Your thoughts? New One on Me!

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As promised:

So, I am currently seeing 2 Rheums., obviously I have to make a choice, but then

I thought

what if the 2nd one isn't good either? So, I asked the hand specialist that I

saw to send his

report to both doctors. I called up the first doctor and told his admin. that

the hand

specialist advised me to seek a second opinion (true) and I was doing that and I

would be

back in touch with him.

5 minutes later I get a call back from HIM, claiming that he couldn't read his

admins.

writing, what was going on? I explained and he said, " Well, who are you seeing? "

I told him

and he said he knew her and wanted a report from her.

Then he said, " I don't want to lose you as a patient! " and I said, " Well I am

looking for

someone who will treat me aggressively. " " Well these aggressive drugs have side

effects! "

" Yes, but I was taking Humira and that had a lot of side effects as well. " (One

of which may

be lymphoma) I told him that I would get back to him after I saw the other

Rheum. (which

would be my second visit but he doesn't know that)

What did he mean when he said he didn't want to lose me as a patient? Lose my

money?

Does he really care about me as a patient? Does he want me to get better instead

of worse

like I get day by day? Does he want to dig until he figures out what is going on

with me?

This is what I want in a doctor.

DH thinks I now have some leverage with him, if he doesn't want to lose me he is

now

more likely to do what I want.

Thoughts, please?

Thanks,