Re: Does Anyone Else?

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Tammy:

I am 32 now, and still cried my heart out a couple of weeks ago when a

co-worker offended me. She was so rude and mean in front of all my

office co-workers that I was speechless. I went to the bathroom and

cried and cried, it has not been the first time she does this to me. I

guess some day I will have the strenght to confront her.

And children sometimes are very cruel too. That is why there are so

many bullies out there.

VENT WITH US WHENEVER YOU WANT!!!

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De: keeblertam@... [mailto:keeblertam@...]

Enviado el: Miércoles, 17 de Mayo de 2000 02:10 p.m.

Para: dwarfismegroups

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Asunto: Does Anyone Else?

I am not normally one to feel sorry for myself but I am sometimes (just

like

I know you all do) encounter children who are just plain out mean and

cruel

and sometimes even as a 30 year old woman, I find myself just getting so

down

about these encounters that it sometimes brings me to tears...........I

know

that mostly the way children react to anyone that is " different " (not

just

LP's) is the way they are brought up by their home life. I just had an

encounter a couple of weeks ago and it brought me to tears and I guess

that

is what has brought this issue to mind, I just would like to know if

even

" grown " people still seem to cry because of people's cruelness?

I also encountered like 2 people online today that were very cruel and

totally insensitive.........one even asked me if I had " breasts " now how

cruel and insensitive is that????? Of course, I immediately asked

" him " if

he had " breasts " ????? creep............

Oh well, I guess I am just " venting " today and I thank each one of you

for

allowing me to " vent " today!

Love U All!

Tammy

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I can't even honestly remember the last time anyone brought me to tears by

being mean regarding my stature (let alone feel sorry for myself). I

usually get angry and if the parent is around I usually tell them they need

to teach their children better manners and they shouldn't allow them to be

bullies. I have also made the nasty remark while looking at the parents,

" Hmmm I can see where they get it from. " I know it's just stooping to there

level so to speak, but I often won't let them get away with it. It's plain

disrespect to be nasty to any adult in any condition. I surprisingly never

get a reaction from the adults other than a surprised look. But then again

I've always been mouthy and refuse to have my identity be tied to my stature

or type of dwarfism *** not passing judgement on anyone here** Hey if the

kids or adults show their ignorance then let them. You can't let it bother

you or you'll find someone who sees that it bothers you and just keeps it

up. Take pity on them instead of feeling sorry for yourself.

There was a guy in my high school who always tried to degrade me and called

me names just to try and get me upset. I just laughed at him and shook my

head because he was an idiot, he thought he was cool. I would sometimes

have a come back that would shut him up. It used to get him more angry that

I would laugh at him than anything. The best day was when I got to see him

arrested at school for marijuana possession. All I did was smile and

snicker quietly. The bigger the smile I had the more angry he got and there

was nothing he could say or do. It was better than any revenge a person

could think of.

The next time someone asks a stupid question like " do you have breasts? "

Just blow them off with a comment like, " I am not even going to acknowledge

an ignorant question like that. When you get some intelligence then you can

come talk to me. " Or you could be really sarcastic and go the opposite way

and say yeah and they are a Triple W and I need a shopping cart to get them

around. Or just ask them why they want to know are they looking to exchange

bras. Make the person realize how stupid the question was.

Do not let your self worth be tied to what someone else thinks or says, it's

just giving that person what they want.

- the sarcastic and mouthy one.

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[[i am not normally one to feel sorry for myself but I am sometimes (just

like

I know you all do) encounter children who are just plain out mean and cruel

and sometimes even as a 30 year old woman, I find myself just getting so

down

about these encounters that it sometimes brings me to tears...........

Tammy

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My best defense is humor...you know...picture them without clothes on or

in their underwear type of thing. It does work.

When it comes to kids or adults acting as such then I get lethal...it's a

german/swede thing you know. I can't chase them with a rolling pin or

broom but I can devastate them with words.

You need to learn some great comebacks that make even kids feel

reeeaaally bad...let me know, I'll send you some. Many on this listserve

have some great " rude people busters. "

Karin :-)

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[Guest guest]

I agree although I understand how sometimes one can

feel as Tammy, etc! Well said ! If I have had

a few comebacks of my own in these situtions too. To a

boy without front teeth who insulting me about my

large front teeth I said, Well, my front teeth may be

big but at least I HAVE front teeth which is more than

I can say for you! His sister smiled and he got

instantly quiet!

Sharon

--- " Dart, " <JDart@...> wrote:

> I can't even honestly remember the last time anyone

> brought me to tears by

> being mean regarding my stature (let alone feel

> sorry for myself). I

> usually get angry and if the parent is around I

> usually tell them they need

> to teach their children better manners and they

> shouldn't allow them to be

> bullies. I have also made the nasty remark while

> looking at the parents,

> " Hmmm I can see where they get it from. " I know it's

> just stooping to there

> level so to speak, but I often won't let them get

> away with it. It's plain

> disrespect to be nasty to any adult in any

> condition. I surprisingly never

> get a reaction from the adults other than a

> surprised look. But then again

> I've always been mouthy and refuse to have my

> identity be tied to my stature

> or type of dwarfism *** not passing judgement on

> anyone here** Hey if the

> kids or adults show their ignorance then let them.

> You can't let it bother

> you or you'll find someone who sees that it bothers

> you and just keeps it

> up. Take pity on them instead of feeling sorry for

> yourself.

>

> There was a guy in my high school who always tried

> to degrade me and called

> me names just to try and get me upset. I just

> laughed at him and shook my

> head because he was an idiot, he thought he was

> cool. I would sometimes

> have a come back that would shut him up. It used to

> get him more angry that

> I would laugh at him than anything. The best day was

> when I got to see him

> arrested at school for marijuana possession. All I

> did was smile and

> snicker quietly. The bigger the smile I had the

> more angry he got and there

> was nothing he could say or do. It was better than

> any revenge a person

> could think of.

>

> The next time someone asks a stupid question like

> " do you have breasts? "

> Just blow them off with a comment like, " I am not

> even going to acknowledge

> an ignorant question like that. When you get some

> intelligence then you can

> come talk to me. " Or you could be really sarcastic

> and go the opposite way

> and say yeah and they are a Triple W and I need a

> shopping cart to get them

> around. Or just ask them why they want to know are

> they looking to exchange

> bras. Make the person realize how stupid the

> question was.

>

> Do not let your self worth be tied to what someone

> else thinks or says, it's

> just giving that person what they want.

>

> - the sarcastic and mouthy one.

>

>

>

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>

> [[i am not normally one to feel sorry for myself but

> I am sometimes (just

> like

> I know you all do) encounter children who are just

> plain out mean and cruel

> and sometimes even as a 30 year old woman, I find

> myself just getting so

> down

> about these encounters that it sometimes brings me

> to tears...........

>

> Tammy

>

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[Guest guest]

Flipped your rod?

--

> I honestly can't remember, although I keep away from spindle chairs

(like dining room chairs)....I leaned back in one once and when I

turned I " flipped " my rod....oh man you talk about sick.

>

> I was in my brace for 6 months. They didn't know how to make the

new plastic type ones and I had to go back frequently for

adjust...mostly, since I could not take it off to bathe or sleep I got

sores on my stomach and shoulder blades from mom having to rig up a

system of changing the " stocking " that went in between the brace and

my skin.

>

> The most MORTIFYING part was when I when I had to go back have

" AHEM " 2 holes cut in the front...the doctor want me to have room to

" grow as I entered puberty " ......oh man......

>

> What type of bruise does it feel like skin/muscle or bone

bruise......they come up days to weeks after injury.

> It might too, be your muscles giving you heck, cause with my case

they had to use clamps to keep certain areas open and the strain on

those muscles still bother me to this day.

>

> Hope you feel better soon!!

> Cyn