Re: Gloria/Cindy treatment and stuff around the house.

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When I was on treatment I rarely ventured out of my bedroom..  during the times that I felt pretty decent (which was rare but did happen at least for a few hours each week) I would make sure my room was dusted and tidy.  Hubs kept the bathroom clean...  that was the only time he ever kept the bathroom clean actually...  He knew I couldn't do it and needed it clean when I'd wander in there thinking I was gonna be throwing up for hours.  There is nothing worse than having to barf in a nasty bathroom!  The rest of the house.. they actually kept it fairly well picked up.  I think they knew if I walked out into another room and saw a mess I'd try to start cleaning.  They didn't want that. 

Hugs,TeriOn Fri, Jan 28, 2011 at 8:38 PM, Gloria <gadamscan@...> wrote:

 

The story about the 22 yr. old is kinda funny!!  I've had it happen and the only thing I don't like about it, is that the female pretends a relationship with you, when all the while she thinks she has a hope of your man.  LOL  I've always believed in any relationship I was in, if the guy was going to sleep around on me, then best I find out early in the partnership.  I put up with being slapped, punched, hair pulling, verbal and emotional abuse.  But, I never had to worry about them having a wondering eye.  So, the little girl just needs to grow up some.

However, , I truly believe that you will be fine on tx.  In both of my runs at treatment, I would be able to let the animals out if I

tried.  But, while I was doing the 1st, my Mother would either spend the Friday night with me or she would come on a Sat. to check up on how I was.  What she usually found was me all cozy in bed, the TV blaring, the dog up close to me, as well as both cats.

Really, stock up on a few of those frozen dinners, lots of yogurt and anything else that is easy to get down and doesn't take much work.  The housework is absolutely taboo!!  If you are going to try to work, then for sure you won't be doing housework.  But, you know what??  It didn't bother me one iota.  I did have a housekeeper; but, he wasn't really great about the corners etc.  At least my floors were pretty clean and the biggest thing - my bathroom was clean.  I have one of those things about the bathroom being clean.

Gloria

 

This is late due to I was in the hospital with the pnemonia.

I am glad to see this for real Gloria. I was going to hire this one girl to help me during tx. She is 22 and dumb as a board. Every time she texts me she asks if Rick is here or going to be here when she comes over. I am done. She is not going to help. Me. She told me she can do frozen pizza and frozen meals that is it. Shit I can do that. Forget it. I was hoping she would cook a couple casseroles and help with laundry. Maybe let dogs out help change out their cages clean them up. She can't do any of that. She gave me a list of the food she likes though and should get if she spends any nights. She is so outta here. My husband went to the pharmacy tonight to get himself some meds for himself after a doc appt he has the flu. She sees him and instantly is right there with him. Asked if I were out. Then dropped me and started asking about him. He told her he was sick and she had better get away so she did not get sick. He said she got a blank look

turned around and walked off. She has a bad crush on my husband. He is definitly not into her. Anyway So will be doing it without much of Ricks help. I think the more he sees the more he will step up like he did when he saw how bad I was with this pnemonia.I knew I was in trouble when the day before the doc appt I had the dogs out in the cold going potty I have to take them on leashes no fence. I knew I was not okay. I about fell face first in the snow. I was barely able to stand the pain in my right side of my lung. I was wondering if my right lung was trying to deflate or something. It was that that was the side the pnemonia was in.  He did not see me till I was already in the hospital. Then he was mad he was not the first one to know I was in there. Can't win.

I am out and on the mend I hope. My doc did everything according to my liver care and all too.

 

PS I know what you feel about people not leaving wills. That is really crappy. Ricks dad did that and now there are a lot of bad vibes and feelings going on between their step brother step mother and them that didn't have to be there.

She did send flowers to the hospital and come to check on me as did Ricks step brothers wife. wierd kind of on the sister in law.

From: Gloria <gadamscan@...>Subject: Re: [ ]

Date: Wednesday, January 19, 2011, 11:46 PM

 

When I did treatment the first time, my husband worked away from home a lot!!!  Unfortunately, on the 2nd round, he was right there.  In my case, that turned out to be the worst thing that could have happened. 

Do I wish that I had never done treatment and still had my husband??  NOPE not for a second.  He truly was a jackass to me, period.  In fact, he's still a jackass to me!!!  Dying without a will.  Geez!!!  I'll tell you, if I could magically wish him back from the ashes, I'd use a baseball bat to hit him up the side of the

head.When he

was away during the first treatment, my mother would come over every Friday night that I did my shot.  You know, never once did she actually see me do the shot; but, she felt better that I was not alone.  However, I actually had no problem with being alone on the Sat. or Sun.  That way, I could just stay in bed and was not concerned about anyone.

Gloria

 

The  best way to get through this is to use your head. Know why it is you feel bad. You can defuse a lot of the anger just by knowing why you feel that way. I had horrible PMS all the way up to menopause. My husband had a lot to put up with. I finally got to where I told him that I knowticed when I got up and was mad sometimes and haven't even talked to anyone yet or done anything and already felt like blowing up. So I would recognise it and tell my husband wrong side of bed. He knew what it meant and stayed out of my way. I tried harder to avoid stuff on those days to not go off on anyone. I was a little maniac sometimes.

Anyway I started doing nice things for me on those days to help myself. I took a nice bath. I got a back rub  from Rick. I slept in and watched tv. I ate ice cream. I looked at meditations on the internet. I did stuff to make me relax and decided the other stuff would have to wait for a better day. You may have to do some of this. Don't let it get you all wound up. They aren't worth it hon. You need to help yourself now. do some constructive stuff for you now. You are not done getting over tx right now. You are expecting to be over it way too fast. Allow yourself the time to get better for now if you can. I know you want to sink all that stupid clinics ship and yes they deserve it and worse but right now it may not be too constructive in your healing. I am worried about you.

I am sitting over here with 105 temp right now. Don't make me come over there and  make you take care of you. Me and Teri and Don will all come over and feed you grapes and take care of you. They had a write up in Dons and my City's newspaper saying they would have the two new drugs out sometime this summer. So may be starting this summer. After being sick today with no help and 105 fever and vomiting and chills I had a harder than hell time getting up and putting on three pairs of jogging pants and three long sleeve jogging shirts and socks and a coat so I could take the dogs out. Then back in to take some thera flu and back to bed. Now got a bad headache. I was barely able to get the dogs out today. I asked a friend today if I paid her would she come spend the night with me on shot nights. I am still waiting for an answer. I hope she says yes. Rick is going to get a second job so he won't be able to help me probably at all. Don't know what I

am going to do. He still says he does not want me to tell his step mom. She knows I got to find a way to tell him I told her. I can't go stay with her on shot nights because of my dogs and parrot. My house is not up to her niceness. She will be more helpful for grocery shopping and rides to appts. I got the lady across the fields for that too. I may ask Ricks step mom to go with me for the first shot. I don't think I will have trouble with it. I have given shots to my dogs. I gave shots to my horses too. so we will see.

Good night. Chilling again.

Anyway ny. Love you and no matter what always take time to love yourself and when you have a bad day start looking for the good in it too. It is there you just haven't looked far enough yet. Love you

 

 

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No one would ever think that I would try to clean up or tidy. I hate housework and always have. I get absolutely no pleasure from the job whatsoever. So, it's definitely a good thing that I have a much smaller place now. It looks like an overflow from my desk even when you first walk in. On the other side, I try to keep the dishes clean etc. The bedroom!!! I have to get my friend to put the door to the upstairs back on. It's extremely hard on me to make the bed. Literally, I have to get someone to help me. Ahhh, if the niece isn't too badly hungover tomorrow, I'll get her to come and help me.Gloria

When I was on treatment I rarely ventured out of my bedroom.. during the times that I felt pretty decent (which was rare but did happen at least for a few hours each week) I would make sure my room was dusted and tidy. Hubs kept the bathroom clean... that was the only time he ever kept the bathroom clean actually... He knew I couldn't do it and needed it clean when I'd wander in there thinking I was gonna be throwing up for hours. There is nothing worse than having to barf in a nasty bathroom! The rest of the house.. they actually kept it fairly well picked up. I think they knew if I walked out into another room and saw a mess I'd try to start cleaning. They didn't want that.

Hugs,TeriOn Fri, Jan 28, 2011 at 8:38 PM, Gloria <gadamscan@...> wrote:

The story about the 22 yr. old is kinda funny!! I've had it happen and the only thing I don't like about it, is that the female pretends a relationship with you, when all the while she thinks she has a hope of your man. LOL I've always believed in any relationship I was in, if the guy was going to sleep around on me, then best I find out early in the partnership. I put up with being slapped, punched, hair pulling, verbal and emotional abuse. But, I never had to worry about them having a wondering eye. So, the little girl just needs to grow up some.

However, , I truly believe that you will be fine on tx. In both of my runs at treatment, I would be able to let the animals out if I

tried. But, while I was doing the 1st, my Mother would either spend the Friday night with me or she would come on a Sat. to check up on how I was. What she usually found was me all cozy in bed, the TV blaring, the dog up close to me, as well as both cats.

Really, stock up on a few of those frozen dinners, lots of yogurt and anything else that is easy to get down and doesn't take much work. The housework is absolutely taboo!! If you are going to try to work, then for sure you won't be doing housework. But, you know what?? It didn't bother me one iota. I did have a housekeeper; but, he wasn't really great about the corners etc. At least my floors were pretty clean and the biggest thing - my bathroom was clean. I have one of those things about the bathroom being clean.

Gloria

This is late due to I was in the hospital with the pnemonia.

I am glad to see this for real Gloria. I was going to hire this one girl to help me during tx. She is 22 and dumb as a board. Every time she texts me she asks if Rick is here or going to be here when she comes over. I am done. She is not going to help. Me. She told me she can do frozen pizza and frozen meals that is it. Shit I can do that. Forget it. I was hoping she would cook a couple casseroles and help with laundry. Maybe let dogs out help change out their cages clean them up. She can't do any of that. She gave me a list of the food she likes though and should get if she spends any nights. She is so outta here. My husband went to the pharmacy tonight to get himself some meds for himself after a doc appt he has the flu. She sees him and instantly is right there with him. Asked if I were out. Then dropped me and started asking about him. He told her he was sick and she had better get away so she did not get sick. He said she got a blank look

turned around and walked off. She has a bad crush on my husband. He is definitly not into her. Anyway So will be doing it without much of Ricks help. I think the more he sees the more he will step up like he did when he saw how bad I was with this pnemonia.I knew I was in trouble when the day before the doc appt I had the dogs out in the cold going potty I have to take them on leashes no fence. I knew I was not okay. I about fell face first in the snow. I was barely able to stand the pain in my right side of my lung. I was wondering if my right lung was trying to deflate or something. It was that that was the side the pnemonia was in. He did not see me till I was already in the hospital. Then he was mad he was not the first one to know I was in there. Can't win.

I am out and on the mend I hope. My doc did everything according to my liver care and all too.

PS I know what you feel about people not leaving wills. That is really crappy. Ricks dad did that and now there are a lot of bad vibes and feelings going on between their step brother step mother and them that didn't have to be there.

She did send flowers to the hospital and come to check on me as did Ricks step brothers wife. wierd kind of on the sister in law.

From: Gloria <gadamscan@...>Subject: Re: [ ]

Date: Wednesday, January 19, 2011, 11:46 PM

When I did treatment the first time, my husband worked away from home a lot!!! Unfortunately, on the 2nd round, he was right there. In my case, that turned out to be the worst thing that could have happened.

Do I wish that I had never done treatment and still had my husband?? NOPE not for a second. He truly was a jackass to me, period. In fact, he's still a jackass to me!!! Dying without a will. Geez!!! I'll tell you, if I could magically wish him back from the ashes, I'd use a baseball bat to hit him up the side of the

head.When he

was away during the first treatment, my mother would come over every Friday night that I did my shot. You know, never once did she actually see me do the shot; but, she felt better that I was not alone. However, I actually had no problem with being alone on the Sat. or Sun. That way, I could just stay in bed and was not concerned about anyone.

Gloria

The best way to get through this is to use your head. Know why it is you feel bad. You can defuse a lot of the anger just by knowing why you feel that way. I had horrible PMS all the way up to menopause. My husband had a lot to put up with. I finally got to where I told him that I knowticed when I got up and was mad sometimes and haven't even talked to anyone yet or done anything and already felt like blowing up. So I would recognise it and tell my husband wrong side of bed. He knew what it meant and stayed out of my way. I tried harder to avoid stuff on those days to not go off on anyone. I was a little maniac sometimes.

Anyway I started doing nice things for me on those days to help myself. I took a nice bath. I got a back rub from Rick. I slept in and watched tv. I ate ice cream. I looked at meditations on the internet. I did stuff to make me relax and decided the other stuff would have to wait for a better day. You may have to do some of this. Don't let it get you all wound up. They aren't worth it hon. You need to help yourself now. do some constructive stuff for you now. You are not done getting over tx right now. You are expecting to be over it way too fast. Allow yourself the time to get better for now if you can. I know you want to sink all that stupid clinics ship and yes they deserve it and worse but right now it may not be too constructive in your healing. I am worried about you.

I am sitting over here with 105 temp right now. Don't make me come over there and make you take care of you. Me and Teri and Don will all come over and feed you grapes and take care of you. They had a write up in Dons and my City's newspaper saying they would have the two new drugs out sometime this summer. So may be starting this summer. After being sick today with no help and 105 fever and vomiting and chills I had a harder than hell time getting up and putting on three pairs of jogging pants and three long sleeve jogging shirts and socks and a coat so I could take the dogs out. Then back in to take some thera flu and back to bed. Now got a bad headache. I was barely able to get the dogs out today. I asked a friend today if I paid her would she come spend the night with me on shot nights. I am still waiting for an answer. I hope she says yes. Rick is going to get a second job so he won't be able to help me probably at all. Don't know what I

am going to do. He still says he does not want me to tell his step mom. She knows I got to find a way to tell him I told her. I can't go stay with her on shot nights because of my dogs and parrot. My house is not up to her niceness. She will be more helpful for grocery shopping and rides to appts. I got the lady across the fields for that too. I may ask Ricks step mom to go with me for the first shot. I don't think I will have trouble with it. I have given shots to my dogs. I gave shots to my horses too. so we will see.

Good night. Chilling again.

Anyway ny. Love you and no matter what always take time to love yourself and when you have a bad day start looking for the good in it too. It is there you just haven't looked far enough yet. Love you

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You have a DOOR to your UPSTAIRS?  Gloria...  I am so confused.  How do you get a second floor in a travel trailor?Laughing my butt off over here!On Fri, Jan 28, 2011 at 9:29 PM, Gloria <gadamscan@...> wrote:

 

No one would ever think that I would try to clean up or tidy.  I hate housework and always have.  I get absolutely no pleasure from the job whatsoever.  So, it's definitely a good thing that I have a much smaller place now.  It looks like an overflow from my desk even when you first walk in.  On the other side, I try to keep the dishes clean etc.  The bedroom!!!  I have to get my friend to put the door to the upstairs back on.  It's extremely hard on me to make the bed.  Literally, I have to get someone to help me.  Ahhh, if the niece isn't too badly hungover tomorrow, I'll get her to come and help me.

Gloria

 

When I was on treatment I rarely ventured out of my bedroom..  during the times that I felt pretty decent (which was rare but did happen at least for a few hours each week) I would make sure my room was dusted and tidy.  Hubs kept the bathroom clean...  that was the only time he ever kept the bathroom clean actually...  He knew I couldn't do it and needed it clean when I'd wander in there thinking I was gonna be throwing up for hours.  There is nothing worse than having to barf in a nasty bathroom!  The rest of the house.. they actually kept it fairly well picked up.  I think they knew if I walked out into another room and saw a mess I'd try to start cleaning.  They didn't want that. 

Hugs,TeriOn Fri, Jan 28, 2011 at 8:38 PM, Gloria <gadamscan@...> wrote:

 

The story about the 22 yr. old is kinda funny!!  I've had it happen and the only thing I don't like about it, is that the female pretends a relationship with you, when all the while she thinks she has a hope of your man.  LOL  I've always believed in any relationship I was in, if the guy was going to sleep around on me, then best I find out early in the partnership.  I put up with being slapped, punched, hair pulling, verbal and emotional abuse.  But, I never had to worry about them having a wondering eye.  So, the little girl just needs to grow up some.

However, , I truly believe that you will be fine on tx.  In both of my runs at treatment, I would be able to let the animals out if I

tried.  But, while I was doing the 1st, my Mother would either spend the Friday night with me or she would come on a Sat. to check up on how I was.  What she usually found was me all cozy in bed, the TV blaring, the dog up close to me, as well as both cats.

Really, stock up on a few of those frozen dinners, lots of yogurt and anything else that is easy to get down and doesn't take much work.  The housework is absolutely taboo!!  If you are going to try to work, then for sure you won't be doing housework.  But, you know what??  It didn't bother me one iota.  I did have a housekeeper; but, he wasn't really great about the corners etc.  At least my floors were pretty clean and the biggest thing - my bathroom was clean.  I have one of those things about the bathroom being clean.

Gloria

 

This is late due to I was in the hospital with the pnemonia.

I am glad to see this for real Gloria. I was going to hire this one girl to help me during tx. She is 22 and dumb as a board. Every time she texts me she asks if Rick is here or going to be here when she comes over. I am done. She is not going to help. Me. She told me she can do frozen pizza and frozen meals that is it. Shit I can do that. Forget it. I was hoping she would cook a couple casseroles and help with laundry. Maybe let dogs out help change out their cages clean them up. She can't do any of that. She gave me a list of the food she likes though and should get if she spends any nights. She is so outta here. My husband went to the pharmacy tonight to get himself some meds for himself after a doc appt he has the flu. She sees him and instantly is right there with him. Asked if I were out. Then dropped me and started asking about him. He told her he was sick and she had better get away so she did not get sick. He said she got a blank look

turned around and walked off. She has a bad crush on my husband. He is definitly not into her. Anyway So will be doing it without much of Ricks help. I think the more he sees the more he will step up like he did when he saw how bad I was with this pnemonia.I knew I was in trouble when the day before the doc appt I had the dogs out in the cold going potty I have to take them on leashes no fence. I knew I was not okay. I about fell face first in the snow. I was barely able to stand the pain in my right side of my lung. I was wondering if my right lung was trying to deflate or something. It was that that was the side the pnemonia was in.  He did not see me till I was already in the hospital. Then he was mad he was not the first one to know I was in there. Can't win.

I am out and on the mend I hope. My doc did everything according to my liver care and all too.

 

PS I know what you feel about people not leaving wills. That is really crappy. Ricks dad did that and now there are a lot of bad vibes and feelings going on between their step brother step mother and them that didn't have to be there.

She did send flowers to the hospital and come to check on me as did Ricks step brothers wife. wierd kind of on the sister in law.

From: Gloria <gadamscan@...>Subject: Re: [ ]

Date: Wednesday, January 19, 2011, 11:46 PM

 

When I did treatment the first time, my husband worked away from home a lot!!!  Unfortunately, on the 2nd round, he was right there.  In my case, that turned out to be the worst thing that could have happened. 

Do I wish that I had never done treatment and still had my husband??  NOPE not for a second.  He truly was a jackass to me, period.  In fact, he's still a jackass to me!!!  Dying without a will.  Geez!!!  I'll tell you, if I could magically wish him back from the ashes, I'd use a baseball bat to hit him up the side of the

head.When he

was away during the first treatment, my mother would come over every Friday night that I did my shot.  You know, never once did she actually see me do the shot; but, she felt better that I was not alone.  However, I actually had no problem with being alone on the Sat. or Sun.  That way, I could just stay in bed and was not concerned about anyone.

Gloria

 

The  best way to get through this is to use your head. Know why it is you feel bad. You can defuse a lot of the anger just by knowing why you feel that way. I had horrible PMS all the way up to menopause. My husband had a lot to put up with. I finally got to where I told him that I knowticed when I got up and was mad sometimes and haven't even talked to anyone yet or done anything and already felt like blowing up. So I would recognise it and tell my husband wrong side of bed. He knew what it meant and stayed out of my way. I tried harder to avoid stuff on those days to not go off on anyone. I was a little maniac sometimes.

Anyway I started doing nice things for me on those days to help myself. I took a nice bath. I got a back rub  from Rick. I slept in and watched tv. I ate ice cream. I looked at meditations on the internet. I did stuff to make me relax and decided the other stuff would have to wait for a better day. You may have to do some of this. Don't let it get you all wound up. They aren't worth it hon. You need to help yourself now. do some constructive stuff for you now. You are not done getting over tx right now. You are expecting to be over it way too fast. Allow yourself the time to get better for now if you can. I know you want to sink all that stupid clinics ship and yes they deserve it and worse but right now it may not be too constructive in your healing. I am worried about you.

I am sitting over here with 105 temp right now. Don't make me come over there and  make you take care of you. Me and Teri and Don will all come over and feed you grapes and take care of you. They had a write up in Dons and my City's newspaper saying they would have the two new drugs out sometime this summer. So may be starting this summer. After being sick today with no help and 105 fever and vomiting and chills I had a harder than hell time getting up and putting on three pairs of jogging pants and three long sleeve jogging shirts and socks and a coat so I could take the dogs out. Then back in to take some thera flu and back to bed. Now got a bad headache. I was barely able to get the dogs out today. I asked a friend today if I paid her would she come spend the night with me on shot nights. I am still waiting for an answer. I hope she says yes. Rick is going to get a second job so he won't be able to help me probably at all. Don't know what I

am going to do. He still says he does not want me to tell his step mom. She knows I got to find a way to tell him I told her. I can't go stay with her on shot nights because of my dogs and parrot. My house is not up to her niceness. She will be more helpful for grocery shopping and rides to appts. I got the lady across the fields for that too. I may ask Ricks step mom to go with me for the first shot. I don't think I will have trouble with it. I have given shots to my dogs. I gave shots to my horses too. so we will see.

Good night. Chilling again.

Anyway ny. Love you and no matter what always take time to love yourself and when you have a bad day start looking for the good in it too. It is there you just haven't looked far enough yet. Love you

 

 

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TeriI do have stairs! There is one to get to a hall with a bathroom on both sides. Then there is 2 steps to get up to the bed. Remember, it's a 5th wheel. You have get up to the part that hangs over the truck that would be pulling it.Gloria

You have a DOOR to your UPSTAIRS? Gloria... I am so confused. How do you get a second floor in a travel trailor?Laughing my butt off over here!On Fri, Jan 28, 2011 at 9:29 PM, Gloria <gadamscan@...> wrote:

No one would ever think that I would try to clean up or tidy. I hate housework and always have. I get absolutely no pleasure from the job whatsoever. So, it's definitely a good thing that I have a much smaller place now. It looks like an overflow from my desk even when you first walk in. On the other side, I try to keep the dishes clean etc. The bedroom!!! I have to get my friend to put the door to the upstairs back on. It's extremely hard on me to make the bed. Literally, I have to get someone to help me. Ahhh, if the niece isn't too badly hungover tomorrow, I'll get her to come and help me.

Gloria

When I was on treatment I rarely ventured out of my bedroom.. during the times that I felt pretty decent (which was rare but did happen at least for a few hours each week) I would make sure my room was dusted and tidy. Hubs kept the bathroom clean... that was the only time he ever kept the bathroom clean actually... He knew I couldn't do it and needed it clean when I'd wander in there thinking I was gonna be throwing up for hours. There is nothing worse than having to barf in a nasty bathroom! The rest of the house.. they actually kept it fairly well picked up. I think they knew if I walked out into another room and saw a mess I'd try to start cleaning. They didn't want that.

Hugs,TeriOn Fri, Jan 28, 2011 at 8:38 PM, Gloria <gadamscan@...> wrote:

The story about the 22 yr. old is kinda funny!! I've had it happen and the only thing I don't like about it, is that the female pretends a relationship with you, when all the while she thinks she has a hope of your man. LOL I've always believed in any relationship I was in, if the guy was going to sleep around on me, then best I find out early in the partnership. I put up with being slapped, punched, hair pulling, verbal and emotional abuse. But, I never had to worry about them having a wondering eye. So, the little girl just needs to grow up some.

However, , I truly believe that you will be fine on tx. In both of my runs at treatment, I would be able to let the animals out if I

tried. But, while I was doing the 1st, my Mother would either spend the Friday night with me or she would come on a Sat. to check up on how I was. What she usually found was me all cozy in bed, the TV blaring, the dog up close to me, as well as both cats.

Really, stock up on a few of those frozen dinners, lots of yogurt and anything else that is easy to get down and doesn't take much work. The housework is absolutely taboo!! If you are going to try to work, then for sure you won't be doing housework. But, you know what?? It didn't bother me one iota. I did have a housekeeper; but, he wasn't really great about the corners etc. At least my floors were pretty clean and the biggest thing - my bathroom was clean. I have one of those things about the bathroom being clean.

Gloria

This is late due to I was in the hospital with the pnemonia.

I am glad to see this for real Gloria. I was going to hire this one girl to help me during tx. She is 22 and dumb as a board. Every time she texts me she asks if Rick is here or going to be here when she comes over. I am done. She is not going to help. Me. She told me she can do frozen pizza and frozen meals that is it. Shit I can do that. Forget it. I was hoping she would cook a couple casseroles and help with laundry. Maybe let dogs out help change out their cages clean them up. She can't do any of that. She gave me a list of the food she likes though and should get if she spends any nights. She is so outta here. My husband went to the pharmacy tonight to get himself some meds for himself after a doc appt he has the flu. She sees him and instantly is right there with him. Asked if I were out. Then dropped me and started asking about him. He told her he was sick and she had better get away so she did not get sick. He said she got a blank look

turned around and walked off. She has a bad crush on my husband. He is definitly not into her. Anyway So will be doing it without much of Ricks help. I think the more he sees the more he will step up like he did when he saw how bad I was with this pnemonia.I knew I was in trouble when the day before the doc appt I had the dogs out in the cold going potty I have to take them on leashes no fence. I knew I was not okay. I about fell face first in the snow. I was barely able to stand the pain in my right side of my lung. I was wondering if my right lung was trying to deflate or something. It was that that was the side the pnemonia was in. He did not see me till I was already in the hospital. Then he was mad he was not the first one to know I was in there. Can't win.

I am out and on the mend I hope. My doc did everything according to my liver care and all too.

PS I know what you feel about people not leaving wills. That is really crappy. Ricks dad did that and now there are a lot of bad vibes and feelings going on between their step brother step mother and them that didn't have to be there.

She did send flowers to the hospital and come to check on me as did Ricks step brothers wife. wierd kind of on the sister in law.

From: Gloria <gadamscan@...>Subject: Re: [ ]

Date: Wednesday, January 19, 2011, 11:46 PM

When I did treatment the first time, my husband worked away from home a lot!!! Unfortunately, on the 2nd round, he was right there. In my case, that turned out to be the worst thing that could have happened.

Do I wish that I had never done treatment and still had my husband?? NOPE not for a second. He truly was a jackass to me, period. In fact, he's still a jackass to me!!! Dying without a will. Geez!!! I'll tell you, if I could magically wish him back from the ashes, I'd use a baseball bat to hit him up the side of the

head.When he

was away during the first treatment, my mother would come over every Friday night that I did my shot. You know, never once did she actually see me do the shot; but, she felt better that I was not alone. However, I actually had no problem with being alone on the Sat. or Sun. That way, I could just stay in bed and was not concerned about anyone.

Gloria

The best way to get through this is to use your head. Know why it is you feel bad. You can defuse a lot of the anger just by knowing why you feel that way. I had horrible PMS all the way up to menopause. My husband had a lot to put up with. I finally got to where I told him that I knowticed when I got up and was mad sometimes and haven't even talked to anyone yet or done anything and already felt like blowing up. So I would recognise it and tell my husband wrong side of bed. He knew what it meant and stayed out of my way. I tried harder to avoid stuff on those days to not go off on anyone. I was a little maniac sometimes.

Anyway I started doing nice things for me on those days to help myself. I took a nice bath. I got a back rub from Rick. I slept in and watched tv. I ate ice cream. I looked at meditations on the internet. I did stuff to make me relax and decided the other stuff would have to wait for a better day. You may have to do some of this. Don't let it get you all wound up. They aren't worth it hon. You need to help yourself now. do some constructive stuff for you now. You are not done getting over tx right now. You are expecting to be over it way too fast. Allow yourself the time to get better for now if you can. I know you want to sink all that stupid clinics ship and yes they deserve it and worse but right now it may not be too constructive in your healing. I am worried about you.

I am sitting over here with 105 temp right now. Don't make me come over there and make you take care of you. Me and Teri and Don will all come over and feed you grapes and take care of you. They had a write up in Dons and my City's newspaper saying they would have the two new drugs out sometime this summer. So may be starting this summer. After being sick today with no help and 105 fever and vomiting and chills I had a harder than hell time getting up and putting on three pairs of jogging pants and three long sleeve jogging shirts and socks and a coat so I could take the dogs out. Then back in to take some thera flu and back to bed. Now got a bad headache. I was barely able to get the dogs out today. I asked a friend today if I paid her would she come spend the night with me on shot nights. I am still waiting for an answer. I hope she says yes. Rick is going to get a second job so he won't be able to help me probably at all. Don't know what I

am going to do. He still says he does not want me to tell his step mom. She knows I got to find a way to tell him I told her. I can't go stay with her on shot nights because of my dogs and parrot. My house is not up to her niceness. She will be more helpful for grocery shopping and rides to appts. I got the lady across the fields for that too. I may ask Ricks step mom to go with me for the first shot. I don't think I will have trouble with it. I have given shots to my dogs. I gave shots to my horses too. so we will see.

Good night. Chilling again.

Anyway ny. Love you and no matter what always take time to love yourself and when you have a bad day start looking for the good in it too. It is there you just haven't looked far enough yet. Love you

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Gotta go look at the pictures again.. I AM SO CONFUSED!On Sat, Jan 29, 2011 at 7:57 PM, Gloria <gadamscan@...> wrote:

 

TeriI do have stairs!  There is one to get to a hall with a bathroom on both sides.  Then there is 2 steps to get up to the bed.  Remember, it's a 5th wheel.  You have get up to the part that hangs over the truck that would be pulling it.

Gloria

 

You have a DOOR to your UPSTAIRS?  Gloria...  I am so confused.  How do you get a second floor in a travel trailor?Laughing my butt off over here!On Fri, Jan 28, 2011 at 9:29 PM, Gloria <gadamscan@...> wrote:

 

No one would ever think that I would try to clean up or tidy.  I hate housework and always have.  I get absolutely no pleasure from the job whatsoever.  So, it's definitely a good thing that I have a much smaller place now.  It looks like an overflow from my desk even when you first walk in.  On the other side, I try to keep the dishes clean etc.  The bedroom!!!  I have to get my friend to put the door to the upstairs back on.  It's extremely hard on me to make the bed.  Literally, I have to get someone to help me.  Ahhh, if the niece isn't too badly hungover tomorrow, I'll get her to come and help me.

Gloria

 

When I was on treatment I rarely ventured out of my bedroom..  during the times that I felt pretty decent (which was rare but did happen at least for a few hours each week) I would make sure my room was dusted and tidy.  Hubs kept the bathroom clean...  that was the only time he ever kept the bathroom clean actually...  He knew I couldn't do it and needed it clean when I'd wander in there thinking I was gonna be throwing up for hours.  There is nothing worse than having to barf in a nasty bathroom!  The rest of the house.. they actually kept it fairly well picked up.  I think they knew if I walked out into another room and saw a mess I'd try to start cleaning.  They didn't want that. 

Hugs,TeriOn Fri, Jan 28, 2011 at 8:38 PM, Gloria <gadamscan@...> wrote:

 

The story about the 22 yr. old is kinda funny!!  I've had it happen and the only thing I don't like about it, is that the female pretends a relationship with you, when all the while she thinks she has a hope of your man.  LOL  I've always believed in any relationship I was in, if the guy was going to sleep around on me, then best I find out early in the partnership.  I put up with being slapped, punched, hair pulling, verbal and emotional abuse.  But, I never had to worry about them having a wondering eye.  So, the little girl just needs to grow up some.

However, , I truly believe that you will be fine on tx.  In both of my runs at treatment, I would be able to let the animals out if I

tried.  But, while I was doing the 1st, my Mother would either spend the Friday night with me or she would come on a Sat. to check up on how I was.  What she usually found was me all cozy in bed, the TV blaring, the dog up close to me, as well as both cats.

Really, stock up on a few of those frozen dinners, lots of yogurt and anything else that is easy to get down and doesn't take much work.  The housework is absolutely taboo!!  If you are going to try to work, then for sure you won't be doing housework.  But, you know what??  It didn't bother me one iota.  I did have a housekeeper; but, he wasn't really great about the corners etc.  At least my floors were pretty clean and the biggest thing - my bathroom was clean.  I have one of those things about the bathroom being clean.

Gloria

 

This is late due to I was in the hospital with the pnemonia.

I am glad to see this for real Gloria. I was going to hire this one girl to help me during tx. She is 22 and dumb as a board. Every time she texts me she asks if Rick is here or going to be here when she comes over. I am done. She is not going to help. Me. She told me she can do frozen pizza and frozen meals that is it. Shit I can do that. Forget it. I was hoping she would cook a couple casseroles and help with laundry. Maybe let dogs out help change out their cages clean them up. She can't do any of that. She gave me a list of the food she likes though and should get if she spends any nights. She is so outta here. My husband went to the pharmacy tonight to get himself some meds for himself after a doc appt he has the flu. She sees him and instantly is right there with him. Asked if I were out. Then dropped me and started asking about him. He told her he was sick and she had better get away so she did not get sick. He said she got a blank look

turned around and walked off. She has a bad crush on my husband. He is definitly not into her. Anyway So will be doing it without much of Ricks help. I think the more he sees the more he will step up like he did when he saw how bad I was with this pnemonia.I knew I was in trouble when the day before the doc appt I had the dogs out in the cold going potty I have to take them on leashes no fence. I knew I was not okay. I about fell face first in the snow. I was barely able to stand the pain in my right side of my lung. I was wondering if my right lung was trying to deflate or something. It was that that was the side the pnemonia was in.  He did not see me till I was already in the hospital. Then he was mad he was not the first one to know I was in there. Can't win.

I am out and on the mend I hope. My doc did everything according to my liver care and all too.

 

PS I know what you feel about people not leaving wills. That is really crappy. Ricks dad did that and now there are a lot of bad vibes and feelings going on between their step brother step mother and them that didn't have to be there.

She did send flowers to the hospital and come to check on me as did Ricks step brothers wife. wierd kind of on the sister in law.

From: Gloria <gadamscan@...>

Subject: Re: [ ]

Date: Wednesday, January 19, 2011, 11:46 PM

 

When I did treatment the first time, my husband worked away from home a lot!!!  Unfortunately, on the 2nd round, he was right there.  In my case, that turned out to be the worst thing that could have happened. 

Do I wish that I had never done treatment and still had my husband??  NOPE not for a second.  He truly was a jackass to me, period.  In fact, he's still a jackass to me!!!  Dying without a will.  Geez!!!  I'll tell you, if I could magically wish him back from the ashes, I'd use a baseball bat to hit him up the side of the

head.When he

was away during the first treatment, my mother would come over every Friday night that I did my shot.  You know, never once did she actually see me do the shot; but, she felt better that I was not alone.  However, I actually had no problem with being alone on the Sat. or Sun.  That way, I could just stay in bed and was not concerned about anyone.

Gloria

 

The  best way to get through this is to use your head. Know why it is you feel bad. You can defuse a lot of the anger just by knowing why you feel that way. I had horrible PMS all the way up to menopause. My husband had a lot to put up with. I finally got to where I told him that I knowticed when I got up and was mad sometimes and haven't even talked to anyone yet or done anything and already felt like blowing up. So I would recognise it and tell my husband wrong side of bed. He knew what it meant and stayed out of my way. I tried harder to avoid stuff on those days to not go off on anyone. I was a little maniac sometimes.

Anyway I started doing nice things for me on those days to help myself. I took a nice bath. I got a back rub  from Rick. I slept in and watched tv. I ate ice cream. I looked at meditations on the internet. I did stuff to make me relax and decided the other stuff would have to wait for a better day. You may have to do some of this. Don't let it get you all wound up. They aren't worth it hon. You need to help yourself now. do some constructive stuff for you now. You are not done getting over tx right now. You are expecting to be over it way too fast. Allow yourself the time to get better for now if you can. I know you want to sink all that stupid clinics ship and yes they deserve it and worse but right now it may not be too constructive in your healing. I am worried about you.

I am sitting over here with 105 temp right now. Don't make me come over there and  make you take care of you. Me and Teri and Don will all come over and feed you grapes and take care of you. They had a write up in Dons and my City's newspaper saying they would have the two new drugs out sometime this summer. So may be starting this summer. After being sick today with no help and 105 fever and vomiting and chills I had a harder than hell time getting up and putting on three pairs of jogging pants and three long sleeve jogging shirts and socks and a coat so I could take the dogs out. Then back in to take some thera flu and back to bed. Now got a bad headache. I was barely able to get the dogs out today. I asked a friend today if I paid her would she come spend the night with me on shot nights. I am still waiting for an answer. I hope she says yes. Rick is going to get a second job so he won't be able to help me probably at all. Don't know what I

am going to do. He still says he does not want me to tell his step mom. She knows I got to find a way to tell him I told her. I can't go stay with her on shot nights because of my dogs and parrot. My house is not up to her niceness. She will be more helpful for grocery shopping and rides to appts. I got the lady across the fields for that too. I may ask Ricks step mom to go with me for the first shot. I don't think I will have trouble with it. I have given shots to my dogs. I gave shots to my horses too. so we will see.

Good night. Chilling again.

Anyway ny. Love you and no matter what always take time to love yourself and when you have a bad day start looking for the good in it too. It is there you just haven't looked far enough yet. Love you