Guest guest Posted March 5, 2011 Report Share Posted March 5, 2011 Don't think many of us have not had that happen some where along the line with family and or friends that feel like family. But, now there are no older family members left. Parents are gone, all aunts and uncles too. So, I have my family- hubby, 3 daughters, 6 grand kids and tons of cats and dogs. I have a handful of real friends because i don't need more than that. But, I must say that none of them seem to really understand what i am going through that is why all of you are so important to me. You guys get it! I would not be doing as well as I am without each and every one of you. Re: [ ] I am sorry I just hate it when family winds up doing something stupid and it all falls apart. I have a similar situation here. My HUGE family that I moved back to Chicago for... I don't speak with any of them now. Situation similar to what Gloria just went thru happened here about 5 years ago. A family member passed away and I watched these people become money hungry greedy jerks. My mother's family completely turned on her, it was so sad. I now have a relationship with my mother but that is it. The rest of the family... I learned to to even care about them. Once I lost that respect for them I could never get it back. That's when you replace that horrible part of the family with really GOOD friends. Do what works for you ny. Just get somewhere where there is medical help for you. Hugs,Teri On Sat, Mar 5, 2011 at 7:07 AM, Barrett <barrjohnm@...> wrote: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2011 Report Share Posted March 5, 2011 I too have my immediate family.. the hubs, the kids. the kids friends who call us Mom and Pop... and close friends. I am content with that. My walk with hep c proved to me who was here for me for real. Those people have a place close to my heart. But you're right, they don't understand what we are dealing with. They can't. Unless you walk in these shoes... Granted, part of that is our fault because if you think about it, we don't let on completely as to what is going on with us. We are almost afraid to. Yep it's bad but we're not going to show just how bad... don't want to scare them... Then there's the self punishment part of it where we suffer in silence a lot. Funny thing is, there is no reason for the self punishment but most of us have done it. I have aunts and uncles and cousins who I will never speak to again because of how they treated my mother when her brother passed away. Those aunts and uncles, he was their brother too. But he died without a will and money makes people ugly sometimes. On Sat, Mar 5, 2011 at 2:40 PM, <dmgarr@...> wrote: Don't think many of us have not had that happen some where along the line with family and or friends that feel like family. But, now there are no older family members left. Parents are gone, all aunts and uncles too. So, I have my family- hubby, 3 daughters, 6 grand kids and tons of cats and dogs. I have a handful of real friends because i don't need more than that. But, I must say that none of them seem to really understand what i am going through that is why all of you are so important to me. You guys get it! I would not be doing as well as I am without each and every one of you. y: New Members 4 New Links 38 Stay on top of your group activity without leaving the page you're on - Get the Toolbar now. Find useful articles and helpful tips on living with Fibromyalgia. Visit the Fibromyalgia Zone today! Switch to: Text-Only, Daily Digest • Unsubscribe • Terms of Use . -- Teri Gottlieb MOVE ON. It's just a chapter in the past, but don't close the book. Just turn the page. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2011 Report Share Posted March 6, 2011 Oh, DonnaSo glad that we have the ability to help! That's what it's all about.Gloria Don't think many of us have not had that happen some where along the line with family and or friends that feel like family. But, now there are no older family members left. Parents are gone, all aunts and uncles too. So, I have my family- hubby, 3 daughters, 6 grand kids and tons of cats and dogs. I have a handful of real friends because i don't need more than that. But, I must say that none of them seem to really understand what i am going through that is why all of you are so important to me. You guys get it! I would not be doing as well as I am without each and every one of you. Re: [ ] I am sorry I just hate it when family winds up doing something stupid and it all falls apart. I have a similar situation here. My HUGE family that I moved back to Chicago for... I don't speak with any of them now. Situation similar to what Gloria just went thru happened here about 5 years ago. A family member passed away and I watched these people become money hungry greedy jerks. My mother's family completely turned on her, it was so sad. I now have a relationship with my mother but that is it. The rest of the family... I learned to to even care about them. Once I lost that respect for them I could never get it back. That's when you replace that horrible part of the family with really GOOD friends. Do what works for you ny. Just get somewhere where there is medical help for you. Hugs,Teri On Sat, Mar 5, 2011 at 7:07 AM, Barrett <barrjohnm@...> wrote: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2011 Report Share Posted March 6, 2011 After what I've had to go through since my husband died without a will!!! Thank gawd we had nothing to fight over. Geez, the very thought about me dealing with his family is like a nightmare.BTW, you are right on the money, describing most of us on treatment. I wasn't brought up to be a whiny woman. Also, I'm the eldest with 4 younger brothers. Always, it was about looking after someone else!! So ya, it was really hard to ask for any help.Gloria I too have my immediate family.. the hubs, the kids. the kids friends who call us Mom and Pop... and close friends. I am content with that. My walk with hep c proved to me who was here for me for real. Those people have a place close to my heart. But you're right, they don't understand what we are dealing with. They can't. Unless you walk in these shoes... Granted, part of that is our fault because if you think about it, we don't let on completely as to what is going on with us. We are almost afraid to. Yep it's bad but we're not going to show just how bad... don't want to scare them... Then there's the self punishment part of it where we suffer in silence a lot. Funny thing is, there is no reason for the self punishment but most of us have done it. I have aunts and uncles and cousins who I will never speak to again because of how they treated my mother when her brother passed away. Those aunts and uncles, he was their brother too. But he died without a will and money makes people ugly sometimes. On Sat, Mar 5, 2011 at 2:40 PM, <dmgarr@...> wrote: Don't think many of us have not had that happen some where along the line with family and or friends that feel like family. But, now there are no older family members left. Parents are gone, all aunts and uncles too. So, I have my family- hubby, 3 daughters, 6 grand kids and tons of cats and dogs. I have a handful of real friends because i don't need more than that. But, I must say that none of them seem to really understand what i am going through that is why all of you are so important to me. You guys get it! I would not be doing as well as I am without each and every one of you. y: New Members 4 New Links 38 Stay on top of your group activity without leaving the page you're on - Get the Toolbar now. Find useful articles and helpful tips on living with Fibromyalgia. Visit the Fibromyalgia Zone today! Switch to: Text-Only, Daily Digest • Unsubscribe • Terms of Use . -- Teri Gottlieb MOVE ON. It's just a chapter in the past, but don't close the book. Just turn the page. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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