feelings

[Guest guest]

Dear Kim,

Good luck with your Mom. Unfortunately these situations bring up the unresolved

issues

in a family system.

Having worked as a psychotherapist in many family illness and greif situations -

and

having my own Mom go through a protracted cancer treatment for nine months

before she

died - I can only council trying to support yourself with deep breathing and

trying to let go

of things that your siblings are doing. I know that is hard . . but remember,

that you and

they are very stressed and in stressful situations people react often from the

worst parts of

themselves . . . .

I will be thinking about you and hoping that you find the support that you need.

Best Wishes,

Deborah

>

>

> " What a strange idea. Love isn't feeling. If it were, I wouldn't be

> able to love. Cheribum don't have feelings. "

>

> " But----- "

>

> " Idiot, " Proginoskes said, anxiously rather than crossly. " Love isn't

> how you feel. It's what you do. I've never had a feeling in my life.

> As a matter of fact, I matter only with earth people. "

>

> Madeleine L'Engle - A Wind in the Door

>

>

>

> Just wanted to pop in while I got the chance. More surgery on the way

> for my Mom, then chemo & radiation. Have had some sibling

> rivalry/jealousy rear it's ugly head too. I've been told I'm too

> controlling. To forgive is divine but can I be? Take care.

>

> Kim

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you. I just need to keep my mouth shut and do what I need to do

for my Mom at this time.

Kim

> I will be thinking about you and hoping that you find the support

that you need.

>

> Best Wishes,

>

> Deborah

[Guest guest]

Thank you. I just need to keep my mouth shut and do what I need to do

for my Mom at this time.

Kim

> I will be thinking about you and hoping that you find the support

that you need.

>

> Best Wishes,

>

> Deborah

[Guest guest]

-- In , "miminm" <mnmimi@...> wrote:>> I posted recently about how to minimize sounds one can't stand to hear > it may be intresting to note that years of listenig to my sister, > helped to make me selectivly deaf.

Intuitive aren't you. I have two sisters, one two years older and the other a year and a half younger. I'm in the middle. I also tend to analyze the attitude of my younger sib. I know why she thinks, feels, and acts the way she does toward me. I've made efforts to appease her so her feelings won't have negative repercussions.

Oh please always remember and never > forget(from Alice) you are allowed to be human sometimes. You are > allowed to: cry

Tears have not been forthcomming but if they do, I'll try not to stiffle them.

> go to the bathroom

There is a joke in our family about that very thing!

> eat

I won't let myself get as thin as when my Father was ill. Someone took a picture and when I saw how I looked I was mortified.

> drink

Lots and lots of water!

> be sad

Trying to see the positives right now. There is a phrase from the book, Eaters of the Dead that I concur with and it is, Finally I said to Herger, "The rain is cold." To this he laughed. "How can the rain be cold?" he said. "You are cold and you are unhappy. The rain is not cold or unhappy." Also, I feel that the sagas with (a wiki insert here) "impersonal, terse, with no explanation of why's. Things happen; no one questions fate." way of dealing with situations is how I live my life.

> oh and think about how nice silence is when panamonium is all around > you.

I must go find the post you spoke of. Usually I try to get lost in a book if it is possible but sometimes the gum snappers, cell phone abusers, figgeting noise makers and those who choose not to read but to interrupt mine in waiting rooms can get under my skin. I will try though.

>feel better mimi

Thank you showing concern about my well being and I will take care.

Kim

[Guest guest]

Hang in there Marsha. Everyone on this forum understands what you are going through. Don't feel guilty for your feelings. They are not imagined! And, they are not minor. Keep fighting your dragon the best way you can. Hugs, VickieG

feelings

I am so glad I have this group. Most people don't understand what you are going through so its nice to have someone to relate to. Its saturday morning and last night I chilled and sweated my a*% off againYesterday I noticed I have no appetite at all. I forced myself to eat toast and yogart for breakfast. My favorite cherry yogart tasted very tart to me.. Not good, I love my yogart.... For lunce I again forced myself to eat a bowl of soup, and a piece of bread with peanut butter on top. For dinner I could not eat what my husband was having which was steak. I did force myself to eat a baked potatoe and some fresh broccoli. My stomach says growl I'm hungry, eat, but when I put the food in my mouth I can hardle swallow it. Thanks for listening to my constant whining group. I feel like a heal when suzie and several others in the group are so sick and awaiting a transplant or arn't sick enough yet to get

one. Well there sick enough, but not to the freakin doctors. And here I'm whining about a little sweat and chills.My heart aches for you and I send you love and prayers. Marsha

[Guest guest]

Marsha,

Try Mama Gail's trick - make small dishes of the food you can tolerate & eat them every few hours. I ate a lot of salad on tx, just couldn't handle meat & I've always been a carnivore (my favourite meal was rare roast beef with Yorkshire pudding)! I still don't eat red meat much & it's been years now but I find that red met makes my ammonia go up & I get very confused. Stick to chicken ir fish & lots of salad. Also, try smoothies - any fruit you like mixed in a blender with milk or juice(or even ice cream!) & ice - cool & refreshing to the palate. Sherbet is good too, you can always find one you like.

Keep fighting girl, it'll get better!

SuZie

Your future depends on your dreams. Don't waste time, go to sleep NOW!

Subject: feelingsTo: HepatitisCSupportGroupForDummies Date: Saturday, August 23, 2008, 8:51 AM

I am so glad I have this group. Most people don't understand what you are going through so its nice to have someone to relate to. Its saturday morning and last night I chilled and sweated my a*% off againYesterday I noticed I have no appetite at all. I forced myself to eat toast and yogart for breakfast. My favorite cherry yogart tasted very tart to me.. Not good, I love my yogart.... For lunce I again forced myself to eat a bowl of soup, and a piece of bread with peanut butter on top. For dinner I could not eat what my husband was having which was steak. I did force myself to eat a baked potatoe and some fresh broccoli. My stomach says growl I'm hungry, eat, but when I put the food in my mouth I can hardle swallow it. Thanks for listening to my constant whining group. I feel like a heal when suzie and several others in the group are so sick and awaiting a transplant or arn't sick enough yet to get

one. Well there sick enough, but not to the freakin doctors. And here I'm whining about a little sweat and chills.My heart aches for you and I send you love and prayers. Marsha

[Guest guest]

yes make sure you eat and avoid foods that bother you no two people are alike for instance i hated eggs all my life and when i got to week 20 i started craving eggs eat 6 small meals a day eat things that are good also i get sick just by the smell of food cooking sometimes so i have hubby cook it in grill or i will make a nice roast or something that can be aten in a few days i have 5 more weeks to go after tomorrow also eat fruit and veggies and have smoothies and yougurt and sherbert ice cream i had to have 2 blood transfusions while on tx cause my white blood count dropped so bad also i had many bags of potassium while in hospital so eat bananas etc follow doc orders and i wish you all the luck in the world oh i am not sure if my white blood count dropped to a single 7 due to the tx or due to the fact i am also batteling cancer so i got 2 things happening to me at the same time what a bummer some days also dont be alarmed if you loose some weight it is

normal even though i eat 6 meals a day and snacks i lost over 50 pounds on tx but like i said i am also fighting lung cancer so i got a double whammie so to say as time goes on i feel more and more like my old self i aint as tired and i have more energy color etc all improved at 1st i had such dry skin from tx i used dove soap etc and lotions the itching stopped many of us go thru many changes but it is worth it sley that dragon good lucksuzie wrote:

Marsha, Try Mama Gail's trick - make small dishes of the food you can tolerate & eat them every few hours. I ate a lot of salad on tx, just couldn't handle meat & I've always been a carnivore (my favourite meal was rare roast beef with Yorkshire pudding)! I still don't eat red meat much & it's been years now but I find that red met makes my ammonia go up & I get very confused. Stick to chicken ir fish & lots of salad. Also, try smoothies - any fruit you like mixed in a blender with milk or juice(or even ice cream!) & ice - cool & refreshing to the palate. Sherbet is good too, you can always find one you like. Keep fighting girl, it'll get

better! SuZie Your future depends on your dreams. Don't waste time, go to sleep NOW! From: sparky111_26003 <sparky111_26003>Subject: feelingsTo: HepatitisCSupportGroupForDummies Date: Saturday, August 23, 2008, 8:51 AM I am so glad I have this group. Most people don't understand what you are going through so its nice to have someone to relate to. Its saturday morning and last night I

chilled and sweated my a*% off againYesterday I noticed I have no appetite at all. I forced myself to eat toast and yogart for breakfast. My favorite cherry yogart tasted very tart to me.. Not good, I love my yogart.... For lunce I again forced myself to eat a bowl of soup, and a piece of bread with peanut butter on top. For dinner I could not eat what my husband was having which was steak. I did force myself to eat a baked potatoe and some fresh broccoli. My stomach says growl I'm hungry, eat, but when I put the food in my mouth I can hardle swallow it. Thanks for listening to my constant whining group. I feel like a heal when suzie and several others in the group are so sick and awaiting a transplant or arn't sick enough yet to get one. Well there sick enough, but not to the freakin doctors. And here I'm whining about a little sweat and chills.My heart aches for you and I send you love and prayers. Marsha

[Guest guest]

Hi Marsha Suzie

Just giving my support to you, The Tx thing is such a trip into the

unknown, very scary, all the sides you have heard about are now

appearing. I have done Tx years ago when it was the injection 3 x week

ouch, man after awhile just looking at that needle hurt. At that time

they just sent me home with the meds no help no coaching nobody new

what to do to help, it was horrible.

Finding these web sites where I can interact with people afflicted with

the same illness that can relate to what is happening. Is truly a

blessing, [not that we have the illness, but that a support group is

out there] I will be possibly looking at another round of Tx this fall

after I have my biopsy, which is taking for ever to happen. The biopsy

will determine what exactly the nexy step is.

Marsh keep writing in and hold on.

Suzie I am a fellow Canadian in BC, did you go for your TP evaluation?

kind regaurds shelly

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I was on tx years ago too - three times a week. I'm also an insulin dependant diabetic & let me tell you I'd rather do 3 a week than the 4 a day I have to do now, not to mention all the glucose level tests( I'm supposed to poke myself to test my sugars before & after every meal & at bed time - I test maybe 3x a day instead, my poor fingers just can't take more than that)

I'm on the t p list now & waiting. Lucky I'm not in the States, my MELD is only 12 & that's not high enough to make the list there. Have to go for blood tests once a month & to Toronto for MRIs every 3 months to keep an eye on the tumor on my liver. If it grows , they'll move me up the list. My nephew os supposed to be volunteering to donate part of his but the hospital won't tell me anything until he's "in active testing" so I wait.

SuZie & Sir SpYke the Fuzzy, sleeping in the garden after a hard day of chasing bugs ( & eating them!! )

Your future depends on your dreams. Don't waste time, go to sleep NOW!

Subject: Re: feelingsTo: HepatitisCSupportGroupForDummies Date: Saturday, August 23, 2008, 12:23 PM

Hi Marsha SuzieJust giving my support to you, The Tx thing is such a trip into the unknown, very scary, all the sides you have heard about are now appearing. I have done Tx years ago when it was the injection 3 x week ouch, man after awhile just looking at that needle hurt. At that time they just sent me home with the meds no help no coaching nobody new what to do to help, it was horrible.Finding these web sites where I can interact with people afflicted with the same illness that can relate to what is happening. Is truly a blessing, [not that we have the illness, but that a support group is out there] I will be possibly looking at another round of Tx this fall after I have my biopsy, which is taking for ever to happen. The biopsy will determine what exactly the nexy step is.Marsh keep writing in and hold on.Suzie I am a fellow Canadian in BC, did you go for your TP evaluation?kind

regaurds shelly>

[Guest guest]

FruFruit smoothies are great.I didn't discover them until lately and wish I had known about them on treatment.I get bags of mixed frozen friuit and use apple juice or cranberry juice and mix it all up.I also add milk to keep my calcium up.Just as good as ice cream but healty.Have it almost every night as a snack.

Gail

feelingsHepatitis CSupportGroupForDummies Date: Saturday, August 23, 2008, 8:51 AM

I am so glad I have this group. Most people don't understand what you are going through so its nice to have someone to relate to. Its saturday morning and last night I chilled and sweated my a*% off againYesterday I noticed I have no appetite at all. I forced myself to eat toast and yogart for breakfast. My favorite cherry yogart tasted very tart to me.. Not good, I love my yogart.... For lunce I again forced myself to eat a bowl of soup, and a piece of bread with peanut butter on top. For dinner I could not eat what my husband was having which was steak. I did force myself to eat a baked potatoe and some fresh broccoli. My stomach says growl I'm hungry, eat, but when I put the food in my mouth I can hardle swallow it. Thanks for listening to my constant whining group. I feel like a heal when suzie and several others in the group are so sick and awaiting a transplant or arn't sick enough yet to get one. Well there sick enough, but not to the freakin doctors. And here I'm whining about a little sweat and chills.My heart aches for you and I send you love and prayers. Marsha

[Guest guest]

FruFruit smoothies are great.I didn't discover them until lately and wish I had known about them on treatment.I get bags of mixed frozen friuit and use apple juice or cranberry juice and mix it all up.I also add milk to keep my calcium up.Just as good as ice cream but healty.Have it almost every night as a snack.

Gail

feelingsHepatitis CSupportGroupForDummies Date: Saturday, August 23, 2008, 8:51 AM

I am so glad I have this group. Most people don't understand what you are going through so its nice to have someone to relate to. Its saturday morning and last night I chilled and sweated my a*% off againYesterday I noticed I have no appetite at all. I forced myself to eat toast and yogart for breakfast. My favorite cherry yogart tasted very tart to me.. Not good, I love my yogart.... For lunce I again forced myself to eat a bowl of soup, and a piece of bread with peanut butter on top. For dinner I could not eat what my husband was having which was steak. I did force myself to eat a baked potatoe and some fresh broccoli. My stomach says growl I'm hungry, eat, but when I put the food in my mouth I can hardle swallow it. Thanks for listening to my constant whining group. I feel like a heal when suzie and several others in the group are so sick and awaiting a transplant or arn't sick enough yet to get one. Well there sick enough, but not to the freakin doctors. And here I'm whining about a little sweat and chills.My heart aches for you and I send you love and prayers. Marsha

[Guest guest]

FruFruit smoothies are great.I didn't discover them until lately and wish I had known about them on treatment.I get bags of mixed frozen friuit and use apple juice or cranberry juice and mix it all up.I also add milk to keep my calcium up.Just as good as ice cream but healty.Have it almost every night as a snack.

Gail

feelingsHepatitis CSupportGroupForDummies Date: Saturday, August 23, 2008, 8:51 AM

I am so glad I have this group. Most people don't understand what you are going through so its nice to have someone to relate to. Its saturday morning and last night I chilled and sweated my a*% off againYesterday I noticed I have no appetite at all. I forced myself to eat toast and yogart for breakfast. My favorite cherry yogart tasted very tart to me.. Not good, I love my yogart.... For lunce I again forced myself to eat a bowl of soup, and a piece of bread with peanut butter on top. For dinner I could not eat what my husband was having which was steak. I did force myself to eat a baked potatoe and some fresh broccoli. My stomach says growl I'm hungry, eat, but when I put the food in my mouth I can hardle swallow it. Thanks for listening to my constant whining group. I feel like a heal when suzie and several others in the group are so sick and awaiting a transplant or arn't sick enough yet to get one. Well there sick enough, but not to the freakin doctors. And here I'm whining about a little sweat and chills.My heart aches for you and I send you love and prayers. Marsha

[Guest guest]

OH! ,

I love your having the feeling!!! Looking at my feelings instead of stuffing

them down is exactly what I am doing.   Being real and the evolving me - the

me who is looking gratefully back at me learning to walk this way is there -

cheering me on!!!!!

I am saying me but it is really us and we!!!!

lori

 Amazing day

________________________________

From: G <kandart@...>

weightloss

Sent: Sat, November 21, 2009 7:41:09 AM

Subject: feelings

 

I woke up this morning with the thought that instead of having a " snack " I

should " have " a " feeling " instead.  Not easy to do after years of burying stuff

instead of dealing with it and the idea of this gives me a panicky feeling. 

The podcasts are helping me have the courage to keep trying though. 

 

Congrats to those of you who have mentioned successes lately.  You give the

rest of us hope!

m

 

 

[Guest guest]

thanks for sharing! i know EXACTLY what you are talking about.. and it

happens so fast! that is sometimes when i binge at night... it tends to

start the MOMENT my dad goes upstairs for the night.

my advice? when i can't love myself/my behaviors, i at least try to

UNDERSTAND the way i look/the things i do!! for me, understanding can lead

to forgiveness and other good things, maybe even self-love

also, self-correcting is a great thing (essentially, to feel hunger once

again!) it makes us feel good and like we are on the " right track "

i am proud of you for sharing!! and, i didn't pick up on the whininess

with love,

Avie

p.s. i am also working on REPLACING " negative " thoughts/behaviors with ones

that make me feel more like the amazing, spiritual, loving and balanced

human being that i am

On Fri, Feb 25, 2011 at 9:27 AM, tonya <tania_khalil@...> wrote:

>

>

> Ok, I was binge free for two days, thank God. My hubby was off and we were

> handling the kids together, talking, laughing, playing. Even conflicts were

> handled in a civilized manner, thank God. However, the SECOND that he walked

> out of the door to go back to work, my nerves went buggy. Where did I run?

> Straight to the junk cabinet and binged. I ate pasta junk for supper. The

> only good was that I refrained from having the second Mountain Dew of the

> day. Obviously there is an issue here. I always knew that I am an emotional

> eater, but I don't know how to handle it. With running a webstore from home,

> working an online job as well, and possibly adding a third job to my already

> full schedule, I have lost patience with the kids and myself. I cannot find

> the time to listen anymore to , either. I need help. I had started

> BodyRocking (which I LOOOOVEEEEE), but I can't seem to have the energy for

> it either. It was the ONLY thing that helped to balance my hormones during

> that crucial time, as well. Aughhh! I am sorry for the whiny post. I need

> some advice. I want to eat everything in the cabinet!

>

>

>

--

Avie Linden

University of Michigan - Anthropology

Program in the Environment, History of Art

248.535.0521

[Guest guest]

thanks for sharing! i know EXACTLY what you are talking about.. and it

happens so fast! that is sometimes when i binge at night... it tends to

start the MOMENT my dad goes upstairs for the night.

my advice? when i can't love myself/my behaviors, i at least try to

UNDERSTAND the way i look/the things i do!! for me, understanding can lead

to forgiveness and other good things, maybe even self-love

also, self-correcting is a great thing (essentially, to feel hunger once

again!) it makes us feel good and like we are on the " right track "

i am proud of you for sharing!! and, i didn't pick up on the whininess

with love,

Avie

p.s. i am also working on REPLACING " negative " thoughts/behaviors with ones

that make me feel more like the amazing, spiritual, loving and balanced

human being that i am

On Fri, Feb 25, 2011 at 9:27 AM, tonya <tania_khalil@...> wrote:

>

>

> Ok, I was binge free for two days, thank God. My hubby was off and we were

> handling the kids together, talking, laughing, playing. Even conflicts were

> handled in a civilized manner, thank God. However, the SECOND that he walked

> out of the door to go back to work, my nerves went buggy. Where did I run?

> Straight to the junk cabinet and binged. I ate pasta junk for supper. The

> only good was that I refrained from having the second Mountain Dew of the

> day. Obviously there is an issue here. I always knew that I am an emotional

> eater, but I don't know how to handle it. With running a webstore from home,

> working an online job as well, and possibly adding a third job to my already

> full schedule, I have lost patience with the kids and myself. I cannot find

> the time to listen anymore to , either. I need help. I had started

> BodyRocking (which I LOOOOVEEEEE), but I can't seem to have the energy for

> it either. It was the ONLY thing that helped to balance my hormones during

> that crucial time, as well. Aughhh! I am sorry for the whiny post. I need

> some advice. I want to eat everything in the cabinet!

>

>

>

--

Avie Linden

University of Michigan - Anthropology

Program in the Environment, History of Art

248.535.0521

[Guest guest]

What an amazing woman you are carrying all of those responsiblities and

activities. I reckon you would have more than just " resisted second mountain

dew " to write in your success journal for yesterday - what about the things you

accomplished and did well. If you can focus on these you will gradually

appreciate how brilliant you are at things - not everything - no one is great at

everything, no one's day is perfect But perhaps because this time it is the

food part that isn't perfect it can seem to overwhelm the other successes of the

day. Maybe you just take those for granted because you have always been good at

them and only focus on the things you got wrong and are struggling with.

Just do what says - you don't have to listen to her all the time for it to

work as the important stuff is in the first few episodes - learn to love

yourself, work at the problem issues gradually, celebrate the successes and let

go of the self criticism. Find ways to renew yourself that don't involve food -

even it is just five minutes to do some gentle breathing in a room without a

computer or a child in it too!

Give yourself some love and I'm sending you some too

Viv

>

> Ok, I was binge free for two days, thank God. My hubby was off and we were

handling the kids together, talking, laughing, playing. Even conflicts were

handled in a civilized manner, thank God. However, the SECOND that he walked

out of the door to go back to work, my nerves went buggy. Where did I run?

Straight to the junk cabinet and binged. I ate pasta junk for supper. The only

good was that I refrained from having the second Mountain Dew of the day.

Obviously there is an issue here. I always knew that I am an emotional eater,

but I don't know how to handle it. With running a webstore from home, working

an online job as well, and possibly adding a third job to my already full

schedule, I have lost patience with the kids and myself. I cannot find the time

to listen anymore to , either. I need help. I had started BodyRocking

(which I LOOOOVEEEEE), but I can't seem to have the energy for it either. It

was the ONLY thing that helped to balance my hormones during that crucial time,

as well. Aughhh! I am sorry for the whiny post. I need some advice. I want

to eat everything in the cabinet!

>

[Guest guest]

What an amazing woman you are carrying all of those responsiblities and

activities. I reckon you would have more than just " resisted second mountain

dew " to write in your success journal for yesterday - what about the things you

accomplished and did well. If you can focus on these you will gradually

appreciate how brilliant you are at things - not everything - no one is great at

everything, no one's day is perfect But perhaps because this time it is the

food part that isn't perfect it can seem to overwhelm the other successes of the

day. Maybe you just take those for granted because you have always been good at

them and only focus on the things you got wrong and are struggling with.

Just do what says - you don't have to listen to her all the time for it to

work as the important stuff is in the first few episodes - learn to love

yourself, work at the problem issues gradually, celebrate the successes and let

go of the self criticism. Find ways to renew yourself that don't involve food -

even it is just five minutes to do some gentle breathing in a room without a

computer or a child in it too!

Give yourself some love and I'm sending you some too

Viv

>

> Ok, I was binge free for two days, thank God. My hubby was off and we were

handling the kids together, talking, laughing, playing. Even conflicts were

handled in a civilized manner, thank God. However, the SECOND that he walked

out of the door to go back to work, my nerves went buggy. Where did I run?

Straight to the junk cabinet and binged. I ate pasta junk for supper. The only

good was that I refrained from having the second Mountain Dew of the day.

Obviously there is an issue here. I always knew that I am an emotional eater,

but I don't know how to handle it. With running a webstore from home, working

an online job as well, and possibly adding a third job to my already full

schedule, I have lost patience with the kids and myself. I cannot find the time

to listen anymore to , either. I need help. I had started BodyRocking

(which I LOOOOVEEEEE), but I can't seem to have the energy for it either. It

was the ONLY thing that helped to balance my hormones during that crucial time,

as well. Aughhh! I am sorry for the whiny post. I need some advice. I want

to eat everything in the cabinet!

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you all for responding. , after I read your post, I took a break to

shower this afternoon and I made a conscious effort not to continuously make

mental notes of things that were running through my mind, but to take this time

to breathe and relax. It made a world of difference. Thank you. And thank

you, Vivienne, for your sweet, sweet words. You are much more kind to me than I

am. Your post made me stop and think. I hope to remember to be nice to me.

Avie, hang in there. We can get through this. And understanding does help. It

came to me today to stop thinking that I WANT to lose 40lbs (I stress want

because hubby likes me the way I am), but to be healthy and to feel good again,

that is the minimum I should lose. Anywho, when the thought came to me that I

WANT to lose (instead of need) 20lbs, I felt very relieved. Then, I had the

thought to make it even more achievable. " I want to lose 5lbs. " . WoW! 5lbs!!

I can do that! Sooo, IF I can get down 5lbs, then I can push for another five.

Thinking is the key. We need to THINK positive in order to achieve results. Am

I way off base? It just sounds sooo much easier this way. Thank you all for

your kind responses:)

T

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Re: Feelings

What an amazing woman you are carrying all of those responsiblities and

activities. I reckon you would have more than just " resisted second mountain

dew " to write in your success journal for yesterday - what about the things you

accomplished and did well. If you can focus on these you will gradually

appreciate how brilliant you are at things - not everything - no one is great at

everything, no one's day is perfect But perhaps because this time it is the

food part that isn't perfect it can seem to overwhelm the other successes of the

day. Maybe you just take those for granted because you have always been good at

them and only focus on the things you got wrong and are struggling with.

Just do what says - you don't have to listen to her all the time for it to

work as the important stuff is in the first few episodes - learn to love

yourself, work at the problem issues gradually, celebrate the successes and let

go of the self criticism. Find ways to renew yourself that don't involve food -

even it is just five minutes to do some gentle breathing in a room without a

computer or a child in it too!

Give yourself some love and I'm sending you some too

Viv

>

> Ok, I was binge free for two days, thank God. My hubby was off and we were

handling the kids together, talking, laughing, playing. Even conflicts were

handled in a civilized manner, thank God. However, the SECOND that he walked

out of the door to go back to work, my nerves went buggy. Where did I run?

Straight to the junk cabinet and binged. I ate pasta junk for supper. The only

good was that I refrained from having the second Mountain Dew of the day.

Obviously there is an issue here. I always knew that I am an emotional eater,

but I don't know how to handle it. With running a webstore from home, working

an online job as well, and possibly adding a third job to my already full

schedule, I have lost patience with the kids and myself. I cannot find the time

to listen anymore to , either. I need help. I had started BodyRocking

(which I LOOOOVEEEEE), but I can't seem to have the energy for it either. It

was the ONLY thing that helped to balance my hormones during that crucial time,

as well. Aughhh! I am sorry for the whiny post. I need some advice. I want

to eat everything in the cabinet!

>

[Guest guest]

Hi I don't really have any advice but I know some here will have great advice

for you. I just wanted you to know I can relate to your post. I work 12 hours a

day 5 days a week..... most of it is moving and on my feet and on top of it I

have to be in mentally and emotionally in check because I work with children. I

also have three teenagers of my own, my husband , piles of pets and a home to

care for as well. Finding balance is hard and I am having a hard time with it

as well.

 

 

 

From: tonya <tania_khalil@...>

Subject: Feelings

weightloss

Date: Friday, February 25, 2011, 9:27 AM

 

Ok, I was binge free for two days, thank God. My hubby was off and we were

handling the kids together, talking, laughing, playing. Even conflicts were

handled in a civilized manner, thank God. However, the SECOND that he walked out

of the door to go back to work, my nerves went buggy. Where did I run? Straight

to the junk cabinet and binged. I ate pasta junk for supper. The only good was

that I refrained from having the second Mountain Dew of the day. Obviously there

is an issue here. I always knew that I am an emotional eater, but I don't know

how to handle it. With running a webstore from home, working an online job as

well, and possibly adding a third job to my already full schedule, I have lost

patience with the kids and myself. I cannot find the time to listen anymore to

, either. I need help. I had started BodyRocking (which I LOOOOVEEEEE), but

I can't seem to have the energy for it either. It was the ONLY thing that helped

to balance my

hormones during that crucial time, as well. Aughhh! I am sorry for the whiny

post. I need some advice. I want to eat everything in the cabinet!

[Guest guest]

You are spot on! I know I came from negative parents who were always worried and

stressed and angry. They never focused on positive things. It is really hard for

me to change the negative tapes in own brain. I had to tell myself with every

lap I did yesterday that I was beautiful and naturally slender. It helped and I

managed to do the twenty laps I had planned to do.  I felt thinner when I went

home. I got cleaned up and then I went out on a date with my husband and I felt

pretty ( I think it has been five/ maybe Even ten years since I was in public

and I felt pretty). It made an amazing difference in our date night as well.  

Hugs and Positive thoughts

From: tania_khalil@... <tania_khalil@...>

Subject: Re: Re: Feelings

weightloss

Date: Friday, February 25, 2011, 4:43 PM

Thank you all for responding.  , after I read your post, I took a break to

shower this afternoon and I made a conscious effort not to continuously make

mental notes of things that were running through my mind, but to take this time

to breathe and relax.  It made a world of difference.  Thank you.  And thank

you, Vivienne, for your sweet, sweet words.  You are much more kind to me than I

am.   Your post made me stop and think.  I hope to remember to be nice to me. 

Avie, hang in there.  We can get through this.  And understanding does help.  It

came to me today to stop thinking that I WANT to lose 40lbs (I stress want

because hubby likes me the way I am), but to be healthy and to feel good again,

that is the minimum I should lose.  Anywho, when the thought came to me that I

WANT to lose (instead of need) 20lbs, I felt very relieved.  Then, I had the

thought to make it even more achievable.  " I want to lose 5lbs. " . WoW!  5lbs!! 

I can

do that!  Sooo, IF I can get down 5lbs, then I can push for another five. 

Thinking is the key.  We need to THINK positive in order to achieve results.  Am

I way off base?  It just sounds sooo much easier this way.  Thank you all for

your kind responses:)

T

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Re: Feelings

What an amazing woman you are carrying all of those responsiblities and

activities.  I reckon you would have more than just " resisted second mountain

dew " to write in your success journal for yesterday - what about the things you

accomplished and did well.  If you can focus on these you will gradually

appreciate how brilliant you are at things - not everything - no one is great at

everything, no one's day is perfect  But perhaps because this time it is the

food part that isn't perfect it can seem to overwhelm the other successes of the

day.  Maybe you just take those for granted because you have always been good at

them and only focus on the things you got wrong and are struggling with.

Just do what says - you don't have to listen to her all the time for it to

work as the important stuff is in the first few episodes - learn to love

yourself, work at the problem issues gradually, celebrate the successes and let

go of the self criticism.  Find ways to renew yourself that don't involve food -

even it is just five minutes to do some gentle breathing in a room without a

computer or a child in it too!

Give yourself some love and I'm sending you some too

Viv

>

> Ok, I was binge free for two days, thank God.  My hubby was off and we were

handling the kids together, talking, laughing, playing.  Even conflicts were

handled in a civilized manner, thank God.  However, the SECOND that he walked

out of the door to go back to work, my nerves went buggy.  Where did I run? 

Straight to the junk cabinet and binged.  I ate pasta junk for supper.  The only

good was that I refrained from having the second Mountain Dew of the day. 

Obviously there is an issue here.  I always knew that I am an emotional eater,

but I don't know how to handle it.  With running a webstore from home, working

an online job as well, and possibly adding a third job to my already full

schedule, I have lost patience with the kids and myself.  I cannot find the time

to listen anymore to , either.  I need help.  I had started BodyRocking

(which I LOOOOVEEEEE), but I can't seem to have the energy for it either.  It

was the ONLY thing

that helped to balance my hormones during that crucial time, as well.  Aughhh! 

I am sorry for the whiny post.  I need some advice.  I want to eat everything in

the cabinet!

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your positive thoughts! Sounds like you were successful! Congrats!

Feeling happy definitely makes all the difference in the world. Your comments

about your negative parents made me stop to think about the influence that I am

having on my children as I am a very negative person, too. Thank you for the

reminder...

T

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Re: Feelings

What an amazing woman you are carrying all of those responsiblities and

activities.  I reckon you would have more than just " resisted second mountain

dew " to write in your success journal for yesterday - what about the things you

accomplished and did well.  If you can focus on these you will gradually

appreciate how brilliant you are at things - not everything - no one is great at

everything, no one's day is perfect  But perhaps because this time it is the

food part that isn't perfect it can seem to overwhelm the other successes of the

day.  Maybe you just take those for granted because you have always been good at

them and only focus on the things you got wrong and are struggling with.

Just do what says - you don't have to listen to her all the time for it to

work as the important stuff is in the first few episodes - learn to love

yourself, work at the problem issues gradually, celebrate the successes and let

go of the self criticism.  Find ways to renew yourself that don't involve food -

even it is just five minutes to do some gentle breathing in a room without a

computer or a child in it too!

Give yourself some love and I'm sending you some too

Viv

>

> Ok, I was binge free for two days, thank God.  My hubby was off and we were

handling the kids together, talking, laughing, playing.  Even conflicts were

handled in a civilized manner, thank God.  However, the SECOND that he walked

out of the door to go back to work, my nerves went buggy.  Where did I run? 

Straight to the junk cabinet and binged.  I ate pasta junk for supper.  The only

good was that I refrained from having the second Mountain Dew of the day. 

Obviously there is an issue here.  I always knew that I am an emotional eater,

but I don't know how to handle it.  With running a webstore from home, working

an online job as well, and possibly adding a third job to my already full

schedule, I have lost patience with the kids and myself.  I cannot find the time

to listen anymore to , either.  I need help.  I had started BodyRocking

(which I LOOOOVEEEEE), but I can't seem to have the energy for it either.  It

was the ONLY thing

that helped to balance my hormones during that crucial time, as well.  Aughhh! 

I am sorry for the whiny post.  I need some advice.  I want to eat everything in

the cabinet!

>

[Guest guest]

My own daughters started me on that journey years ago. How to parent and not be

overly negative. You could read the Five Love Languages for children or the

grown up version by Chapman. It really helped me see how my daughter got

their love. My husband is reading it now and he said it is crazy how he can now

pick out even extended family members love languages.  Hugs and Positive

Thoughts from Constance

From: tania_khalil@... <tania_khalil@...>

Subject: Re: Re: Feelings

weightloss

Date: Friday, February 25, 2011, 4:43 PM

Thank you all for responding.  , after I read your post, I took a break to

shower this afternoon and I made a conscious effort not to continuously make

mental notes of things that were running through my mind, but to take this time

to breathe and relax.  It made a world of difference.  Thank you.  And thank

you, Vivienne, for your sweet, sweet words.  You are much more kind to me than I

am.   Your post made me stop and think.  I hope to remember to be nice to me. 

Avie, hang in there.  We can get through this.  And understanding does help.  It

came to me today to stop thinking that I WANT to lose 40lbs (I stress want

because hubby likes me the way I am), but to be healthy and to feel good again,

that is the minimum I should lose.  Anywho, when the thought came to me that I

WANT to lose (instead of need) 20lbs, I felt very relieved.  Then, I had the

thought to make it even more achievable.  " I want to lose 5lbs. " . WoW!  5lbs!! 

I can

do that!  Sooo, IF I can get down 5lbs, then I can push for another five. 

Thinking is the key.  We need to THINK positive in order to achieve results.  Am

I way off base?  It just sounds sooo much easier this way.  Thank you all for

your kind responses:)

T

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Re: Feelings

What an amazing woman you are carrying all of those responsiblities and

activities.  I reckon you would have more than just " resisted second mountain

dew " to write in your success journal for yesterday - what about the things you

accomplished and did well.  If you can focus on these you will gradually

appreciate how brilliant you are at things - not everything - no one is great at

everything, no one's day is perfect  But perhaps because this time it is the

food part that isn't perfect it can seem to overwhelm the other successes of the

day.  Maybe you just take those for granted because you have always been good at

them and only focus on the things you got wrong and are struggling with.

Just do what says - you don't have to listen to her all the time for it to

work as the important stuff is in the first few episodes - learn to love

yourself, work at the problem issues gradually, celebrate the successes and let

go of the self criticism.  Find ways to renew yourself that don't involve food -

even it is just five minutes to do some gentle breathing in a room without a

computer or a child in it too!

Give yourself some love and I'm sending you some too

Viv

>

> Ok, I was binge free for two days, thank God.  My hubby was off and we were

handling the kids together, talking, laughing, playing.  Even conflicts were

handled in a civilized manner, thank God.  However, the SECOND that he walked

out of the door to go back to work, my nerves went buggy.  Where did I run? 

Straight to the junk cabinet and binged.  I ate pasta junk for supper.  The only

good was that I refrained from having the second Mountain Dew of the day. 

Obviously there is an issue here.  I always knew that I am an emotional eater,

but I don't know how to handle it.  With running a webstore from home, working

an online job as well, and possibly adding a third job to my already full

schedule, I have lost patience with the kids and myself.  I cannot find the time

to listen anymore to , either.  I need help.  I had started BodyRocking

(which I LOOOOVEEEEE), but I can't seem to have the energy for it either.  It

was the ONLY thing

that helped to balance my hormones during that crucial time, as well.  Aughhh! 

I am sorry for the whiny post.  I need some advice.  I want to eat everything in

the cabinet!

>

[Guest guest]

I am home after a long trip which traveling wipes me out anyway. I have come

home to drizzle and overcast which is typical on coast. Makes me hurt more. I am

in a dilemma about pain medications. I have just given up and guess I have to

live in pain. I started with 8mg hydromorphone and weened down to 2mg, than

because they give me such a friken stomach ache I started just taking a wee bite

off of one. I went to see my pain specialist who gave me zantac to help the

tummy but after reading the info on print out it is enough scare to not want to

add another med to my protocol. Anti-inflamatories tear up my stomach, I am

allergic to codeine, I have heard the approved pain medication nowa days for

heppers is methadone, which really scares me. So, I just quit all together.

Besides I don't want the complications of addiction and my liver being damaged

more. it is all just too much sometimes. Damned if u do n damned if u don't! I

am feeling really like I am running out of options since I am allergic to so

many things.I have no hepper friends where I live, and my best friend just told

me that I am negative abt having HepC, because I talk about it too much, I get

that because she has no idea what having this disease feels like, no-body does

un-less you have it. If I am so negative than why does she like spending time

with me. I feel I am pretty positive despite my circumstances. I just need to

talk about sometimes, so from now on I will never bring it up again to a

non-hepper because they don't get it no how. Sorry one of those dys , just had

to get it out!