?

The expert consensus guidelines for OCD recommend CBT (with E & RP) only for

mild to moderate OCD. Do you think Graham has any other disorders as well

as OCD? Our son, Steve, has major depressive disorder and post-traumatic

stress disorder as well as OCD. THe MDD really complicates his situation

and he is on medication for that. THe OCD is pretty much handled by the

CBT.

It can be very difficult to find skilled and experienced CBT therapists who

know how to treat quite young children. Often as a parent you will be very

much involved as a co-therapist.

The state-of-the-art treatment protocol for OCD is the March protocol

described in his and Mulle's book, " Obsessive COmpulsive Disorder in

Children and Adolescents " . ALthough this is a treatment manual aimed at

professionals I think this is a very important resource for all parents

with kids with OCD. We also have two wonderful docs on this list who have

written books about the treatment of OCD with E & RP. Dr. March's protocol

is research based, and like so much in mental illness, treatments do need

to be customized to each individual child. Nevertheless the treatments

which are of proven effectiveness in OCD involve facing fears, yes, wearing

those yucky collars, etc. This is done in a graduated manner and with a

young child rewards and incentives are used to turn the experience into as

much fun as possible.

The problem with OCD rituals/compulsions is that they only provide

temporary self-calming and actually in the long run only reinforce the

obsessions or feeling that things are not right or general feeling of

unease. Often young children lack insight into their thoughts and

behaviors and find it hard to explain what is going on. Parents have to

develop detective skills to uncover the nature of their obsessions. I

found reading about different kinds of obsessions and compulsions helped me

to develop an understanding of what my son was going through. He has/had

most of the OCD flavors commonly described, except perhaps hoarding.

An important part of doing E & RP is to develop a hierachy of OCD symptoms as

this helps in developing a graduated approach to doing exposures. Does

Graham's psychologist have a hierarchy of his symptoms yet and have they

developed a plan with goals to work on?

Good luck, take care, aloha, Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

At 11:45 AM 09/07/2000 -0400, you wrote:

>

>Hi Everyone,

>

>I've been reading the list for a few weeks now, and lately have decided to

>jump in and introduce myself, so here goes! My 5.75-year-old son, Graham,

>was diagnosed with OCD by a developmental pediatrician this past May. We

>started working with a psychologist recommended by the pediatrician in June.

>The psychologist also feels Graham has OCD, and has already (after only 5

>sessions) started telling us we may need to see a psychiatrist about putting

>Graham on medication, which came as a shock to both my husband and myself,

>as we didn't think the subject of medication would be discussed before all

>possible cognitive behavioral interventions had been tried, although what

>exactly CBT could do for us I don't know yet.

>

>The best way to describe Graham is to say he is a child who is just brimming

>with anxiety. As I mentioned in my earlier post about fire drills, he is

>very sensitive to loud noises and any other sudden surprises. He startles

>very easily (and has since day one). He is in constant motion here at home,

>except when he's watching t.v. or playing a computer game. His ritualistic

>behavior is a movement-based one. He likes to jump back and forth on the

>couch or pace back and forth on the floor while shaking a key on a key chain

>in front of his eyes and telling a " story " based on his favorite t.v. show

>( " Digimon " ) accompanied by repetitive noises. This ritual (which somehow we

>named " jiggling " ; don't ask me why) usually lasts anywhere from five to

>twenty minutes, and Graham probably spends a total of one to two hours every

>day doing it. When he isn't " jiggling " , he seems to need to self calm in

>other ways, so he jumps on the bed, or spins, or repeatedly presses his face

>into his favorite blankie or pillows, or stands on his head on the couch, or

>is aggressive toward his two-year-old brother (which may be more than an

>attention-seeking behavior; it almost seems cathartic for him in some ways).

>Graham seems to lack, I guess because of the anxiety, a locus of motivation

>within himself. He can't self-initiate play in the way other kids do. He

>has to be entertained, either by me, his dad, or another person, or the t.v.

>or computer. Despite the fact that he seems to need to move to self-calm,

>he refuses to learn to ride a bike or play any backyard sports.

>

>Graham has attended a Montessori school for the past three years. Up until

>about eight months ago, he showed no interest in playing with other children

>either at school or outside of school. Thankfully, in the latter part of

>this past school year the desire to have friends appeared, and he made a few

>friends at school and started playing regularly with three boys in our

>neighborhood. He plays so nicely with his friends, which is just a joy to

>see. And it does provide a kind of break for me, because he is able to

>withhold the anxiety symptoms to a certain extent when he's with his friends

>(or at school).

>

>I do have some questions for the list. Graham's psychologist seems focused

>on getting to know Graham in therapy to try to find out if there are any

>obsessive thoughts and addressing Graham's lack of eye contact and

>difficulty approaching his teachers at school. Should we also try to be

>addressing the jiggling, self-calming, lack of ability to self-initiate at

>home? Wouldn't it be the case that if we tried to " extinguish " the

>jiggling, we'd be cruelly depriving him of his primary means of

>self-calming, and forcing him to channel the anxiety into some other ritual?

>What exactly should our goals be, and is medication the only answer? Also,

>what exactly is E & RP and how does it work with regard to rigid behaviors

>(like his refusal to wear shirts with collars, to name one of many

>examples).

>

>Sorry to have gone on so long. I will echo what others have said about it

>being such a relief to have found a list where I can talk openly about our

>situation. Thank you for being here, and for being such a supportive,

>well-informed, and positive group.

>

>Amy in NJ

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Amy:

I will preface this post by saying that I am NOT a psychologist, but your

description of your son sounds much more to me like aspergers syndrome than a

simple case of OCD. The repetitive movements sound a lot like " stimming " . The

poor eye contact and lack of social skills are also indicative of AS. Many of

our kids have comorbid disorders -- my son who is 12 is on the autism spectrum

as well as OCD, ADHD, and depression. I probably left some other alphabet soup

out. I would recommend doing a search on " aspergers " and see if what you find

clicks with you.

As Kathy says, CBT is the first line of treatment for kids with OCD; that being

said, however, it is sometimes necessary for medication to be prescribed to

reduce the anxiety to a level where the child is able and willing to

participate. In addition, if he has trouble expressing what his anxieties are,

CBT won't necessarily help. I would get a second opinion on the diagnosis

myself.

Barb Kirby's website is an excellent place to start for info on aspergers.

http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/

Jule in Cleveland

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>I've been reading the list for a few weeks now, and lately have decided to

>jump in and introduce myself, so here goes! My 5.75-year-old son, Graham,

>was diagnosed with OCD by a developmental pediatrician this past May.

He can't self-initiate play in the way other kids do. He>has to be

entertained, either by me, his dad, or another person, or the t.v.>or

computer. Despite the fact that he seems to need to move to self-calm,>he

refuses to learn to ride a bike or play any backyard sports.

>Amy in NJ

Your description reminds me of my son, who was first diagnosed with OCD and

then with Asperger's Syndrome a few months later. That might not fit

Graham, but he certainly sounds like he has sensory integration problems,

which are typical for a lot of kids with Asperger's and other spectrum

disorders. You might ask doctors about that. -- Vicki in MT

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At 11:45 AM 9/7/00 -0400, you wrote:

>I've been reading the list for a few weeks now, and lately have decided to

>jump in and introduce myself, so here goes! My 5.75-year-old son, Graham,

>was diagnosed with OCD by a developmental pediatrician this past May.

He can't self-initiate play in the way other kids do. He>has to be

entertained, either by me, his dad, or another person, or the t.v.>or

computer. Despite the fact that he seems to need to move to self-calm,>he

refuses to learn to ride a bike or play any backyard sports.

>Amy in NJ

Your description reminds me of my son, who was first diagnosed with OCD and

then with Asperger's Syndrome a few months later. That might not fit

Graham, but he certainly sounds like he has sensory integration problems,

which are typical for a lot of kids with Asperger's and other spectrum

disorders. You might ask doctors about that. -- Vicki in MT

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Hi,

I'm new to this list, and have some questions....but should probably

introduce myself. I am 50 years old and live in the foothills in

southern Colorado. I raise goats, chickens and have 7 dogs! They protect

my goat herd from the predators in the area.

I have been dealing with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue since early

adulthood. Spinal fusion surgery four years ago threw me into the worst

episode of pain in 15 years, with a very severe flare up for the past

two months.

I have been reading about the whey products and wondered if the whey

from the cheese that I make could be dehydrated and used in the same

manner. I usually feed it to the chickens! I also wondered if anyone has

tried the colostrum based products and if they helped? My last question

is about Herxing...can someone explain what that means, or will me where

to find out?

I just visited with my doctor today, and he is very interested in the

experimental treatments! I am very fortunate that he is very unlike

previous medical personnel I have dealt with!

Thanks,

Connie T

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hi cleo! nice to meet you. i also have 2 sons in the military. both

are in the army national guard. my eldest was in bosnia last year. so

this year, when the ct ang mp's were activiated, they called him to

volunteer. luckily the mandatory call never came, and the unit

shipped out. my other son just transferred to an army air ng unit.

his training was not complete, so they left him bhind when they

deployed. i am sure they will be going in the future, as

reinforcements will be needed to keep peace and pick up the pieces.

however, they both remain on 'alert'.

i will keep your sons in my prayers. this is a nerve wracking time

for all of us. eventhough, we as parents and relatives, remain very

proud of these children. i know many people whose sons and daughters

are deployed. and of a few husbands. if you ever need to vent at

someone, i am available.

i am just beginning to think about lotions and such also. i do alot

of different crafts, and am most comfortable with a paint brush or a

sewing machine or glue gun..

nice to meet you, anne

btw i have been married for 27 yrs, to the same man. i work with the

elderly thru a nursing agency, and have some private jobs. i do

household chores, and run outside errands and take them to and from

appointments. it is so rewarding towork with such a wonderful group

of people.

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Cleo,

I have been raising goats for nearly 20 years and making soap for nearly a

decade. My favorite recipe was borrowed from the New Brunswick (Canada) Dairy

Goat Association web site. I will include it for you. I keep a record of how

I've tweaked this basic recipe (increasing milk or substituting a

different oil, etc). So far, the recipe has never failed. I've tried herbal

teas in place of some of the liquid and I've infused oils with herbs. Its a

very addictive hobby. Have fun and good luck.

Suzy in Nebraska

Basic Goat Milk and Honey Soap #2

13 cups rendered fat (6.5 pounds)

1 plastic bottle red Devil lye

1/2 cup honey

4 cups goat milk

1 cup hot water

Into a large stainless steel or enamel container, dissolve the honey into the

hot water. Add the 4 cups goat milk, stir to mix well and

slowly add the lye to the milk/honey mixture. You will want to wear rubber or

latex gloves to prevent yourself from getting any splashes on you. Also, put

the milk pan in a sink of cold water and ice cubes as you add the lye. This

will get very hot. If your milk starts to turn orange, you're

adding the lye too fast. Let it set until it cools down to 75 degrees. This

could take an

hour or more. When the lye mixture reaches 75 degrees, warm the lard to 85

degrees and pour in a slow steady stream into the

lye/milk mixture. Stir constantly until the mixture reaches the consistency of

honey. This will take 20 or 30 minutes.

When thick as honey pour into prepared molds. Allow to set for 24 to 48 hours.

Un-mold and cut into bars. Air-dry the soap for 4-5

weeks to cure it.

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Here is a recipe from an actual goat newsletter. This one works well, too and

has all of the safety precautions included.

> Saanen News Quarterly, Feb 1997 included a worksheet on GOAT MILK SOAP.

> This page includes the basic recipe plus safety tips. You can make

> enough hand soap to last your whole family for a year for just pennies a

> bar.

>

> SAFETY

> NEVER, NEVER make soap with young children around or pets in the

> house. The concentration of lye used in soap making can strip off skin

> easily, as well as damage wood floors or countertops. Always wear

> shoes, long sleeves, rubber gloves, apron and goggles. Put down plastic

> sheet to protect surfaces. Never use aluminum or cast iron as lye

> reacts violently with these surfaces causing a dangerous situation.

> Keep vinegar and boric acid solution within reach to neutralize the

> lye if it splashes onto skin or into eyes. Pour vinegar onto a surface

> to mitigate any damage if the lye lands on it. Boric acid for eyes.

> Plan to make your soap in the morning when you are alert and have no

> plans for at least 4-5 hours. Soap making is a slow process and a

> precise one. Hopefully these precautions haven't put you off making

> soap from your goat milk. If the safety rules are followed, you will be

> able to produce a useful and attractive product.

>

> The Basic Ingredients

>

> * 3 pints cold goat milk, strained

> * 1 can household lye (sodium hydroxide)

> * 5 pounds lard

> * 2 oz glycerine

> * 4 Tbls Borax

> * optional: 2 cup ground oatmeal / 1 Tbl scented essential oil

>

> Equipment

>

> * rubber gloves

> * stainless steel or unchipped enamel pans (2 or 3)

> * stainless steel spoons (2 or 3)

> * glass measuring cups

> * goggles or safety glasses

> * plastic sheeting

> * plastic apron

> * scale

> * rubber scrapper

> * stainless steel or glass thermometers

> * vinegar or boric acid solution

>

> Molds

>

> * juice cans

> * catfood cans (not the pull top lids)

> * candle molds

> * cardboard box lined with plastic bag

> * glass or stainless steel baking pans

>

> Use pan spray in your molds to pop the soap out when its time to

> unmold. You can also put the soap in the freezer for an hour to help

> unmold the cured soap. Prepare the molds and have them ready before you

> begin making the soap.

>

> Having the right temperature for both the lye solution and the fat is

> one way to ensure fine soap. That is why you need 2 thermometers. Melt

> the lard on the stove and add the glycerine. By the time its melted it

> should reach 120 degrees F. Take it off the stove and set aside.

>

> Now get the container you will mix the lye in. Put the COLD goat milk

> in it. Place it in a sink and surround it with ice. Fill the sink with

> water up to the milk line in the container. Mix the lye SLOWLY into the

> milk and SLOWLY stirring after each sprinkling. Use great care and keep

> the spoon at the bottom of the pan to avoid splashes. It could take a

> half hour to do this part. The mixture will turn bright yellow. It is

> hot and gives off awful fumes. Soap will separate if lye is added too

> fast or stirred too fast.

>

> Now you will have to wait for the two mixtures to reach the same

> temperature at the same time. 85 degrees F. You may have to out the

> lard in a hot water bath if it has cooled off too fast. When both

> mixtures are the same temperature, very carefully pour the warm lye into

> the lard in a thin steady stream, stirring slowly and evenly. Continue

> stirring.

>

> The soap will slowly get thicker and is ready when a drop from the spoon

> sits up on the surface of the mixture before blending with the rest of

> the soap. This part could take 15 to 45 minutes. At this point you can

> add Borax, oatmeal, or essential oils for fragrance. Don't use

> fragrance oils with alcohol as this may cause the soap to separate and

> ruin the batch. Now you can pour the soap into the molds. Cover with

> cardboard and a heavy blanket; let set for 24 hours.

>

> Now you are ready to unmold. Cut the soap in the baking pans into bars

> and cure for 4 weeks in a warm dry place.

>

>

>

>

>

For molds and fragrances, check out www.sweetcakes.com and www.brambleberry.com.

kc7ttm@... wrote:

> Hi! My name is Cleo and I am a beginner's beginner in the soap/lotions.

> I work fulltime and have been married over 30 yrs now with 2 sons in the

> military (one deployed and 1 on standby alert) and 1 son at home. I

> have access to some fresh goats milk and would like to start with some

> goat milk soap, so would appreciate any recipes, etc. I have searched

> the archives and found info on using powdered goat milk, but not fresh.

> Any help you can give me to get started will be greatly appreciated.

>

> Thank you

> Cleo

> Springdale WA

>

>

>

>

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Thank you!!!! I will let you know what happens when I make it on my

next days off from work.

I will keep your military relatives in my prayers also.

Cleo

Springdale WA - about 40 miles NW of Spokane

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and Cleo,

The book on milk based soaps by Casey Makela is one of the BEST!!! Good choice.

Suzy

shimai wrote:

> Hi Cleo. I'm from WA as well. Though I don't know where Springdale is. I

> live north of Lacey kinda by Olympia. One book I have read about using milk

> (of any sort) in making soap is Milk-Based Soaps- Making Natural,

> Skin-Nourishing Soap by Casey Makela. I'm new to soaping too so I don't

> know how it compares to other books or websites but it was very informative.

> I checked it out from the library here.

> HTH

> J

>

>

> > Hi! My name is Cleo and I am a beginner's beginner in the soap/lotions.

> > I work fulltime and have been married over 30 yrs now with 2 sons in the

> > military (one deployed and 1 on standby alert) and 1 son at home. I

> > have access to some fresh goats milk and would like to start with some

> > goat milk soap, so would appreciate any recipes, etc. I have searched

> > the archives and found info on using powdered goat milk, but not fresh.

> > Any help you can give me to get started will be greatly appreciated.

> >

> > Thank you

> > Cleo

> > Springdale WA

> >

>

>

>

>

>

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, readup on the work of Italian vet. Walter Tarello. You might

even go and see him. The full text of his articles are posted on

the net and discuss staph as the cause of CFS. I'm on bromelain and

baby aspirin until my circulation improves enough to try strong

antibiotics or Tarello's treatment. I feel much better on them.

There's increasingly strong evidence for staph being the major cause

and it won't be much longer before its well known.

Good luck, I wish you well.

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Dear Walter,

The Italians have miserable hospitals IMO but they do really good

research. A vet huh. So if it's staph would it mean that a regimen

of an anti-staph anitbiotic might make one feel better, at least for

a while or might it need to be longer. I'll check out the doc you

recommended and thanks for answering my post. It's nice to feel

welcome

> , readup on the work of Italian vet. Walter Tarello. You

might

> even go and see him. The full text of his articles are posted on

> the net and discuss staph as the cause of CFS. I'm on bromelain

and

> baby aspirin until my circulation improves enough to try strong

> antibiotics or Tarello's treatment. I feel much better on them.

>

> There's increasingly strong evidence for staph being the major

cause

> and it won't be much longer before its well known.

>

> Good luck, I wish you well.

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>> I find it so hard to give up junkfood for a day,how did you guys

make it easier?What did you keep telling yourself to keep yourself

from binging on junkfoods if you're like me and can't be away from

it?How did you keep yourself motivated or what kept you inspired?

Take it one day or one meal or one hour at a time. I made a list of

what I craved and then when free day came around I pulled the list

out. I asked myself, if I have a piece of " x " will this bring me any

closer to my goal or further away from my goal? Also surf the recipe

sites and there are quite a few bfl dessert type recipes that will

help kill a sweet tooth :)

>

> Now I have a question about the program:

> Still on the topic of Myoplex,protein powders,and eating authorized

> foods...is there any difference if you do one of the above,but not

> the other when it comes to between meals?I mean do you lose more

> weight is you do Myoplex,protein powders or by eating authorized

> foods or does it just matter about how your body does with the

> program when it comes to weight loss?Now I'm beginning to

think,does it even matter how much weight you loss because I don't

think this is really about weightloss,now I'm confusing myself=/

>

BINGO! Actually the program is more about living a healthier

lifestyle. As far as " weight loss " , I think the goal should be to

decrease bodyfat. We do that by increasing muscle while

simultaneously losing fat. So sometimes the scale " lies " to us and

indicates we aren't making progress when, in fact, we are lowering

our bodyfat. As far as foods, personally I feel fuller with real

food vs. a shake.

Colleen

PS WELCOME!

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What is your surgeon's response to your questions? That is the most

important. The surgeon's examination can go far in analyzing your

situation as he has tools such as xray, MRI, bone scan at his

disposal.

If you want an amateur's view, here's mine: Not until 5-6 months

post-op was I really comfortable sitting for long periods of time.

Fortunately I was free to move around at will so it wasn't a big

problem. Car trips up to that point got segmented into 1-2 hour legs

so I could get out and walk around. However I would not have

described what I felt as pain " like a toothache " so maybe you do have

something wrong.

Maybe it's time to find out.

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Have you seen your orthopedist? Could it be pain comeing from your

back, and not your hip? Try sitting w/ a small flat pillow at your

waist line, to encourage the natural arch in your back.

How about a visit to your Physical Therapist? (always my favorite

answer)

Marilyn

Barbara wrote:

Hullo All!

My name is Barbara. I'm in Sacramento, and I had my right hip

replaced near the end of September. The first couple of months were

amazing; practically no pain, and my muscles got noticably stronger

fast. Now, seven months later, I'm having pain around the joint

again. I feel great if I'm walking -- movement is still its own

reward -- but sitting afterward, or for extended periods, such as

computer or tv, time hurts like a toothache. I've even changed jobs

from a call center to convenience store so I don't have to sit so

much. So far it helps, but I'm still left with questions.

Have others of you had experiences like this? Is discomfort and

pain after sitting a normal part of the healing process? How long

does it last?

Thanks in advance,

Barbara

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,

Welcome to the group! I don't know specifics of the Prolab, but you

could split it in half. I don't use the Myoplex at all right now.

I'm breastfeeding my baby and don't want to use anything other than a

good protein powder.

I ordered the EFL book yesterday and am looking forward to using it.

Chicken isn't the only protein, by far:

tuna

any kind of fish

shellfish

beef

pork

etc. etc.

Good luck. The ladies here are great.

Jen

> Hi everyone,

>

> I just joined and will be starting my first BFL challenge on Sunday

> morning. I'm so excited to find a group of women living the BFL

> lifestyle!

>

> A little about me: I'm , 32, mom of one amazing 4-year-old

> girl and wife to (who will also be starting BFL on Sunday).

> I'm 5'8 " and have about 4 sizes to lose. I'm hoping that's

realistic

> in 12 weeks, but if it's not, I'll just start again!

>

> My questions are: (a) Does anyone here use other shakes besides

> Myoplex/Myoplex Lite? I'm specifically kind of interested in the

> Prolab Lean Mass Matrix, but at 390 calories per shake, it seems

> kind of hefty for a woman trying to lose fat . . . or is it?? Any

> thoughts?

>

> And (B), what do you think about the Eating-for-LIFE book? I want

to

> eat as clean as possible, but I also wanted to have a little

variety

> beyond the standard chicken salad, chicken sandwich, chicken

> breast, . . . etc. My thought was to have one or two meals from the

> EFL recipes each day, along with one meal of chicken/rice/broccoli

> or something along those lines, two shakes, and one cottage

> cheese/yogurt or fruit meal. The recipes in EFL seem to hit that

> carb/protein balance without being too heavy on fat, but I wanted

to

> see what more experienced BFLers thought.

>

> OK, that's probably long enough for my first post, lol! I look

> forward to giving and getting support from this group. :)

>

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Hi M :)

Welcome :) I just got the EFL book today :) I LOVE IT!

Lets put it this way... I was just flippin through it to tell you

about it ...and OMG......my mouth is watering. This from a woman

who was....umm... complaining about the price last week. There are

sooo many choices!!!! hehehe, who knew!

I was going to start my 1st challenge on Aug. 1st...but the more I

have thinking about it, the more I think.why wait ? lol......

*hugs*

Anjil

> >

> > And (B), what do you think about the Eating-for-LIFE book?

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>

> My questions are: (a) Does anyone here use other shakes besides

> Myoplex/Myoplex Lite? I'm specifically kind of interested in the

> Prolab Lean Mass Matrix, but at 390 calories per shake, it seems

> kind of hefty for a woman trying to lose fat . . . or is it?? Any

> thoughts?

Hi ,

I actually own a few tubs of vanilla and chocolate protein powder

because I like to bake with it and make my own shakes. I do use meal

replacement shakes(envelopes) rarely that are not Myoplex and they

work just fine. Most of these have to be cut in half for me because

they have the calories that men would normally need. Most of the

regular enveloppes(like prolab lean mass) likely have somewhere around

40grams of protein which you as a female do not need.

>

> And (B), what do you think about the Eating-for-LIFE book? I want to

> eat as clean as possible, but I also wanted to have a little variety

> beyond the standard chicken salad, chicken sandwich, chicken

> breast, . . . etc. My thought was to have one or two meals from the

> EFL recipes each day, along with one meal of chicken/rice/broccoli

> or something along those lines, two shakes, and one cottage

> cheese/yogurt or fruit meal. The recipes in EFL seem to hit that

> carb/protein balance without being too heavy on fat, but I wanted to

> see what more experienced BFLers thought.

I *love* the eating-for-life book. I actually tried to follow the meal

planning at the back of the book this week and it worked out really

well :) EFL is really a reflection of what a healthy lifestyle should

look like in my opinion. I train quite a bit (not doing BFL exercises

anymore) and the food I eat from the EFL book is plenty :)

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Welcome, ! I'm sure everyone else is answering your questions... so

I'll just wish you luck!

It's great that your hubby is going to do BFL with you. Mine works out with

me, but doesn't do BFL.

Intro and questions

Hi everyone,

I just joined and will be starting my first BFL challenge on Sunday

morning. I'm so excited to find a group of women living the BFL

lifestyle!

A little about me: I'm , 32, mom of one amazing 4-year-old

girl and wife to (who will also be starting BFL on Sunday).

I'm 5'8 " and have about 4 sizes to lose. I'm hoping that's realistic

in 12 weeks, but if it's not, I'll just start again!

My questions are: (a) Does anyone here use other shakes besides

Myoplex/Myoplex Lite? I'm specifically kind of interested in the

Prolab Lean Mass Matrix, but at 390 calories per shake, it seems

kind of hefty for a woman trying to lose fat . . . or is it?? Any

thoughts?

And (B), what do you think about the Eating-for-LIFE book? I want to

eat as clean as possible, but I also wanted to have a little variety

beyond the standard chicken salad, chicken sandwich, chicken

breast, . . . etc. My thought was to have one or two meals from the

EFL recipes each day, along with one meal of chicken/rice/broccoli

or something along those lines, two shakes, and one cottage

cheese/yogurt or fruit meal. The recipes in EFL seem to hit that

carb/protein balance without being too heavy on fat, but I wanted to

see what more experienced BFLers thought.

OK, that's probably long enough for my first post, lol! I look

forward to giving and getting support from this group. :)

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Hi ,

The Prolab is fine but it's almost twice as many calories and twice as much

protein as you want in a meal. You can still use it, just split the packets in

half.

Some people complain that the EFL meals contain unauthorized ingredients or are

too high in calories or carbs. I think everything in there is appropriate

though. Your plan to keep it simple and throw in some EFL recipes here and there

is a really good one. You get some variety but you also maximize your results.

Here's my rant on BFL vs. EFL

http://www.skwigg.com/id48.html

I probably have too much time on my hands. :-)

Intro and questions

Hi everyone,

I just joined and will be starting my first BFL challenge on Sunday

morning. I'm so excited to find a group of women living the BFL

lifestyle!

A little about me: I'm , 32, mom of one amazing 4-year-old

girl and wife to (who will also be starting BFL on Sunday).

I'm 5'8 " and have about 4 sizes to lose. I'm hoping that's realistic

in 12 weeks, but if it's not, I'll just start again!

My questions are: (a) Does anyone here use other shakes besides

Myoplex/Myoplex Lite? I'm specifically kind of interested in the

Prolab Lean Mass Matrix, but at 390 calories per shake, it seems

kind of hefty for a woman trying to lose fat . . . or is it?? Any

thoughts?

And (B), what do you think about the Eating-for-LIFE book? I want to

eat as clean as possible, but I also wanted to have a little variety

beyond the standard chicken salad, chicken sandwich, chicken

breast, . . . etc. My thought was to have one or two meals from the

EFL recipes each day, along with one meal of chicken/rice/broccoli

or something along those lines, two shakes, and one cottage

cheese/yogurt or fruit meal. The recipes in EFL seem to hit that

carb/protein balance without being too heavy on fat, but I wanted to

see what more experienced BFLers thought.

OK, that's probably long enough for my first post, lol! I look

forward to giving and getting support from this group. :)

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Thanks, (and everyone else who replied)! I think I'll stick with

the Myoplex Lite for now and see how I like it 20 packets down the road.

Your article really puts EFL in perspective for me. I was stressing this

morning because for my first BFL breakfast I made the scrambled eggs (4

egg whites, 1 full egg) and had them with a corn tortilla and salsa . .

.. and 2 tbsp. of lowfat cheese and a tablespoon of lowfat sour cream. It

was mmm-mmm-good, but I ended up getting all worked up because of the

cheese and sour cream. In the end, though, if 2 tablespoons of lowfat

cheese and a tablespoon of lowfat sour cream is going to make or break

my results, then I'd better find something else to do!

So thanks for helping me put a stop to my panic before I got to the

point of throwing my hands up and swinging by the nearest fast food

joint. ;o)

Re: Intro and questions

Hi ,

The Prolab is fine but it's almost twice as many calories and twice as

much protein as you want in a meal. You can still use it, just split the

packets in half.

Some people complain that the EFL meals contain unauthorized ingredients

or are too high in calories or carbs. I think everything in there is

appropriate though. Your plan to keep it simple and throw in some EFL

recipes here and there is a really good one. You get some variety but

you also maximize your results.

Here's my rant on BFL vs. EFL

http://www.skwigg.com/id48.html

I probably have too much time on my hands. :-)

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