Guest guest Posted March 16, 2010 Report Share Posted March 16, 2010 We are all looking for love, wanting something we can hold on to that makes us feel all giddy inside, gives us constant assurance that the we are of value, looking outside ourselves to be fulfilled by someone else. This is a cinderella story. Created by Walt Disney. in the 50s everyone on tv was the perfect couple, twin beds, no sex, 3.5 children. Now all we get is violence in relationships on TV. They program us to throw away everything that is not perfect. Here is my take on this- We do not ever quit loving that which we have loved. We should not throw them away, seperate our friends over who belongs to whom, or immediately begin looking for a new love to replace them. first, as we continue to love, we need to recognize that this ( the last 50 years)is the first time in 2000 years a woman has not belonged to a man to do with as his will. Love as we are taught now, didn't exist until disney made it up. We are not cartoon characters. Quit looking for love, it is all around you. Quit looking outside of yourself, as you are everything you need. Take responsibility for your actions, good and bad. Do not blame the other person for not being what you expected-your expectations really have nothing to do with them, but yourself. realize that love is forever, there is no shame in loving. The problem is, we try to hold on to love and bend it and shape it to something we have been taught is love, but really is just a bad TV programming. Let it go! Why do we try so hard to grab something that is beautiful, and like the butterfly, put it in a box as a possesion? What is it that drives us to own this thing called love, and expect one person to satisfy all of our needs? A bird in a cage must have its wings clipped to stay there. When you satisfy your own needs, then having someone in your life is a bonus, not a necessity. I have been taught it is a good idea to wait for a year before you enter a new relationship, so you do not carry the problems from this re;ationship to the next one. Spend the time understanding yourself. Know whether you are acting or reacting to situations. Ask your self this " Are you really acting like you want, or are you still reacting to old programming? What do you want from a relationship, or are you just acting out a program of what a relationship should be? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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