Re: I hope you remember me...need more help

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I will pray for your stepson. God bless Sent from my iPhoneOn May 9, 2011, at 3:19 PM, Tice <linda@...> wrote:

Hi,I hope you guys remember me. My stepson has hep c. I posted how he seemed to be going downhill quickly. We found out a lot of things. We found out he had been sporadically drinking again. We found out that he had switched drugs to Roxis because someone told him they wouldn't hurt his liver. We found out he hasn't been going to the doctor. We found out he screwed up his probation and is looking at 6 months in jail. and he is now back living with us and we are trying to detox him. He is really sick in the mornings and some better by evening. My husband is an herbalist and we are treating with milk thistle, nettle and red clover with just a tiny amount of valerian at night to help him sleep. We can't tell what is detox and what is sickness from the liver but he is throwing up a lot and holding that same spot on his stomach. Is he right, do you all know? If he was taking roxies, would they cause further damage? Is there anything else we should be doing? We need to get him healthier before he goes to jail. But right now, as tough as it is we think jail might be the safest place for him. He is an adult and we can't ultimately stop him from using. it’s a really helpless feeling. Thanks so much for listening,

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Hi ,

Don wrote a very interesting story of HIS experience. It is NOT the experience

of everyone. It certainly doesn't describe my experience or the experience of

many others I know. I got clean and sober over 44 years ago and have had a

normal life since. You might try Naranon or Alanon to find others who are in

the same position you are in. The drug and alcohol problem is the first thing

that MUST be addressed. You can worry about his liver later. It (the liver) can

only get worse until the drug and alcohol problem is cleared. If you can't get

him to go to a treatment facility--then try some counseling for yourselves. It

truly helps to have others to support you through this and offer suggestions

about what worked for them. I had a son who had a severe drug problem.

Unfortunately, after 2 years of sobriety, he was killed in an auto accident--not

his fault--both he and other driver were sober.

No, you cannot change someone else, but you can help. I agree with you that

jail might be a good place for him at the present time. A period away from the

drugs will help. Consequences sometimes help with reality.

I have been on both sides of the fence and really think being the one who loved

the user was much harder than being the user--after all, I was medicated. It

helps to talk with others in your position---so again try Alanon or Naranon.

Just look up the number and call 24/7.

SuziQ

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> Hi,

> I hope you guys remember me. My stepson has hep c. I posted how he seemed to

be going downhill quickly.

>

> We found out a lot of things. We found out he had been sporadically drinking

again. We found out that he had switched drugs to Roxis because someone told

him they wouldn't hurt his liver. We found out he hasn't been going to the

doctor.

> We found out he screwed up his probation and is looking at 6 months in jail.

and he is now back living with us and we are trying to detox him.

>

> He is really sick in the mornings and some better by evening. My husband is

an herbalist and we are treating with milk thistle, nettle and red clover with

just a tiny amount of valerian at night to help him sleep. We can't tell what

is detox and what is sickness from the liver but he is throwing up a lot and

holding that same spot on his stomach.

>

> Is he right, do you all know? If he was taking roxies, would they cause

further damage? Is there anything else we should be doing? We need to get him

healthier before he goes to jail. But right now, as tough as it is we think

jail might be the safest place for him.

>

> He is an adult and we can't ultimately stop him from using. it's a really

helpless feeling.

>

> Thanks so much for listening,

>

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