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In a message dated 6/16/2004 6:20:51 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

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> The GREATEST thing happened to me yesterday! I went sobbing into GNC

> and asked the sales clerk what I should do in regards to my program

> and limited results. She calmly smiled and told me that

> she was

> about to make me feel better.

Dear Raschelle,

First off forgive me everyone for responding to what's going to seem like really

old posts. I get the digest versions and I haven't checked email for 4 days.

The great thing is that usually I don't have the time to leisurely read through

them all or take time to post detailed messages. I'm on vacation right now and

I can do that! Yeah.

Hang in there Raschelle. I am an example of someone who was very discouraged in

the beginning and skeptical. Still at eight or 10 weeks I had only seen very

limited results. I " fell off the wagon " at 10 weeks but was determined to try

again. I've been doing BFL faithfully now for 9 weeks, second time around, and

at the 4th week second time around I started seeing changes. These days I can't

stop looking at my body noticing the changes. Now my motivation to keep going

is to keep seeing results or at least not to lose what I've done so far. I will

post pictures in a few weeks if I can figure out how to do so.

By the way, I'm in Colorado Springs this week and I seem to remember someone on

this list from here. Yucky weather all week but I'm just happy to have quiet,

relaxing time to myself.

K

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In a message dated 6/16/2004 6:20:51 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

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> Yesterday I began my 5th

> > week of BFL. I have only lost 5 lbs. in a month but my

> clothes

> are

> > still skin tight. I'm not loosing inches either.

Raschelle,

I just read this. one pound a week is actually good. I still hadn't lost a

pound at 5 weeks and I was still snug in my size 12s. So I can understand the

frustration. But as I said, I'm finally seeing results. Yesterday I put on

some size 8 jeans that looked good. Amazing to me. It was very hard for me to

keep going to see these results but I am glad that I did.

K

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K:

....forgive me everyone for responding to what's going to seem like

really old posts...

Lydia S:

Don't feel too bad, it's like that for me too... and I suspect a few

others are too busy to get online more than a couple of times a

week.

K:

....I " fell off the wagon " at 10 weeks but was determined to try

again. I've been doing BFL faithfully now for 9 weeks, second time

around, and at the 4th week second time around I started seeing

changes. These days I can't stop looking at my body noticing the

changes...

Lydia S:

Now THAT is truly inspirational for me, since I'm about to

rededicate myself to the program (June 28th! But starting next

*Challenge* July 5th)

K:

....I will post pictures in a few weeks if I can figure out how to do

so...

Lydia S:

If you need any help, I'm ledheadlydia on messenger... and I'm

sure other group members would be equally willing to assist, should

they happen to be online when you are (and I'm not...) Just IM us!

: )

K:

....I'm in Colorado Springs this week... ...Yucky weather all week

but I'm just happy to have quiet, relaxing time to myself...

Lydia S:

I spent some time in Colorado Springs back in 1982. I hope the

weather improves for you, because it's lovely in the surrounding

mountains, or just riding a bike around Colorado Springs/Manitou

Springs! Either way... it's nice to " vacate " and get away from work,

etc.!

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Dang it , I don't know what to say...If I was her, I'd be jumping on someones desk...Seems like the two of them need a advocate... The Hospital their going to should have one..I know when I was put on the list it seemed a internity till the call final came. I remember my daughter calling all the time.. "hey mom, they got one yet?" Finally I just told them lets take the car and go looking. And when I see someone who looks like a match. Well I'll just hang out the passenger window and whack them with a stick..Hey just hang in their, some thing will give and if you feel like you and yours are not getting any where... Find the patient Advocate..Kathy b. <kcmija@...> wrote:

Do you feel like advising this lady,I understand if you don,t.

Me

What should I tell her

Me Me

frustrated

Hi all...hope everyone is doing well...I haven't been here for a while...life has been busy...adjusting to school starting again...I also homeschool my oldest...my husband is on a transplant list in Boston...his MELD score at the moment is 32...he was told on august 16th that he was #1 for A type blood at this hospital...since that time he has been hospitalized twice for acites and varices. fortunately his kidneys are working great. His primary care doctor is getting extrememly frustrated with this hospital because they don't seem to be in any rush to transplant him and give us very little information or hope...believe me i know it's a waiting game and they can't predict when they will get a liver for him but we just feel in our gut that they are keeping something from us.Anyway...my questions is can anyone share their experience and give me an idea how long people waited for a

transplant or if anyone has packed up and moved in order to have a better chance of transplant.My dr told us of a hospital in Kentucky that has a fast transplant time...it is called "The Jewish Hospital". His dr. estimates that he only has about 6 months left to live if we don't find a liver. thanks for your help...KathleenKathy Brunow

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Dang it , I don't know what to say...If I was her, I'd be jumping on someones desk...Seems like the two of them need a advocate... The Hospital their going to should have one..I know when I was put on the list it seemed a internity till the call final came. I remember my daughter calling all the time.. "hey mom, they got one yet?" Finally I just told them lets take the car and go looking. And when I see someone who looks like a match. Well I'll just hang out the passenger window and whack them with a stick..Hey just hang in their, some thing will give and if you feel like you and yours are not getting any where... Find the patient Advocate..Kathy b. <kcmija@...> wrote:

Do you feel like advising this lady,I understand if you don,t.

Me

What should I tell her

Me Me

frustrated

Hi all...hope everyone is doing well...I haven't been here for a while...life has been busy...adjusting to school starting again...I also homeschool my oldest...my husband is on a transplant list in Boston...his MELD score at the moment is 32...he was told on august 16th that he was #1 for A type blood at this hospital...since that time he has been hospitalized twice for acites and varices. fortunately his kidneys are working great. His primary care doctor is getting extrememly frustrated with this hospital because they don't seem to be in any rush to transplant him and give us very little information or hope...believe me i know it's a waiting game and they can't predict when they will get a liver for him but we just feel in our gut that they are keeping something from us.Anyway...my questions is can anyone share their experience and give me an idea how long people waited for a

transplant or if anyone has packed up and moved in order to have a better chance of transplant.My dr told us of a hospital in Kentucky that has a fast transplant time...it is called "The Jewish Hospital". His dr. estimates that he only has about 6 months left to live if we don't find a liver. thanks for your help...KathleenKathy Brunow

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Oh my, do you mean you sent to me instead of wife??Hmmmm Kathy B.. <kcmija@...> wrote:

Hi Kathy B,

Boy you really have to be careful before you hit the send button.

I thought I was e-mailing my wife at work.

She was instrumental in getting my transplant.

frustrated

Hi all...hope everyone is doing well...I haven't been here for a while...life has been busy...adjusting to school starting again...I also homeschool my oldest...my husband is on a transplant list in Boston...his MELD score at the moment is 32...he was told on august 16th that he was #1 for A type blood at this hospital...since that time he has been hospitalized twice for acites and varices. fortunately his kidneys are working great. His primary care doctor is getting extrememly frustrated with this hospital because they don't seem to be in any rush to transplant him and give us very little information or hope...believe me i know it's a waiting game and they can't predict when they will get a liver for him but we just feel in our gut that they are keeping something from us.Anyway...my questions is can anyone share their experience and give me an idea how long people wait! ed for

a transplant or if anyone has packed up and moved in order to have a better chance of transplant.My dr told us of a hospital in Kentucky that has a fast transplant time...it is called "The Jewish Hospital". His dr. estimates that he only has about 6 months left to live if we don't find a liver. thanks for your help...KathleenKathy Brunow

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Oh my, do you mean you sent to me instead of wife??Hmmmm Kathy B.. <kcmija@...> wrote:

Hi Kathy B,

Boy you really have to be careful before you hit the send button.

I thought I was e-mailing my wife at work.

She was instrumental in getting my transplant.

frustrated

Hi all...hope everyone is doing well...I haven't been here for a while...life has been busy...adjusting to school starting again...I also homeschool my oldest...my husband is on a transplant list in Boston...his MELD score at the moment is 32...he was told on august 16th that he was #1 for A type blood at this hospital...since that time he has been hospitalized twice for acites and varices. fortunately his kidneys are working great. His primary care doctor is getting extrememly frustrated with this hospital because they don't seem to be in any rush to transplant him and give us very little information or hope...believe me i know it's a waiting game and they can't predict when they will get a liver for him but we just feel in our gut that they are keeping something from us.Anyway...my questions is can anyone share their experience and give me an idea how long people wait! ed for

a transplant or if anyone has packed up and moved in order to have a better chance of transplant.My dr told us of a hospital in Kentucky that has a fast transplant time...it is called "The Jewish Hospital". His dr. estimates that he only has about 6 months left to live if we don't find a liver. thanks for your help...KathleenKathy Brunow

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Ok, bear with me.

When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been concerned that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because he did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not get the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the diagnosis.

The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who specializes in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the new therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to be doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis and said he "doesn't see that at all" I started getting defensive and angry. I said "if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book and every AS parent I talk to??" and why, when my son read the first chapter of "AS the universe and everything" was his first comment "I have a clone"??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!

This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his one hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the therapists office AT ALL!

He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to stop in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to "maintain friendship" now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son "needs him" or "relies on him" in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!

The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new therapist) and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!

-Charlotte

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Hi Charlotte,

That is frustrating but you don't have to see this man again, nor do you

have to give him any details of the new therapist (nor his to her). You know

has now got the right dx and you need to progress from here.

One day you'll be able to laugh about this.

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I would definately stay away from that therapist! He sounds like he doesn't know a thing about AS!!! I wouldn't discuss anything more with him and just go to someone else who does! Good luck with finding someone who knows what the deal is!

Ok, bear with me.

When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been concerned that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because he did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not get the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the diagnosis.

The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who specializes in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the new therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to be doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis and said he "doesn't see that at all" I started getting defensive and angry. I said "if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book and every AS parent I talk to??" and why, when my son read the first chapter of "AS the universe and everything" was his first comment "I have a clone"??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!

This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his one hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the therapists office AT ALL!

He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to stop in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to "maintain friendship" now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son "needs him" or "relies on him" in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!

The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new therapist) and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!

-Charlotte

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I hope so, right now I want to scream lol!I also feel like the school is giving me the brush off even though they agree with the DX they still seem to be acting like I am being a PIA. and actually, for once, I'm Not! lol.

-Charlotte

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Hi Charlotte,That is frustrating but you don't have to see this man again, nor do you have to give him any details of the new therapist (nor his to her). You know has now got the right dx and you need to progress from here.One day you'll be able to laugh about this.

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Dear Charlotte,

I can only sympathise with you. I know exactly what your going through,

because i'm having the same problem with my son BJ, who was dx with mild

ASand semantic pragmatic disorder 12 months ago. His new speech therapist

said theres nothing wrong with himwhich is a joke. Because like yourself i

can relate to all the people on this site, and the school his at are now

beginning to realise there is a prob. I paid privately to get the diagnosis

done by a paed who specialises in autism.

Hang in there, it will be a long hard battle, even though we shouldnt have

to fight to get what our children need to cope with their life.

Best wishes Netty x

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>Reply-Autism and Aspergers Treatment

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>Subject: Re: Frustrated

>Date: Tue, 15 Mar 2005 12:29:41 -0800 (PST)

>

>I would definately stay away from that therapist! He sounds like he

>doesn't know a thing about AS!!! I wouldn't discuss anything more with him

>and just go to someone else who does! Good luck with finding someone who

>knows what the deal is!

>

>Ok, bear with me.

>

>When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been concerned

>that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because he

>did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance

>councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not get

>the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the diagnosis.

>

>The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who specializes

>in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the new

>therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old

>therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to be

>doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis and

>said he " doesn't see that at all " I started getting defensive and angry.

>I said " if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book and

>every AS parent I talk to?? " and why, when my son read the first chapter

>of " AS the universe and everything " was his first comment " I have a

>clone " ??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!

>This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the

>teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his one

>hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the

>therapists office AT ALL!

>He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can

>understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to stop

>in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to " maintain friendship "

>now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son " needs him " or

> " relies on him " in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!

>The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new therapist)

>and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!

>

>-Charlotte

>

>

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No he doesn't (although he seems to think he does!) I am no longer worried about him communicating with the new therapist though because his lack of knowledge will be apparent in the conversation.

What bothers me most is #1 the fact that he actually laughed out loud ! and #2 the fact that he is basing his opinion solely on his personal time with him disregarding all past present reports and testing!! That's just unethical!

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I would definately stay away from that therapist! He sounds like he doesn't know a thing about AS!!! I wouldn't discuss anything more with him and just go to someone else who does! Good luck with finding someone who knows what the deal is!

Ok, bear with me.

When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been concerned that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because he did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not get the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the diagnosis.

The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who specializes in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the new therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to be doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis and said he "doesn't see that at all" I started getting defensive and angry. I said "if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book and every AS parent I talk to??" and why, when my son read the first chapter of "AS the universe and everything" was his first comment "I have a clone"??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!

This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his one hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the therapists office AT ALL!

He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to stop in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to "maintain friendship" now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son "needs him" or "relies on him" in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!

The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new therapist) and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!

-Charlotte

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Thanks Netty,

Would you believe he actually has me sitting here doubting myself?? UG! Drives me batty when this happens!

As he sits in the other room screaming at his 4 year old sister over nothing so loud that my second floor tenants probably think I am beating him.

I can't wait to get the new eval done on May 3rd although I really wish it were sooner. The school is in agreement and so is the psychiatrist so I don't know why I am doubting myself, it's only this one guy that barely knows him who is under the impression he knows better than mom, all other doctors and teachers over the past 8 years! Still I sit here wondering why he laughed at me.

-Charlotte

Re: Frustrated>Date: Tue, 15 Mar 2005 12:29:41 -0800 (PST)>>I would definately stay away from that therapist! He sounds like he >doesn't know a thing about AS!!! I wouldn't discuss anything more with him >and just go to someone else who does! Good luck with finding someone who >knows what the deal is! >>Ok, bear with me.>>When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been concerned >that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because he >did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance >councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not get >the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the diagnosis.>>The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who specializes >in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the new >therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old >therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to be >doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis and >said he "doesn't see that at all" I started getting defensive and angry. >I said "if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book and >every AS parent I talk to??" and why, when my son read the first chapter >of "AS the universe and everything" was his first comment "I have a >clone"??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!>This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the >teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his one >hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the >therapists office AT ALL!>He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can >understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to stop >in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to "maintain friendship" >now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son "needs him" or >"relies on him" in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!>The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new therapist) >and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!>>-Charlotte>>

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Dear Charlotte,

I can relate to the doubting myself part, i used to do it alot at one time,

and think it was my fault, even though i knew deep down BJ wasn't quite

normal when he was a baby. Mothers intuition i suppose. But i still do on

occassions doubt myself aswell as the drs etc.

BJ's new speech therapist only seen him for an hour and she said there's

nothing wrong with him. lol. You get to the point when you feel as though

you've come in a full circle and starting again. I actually had a good cry

yest morn, because BJ has been so naughty and defiant, i had to get his

sisters 2 stay away from him,just in case he decided to lash out again.

It's turned out that this wk his only friend at school as gone away for a

week with alot of the class, but BJ refused to go. So i assume it was the

change for him, because his teacher has noticed a difference in him but

instead of being naughty etc, he gone completely in himself at school. So

obviously he needs to get his anger out somewhere and it's at home.

Just ignore the neighbours if they start to moan, and keep fighting, it's

the only way you'll get through it. But you'll do it, we all do it ,because

it's our kids.

Netty x

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><Autism and Aspergers Treatment >

>Subject: Re: Frustrated

>Date: Wed, 16 Mar 2005 21:09:31 -0500

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>Thanks Netty,

>Would you believe he actually has me sitting here doubting myself?? UG!

>Drives me batty when this happens!

>As he sits in the other room screaming at his 4 year old sister over

>nothing so loud that my second floor tenants probably think I am beating

>him.

>I can't wait to get the new eval done on May 3rd although I really wish it

>were sooner. The school is in agreement and so is the psychiatrist so I

>don't know why I am doubting myself, it's only this one guy that barely

>knows him who is under the impression he knows better than mom, all other

>doctors and teachers over the past 8 years! Still I sit here wondering why

>he laughed at me.

>-Charlotte

> Re: Frustrated

> >Date: Tue, 15 Mar 2005 12:29:41 -0800 (PST)

> >

> >I would definately stay away from that therapist! He sounds like he

> >doesn't know a thing about AS!!! I wouldn't discuss anything more with

>him

> >and just go to someone else who does! Good luck with finding someone

>who

> >knows what the deal is!

> >

> >Ok, bear with me.

> >

> >When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been

>concerned

> >that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because

>he

> >did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance

> >councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not

>get

> >the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the

>diagnosis.

> >

> >The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who

>specializes

> >in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the

>new

> >therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old

> >therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to

>be

> >doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis

>and

> >said he " doesn't see that at all " I started getting defensive and

>angry.

> >I said " if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book

>and

> >every AS parent I talk to?? " and why, when my son read the first

>chapter

> >of " AS the universe and everything " was his first comment " I have a

> >clone " ??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!

> >This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the

> >teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his

>one

> >hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the

> >therapists office AT ALL!

> >He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can

> >understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to

>stop

> >in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to " maintain

>friendship "

> >now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son " needs him " or

> > " relies on him " in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!

> >The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new

>therapist)

> >and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!

> >

> >-Charlotte

> >

> >

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Hi Charlotte -

I would be more worried that he wants to maintain contact with for free sessions - this sets my alarm bells off I'm sorry.

It's unethical and no therapist in his right mind would put himself in that situation.

Eeek.

Maybe you can cancel the housecall too?

Regards,

Donna.

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I would definately stay away from that therapist! He sounds like he doesn't know a thing about AS!!! I wouldn't discuss anything more with him and just go to someone else who does! Good luck with finding someone who knows what the deal is!

Ok, bear with me.

When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been concerned that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because he did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not get the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the diagnosis.

The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who specializes in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the new therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to be doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis and said he "doesn't see that at all" I started getting defensive and angry. I said "if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book and every AS parent I talk to??" and why, when my son read the first chapter of "AS the universe and everything" was his first comment "I have a clone"??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!

This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his one hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the therapists office AT ALL!

He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to stop in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to "maintain friendship" now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son "needs him" or "relies on him" in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!

The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new therapist) and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!

-Charlotte

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Sets off alarm bells for everyone, and I agree, it did with me too! Too weird. Don't be sorry, it's true!!

There is no housecall.

I can not wait until starts with the new lady!!

-Charlotte

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I would definately stay away from that therapist! He sounds like he doesn't know a thing about AS!!! I wouldn't discuss anything more with him and just go to someone else who does! Good luck with finding someone who knows what the deal is!

Ok, bear with me.

When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been concerned that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because he did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not get the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the diagnosis.

The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who specializes in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the new therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to be doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis and said he "doesn't see that at all" I started getting defensive and angry. I said "if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book and every AS parent I talk to??" and why, when my son read the first chapter of "AS the universe and everything" was his first comment "I have a clone"??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!

This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his one hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the therapists office AT ALL!

He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to stop in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to "maintain friendship" now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son "needs him" or "relies on him" in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!

The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new therapist) and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!

-Charlotte

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That was my reaction to your post too Charlotte. That is bizzarre, as a social worker I can tell you that when a client is terminating the relationship; we terminate it. First and foremost for THEIR benefit. Clear boundaries, clear break. Second, he used the word, "keep the friendship."???? It should be a professional relationship one in which he was being used as a tool to effect change in your son's live. While a therapest may have a fondness for a client they never classify a relationship as a friendship as the client came into the relationship with needs for a professional to meet. I would run like hell!

Janedlp <leap@...> wrote:

Hi Charlotte -

I would be more worried that he wants to maintain contact with for free sessions - this sets my alarm bells off I'm sorry.

It's unethical and no therapist in his right mind would put himself in that situation.

Eeek.

Maybe you can cancel the housecall too?

Regards,

Donna.

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I would definately stay away from that therapist! He sounds like he doesn't know a thing about AS!!! I wouldn't discuss anything more with him and just go to someone else who does! Good luck with finding someone who knows what the deal is!

Ok, bear with me.

When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been concerned that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because he did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not get the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the diagnosis.

The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who specializes in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the new therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to be doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis and said he "doesn't see that at all" I started getting defensive and angry. I said "if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book and every AS parent I talk to??" and why, when my son read the first chapter of "AS the universe and everything" was his first comment "I have a clone"??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!

This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his one hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the therapists office AT ALL!

He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to stop in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to "maintain friendship" now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son "needs him" or "relies on him" in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!

The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new therapist) and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!

-Charlotte

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lol Jane, I totally agree, it sent up tons of red flags for me. Both my mother and stepmother are psychologists so I also bounced it off them feeling that it was bizarre and both agreed that it was the strangest thing they'd ever heard.

I will do the final visit this Wednesday so can say goodbye because I believe that closure is important. BUT I will be letting this guy know ahead of time that this is it, and I will be in there for the final meeting.

The "maintain the friendship" comment was totally ODD!! I was like "ah, he is your CLIENT NOT your friend!!" I think the therapist has attachment issues lol!

-Charlotte

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I would definately stay away from that therapist! He sounds like he doesn't know a thing about AS!!! I wouldn't discuss anything more with him and just go to someone else who does! Good luck with finding someone who knows what the deal is!

Ok, bear with me.

When got his official AS diagnosis a month ago I had been concerned that his therapist was going to try and mess with the diagnosis because he did not think could have AS. His psychiatrist, school guidance councelor and all testing say the opposite. He got tied up and did not get the chance to speak to the psychiatrist and interfere with the diagnosis.

The psychiatrist recomended that he change to a therapist who specializes in working with AS kids and so I made the phone call and met with the new therapist for an intake last week. I also left a message for the old therapist that I wasnted to update him and what we were going to be doing. Well, he JUST called me backed. He laughed at the AS diagnosis and said he "doesn't see that at all" I started getting defensive and angry. I said "if it is so off base than why am I able to relate to every book and every AS parent I talk to??" and why, when my son read the first chapter of "AS the universe and everything" was his first comment "I have a clone"??? I am so frustrated I am shaking!

This guy has NOT read any of his history and or testing, none of the teacher rating scales, NOTHING!! He is basing his opinion SOLEY on his one hour every other week with him. NOT how he interacts outside of the therapists office AT ALL!

He also wants to do a visit to wrap things up with him which I can understand and innitially agreed with.....but then he wants to stop in once a month to talk for a 1/2 hour FOR FREE! to "maintain friendship" now, I KNOW this man is under the impression that my son "needs him" or "relies on him" in some way when in fact I KNOW my son could care less!

The therapist also wants me to have the other lady call him (new therapist) and ahhhh...NO I DON'T THINK SO!

-Charlotte

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LB - take your frustrated energy and hand out some fliers LOL!!

http://www.unlockingautism.org/grassrootsprcampaign2.asp

Kidding aside, there is alot we can do as parents. Most of the

people who don't have affected family members are completely aghast

when they learn kids are being injected with mercury.

Our children's day will come. You can count on it.

> I have only posted twice, as I leave the majority of the posting

to

> those that I admire. I participated in June 7th and EOH day.

Everyday

> I can't wait to see if we finally have gotten the press we deserve

> and need. Nobody out

> there is saying why our theory is wrong, and presenting other

> possibilities even half as compelling as

> the " Mercury autism " connection. Why? Prove we are wrong! Does

> anybody but US care if we are right or wrong? No one, that can

truly

> help our cause is saying anything at all!!

> The silence is creepy and deafening! We need to scream louder

then

> thier silence. What about a mass transit bus sign. Why are we

> begging these, so called, people with clout to help us? They are

> scared to loose everything they have worked for.......just for us!

> Dose anybody with power have an afflicted child? If not than why

> not? 1 in 166 has to affect the higher ups, doesn't it? Which

ones

> are sacrificing there auties for thier careers and $$$lifestyles?

How

> do we get to them? Is there a data base of reported cases, with

names?

> We screamed loud in the NY Times...are those editors and readers

> deaf? Are none of thier children affected? Our message is too

> vague. How about something SOOOOOOO radical, yet

> true, to wake up the world? Bush bashing is on the daily menu.

We

> need to make EVERYBODY CARE!! Not just us. Imagine you know

nothing

> about our plight and your children are neuro typical and you see

one

> of our signs about the Mercury and Autism connection? Would you

> care? If you have a child with no actual dx, but clearly unusual,

> would you care?

> Thanks for listening. I am dying to come up with the perfect

message

> that is loud, clear, concise and affects all of mankind, TRUST!!!

> LB

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how 'bout:

Children, babies, and pregnant women, too valuable to poison.

Thimerosal = 49% Mercury and it's still in shots!

just an idea,

Have you seen the Unlocking Autism "Tuna Pregnant lady" ad. That puppie is getting laminated and going on my Odyssey!

I might even purposing drive around in rush hour hahaha.

You need to post more often, I love it!

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I have only posted twice, as I leave the majority of the posting to those that I admire. I participated in June 7th and EOH day. Everyday I can't wait to see if we finally have gotten the press we deserve and need. Nobody out there is saying why our theory is wrong, and presenting other possibilities even half as compelling as the "Mercury autism" connection. Why? Prove we are wrong! Does anybody but US care if we are right or wrong? No one, that can truly help our cause is saying anything at all!! The silence is creepy and deafening! We need to scream louder then thier silence. What about a mass transit bus sign. Why are we begging these, so called, people with clout to help us? They are scared to loose everything they have worked for.......just for us! Dose anybody with power have an

afflicted child? If not than why not? 1 in 166 has to affect the higher ups, doesn't it? Which ones are sacrificing there auties for thier careers and $$$lifestyles? How do we get to them? Is there a data base of reported cases, with names?We screamed loud in the NY Times...are those editors and readers deaf? Are none of thier children affected? Our message is too vague. How about something SOOOOOOO radical, yet true, to wake up the world? Bush bashing is on the daily menu. We need to make EVERYBODY CARE!! Not just us. Imagine you know nothing about our plight and your children are neuro typical and you see one of our signs about the Mercury and Autism connection? Would you care? If you have a child with no actual dx, but clearly unusual, would you care?Thanks for listening. I am dying to come up with the perfect message that is loud, clear, concise and affects all of

mankind, TRUST!!!LB__________________________________________________

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addic4:

You are hitting lots of nails right on their heads. It's clear that

you understand EXACTLY what is going on--denial on a massive level

for lots of reasons: professional reputations and ego, allegiance to

a troubled vaccine policy, bureaucratic-think, emotional denial,

legal liability--to name just a few.

Your idea about billboards on buses is exactly the right thinking.

Let's also think about broadcast media billboards--Hardball, for

example, with s.

Are you with us on OPERATION THUD?

> I have only posted twice, as I leave the majority of the posting

to

> those that I admire. I participated in June 7th and EOH day.

Everyday

> I can't wait to see if we finally have gotten the press we deserve

> and need. Nobody out

> there is saying why our theory is wrong, and presenting other

> possibilities even half as compelling as

> the " Mercury autism " connection. Why? Prove we are wrong! Does

> anybody but US care if we are right or wrong? No one, that can

truly

> help our cause is saying anything at all!!

> The silence is creepy and deafening! We need to scream louder

then

> thier silence. What about a mass transit bus sign. Why are we

> begging these, so called, people with clout to help us? They are

> scared to loose everything they have worked for.......just for us!

> Dose anybody with power have an afflicted child? If not than why

> not? 1 in 166 has to affect the higher ups, doesn't it? Which

ones

> are sacrificing there auties for thier careers and $$$lifestyles?

How

> do we get to them? Is there a data base of reported cases, with

names?

> We screamed loud in the NY Times...are those editors and readers

> deaf? Are none of thier children affected? Our message is too

> vague. How about something SOOOOOOO radical, yet

> true, to wake up the world? Bush bashing is on the daily menu.

We

> need to make EVERYBODY CARE!! Not just us. Imagine you know

nothing

> about our plight and your children are neuro typical and you see

one

> of our signs about the Mercury and Autism connection? Would you

> care? If you have a child with no actual dx, but clearly unusual,

> would you care?

> Thanks for listening. I am dying to come up with the perfect

message

> that is loud, clear, concise and affects all of mankind, TRUST!!!

> LB

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I am soooooo with you guys!!!! Let me know what we can do in unison,

from State to State, like signs (BIG SIGNS) on top of our vehicles

everyday, day and night 24/7!!!! Like A pizza delivery sign on the

top of a car!!! Or...ironicley, a political sign for who to vote for

in the next election and WHY!!!! If it is legal I am there!!! Who

else? remember

24/7 driving around, sending our message everywhere!!!! I am

psyched! Time for damage control.

LB

> > I have only posted twice, as I leave the majority of the posting

> to

> > those that I admire. I participated in June 7th and EOH day.

> Everyday

> > I can't wait to see if we finally have gotten the press we

deserve

> > and need. Nobody out

> > there is saying why our theory is wrong, and presenting other

> > possibilities even half as compelling as

> > the " Mercury autism " connection. Why? Prove we are wrong! Does

> > anybody but US care if we are right or wrong? No one, that can

> truly

> > help our cause is saying anything at all!!

> > The silence is creepy and deafening! We need to scream louder

> then

> > thier silence. What about a mass transit bus sign. Why are we

> > begging these, so called, people with clout to help us? They are

> > scared to loose everything they have worked for.......just for

us!

> > Dose anybody with power have an afflicted child? If not than why

> > not? 1 in 166 has to affect the higher ups, doesn't it? Which

> ones

> > are sacrificing there auties for thier careers and $$$lifestyles?

> How

> > do we get to them? Is there a data base of reported cases, with

> names?

> > We screamed loud in the NY Times...are those editors and readers

> > deaf? Are none of thier children affected? Our message is too

> > vague. How about something SOOOOOOO radical, yet

> > true, to wake up the world? Bush bashing is on the daily menu.

> We

> > need to make EVERYBODY CARE!! Not just us. Imagine you know

> nothing

> > about our plight and your children are neuro typical and you see

> one

> > of our signs about the Mercury and Autism connection? Would you

> > care? If you have a child with no actual dx, but clearly unusual,

> > would you care?

> > Thanks for listening. I am dying to come up with the perfect

> message

> > that is loud, clear, concise and affects all of mankind, TRUST!!!

> > LB

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How about having the UA ads made into magnetic signs that can go on

our cars? I made some calls yesterday to see what the cost for this

would be, but no one has returned my calls yet. Does anyone here have

a contact to have this done?

Ricci

Seattle, WA

> > > I have only posted twice, as I leave the majority of the

posting

> > to

> > > those that I admire. I participated in June 7th and EOH day.

> > Everyday

> > > I can't wait to see if we finally have gotten the press we

> deserve

> > > and need. Nobody out

> > > there is saying why our theory is wrong, and presenting other

> > > possibilities even half as compelling as

> > > the " Mercury autism " connection. Why? Prove we are wrong! Does

> > > anybody but US care if we are right or wrong? No one, that can

> > truly

> > > help our cause is saying anything at all!!

> > > The silence is creepy and deafening! We need to scream louder

> > then

> > > thier silence. What about a mass transit bus sign. Why are we

> > > begging these, so called, people with clout to help us? They

are

> > > scared to loose everything they have worked for.......just for

> us!

> > > Dose anybody with power have an afflicted child? If not than

why

> > > not? 1 in 166 has to affect the higher ups, doesn't it? Which

> > ones

> > > are sacrificing there auties for thier careers and

$$$lifestyles?

> > How

> > > do we get to them? Is there a data base of reported cases, with

> > names?

> > > We screamed loud in the NY Times...are those editors and

readers

> > > deaf? Are none of thier children affected? Our message is too

> > > vague. How about something SOOOOOOO radical, yet

> > > true, to wake up the world? Bush bashing is on the daily

menu.

> > We

> > > need to make EVERYBODY CARE!! Not just us. Imagine you know

> > nothing

> > > about our plight and your children are neuro typical and you

see

> > one

> > > of our signs about the Mercury and Autism connection? Would

you

> > > care? If you have a child with no actual dx, but clearly

unusual,

> > > would you care?

> > > Thanks for listening. I am dying to come up with the perfect

> > message

> > > that is loud, clear, concise and affects all of mankind,

TRUST!!!

> > > LB

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Becky,

Somehow between mercury fillings and motherhood, I have missed this

link. And I've been to the UA site several times in the last week and

not been able to find all the ads. Does anyone know if we can put

these on iron-on transfers on t-shirts? My kids go to tutoring (with

lots of other kids) twice a week and my son goes to karate twice a

week. And the hobby shop has kids and adult t-shirts for $3-5. I

definitely think that they could be a conversation starter (and within

my price range). And there are enough that each one of us could be

wearing a different ad.

Thanks!

> LB - take your frustrated energy and hand out some fliers LOL!!

>

> http://www.unlockingautism.org/grassrootsprcampaign2.asp

>

> Kidding aside, there is alot we can do as parents. Most of the

> people who don't have affected family members are completely aghast

> when they learn kids are being injected with mercury.

>

> Our children's day will come. You can count on it.

>

>

>

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