bathing

[Guest guest]

Hi, Suzanne,

I also use the stink and/or grease test with my 11 yo girl (non ocd) and

my 16 yo (ocd) son. It works for us.

Kim in IA ( 16 next week, OCD) " lurking " lately but still here.

[Guest guest]

> Hi, Suzanne,

> I also use the stink and/or grease test with my 11 yo girl (non ocd)

and

> my 16 yo (ocd) son. It works for us.

> Kim in IA ( 16 next week, OCD) " lurking " lately but still here.

thanks, Kim -- so on average, how often would you say the 11 y.o. girl

bathes?

[Guest guest]

Suzanne,

My 10 yr. old is my oldest, so maybe I'm behind the times, but she

doesn't use deodorant yet and she never stinks. I have a really good

nose, so I would be the first to know. She only showers every 2-3

days. No biggie. Maybe with your 13 yr. old's hormones she would need

to shower more often.

Dina

[Guest guest]

Hi Suzanne,

I am " anal " about having clean kids. My kids bathe every night. ESPECIALLY when

they are in school. Sometimes in the summer I will allow them to skip a

night....and have occasionally let them skip two nights...but that is very rare

and it bothers me when I do. I also know that my neighbor is the same way as far

as bathing goes.

Also, being a teenager...(my kids are just 5 and almost 7)...the body is

changing as well as the chemistry so I would think it would be appropriate to be

showering once a day but definitely would not let more than two days go by with

out a shower. So I would have to say I am with your hubby on this one.

Take care,

bathing

Weird question here from the only person in my family of 4 without OCD...

how often do you insist your 10 and 13 yr. olds bathe? I don't know if it's

my

hubby's OCD or if I am out of touch with " normal " . If I were to ever

" smell " the girls as they passed or see that their hair was greasy, of

course, I'd

tell them to take a shower -- but I haven't had to, and normally, on their

own they will take a shower every 2-3 days. We have diaper wipes to use in

the

bathrooms, so I know the girls clean themselves in between showers, change

their underwear, and use deodorant. Both girls have OCD -- I figure they

have

enough to deal with without potentially adding my husband's own OCD

compulsions into their mix. Hubby feels that they should really take a

shower every

day; when I grew up, my folks wouldn't let me take more than 2-3 showers per

week (I do shower daily as an adult, occasionally skipping a day). He

doesn't want to always look like the nag (which he is) so he asks me to tell

the

girls that they need a shower (in his opinion). I'd rather let them have

that

control as long as they don't stink.

So, I'm curious, what is normal????? Don't be afraid of hurting my

feelings. If everyone out there insists on daily bathing for kids but me, I

need to

know this! Incidentally, neither of my girls are in sports.

Suzanne in CA

[Guest guest]

I had to laugh with this subject. Being that some ocd kids with germ

issues take 3 hour showers or bathe several times a day! I am NOT

making fun of them! I just try to find humor in the maze of ocd

troubles! Bre (14) showers everyday during school, due to oily hair

and skin. Less in tne summer, due to swimming, or not going anywhere.

Though she doesn't seem to care about her appearance, (she is not into

primping) she would be mortified if anyone said that she stinks!

Sandy

[Guest guest]

Funny you should ask this, as I am on the computer while my kids are showering!

I have a 13yo son and a 10yo daughter. Right now they shower just about exactly

the same as your daughters. Always on Saturday (ie, before church on Sunday) and

usually on Tuesday and Thursday (these two days are a bit more flexible,

depending on family activities, etc). I think my 13yo will probably start

needing to shower daily fairly soon, but this works for us for now. BTW, I think

I was about his age when I started showering daily, too.

P.

suzstone@... wrote:

Weird question here from the only person in my family of 4 without OCD...

how often do you insist your 10 and 13 yr. olds bathe? I don't know if it's my

hubby's OCD or if I am out of touch with " normal " . If I were to ever

" smell " the girls as they passed or see that their hair was greasy, of course,

I'd

tell them to take a shower -- but I haven't had to, and normally, on their

own they will take a shower every 2-3 days. We have diaper wipes to use in the

bathrooms, so I know the girls clean themselves in between showers, change

their underwear, and use deodorant. Both girls have OCD -- I figure they have

enough to deal with without potentially adding my husband's own OCD

compulsions into their mix. Hubby feels that they should really take a shower

every

day; when I grew up, my folks wouldn't let me take more than 2-3 showers per

week (I do shower daily as an adult, occasionally skipping a day). He

doesn't want to always look like the nag (which he is) so he asks me to tell

the

girls that they need a shower (in his opinion). I'd rather let them have that

control as long as they don't stink.

So, I'm curious, what is normal????? Don't be afraid of hurting my

feelings. If everyone out there insists on daily bathing for kids but me, I

need to

know this! Incidentally, neither of my girls are in sports.

Suzanne in CA

[Guest guest]

> I had to laugh with this subject. Being that some ocd kids with germ

> issues take 3 hour showers or bathe several times a day! I am NOT

> making fun of them!

**** Thanks, Sandy! My husband used to take at least at hour in the

shower in his youth -- still takes 1/2 hour, while I can be done in 10

min. That's one of the reasons I was looking for a reality check -- I

don't want to give them more ideas on ways to be compulsive! Suzanne

[Guest guest]

Hi Suzanne,

It varies in our family. I'm every other night. My oldest is each

day, which began sometime during the teen years (he's 20).

(16) is about each day, also beginning in teen years. is

about every other day too, sometimes daily. When younger I always

reminded them every 3rd day, more so because I could tell by their

hair they needed it washed. doesn't play sports, the other

2 sons being more active (with sports & socially) so sport

nites/practices were always showers. Of course as babies,

toddlers...they got daily baths; don't recall when I slacked up

about it.

> Weird question here from the only person in my family of 4 without

OCD...

> how often do you insist your 10 and 13 yr. olds bathe? I don't

know if it's my

> hubby's OCD or if I am out of touch with " normal " . If I were to

ever

> " smell " the girls as they passed or see that their hair was

[Guest guest]

I only have the one child, my dd OCDer 11 yo, so I don't know how " normal "

her showering routine is. She's pretty far into puberty and needs to

shower, apply deodorant etc. more often than before.

I've always insisted she bathe on an as-needed basis. In the summer, with

near-daily swimming, maybe that's every two-three days so long as hair is

rinsed out at the pool showers and deodorant applied after. During the

school year, maybe every other day or so, though I let the hair slide if she

puts it back in a ponytail. On non-shower days she " washes up " with wipes

or a washcloth. Anytime she's been doing something that leaves visible dirt

on her (black knees and feet, smeared face), she needs a shower no matter

when her last one was. :-)

I should say that she would (still) be happy to never shower, she avoids it

when possible. She does sometimes notice when she's had " deodorant letdown "

and will use wipes/deodorant without my having to insist. She doesn't have

any showering rituals I am aware of, but because of the OCD I have always

shrunk from making much of an issue or too many rules about cleanliness and

so on. I have no idea if this has had any effect on her OCD or not.

BTW it was a plain chore to get her to add regular deodorant use to her

daily routine. She frequently forgets to use it and needs prompted. She

still needs pushed to brush teeth and etc. as well.

I've had to do some pushing to get my non-OCD dh out of our daughter's daily

routines and give her some autonomy. He's somewhat controlling and likes to

make rules, and he too wants our daughter to shower daily, though he can't

explain why he cares so. He agrees she isn't dirty-appearing and doesn't

smell as a rule LOL. He himself skips showers fairly frequently so go

figure...

HTH,

Kathy R. in Indiana

----- Original Message -----

From: <suzstone@...

> Weird question here from the only person in my family of 4 without OCD...

> how often do you insist your 10 and 13 yr. olds bathe? I don't know if

> it's my

> hubby's OCD or if I am out of touch with " normal " . If I were to ever

> " smell " the girls as they passed or see that their hair was greasy, of

> course, I'd

> tell them to take a shower -- but I haven't had to, and normally, on

> their

> own they will take a shower every 2-3 days. We have diaper wipes to use

> in the

> bathrooms, so I know the girls clean themselves in between showers,

> change

> their underwear, and use deodorant. Both girls have OCD -- I figure they

> have

> enough to deal with without potentially adding my husband's own OCD

> compulsions into their mix. Hubby feels that they should really take a

> shower every

> day; when I grew up, my folks wouldn't let me take more than 2-3 showers

> per

> week (I do shower daily as an adult, occasionally skipping a day). He

> doesn't want to always look like the nag (which he is) so he asks me to

> tell the

> girls that they need a shower (in his opinion). I'd rather let them have

> that

> control as long as they don't stink.

> So, I'm curious, what is normal????? Don't be afraid of hurting my

> feelings. If everyone out there insists on daily bathing for kids but me,

> I need to

> know this! Incidentally, neither of my girls are in sports.

>

> Suzanne in CA

[Guest guest]

I don't know if this would help you now or in the future but I use to

work for a company called Willoughby Cast products and I made a shower

base that is made to replace a standard bathtub and it is ADA

compliant. Should you ever decide to replace the tub there are several

companies that make items like this.

>

> hi all-

> we just bought a new town home (yay!) but it only has 2 bath tubs.

I am trying to find out what is convenient to use to bathe. I used to

have a chair that would lower me the in water, and I've seen all kinds

of newer versions so I am wondering if any of you have something like

that or some other great ideas.

> Thanks!

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Don't be flakey. Get for Mobile and

> always stay connected to friends.

>

>

[Guest guest]

if you have room, before my son became bed bound and perferred bathing

in the bed, now he doesn't like to use the lift anymore, but if u r using a

lift, we used to use a float that you lay " in " that was deep enough for a body ,

like a rectangular pool in his room. we would pump it up and put him in it. he

could relax and lay in their , watch t,v, while he got a bath, or just relax

in it during the summer. it had a built in pillow he rested his head on. he

loved it! when down, use used the same thing you would use to pump the water out

of a water bed, or a wet water vac. to get the water out. soaking in it was

good for him. avon had a bubble bath machime for about 20.00 and we put it on

the side and it created bubbles or just put bubbling water in the float. he

thought it was cool he had this " pool like " float in his room.

rainey

Joy <j0yeuxx@...> wrote: hi all-

we just bought a new town home (yay!) but it only has 2 bath tubs. I am trying

to find out what is convenient to use to bathe. I used to have a chair that

would lower me the in water, and I've seen all kinds of newer versions so I am

wondering if any of you have something like that or some other great ideas.

Thanks!

---------------------------------

Don't be flakey. Get for Mobile and

always stay connected to friends.

[Guest guest]

beck used a hoyer lift with a net sling...we would place her in the sling on

her bed and her dad installed a track for the lift to the bathroom and all

the way to the tub. Then I could lower her into the tub for a soak or leave

her suspended for a shower. (plus a heat lamp so she didn't freeze of course)

Does your bath tub also have a shower head? She also had a hand held

shower head installed so I could wash her hair and rinse her easily.

tracyjane

[Guest guest]

When I had my hip replacement in 2004, I went to rehab after 3 days in the

hospital and I remember the LVN putting me in a chair and wheeling me into

the shower the day after I got there.

Of course, it all depends on your doctor, mine gave me very few

restrictions. I had the minimum invasive surgery, was driving and back to

work in 2 weeks.

My one hint I think I got here - is get some satin pajamas or nightshirt -

so helpful in sliding into bed.

Good luck - you'll be glad you did it!

Barbara

> I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

> concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

> that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

> replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

>

>

[Guest guest]

thank you for the satin pj suggestion, Barbara......

but I hate pj's.......BARB in Florida

Re: bathing

When I had my hip replacement in 2004, I went to rehab after 3 days in the

hospital and I remember the LVN putting me in a chair and wheeling me into

the shower the day after I got there.

Of course, it all depends on your doctor, mine gave me very few

restrictions. I had the minimum invasive surgery, was driving and back to

work in 2 weeks.

My one hint I think I got here - is get some satin pajamas or nightshirt -

so helpful in sliding into bed.

Good luck - you'll be glad you did it!

Barbara

> I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

> concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

> that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

> replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

>

>

[Guest guest]

It all depends on the doctor. The surgeon would have allowed it the day

before leaving the hospital but the doctor at the rehab would not allow it

until the stitches were removed.

Under the occupational therapy at the rehab, I was able to get a shower

after about a week but they wrapped up the stitches with a very heavy plastic

bandage.

If you do not like to wear pajamas, you can keep the gown on. It works.

Which reminds me, at the hospital, right after the surgery, you may be

cold. I was. I do not know if this was because of the surgery, the morphine,

the blood thinner or what. I had a heavy bathrobe that I had brought

(surgery at end of January) to wear and used this to throw over me in the bed.

At the rehab, I was cold for a few days, too, and used the robe as an

extra cover.

Reen

[Guest guest]

I had MIS posterior approach - no staples, just steri strips. Showered as

soon as I got home (day 3 after surgery). I could have showered in the

hospital, but it was too much trouble.

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From: " BARB " <barbmch@...>

Sent: Saturday, September 11, 2010 9:40 PM

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Subject: bathing

> I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

> concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

> that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

> replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

>

>

[Guest guest]

I was allowed to shower the very next morning, which is standard for my surgeon.

Why cant you bathe? Is it a dressing issue? I had one long fishing-line-like

stitch and a clear waterproof dressing over the original gauze, if that makes a

difference. It still got wet, but that was fine, they just changed the

dressing. I had AMIS so the incision was only 4 inches long, perhaps thats why.

>

> I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

> concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

> that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

> replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

>

>

[Guest guest]

I was allowed to shower 3 days after TKR. After the shower I sprayed EIS

(silver) on the cut and then the bandage. For you that don't know about

silver it promotes healing without leaving a scar. After about a week I applied

a mixture of EIS, DMSO and glycerine in order to hold the silver on the cut

for 6 minutes. During petri dish tests silver required 6 minutes in order

to kill most pathogens. It killed every pathogen exposed to silver, MRSA,

Anthrax, etc. I was concerned with MRSA as a friend died from it in my

Hospital. My wife an ex RN was beside herself as she will not try anything

unless her DR tells her. I also used an infrared cold medical laser on both

sides of the cut 2 minutes per spot. The laser is also noted for promoting

healing without leaving a scar. 8 weeks after surgery the scar is like a darker

line.

During PT they had me lay on my back on a bed with my feet up the wall.

Then she had me bend my knee with the good leg on top pulling it down. I used

my laser under my knee joint and I feel that it improved the flat from 8

degrees to 3 degrees. A noted marathon runner had flat feet and could only

run the next race after receiving a laser treatment on the bottom of his feet

for 30 minutes each foot. It allowed the tendons to work for one more race

which prolonged his race days.

Brickey

[Guest guest]

it must not be very pleasant for the people living around you.........BARB

bathing

I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

[Guest guest]

Satin nightie would work too!

B

> thank you for the satin pj suggestion, Barbara......

> but I hate pj's.......BARB in Florida

>

>

>

> Re: bathing

>

>

> When I had my hip replacement in 2004, I went to rehab after 3 days in the

> hospital and I remember the LVN putting me in a chair and wheeling me into

> the shower the day after I got there.

>

> Of course, it all depends on your doctor, mine gave me very few

> restrictions. I had the minimum invasive surgery, was driving and back to

> work in 2 weeks.

>

> My one hint I think I got here - is get some satin pajamas or nightshirt -

> so helpful in sliding into bed.

>

> Good luck - you'll be glad you did it!

>

> Barbara

>

>> I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

>> concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

>> that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

>> replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

>>

>>

[Guest guest]

My experience was after 3 days I went to a nursing home for rehab...the place

was awful! They only allowed 1 shower a week for reidents, (no wonder the place

stank so dreadfully). After 9 days post op from my bi lateral hip

replacements...I finally had " showr day " after begging for a sooner shower to no

avail..I could have showerd as soon as I got there according to my surgeon. I

was glued not stitched and had steri strips and a bandage. I only had to have

siran wrap around my hips. After I got out of there I could shower without the

wrap, the bandage was off and the steri stripes were coming off.

CS

bathing

I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

[Guest guest]

My experience was much like yours as I was given permission to shower

almost immediately (in the hospital) provided that I wrapped the

incision with saran wrap to prevent it from becoming saturated. I

don't think I had stitches or glue - whatever I had on the top

disintegrated eventually when I completely healed.

I'm not sure why someone couldn't shower provided that the incision is

covered especially if one changes the dressing after the shower to

ensure that there is no lingering damp spot.

I will write this though -- I was extremely careful to wrap myself

very well with the Saran wrap -- quite a procedure LOL and I also

tried to avoid scrubbing around the upper part of that thigh. I have a

shower attachment which I think is absolutely essential as I am able

to point the water where I need it.

I was much more careful than my friend who had the same procedure with

the same surgeon about a year later. Her incision took quite a bit

longer to heal and became mildly infected whereas my incision healed

perfectly with no issues. I don't know if it was because she was more

" vigorous " in her bathing habits whereas I was okay with trying to

avoid actively cleaning my upper thigh. I did have the anterior

approach which does make healing I think simpler since it's at the

front.

On Sep 12, 2010, at 7:39 AM, Cfourhorses@... wrote:

>

> My experience was after 3 days I went to a nursing home for

> rehab...the place was awful! They only allowed 1 shower a week for

> reidents, (no wonder the place stank so dreadfully). After 9 days

> post op from my bi lateral hip replacements...I finally had " showr

> day " after begging for a sooner shower to no avail..I could have

> showerd as soon as I got there according to my surgeon. I was glued

> not stitched and had steri strips and a bandage. I only had to have

> siran wrap around my hips. After I got out of there I could shower

> without the wrap, the bandage was off and the steri stripes were

> coming off.

> CS

>

> bathing

>

> I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

> concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

> that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

> replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

>

>

[Guest guest]

Glued? Has anyone else had that experience instead of stitches for the hip?

BARB in Florida

bathing

I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

[Guest guest]

Thank you all who have responded to my inquiry about bathing......I just

pity

the people who will be around me after two weeks of not showering. A sponge

bath/sink bath is helpful but nothing like a shower or real bath. BARB

in Florida

bathing

>

> I know this is rather a personal question but it has me

> concerned. In numerous articles that I have read it says

> that you cannot bathe for about two weeks after hip

> replacement. Is this accurate? BARB in Florida

>

>

[Guest guest]

I went to a big rehab place after my first hip replacement - July 2009. I

showered with the help of the " bath lady " & with the bandage on.

Immediately after the shower a nurse put on a new bandage. When I came

home, an aide from home health care came 3 times a week; she put on a new

bandage after I showered until the staples came out.

With my second hip replacement - Oct. 2009 - I went to a small rehab place

in a very small rural hospital near my home. No bathing was allowed & the

door to the shower was locked. At home, I was again helped by the home

health care aide.