Re: my wife is thinking of implants???

April 16, 2003

Hi Dave,

Oh that I wish I would have had a husband like you around telling me that I didn't need them and he didn't want me to get them! I'd have been one pleased wife.

Of course, I know what your wife is thinking when she says it will help her self image. We all said we did it for ourselves. I remember saying I was doing it for ME. (emphasize that ME part!) But in the end, what I got for ME was nothing but the worst mistake of my life, ruined breasts, and ruined lives for my family as they suffered with me during my illness. The very darkest days of my life were caused by my implants. Without a doubt, they were so bad that I consider myself lucky to be alive, because my illness made me so sick I didn't see the point in living anymore. Thank God I got them out and had the perseverance needed to get better. I have my life back!

If your wife becomes ill from her implants, you will suffer along with her, so you have to ask yourself are you willing to go through that? Are you prepared to deal with her inability to function, and doctors and tests and medical bills out the wazoo, IF she becomes ill? That is the possibility you have to prepare for. If she gets implants and does not get sick for a number of years, you don't have to worry about that right now. But you always have to be prepared for that possibility, because it can happen, and it is never pretty when it does.

So the advice I have to give you, is that you need to decide what you can do to prevent her from getting implants, if you absolutely do not want her to do it. I think what would have worked for me is being showered with love and affection along with the plea not to change my body in any way, begging (sorry, I hate that word, but it is the one needed here) me not to do it because I was loved just the way I looked now, that a change in my breasts with implants would be a NEGATIVE to the relationship, not a positive. If that would have been followed with a promise to go on a cruise or other vacation with the money instead, or a piece of brilliant diamond filled jewelry, or whatever it was that would have tripped my trigger, I think I would have backed down and not gotten them.

Having said that, I know that all those things would not change the longing for a change in breasts for the long term. The desire for bigger boobs would raise its ugly head again. Sometimes it never goes away. At that point, you need to be prepared to offer all the alternatives there are out there that you can for changing the way the breasts look. If a lift is what she needs, then perhaps a lift without the implants would do it. If is it definitely enlargement that she wants, and just specifically that, then you have to look into all the natural means out there to do that, or else just buy those breast enhancers that she puts into her bra and hope that will be enough to satisfy her. Natural breast enlargement is done through herbs, hypnosis CD's, and of course, nothing is ever guaranteed, but it is a heck of alot safer and not as invasive as implant surgery. I think it works for some women.

Dave, I wish you the very best. You are an awesome husband to be looking into this on behalf of your wife. You are a rare one, and all I can say is that your wife is lucky to have you! Let us know how it goes.

Patty

----- Original Message -----

From: joe,crackhead

Sent: Wednesday, April 16, 2003 9:26 AM

Subject: my wife is thinking of implants???

So my wife told me that she wants implants. I don't think she needs them and don't want her to get them. of course she says that it will help her self image. she is already very flighty and a highly stressed person. she is very active and I think that she would be raising her angziety level by worrying about her implants. along with undergoing surgery and possible scarring ect.. I was just wanting a little advice from some people who have gone through this opperartion and have some experiance. thanks Dave.

April 18, 2003