Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 I have a mixed connective tissue disease. That means I have Rheumatoid, Sjogrens and Lupus. I act on the outside like I am not sick so my husband pushes me and forgets that I am ill. Actually I have asthma, pancreatitis, lesions on my lungs, chronic pain, lumps on my toes, neuropathy, and a lump on my finger and I am very anemic. He acts like I am totally normal and his expectations are that I am not really sick even though the doctors told him I am very ill. Can anyone relate to this? and how do I get him to stop pushing me and see that I am ill? Hugs, Elaine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2009 Report Share Posted April 17, 2009 Dear Elaine I feel your pain and frustration . To have your partner discount how you are feeling, must make you feel very alone. I can tell you of a little experience I have had with my husband. My husband was told he needed a liver transplant in 2003. I got him taking herbs, etc and so far his liver is still stable. However; the past few months, I was getting worried about him as some health things were cropping up. Him and I finally had a blow up as he would try to tell me something and in my mind, everything was fine. I feel scared of the future and instead of recognizing and facing things, I chose to ignore it. He is one who usually does not complain and acts strong, still continuing to work. He is 57 and dr told him he would be medically retired by 30 as he has Crohns also. Is there a chance your hubby just does not want to face it, because you have acted strong? What would you like to see happen? Can you really talk candidly with him and tell him how afraid you are? Perhaps you will be able to think of a plan that you are comfortable with. Your feelings are very important and valid. If you ever need to talk, I am here. Just privately email me and we will connect up. This goes for anyone here. Please understand that I do not give advice as much as I provide validity to your feelings and strive to empower you to make your own plans. *************************************************************************************** I have a mixed connective tissue disease. That means I have Rheumatoid, Sjogrens and Lupus. I act on the outside like I am not sick so my husband pushes me and forgets that I am ill. Actually I have asthma, pancreatitis, lesions on my lungs, chronic pain, lumps on my toes, neuropathy, and a lump on my finger and I am very anemic. He acts like I am totally normal and his expectations are that I am not really sick even though the doctors told him I am very ill. Can anyone relate to this? and how do I get him to stop pushing me and see that I am ill? Hugs, Elaine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2009 Report Share Posted April 17, 2009 Dear Elaine and thanks for sharing. Seems to me you and hubby have been together for sometime,and he don,t want to give up on you so think positive about all those good tomes you all had in the past and make some new ones in the future ahead.--- On Thu, 4/16/09, <Mom2Braxton@...> wrote: From: <Mom2Braxton@...>Subject: Re:Husband Pushing MeRheumatoid Arthritis Date: Thursday, April 16, 2009, 8:09 PM Dear Elaine I feel your pain and frustration . To have your partner discount how you are feeling, must make you feel very alone. I can tell you of a little experience I have had with my husband. My husband was told he needed a liver transplant in 2003. I got him taking herbs, etc and so far his liver is still stable. However; the past few months, I was getting worried about him as some health things were cropping up. Him and I finally had a blow up as he would try to tell me something and in my mind, everything was fine. I feel scared of the future and instead of recognizing and facing things, I chose to ignore it. He is one who usually does not complain and acts strong, still continuing to work. He is 57 and dr told him he would be medically retired by 30 as he has Crohns also. Is there a chance your hubby just does not want to face it, because you have acted strong? What would you like to see happen? Can you really talk candidly with him and tell him how afraid you are? Perhaps you will be able to think of a plan that you are comfortable with. Your feelings are very important and valid. If you ever need to talk, I am here. Just privately email me and we will connect up. This goes for anyone here. Please understand that I do not give advice as much as I provide validity to your feelings and strive to empower you to make your own plans. ************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* *** I have a mixed connective tissue disease. That means I have Rheumatoid,Sjogrens and Lupus. I act on the outside like I am not sick so my husband pushes me and forgets that I am ill. Actually I have asthma, pancreatitis, lesions on my lungs, chronic pain, lumps on my toes, neuropathy, and a lump on my finger and I am very anemic. He acts like I am totally normal and his expectations are that I am not really sick even though the doctors told him I am very ill. Can anyone relate to this? and how do I get him to stop pushing me and see that I am ill?Hugs, Elaine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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