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OMG!! That is a great idea!! SHIRTS!

As many of you know - turned me on to the cafepress shop and I

am a shirt junkie. LOL

's link is: www.cafepress.com/autismmedia

I had a store but donated it. They are probably going to change

some things but the link is: www.cafepress.com/autismadvocacy

SHELLEY!! Upload these images to cafepress so we can buy shirts!!!

Awesome idea !!

~Becky

> > LB - take your frustrated energy and hand out some fliers LOL!!

> >

> > http://www.unlockingautism.org/grassrootsprcampaign2.asp

> >

> > Kidding aside, there is alot we can do as parents. Most of the

> > people who don't have affected family members are completely

aghast

> > when they learn kids are being injected with mercury.

> >

> > Our children's day will come. You can count on it.

> >

> >

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T-shirts....all the same message...LOUD AND CLEAR state to state city

to city...no excuse for not remembering the message, eh?? When do we

start and which message , let's get this party started!

LB

> > LB - take your frustrated energy and hand out some fliers LOL!!

> >

> > http://www.unlockingautism.org/grassrootsprcampaign2.asp

> >

> > Kidding aside, there is alot we can do as parents. Most of the

> > people who don't have affected family members are completely

aghast

> > when they learn kids are being injected with mercury.

> >

> > Our children's day will come. You can count on it.

> >

> >

> >

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I'm off to the hobby shop this afternoon! By the end of the week, we

all will have new wardrobes...lol

> OMG!! That is a great idea!! SHIRTS!

>

> As many of you know - turned me on to the cafepress shop and I

> am a shirt junkie. LOL

>

> 's link is: www.cafepress.com/autismmedia

>

> I had a store but donated it. They are probably going to change

> some things but the link is: www.cafepress.com/autismadvocacy

>

> SHELLEY!! Upload these images to cafepress so we can buy shirts!!!

>

> Awesome idea !!

>

> ~Becky

>

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I particularly like the " babyface " ad. I'm thinking to place that on

the front of the t-shirt and on the back have " Mercury kills cells!

Mercury is toxic! Giving Mercury To Children On Purpose Is Stupid! "

I definitely think it's a good start.

> T-shirts....all the same message...LOUD AND CLEAR state to state city

> to city...no excuse for not remembering the message, eh?? When do we

> start and which message , let's get this party started!

> LB

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<< From: " rwd2lady " <rwd2lady@...>

Subject: So Frustrated

2 on, and then drop 3 and put another on. At the end of the week

I'm still at 221. I started this journey at 238. I weigh or

measure absolutely everything that goes into my mouth and if it goes

into my mouth it gets journaled (I use Fitday). I drink only water,

and plenty of it. I am scheduled for a fill on 09/02/05 but I'm

wondering how this will help me. If I'm eating under 1000 calories

and I'm exercising, what difference will a fill make? Should I

really be eating less than I already am? If not, and I need the

calories, as I've been reading on here, then what difference will it

all make? I'll still be eating under 1000 calories and I'll still

be exercising, the only difference is I may feel fuller, but feeling

fuller doesn't help you lose weight. As you can tell I'm frustrated

and I cry almost every day because I just don't know what I'm doing

wrong. I know I'm not that special that I would be the only one the

band doesn't work for, so that means that it's me doing something

wrong. Does anyone have any ideas or thoughts, or can anyone tell

me if my theory about getting a fill is wrong?

Thanks,

Dawn>>

Dawn I surely can identify with your plight but really the things that

they tell you here are right and do work. I know how frustrated you

are. I too was at the 1000 calorie mark and didn't understand why I

wasn't loosing. I measured every morsel as well. Not sure why but if

you will take a look at what you've been eating and change it a little

bit..like if you have cereal every morning, try turkey bacon (2) and an

egg. Mix up what you're eating for your meals. I was getting my 50 -

60 % protein, right amounts of carbs, < than 30% fat but still didn't

loose until I changed the percentages of good carbs with good fats.

It's sort of like faking your system out. Also, I felt like I had been

exercising but realized I wasn't putting a lot of intensity or

diversity into what I was doing. I bumped the days and time spent as

well as finding out the best heart rate to work out so I'd build more

muscle. I found that taking a 20 minute walk 3 days a week doesn't do

much but alternating 30 - 45 minutes hard walking within the best heart

rate (50 - 70%) with lifting some weights, stretching..or circuit type

training really did start to change my body. Granted I haven't dropped

a lot of pounds yet (only a few) but I am loosing inches and my body is

gaining more muscle. You're doing the right thing by staying in touch

via smartbandsters and getting support and advice. Even though it

seems they keep saying the same thing over and over again..they are

because it really does work. Just my opinion, take it or leave it..try

South Beach phase 1 for a week or 2. It uses the same good bandster

foods but uses good carbs and fats and jogs the system by changing some

of the things we may have been doing that our body has gotten

accustomed to. Good luck, stay encouraged and realize that every

bandster here will sooner or later go through a period of

discouragement. You can get through this;-)

Kem in Eugene

286/230/170

Dr. Neal 8.6.04

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Hi :

Read this site thoroughly, ask questions, get care at a teaching hospital that

is

familar with this disease and get yourself to surgery -- it is worth it!

Peggy

> Hello,

> I am and newly diagnosed. I was dialated in early August but I

> think I am deteriating again. Not a day goes by and I need to bring

> food back up. It is embarrassing. My friends have been a great strength

> for me.

> I am concerned about the surgery and will it cause other problems?

>

> I am sorry Ann has been left to go for so many years, and am thankful I

> didn't have to wait so long. I know how I felt so lost and lonely

> trying to cope until being diagnosed.

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> > Hello,

> > I am and newly diagnosed. I was dialated in early August

but I

> > think I am deteriating again. Not a day goes by and I need to

bring

> > food back up. It is embarrassing. My friends have been a great

strength

> > for me.

> > I am concerned about the surgery and will it cause other problems?

> >

> > I am sorry Ann has been left to go for so many years, and am

thankful I

> > didn't have to wait so long. I know how I felt so lost and lonely

> > trying to cope until being diagnosed.

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> > Hello,

> > I am and newly diagnosed. I was dialated in early August

but I

> > think I am deteriating again. Not a day goes by and I need to

bring

> > food back up. It is embarrassing. My friends have been a great

strength

> > for me.

> > I am concerned about the surgery and will it cause other problems?

> >

> > I am sorry Ann has been left to go for so many years, and am

thankful I

> > didn't have to wait so long. I know how I felt so lost and lonely

> > trying to cope until being diagnosed.

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> > Hello,

> > I am and newly diagnosed. I was dialated in early August

but I

> > think I am deteriating again. Not a day goes by and I need to

bring

> > food back up. It is embarrassing. My friends have been a great

strength

> > for me.

> > I am concerned about the surgery and will it cause other problems?

> >

> > I am sorry Ann has been left to go for so many years, and am

thankful I

> > didn't have to wait so long. I know how I felt so lost and lonely

> > trying to cope until being diagnosed.

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Hi You are right. I don't know if it is related or not, but either

way I am frustrated. I said to me daughter that I asked her about the history

every day and she would just kind of scream at me about it. Today she told me I

should have recognized the anxiety in her responses. She usually gets mean

when anxiety is involved. Hopefully, next week will be a better week. Kim

In a message dated 9/17/2005 8:12:18 PM Central Standard Time,

@... writes:

(((hugs))) Kim! What doe your dd say??? It might not be OCD related,

maybe it's something else (new school, teen attitude...).

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Hi You are right. I don't know if it is related or not, but either

way I am frustrated. I said to me daughter that I asked her about the history

every day and she would just kind of scream at me about it. Today she told me I

should have recognized the anxiety in her responses. She usually gets mean

when anxiety is involved. Hopefully, next week will be a better week. Kim

In a message dated 9/17/2005 8:12:18 PM Central Standard Time,

@... writes:

(((hugs))) Kim! What doe your dd say??? It might not be OCD related,

maybe it's something else (new school, teen attitude...).

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(((hugs))) Kim! What doe your dd say??? It might not be OCD related,

maybe it's something else (new school, teen attitude...).

> I am so frustrated. I thought my daughter was doing well. And

suddenly

> yesterday, I get a e-mail from her French teacher telling me about

an incident

> that her teacher thought was strange behavior for her. She also got

in trouble

> with something for student council and now I find out she is way

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Hi Kim, since this situation is out of character for your daughter, my first

thought is extra anxiety due to being at the new school. Or is something

specific bothering her there (difficulty fitting in or making new friends, a

bully, harassment?) She could also be experiencing a worsening phase with

OCD that is interfering with her ability to concentrate and do homework etc.

Lastly, could she be depressed? Things " falling apart suddenly " could fit

any of these. When my child suddenly starts acting out of the norm, that

gets my attention too.

What does she have to say about your " discoveries " ? If she is usually all

aces at school, she may have not known how to bring up that she was

struggling at school due to pride or ?

If she takes medication, she may need an adjustment or augmentation.

Take care,

Kathy R. in Indiana

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>I am so frustrated. I thought my daughter was doing well. And suddenly

> yesterday, I get a e-mail from her French teacher telling me about an

> incident

> that her teacher thought was strange behavior for her. She also got in

> trouble

> with something for student council and now I find out she is way behind in

> her

> AP history class. Actually, she hasn't done any homework in that class

> since

> Sept. 7th. They started the work during the summer and are suppose to be

> doing between 5-8 pages a night for homework. I just don't know what to

> think.

> Everything seems to be falling apart suddenly. This is 10th grade and a

> new

> school. She is normally a top student. I am worried. Any ideas or

> suggestions?

> Thanks. Kim

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In a message dated 9/17/2005 9:04:41 P.M. Pacific Standard Time,

writes:

They started the work during the summer and are suppose to be

doing between 5-8 pages a night for homework. I just don't know what to

think.

Everything seems to be falling apart suddenly. This is 10th grade and a new

school. She is normally a top student. I am worried. Any ideas or

suggestions?

First thing I'd do is contact the counselor and the teachers and let them

know what she is dealing with. I'd then ask for a list of missing homework and

an opportunity to turn it in. The first mos. of school are so overwhelming.

My 13 y.o. is going thru the same thing -- does homework, forgets to turn

it in, or just forgets to do it at all. She had 2 mental health days off

school last week and looks like we will have 2 this week. Also, see what your

daughter says. suzanne

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In a message dated 9/17/2005 9:04:41 P.M. Pacific Standard Time,

writes:

They started the work during the summer and are suppose to be

doing between 5-8 pages a night for homework. I just don't know what to

think.

Everything seems to be falling apart suddenly. This is 10th grade and a new

school. She is normally a top student. I am worried. Any ideas or

suggestions?

First thing I'd do is contact the counselor and the teachers and let them

know what she is dealing with. I'd then ask for a list of missing homework and

an opportunity to turn it in. The first mos. of school are so overwhelming.

My 13 y.o. is going thru the same thing -- does homework, forgets to turn

it in, or just forgets to do it at all. She had 2 mental health days off

school last week and looks like we will have 2 this week. Also, see what your

daughter says. suzanne

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--- Charlotte <scottdesigns@...> wrote:

I have gone through a similar situation with my son,

now 16. The school called me at work when he was in

8th grade to tell me that he was being suspended

because he had thrown a desk at one of the office

attendents. I got there and he was cowering in a

corner BEHIND a desk. Yes, there was a desk in the

front office, but it had clearly been shoved over, not

thrown.

> The last time I went in to pick him up for a doctor

> appointment, his case

> manager walked him down and wanted to discuss his

> aggression. For the

> record, my son is not aggressive by nature. She

> said that a couple weeks

> ago he had " thrown " a desk at her (which I KNOW was

> a total exaggeration

> because he has no upper body muscle tone at all!!)

> What really happened is

> he shoved a desk out of frustration and it tipped

> over.

This is what finally came out when I questioned the

principal and vice principal. He had been frustrated

by teasing he was enduring from other kids and had

shoved the desk (once I pointed out to them that a

truly aggressive child would not be cowering behind

another desk) in his frustration with not knowing how

to deal with the other kids. They said he also threw

his notebook at them. Turned out that he dropped it

forcefully on the floor right in front of himself,

again a gesture of frustration.

>Here is my

> question..my son does not go from 0 to violent with

> no warnings of

> increasing frustration in between. SO am I to

> believe no one saw any

> opportunity to calm him down BEFORE it got to this

> point?

No you are not to believe that no one saw any way to

help him calm down. There are clear and measureable

signals that our kids give off BEFORE they melt down.

Teachers and staff just need to realize that they are

dealing with a child with a diagnosed syndrome, not

just a delinquent child (who definitely acts far

different from our kids.) Having worked in a day

treatment facility, I can tell you the difference in a

heartbeat. Their whole demeanor is different.

> I just think they

> are handling things all wrong and I am getting more

> and more frustrated

> myself.

That is understandable.

>This is our first year at this school and I

> guarantee I am already

> labeled the PIA mom from Hell. But the $2000

> neuropsych STATES CLEARLY

> is not to be pushed when he is already melting

> down or he will either

> escalate of shut down completely.

My son's neuropsych has said the same thing, has

stated it in a letter to the school administration.

does much the same thing, either he blows or he

shuts down completely. Yet, even knowing this, the

school insists on either getting in his face, or

picking him up if he cannot move from where he is.

Both escalate the meltdown enormously. (at least in

my son's school, they then almost always charge him

with Disorderly Conduct - thus giving this child a

juvenile record. In five years, has racked up

12 charges (almost all of them DC, one or two simple

assaults as a result of accidently kicking whoever

picked him up (he thrashes around ))) This is a

record that he is going to have to deal with - a

preconceived impression of who and what he is like -

however wrong it may be. The middle school insisted,

in spite of written evidence to the contrary, that it

was simple ODD and that he was in total control of

what he did.

> I KNOW his case

> manager is pushing him

> when he is already at the end of his rope and this

> is CAUSING the problems.

> I swear I think I have to email the school every 2

> days about something that

> I think is common sense.

It IS common sense. I cannot believe that school

officials do not or cannot figure this out.

> Last week he came home with 3 days of his agenda

> completely empty, no

> homework written in and no case manager/aid

> signature which is suppose to be

> at the bottom of the page. They also swapped his

> aid on him in the class he

> is failing last week and did not give him any

> advance notice then they

> wondered why he was having problems during class

> that day!!!!!

Had his aide been sick that day? That might explain

why they gave him no warning. They should have

explained her absence to him though, just as soon as

they knew so that he could work through it.

> Sorry, I know I am rambling I am just discouraged.

> This is only month 2 of

> a 3 year haul through middle school and I am already

> worried that I will

> have to pull him from this school at some point.

> The problem is there is no

> place to send him if I do.

Things can and will look up in the future.

finally got what we have been asking for for several

years. He is OUT of the high school, after spending

all of last year - except for five days - out of

school. He is currently attending night courses and

will begin an alternative high school at our local

college (five hours a day - no homework brought home -

work at own rate) just as soon as they have an

opening. No longer will we have to deal with the

current high school administration and their inability

to understand that he does not have meltdowns

intentionally. (no high school sophomore

intentionally wants to sit hysterically crying on the

lunchroom floor amidst 400 of their peers!)

It was a long haul, but things are finally looking up.

I hope to put some of the lessons learned with

to use helping other parents with their

autistic/asperger's youngsters.

>

> Thanks for listening

> -Charlotte

Ramble on, Charlotte. That is what we are hear for,

among other things. Most of us have gone through what

you are going through now and can empathize if not

able to offer suggestions.

Anytime you need us, just post. We are always here

for you.

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Charlotte,

I am worried about the same things when my son starts middle school. He is in 5th grade now but I have been looking into other options. One option is a charter school. It does not start until 7th grade but that is ok. And they do take IEP's. He would only have to attend twice a week to work with a teacher one on one and they only focus on 2 subjects at a time which makes learning that much easier. The rest of his work he does at home at his own pace. If you have any charter schools in your area you may want to look into that. I am still researching it further but am seriously considering it as an option for my son. They also offer resource and speech therapy which is a huge plus..... BUT WE WILL SEE!!!!! Good Luck!!

in Lancaster, CaCharlotte <scottdesigns@...> wrote:

I am still waiting to hear back from the school, it has been 5 days since I emailed about my son failing English and no one other than the school councilor has been returning my emails. She claims the school has been having email trouble and to keep waiting because people will eventually get back to me. I will wait until the end of today but since the councilor seems to be getting my emails I have trouble believing no one else has.

The last time I went in to pick him up for a doctor appointment, his case manager walked him down and wanted to discuss his aggression. For the record, my son is not aggressive by nature. She said that a couple weeks ago he had “thrown” a desk at her (which I KNOW was a total exaggeration because he has no upper body muscle tone at all!!) What really happened is he shoved a desk out of frustration and it tipped over. Here is my question……my son does not go from 0 to violent with no warnings of increasing frustration in between. SO am I to believe no one saw any opportunity to calm him down BEFORE it got to this point? I just think they are handling things all wrong and I am getting more and more frustrated myself. This is our first year at this school and I guarantee I am already labeled the PIA mom from Hell. But the $2000 neuropsych STATES

CLEARLY is not to be pushed when he is already melting down or he will either escalate of shut down completely. I KNOW his case manager is pushing him when he is already at the end of his rope and this is CAUSING the problems. I swear I think I have to email the school every 2 days about something that I think is common sense.

They are doing some state testing this month and as a result they have a different class schedule some days. On these days only gets 20 minutes of sped time and homework help. Yesterday was one of those days. He ended up having to bring all of his homework home and most of it I was not able to help him with but his aid at school would have been able to easily. The first was a literature worksheet where they were suppose to answer question from a movie watched in class. NOT something I could help with!! Second was to do a Science research paper based on a movie watched in class and 60% of the grade was going to be on notes taken during the movie!! My son had obviously taken no notes because no one helped him and I could not help him with the rest of it because I had not seen the movie!!

Last week he came home with 3 days of his agenda completely empty, no homework written in and no case manager/aid signature which is suppose to be at the bottom of the page. They also swapped his aid on him in the class he is failing last week and did not give him any advance notice then they wondered why he was having problems during class that day!!!!!

Sorry, I know I am rambling I am just discouraged. This is only month 2 of a 3 year haul through middle school and I am already worried that I will have to pull him from this school at some point. The problem is there is no place to send him if I do.

Thanks for listening

-Charlotte

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Charlotte,

Here is the link for the Charter School I am looking into for Middle and High School

www.emsofl.com/

I dont know if they have one in your area but maybe close by.....

Charlotte <scottdesigns@...> wrote:

Unfortunately there are NO charter schools or schools for Asperger’s/NLD kids anywhere near here. That is the type of school that his neuro-psychololgist said he should be in from the beginning (although she could not provide me the NAME of any she knew of!!!). I don’t know about home schooling since I have a VERY demanding 4 year old at home!!

I stopped at the school today to drop off his costume for the play (he had rehearsal after school) and I ran into his case manager. To start, this woman ALWAYS looks BLANK. She also always appears put out that I am trying to discuss things with her. I can’t even describe it but it is incredibly irritating. She MIGHT be in her early 30’s but I am going to guess she’s a little younger. I know she does not like my son. Which is ODD because I have never run across anyone who doesn’t like him!

Turns out she had gotten all my emails but did not mention any of them. I asked if anyone was going to let me know what was up with English (the F) and she said “well, we have to have a meeting with that teacher and I can’t possibly schedule that until at least Thursday because I am to busy. Then I asked about the IEP meeting and she said “ya, that confused me, IEP meetings are annually” so I said we had quarterly meetings last year and she said “you mean progress meetings” well YES since that is what we agreed on at the beginning of the year. I know she knew what I was talking about. She then told me that my son has been refusing to do his work since last week which he has NEVER done and I told her that. I said if he was doing that then there is clearly a problem on their end because that was a new

behavior. I also discovered that he never even shoved the desk, he pushed it with his foot and it only went about a foot and never tipped or anything. Yet this woman is telling people he “threw a desk at her”…Grrrrrrrrr.

THEN as she was eager to get away from me to leave with the other sped program instructor who she is DATING, I ran into his very nice social studies teacher. She mentioned really liking him and how enthusiastic he was about the current subject matter and then proceeded to tell me how useless his class aid is and that she does NOTHING!! We chatted for a while and with every passing incident (there are more I am just to fried to list everything) I am SO convinced I should have created an alternative school if there wasn’t one!! My BIGGEST problem is that I know she is looking at him and treating him as a behavior problem when he’s NOT but that is the “general population” in that room. They bent over backwards to tell me I was wrong about that before school started and now I know they were snowing me big

time. It SO is about that. The case manager is handling him all wrong half the time. Yesterday she told him that if he did not finish his work he would not be going to drama club…this was fine with me because he was obviously just procrastinating since he wanted to get out of there and get to drama. The problem is that she will use the same approach when he is in a full meltdown frustrated with his work. She does not seem to know the difference between these situations even though I have a 16 page neuron psych that tells her this (which I guarantee she has NEVER read!!).

Sorry, I know these posts are long, I am just feeling so defeated I want to cry, and it’s only the beginning. Thanks for the support

-Charlotte

Charlotte,

I am worried about the same things when my son starts middle school.

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I was on pins and needles today because every time the phone rang it was the

school on the caller ID lol. The first call was from my son asking me to

bring something in for a class, which I did. The second one was the school

nurse, who just wanted me to drop off some more organic snacks, and the

third was the case manager..

It would appear that he again today refused to do his work and also he

apparently had the job of bringing in a CD for use in a class project and he

forgot so they made up another job for him which he FLAT out refused to do.

He told them he would rather get a 0 than do this assignment because it was

not his original assignment. Then refused to do it in special ed at the end

of the day as well. To start let me say that the case manager was

completely different on the phone today and we chatted for a while. She

told me she finally scheduled the meeting with the English teacher about his

F and that it would be next Tuesday. I mentioned some of my concerns to her

and that I was worried certain situations may be being handled

inappropriately. She assured me they weren't (we'll see) and then she told

me she had read his neuropsych eval twice and knows how to work with him. I

thanked her for that (although I don't know for sure if she did, I can only

hope). I told her that this transition to middle school is very hard for

him and she said that he has mentioned wanting to go back to his old school

several times. Anyway it was a decent conversation and I feel " a little "

better today, at least I got a PHONE CALL this time when there was an issue!

That made all the difference in the world to me. I just HATE being blown

off, it makes me more concerned.

I have decided to create a home/school behavior contract with him that

allows him to earn computer/TV/video game time by at least putting in an

effort on the assignments he is asked to do. I don't know what else to do.

Thanks to everyone for listening to me vent!! We are far from out of the

woods but I think my squawking is finally getting some wheels turning!!

-Charlotte

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Hi ,

What is going on? Who is your doctor in Mexico? Why are you getting a

fill if you think you " slipped " . Your band slipped or did you slip?

Where are you? I am in Washington State.

Darla

wrote:

> I'm very frustrated that the only boards with any regular activity are

> smartbandsters and

> graduate bandsters. I miss mexicanbandsters being acitve and was

> hoping this would be

> my solution. WHERE IS EVERYONE?!!! I'm headed to Mexico tomorrow for

> my first fill with

> flouro since surgery in 2003. Scared I've slipped, but also scared I

> haven't - which will

> mean it's ALL ME to blame! We shall see.

> wendy

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, I'm afraid that is not really true- I spend 2-3 hours a day on

Dr Kuri's very active board for his private patients, and there are

often 20-30 posts a day there. As a Kuri patient and " believer " , I

make that board my priority. Perhaps your doctor can start a board of

his own, to help meet your needs.

On this board, there are usually questions every day and all are

answered. I also answer 20-30 personal emails almost every day from

people who got no response to their posts on Bandsters or SmartB, or

get responses that they recognize are clearly poor or frankly

dangerous.

Many boards are more " active " but if the advice is poor or outright

dangerous, that does no one any good. The original Bandsters board is

probably the most active of all - so much so, that many posts don't

get a response at all, and some others get poor or even frankly

dangerous advice. And the newer people, particularly, don't know the

difference between " good " and " poor " advice. On many boards, A lot is

based on hearsay and not on medical fact or known band guidelines.

This, imo, is not very helpful to people, even though the board is

very " active. "

If you have a question, we'll be happy to help here. There are almost

100 AGB boards to choose from, each with a different emphasis, But no

board can be all things to all people.

Most people, as they progress in their Band journeys, become more and

mor experienced and knowledgeable, and less and less active on ANY

board - they are out living their thinner and healthier lives. Sandy R

>

> I'm very frustrated that the only boards with any regular activity

are smartbandsters and

> graduate bandsters. I miss mexicanbandsters being acitve and was

hoping this would be

> my solution. WHERE IS EVERYONE?!!! I'm headed to Mexico tomorrow

for my first fill with

> flouro since surgery in 2003. Scared I've slipped, but also scared

I haven't - which will

> mean it's ALL ME to blame! We shall see.

> wendy

>

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DFW bandsters seems to be one of the most active boards. Good info

there even if you don't live in the DFW area (I live in Denver but am

from DFW.)

>

> I'm very frustrated that the only boards with any regular activity

are smartbandsters and

> graduate bandsters. I miss mexicanbandsters being acitve and was

hoping this would be

> my solution. WHERE IS EVERYONE?!!! I'm headed to Mexico tomorrow

for my first fill with

> flouro since surgery in 2003. Scared I've slipped, but also scared

I haven't - which will

> mean it's ALL ME to blame! We shall see.

> wendy

>

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Sandy, i should've clarified that the two boards I lean on most are

mexicanbandsters and

this one. I have heard terrific things about Kuri's board and you have

certainly been a

tremendous help to me - on boards and private email. In fact, you are the

reason I finally

decided to go back to Rumbaut for fill with flouro. I'm SO glad I did!!! Turns

out

everything is fine and where it should be. I just needed a fill, and one done

by

experienced folks with flouro. Seeing my insides for myself is helping me SO

much

already (mentally) when eating! Now I need to buckle down and follow the

RULES!!! Your

time and effort on this and other boards are SO appreciated.

wendy

>

> , I'm afraid that is not really true- I spend 2-3 hours a day on

> Dr Kuri's very active board for his private patients, and there are

> often 20-30 posts a day there. As a Kuri patient and " believer " , I

> make that board my priority. Perhaps your doctor can start a board of

> his own, to help meet your needs.

>

> On this board, there are usually questions every day and all are

> answered. I also answer 20-30 personal emails almost every day from

> people who got no response to their posts on Bandsters or SmartB, or

> get responses that they recognize are clearly poor or frankly

> dangerous.

>

> Many boards are more " active " but if the advice is poor or outright

> dangerous, that does no one any good. The original Bandsters board is

> probably the most active of all - so much so, that many posts don't

> get a response at all, and some others get poor or even frankly

> dangerous advice. And the newer people, particularly, don't know the

> difference between " good " and " poor " advice. On many boards, A lot is

> based on hearsay and not on medical fact or known band guidelines.

> This, imo, is not very helpful to people, even though the board is

> very " active. "

>

> If you have a question, we'll be happy to help here. There are almost

> 100 AGB boards to choose from, each with a different emphasis, But no

> board can be all things to all people.

>

> Most people, as they progress in their Band journeys, become more and

> mor experienced and knowledgeable, and less and less active on ANY

> board - they are out living their thinner and healthier lives. Sandy R

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Hi Sula, I know its frustrating but do not give up. Your body might be getting used to the changes right now and that could be why.. Since it is TOM you may be retaining water and because of your eating better you might not realize it as you would before.. I don't take insulin so I am not sure of the side effects of that.. I understand about the airplane seats.. I had to fly when my step mom was dying and I was soo scared I wouldnt fit in the seat, but I did.. I had to switch planes once and I didnt even have to ask for a seat belt extender on the second flight.. the reg seat belt fit fine. Relax and try not to worry.. Your doing everything right.. Keep up the great work and doing what you are doing, water, exercise, balanced meals.. .. Have you measured yourself maybe you are losing inches instead of pounds?? SulaBlue <sulablue2001@...> wrote: I'm working so hard. But, I think the insulin I know it's TOM, but I don't feel like I'm retaining water at all. The scale's just not moving.Southwest Airlines in mid-August - and I'm really, really worried about not fitting into the seat! (Their seats are supposedly 17.5" wide, some of the narrowest in the industry!).I know I'm not exercising *EVERY* day, but I do aim for every-other day at least, and sometimes I manage several days in a row. I'm getting in more calories now so my body shouldn't think I'm starving it. Water is a 'check' - surely I shouldn't hit a plateau after a mere 2 pounds!SulaBlue

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> I'm working so hard. Eating well, making sure my diet is balanced.

But, I think the insulin

> is really holding me back from losing weight :( The scale hasn't

budged AT ALL. I know it's

> TOM, but I don't feel like I'm retaining water at all. The scale's

just not moving.<

Do you normally feel bloated at TOM? Do you usually have a gain, even

if it's just a pound or two? The fact that you didn't put on any

weight despite TOM is great! I would bet that if you keep on doing

what you're doing, you'll see a loss next week.

> It's great to have my BGs under control, but as previously mentioned

I'm taking a flight on

> Southwest Airlines in mid-August - and I'm really, really worried

about not fitting into the

> seat! (Their seats are supposedly 17.5 " wide, some of the narrowest

in the industry!).<

Well, you know you're losing inches because those shorts were too big

all of a sudden--so you are making progress. I don't know what size

you are, but last time I flew on Southwest I was a 22/24 and I was

fine. That was several years ago, but surely they haven't gotten that

much smaller in recent years...?

> I know I'm not exercising *EVERY* day, but I do aim for every-other

day at least, and

> sometimes I manage several days in a row. I'm getting in more

calories now so my body

> shouldn't think I'm starving it. Water is a 'check' - surely I

shouldn't hit a plateau after a

> mere 2 pounds!<

It sounds like you're doing everything right. I don't completely

understand the insulin/weight loss problem, but I'm going to go google

it now so I can better understand.

-Bonnie

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