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It is good to read in your post that is doing much better now. When I read this 's post it reminded me of the posts you sent about your not too long ago. It is amazing how our kids can bounce back and after going through this be able to help others. I know with all the things that Jaye has gone through she is such an encourager to others when they are down. She is the one to go and talk to someone or prod them on even when they do not want her to. Because of her health issues she has had an IEP since 2nd grade and her special teachers just love her. She has had one specific special ed teacher that has worked with her and helped her through the last three years of middle school. Now they hate to see her move on to highschool because she is such a helper for them. Our kids may not be able to physically do all the things that others can but when it comes to adversity they will win hands down.

Veri & Jaye 14 poly

Re: Need advice with angry outbursts from 15 yr. daughter

Hi ,

your post caught my attention as it reminded me of how things were with my daughter...she has had a rough several years, with one diagnosis after another.. it took her rheumy over 18 months to give an official diagnosis of jra and begin proper treatment, which made her illnesses all the more difficult to accept...meanwhile, she lost her academic program (had to switch to homebound school), and athletics, so she was very angry. She shut her friends out, as it was a painful reminder of her inability to participate in her beloved sports, and feeling she had nothing to contribute to conversation as her life consisted of doctors visits.

I tell you all of this in hopes to offer you encouragement that it will get better...I know it is really rough now, and, as you say, it is upsetting your entire family. I don't know how long she has had her diagnosis, (if you are new, I apologize, I have been unable to keep up with posts lately), but adolesence is so full of change and growth for healthy kids...also, is your daughters disease well controlled? If she is having a lot of pain, that can affect her mood as well.

We live in Orange County also. My daughter is 17 - I talked to my daughter and she said she would e-mail with your daughter, if you think your daughter would be open to that. She's a good kid, who loves being active (especially water sports) when she is able, loves kids, adores her nieces, and has a generous heart.

If you want her e-mail, or to give me your daughter's e-mail, you can contact me off-list. Either way, my prayers are with you, your daughter, and your family as I understand this is a stressful time, and as a parent, it is difficult knowing your child is hurting. My best to you.

Hugs,

(, 17, poly)

nancyslauson <nancyslauson > wrote:

Hi Everybody:

My young teenage daughter is soooo angry that it is creating upset for

our entire family. We are in therapy to try and help her and support

her in every way we can, but it seems that the anger at her

illness/situation just will not subside.

I would appreciate any tips you might have that could help her (and

me!) overcome the emotionality of this disease. It is just tearing her

apart.

She does not want to do anything, just stay home. We live in Southern

California, so the weather does not interfere with outside activities,

but she does not want to go outside - she said she feels ugly. This is

so hard to understand, since she is truly so attractive that she draws

stares where ever we go. Her personality is being affected by this

disease and she just pushes everyone away. I am afraid she will lose

her friends if I cannot help her.

Thank you,

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