Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 My daughter is commonly referred to as " Cinderella " by my friends because I make her do chores at home. (No pay) So does her brother. Anyway, she will tell anyone that listens all the hard work she has to do at home! ;-) I was wondering ... cuz it seems here she is pretty unique in this regard. How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what are they? Cheryl in VA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 In a message dated 2/25/02 8:04:14 AM Pacific Standard Time, wildwards@... writes: > My daughter is commonly referred to as " Cinderella " by my friends because I > make her do chores at home. (No pay) So does her brother. Anyway, she > will > tell anyone that listens all the hard work she has to do at home! ;-) > > I was wondering ... cuz it seems here she is pretty unique in this regard. > > How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what > are > they? > > Cheryl in VA > > 's abilities are quite limited and he needs assistance with all he does, mostly very close supervision. Anyway, he empties the dishwasher, loads washer, changes over laundry, puts clean laundry in basket. These things we do together. Oh yes, he vacuums with assistance. Daily makes his bed, clears his place at the table and puts it in the dishwasher. Picks up after himself and helps pick up after his brother. That is about it. Karyn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 In theory, all our kids had to share equally in household chores when they were growing up. There was a saying that 'no one over thirty does the dishes'. There was a small allowance, but no pay for jobs that were part of being in the family. For a long time, this included mowing the lawn. Jan did her share .. no more than her share. She'd do her share and then get sweet talked by an older or younger brother into taking one of their turns. In that sense her family life was fully inclusive .. not special. Jan didn't see her lot as any different from her brothers. One summer her younger brother got ten dollars a week for mowing the lawn next door. He was no dummy. He paid Jan five. The very back corner got steep and the man in the house beyond told Jan not to mow that part. He did it for her when he did his lawn. As an adult, Jan hopes to get paid for real jobs like leaf raking and lawn mowing. I'm comfortable with that. Dishes, etc. still are free. Wildwards@... wrote: > My daughter is commonly referred to as " Cinderella " by my friends > because I make her do chores at home. (No pay) So does her brother. > Anyway, she will tell anyone that listens all the hard work she has to > do at home! ;-) > > I was wondering ... cuz it seems here she is pretty unique in this > regard. How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home > ... and what are they? > > Cheryl in VA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 In a message dated 2/25/2002 11:04:06 AM Eastern Standard Time, wildwards@... writes: << How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what are they? >> He puts all his toys away and puts his books back on the shelf before bath time. He helps put groceries away. As he grows he'll get more to do. He mimics vacuum cleaning and tries to empty the dryer. Kathy, Liam's mom ( 3 3/4 ) Who believes you can't start them too young! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 In a message dated 2/25/2002 11:04:06 AM Eastern Standard Time, wildwards@... writes: << How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what are they? >> He puts all his toys away and puts his books back on the shelf before bath time. He helps put groceries away. As he grows he'll get more to do. He mimics vacuum cleaning and tries to empty the dryer. Kathy, Liam's mom ( 3 3/4 ) Who believes you can't start them too young! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 I am afraid that we haven't been very consistent with the chores at home. We are starting anew though. We have started with dinner time chores, setting the table and cleaning up afterwards. is doing very well, is not. I recently bought these little reward charts that help you keep track of chores visually. I think that will help spur things along. The next we will add are cleaning up rooms and bed making. Our minister at our old church had a great money system for their kids. They each received a base allowance of " x " number of dollars per week. At the end of the week, he and his wife sat down with each child individually. If all chores were completed, basically all expectations met, the child received the base allowance. If chores were not done, (and no valid reason such as being sick), then a certain amount of money was deducted from the base allowance. If all the chores were done, and the child did extra things around the house (the parents would keep a running list of the " extras " ), the child would earn extra money on top of the base allowance. They said it took some time, but is now working well for them. Have you heard about the man and wife in Texas that took in his 8 brothers and sisters after his mother died? It is a very interesting story, his is right around 30, she is 28, and now they have 8 kids living with them, from age 19 down to around 7 I think. They have devised a really neat system for chores, along with a compensation program. (They both have MBA's, and based their system on a business system). They also have set allowances, with incentives and rewards, and also penalties. They were recently on Oprah and in People mag., and they said the system was working well. Sharon Mom to (10, DS) and (6) Re: Motivation > My daughter is commonly referred to as " Cinderella " by my friends because I > make her do chores at home. (No pay) So does her brother. Anyway, she will > tell anyone that listens all the hard work she has to do at home! ;-) > > I was wondering ... cuz it seems here she is pretty unique in this regard. > How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what are > they? > > Cheryl in VA > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 I have 5 children. 16, 13, and 8 year old girls. one 3 yr. old boy and Nikki 6 months with DS. Getting chores done is hard, but I find with my 3 year old that if we like pick up toys together, he soon tries to do more than mommy. Also, maybe like the next time he is willing to do them on his own. The other 3 girls help out where needed. I guess I am one of those moms that do everything for the kids. But they do great when we all do some chores together. It kind of get them in the mood for doing things on their own. They do keep up good on their own bedrooms. One thing else, I have a small house. Only 3 bedrooms. So, it really does not take long to keep things up. The daycare kids make more messes for me than my own kids. Joyce with the small house. LOL Re: Motivation > My daughter is commonly referred to as " Cinderella " by my friends because I > make her do chores at home. (No pay) So does her brother. Anyway, she will > tell anyone that listens all the hard work she has to do at home! ;-) > > I was wondering ... cuz it seems here she is pretty unique in this regard. > How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what are > they? > > Cheryl in VA > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 In a message dated 2/25/2002 10:04:13 AM Central Standard Time, wildwards@... writes: > My daughter is commonly referred to as " Cinderella " by my friends because I > make her do chores at home. (No pay) So does her brother. Anyway, she > will > tell anyone that listens all the hard work she has to do at home! ;-) > > I was wondering ... cuz it seems here she is pretty unique in this regard. > How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what > are > they? > > Cheryl in VA I have a Cinderella as she calls herself but I don't recall Cinderella wearing nice clothes heehee I always seem to be shopping for Kaite lolol Sara schedule keeps her from doing a lot of chores Mon-Fri. She's up for school at 7am and home from school at 4pm. In the remainder 3 hours, we have to do homework, eat dinner, bathe and then off to bed at 7pm. On the weekends both girls help me but I need to assign Sara her own chores and make a chart. Kaite is my life saver at the end of the day, she'll fold a load of clothes or unload a dishwasher and if I'm real nice to her she'll make my coffee for the next day before she goes to bed.....as I said I do reward her well Kathy mom to Sara 10.....Kaite's never broke, her sister pays her well for baby-sitting Tater Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 In a message dated 2/25/2002 3:21:04 PM Eastern Standard Time, KVanRyzin@... writes: > . Anyway, he empties the dishwasher, loads > washer, changes over laundry, puts clean laundry in basket. These things we > do together. Oh yes, he vacuums with assistance. > Daily makes his bed, clears his place at the table and puts it in the > dishwasher. Picks up after himself and helps pick up after his brother. Hey, he sounds like " Cinderfella! " ;-) Cheryl in VA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 In a message dated 2/25/02 1:55:46 PM Eastern Standard Time, writes: > I was wondering ... cuz it seems here she is pretty unique in this regard. > How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what > are > All my girls have regular daily chores: setting table, loading the dishwasher, unloading the dishwasher, making beds. Then they have some " as needed " chores (some of the as needed include: collecting waste baskets, mixing up juice concentrate, taking garbage down to the basement) and a few weekly chores. They can negotiate trades. Sheila initiated a change for the first time two weeks ago! I was so proud of her, because often she gets " dumped on " by her sisters. We step in if we think negotiations have really ended up with Sheila getting used by her sisters, but we try to let them sort it out as much as possible. nancy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 In a message dated 2/25/2002 3:21:19 PM Central Standard Time, momtothree@... writes: > I have friends who don't make their kids do ANYTHING! I can't > understand that, I thought that one of the perks of having kids. > No only is it a " perk " , but raising your kids with no chores around the house leads to the kind of adults that can't do ANYTHING for themselves. I know some people I was in boot camp with that had never cleaned a toilet, mopped a floor, etc. They had a very rude awakening! I mean, they were at least 18, and their mother's had done EVERYTHING for them. That's not what I would consider a responsible parent. I don't think a child should have to do everything all the time, but I think they should do a few things every week, or daily, depending on what it is, to teach them how to take care of themselves. Just my 2 cents worth. Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 My girls (14 and 10) take turns doing dishes. That is their one daily chore. But they also change the laundry around, clean their rooms, straighten up the living room, etc. My motto is " I don't mess it up by myself so I don't clean it by myself " And if I am up cleaning or straightening...so are they. My kids don't get an allowance, but we do pay my oldest daughter to cut the grass and babysit for us. And my youngest can earn money too by doing things other than daily chores. I grew up doing dishes, laundry, and housecleaning, as did my 3 sisters and it didn't kill us...although at times I am sure we thought it would. I have friends who don't make their kids do ANYTHING! I can't understand that, I thought that one of the perks of having kids. can put his dirty clothes in the laundry, set the table, clear the table and pick up books and toys....he still at the age where he thinks its fun though....my girls stopped thinking that way a long time ago. We are thinking of getting a dishwasher this summer,,,it will be nice to be able to pick a dish or glass out of the cabinet and not check it to be sure it is clean....lol Mom to 5ds 10 and Kayla 14 Re: Motivation My daughter is commonly referred to as " Cinderella " by my friends because I make her do chores at home. (No pay) So does her brother. Anyway, she will tell anyone that listens all the hard work she has to do at home! ;-) I was wondering ... cuz it seems here she is pretty unique in this regard. How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what are they? Cheryl in VA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 My son has to help with the silverware. I think that it helps his organization skills. He is not paid for this and also has to keep his room looking clean which he does a much better job of that his 2 brothers. Ann Dawedeit Mom to Eli age 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 Cute story here... My son needed to earn some money (all of his 7 years that he is), so he said if i clean my room every day for 7 days, will you pay me $7.00 for the week. So I agree, because we have done some chore charts in the past which gets them to do some of the things they hate, but after a week are usually brainwashed and the behaviors continue. So he cleans for a week, I pay him, we buy the hockey skates he wanted and then he stops cleaning. So I asked him, arent you cleaning up any more? any he says no, dont have to dont need any more money! Anyway, they help me alot. They always clear their dishes and bring things like drinks and ketchup to the table. amanda wants to do the dishes, but then i have to re do them so i let her sometimes. They both fold laundry and if i leave amanda alone, she does a great job and surprises me and its done. They usually have to go food shopping with us which they really hate and sometimes they will like dust or do the tv screens with windex. These chores are all for free and many of them are part of the plan for amanda towards independence. I am really trying to get them to straighten up their rooms. Not too much sucess there! ~ Mom to 11 DS and 7 NY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 Karrie is still at the age where she loves to help...except clean up her toys. She sets the table, cleans her plate off when she's done, puts the wet clothes I hand her into the dryer and loves to get things for me. Kate is another story. sigh...fights every step of the way!! Sue mom to Kate 12 and Karrie 5 w/ds who is moving all of her bigger toys into the living room that I just straightened up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 > How many of you make your kids do particular chores at home ... and what are > they? From what I get from talking to friends, I think we ask our children to contribute a lot to general family responsibilities. However, at the moment (knock on wood), there is very little complaining, and the little ones particularly like to do whatever " grown up " jobs they are asked to do. My 6 year old sets and clears table, puts her dirty clothes in the hamper and clean laundry away, cleans her own room (though when it hits disaster stage after long play date, she sometimes gets some moral support by mom), feeds the dog (needs reminders sometimes) empties sliversare from dishwasher (can't reach upper stuff yet!) and helps with general cleaning when needed (particularly likes dusting and washing windows!). She also helps with meals, like washing veggies, or making salads or garlic bread. My 4 year old (DS) helps set the table (placemats, silverware, napkins, plastic cups), clears her own dishes (all plastic), feeds dog (when asked), washes table with squirt bottle and rag (OT suggestion to build hand strength in the " web space " with the squirting), puts her dirty clothes in hamper, loads washer from a pile of sorted clothes on floor (have to make sure she doesn't put more in.... sometimes she goes searching) and empties dryer to table. She is pretty good about putting her toys away when asked, but requires mom to give directions (OK, lets put away all the baby dolls now....).... otherwise, she'd be perfectly happy under a pile of toys and books! My 2 year old does pretty much what her 4 year old sister does, but with fewer expectations that she will follow thru! At this point, no one gets any money for their chores, but when they do start to get a small allowance (and I plan to start my 6 year old soon), it will be the expectation that allowance can be witheld if chores are not done. My 6 year old can also earn money by doing easy odd jobs if she asks (or needs money :-) So far, she doesn't really need money, so she doesn't ask for jobs too often. However, she and a friend sold lemonaide this weekend and made $30, so with $15 in her pocket, who knows what will happen!!!!! , mom to (6), (4 DS), and (2) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 In a message dated 2/26/2002 7:20:13 AM Central Standard Time, gboughton@... writes: > <<it > will be the expectation that allowance can be witheld if chores are not > done. >> > I heard that an allowance was to teach a child how to manage money. And for > that they need some of their own. Chores are chores for the good of > the family and the allowance should not be taken away. > jmho. > Gail HI Gail We don't call it an allowance here, it's the concept you work you get paid...no work no pay. Same for the adults in today's society Kathy mom to Sara 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 In a message dated 2/26/2002 6:20:14 AM US Mountain Standard Time, gboughton@... writes: > Chores are chores for the good of > the family and the allowance should not be taken away Well, in our home, chores are done because they are a part of the household. Allowance is what they are earning for the above and beyond of the regular household chores. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 In a message dated 2/26/2002 8:24:09 AM Central Standard Time, gboughton@... writes: > <<We don't call it an allowance here, it's the concept you work you get > paid...no work no pay. Same for the adults in today's society>> > > I'm wondering if a child didn't want money and didn't want to do their > chores...would that be okay? > Gail > > Yep to your question BUT They do have personal chores.......for me putting a roof over their head lol like keeping their room picked up, putting up their own laundry, picking up their own stuff but household chores that would fall under MY job description I pay for heehee my oldest daughter has bought some nice stuff through the years working for me and Joe too. The most important thing I taught them was nothing in life is free and the skills they developed is apparant in their own homes now. I need to say I wish Joe picked more housekeeping chores as a child, he's lacking skills in this area BUT he does have a great yard (he always chose yard work lol) Kathy mom to Sara 10 .........and 3 other worker bees Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 In a message dated 2/26/2002 8:39:44 AM Central Standard Time, tmac@... writes: > He likes to help out around there and when he > does I do pay him for that. Tena HI Tena I am very fortunate that sometimes Kaite will say this is a freebie Mom sometimes it's her way of saying thank you...for being there. Sara seems to do this more often than anyone, she really could care less about earning, she just likes to please me...the verbal rewards now once and awhile she'll hear of a concert coming or see something she wants..... then it's back to earning lol Kathy mom to Sara 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 <<it will be the expectation that allowance can be witheld if chores are not done. >> I heard that an allowance was to teach a child how to manage money. And for that they need some of their own. Chores are chores for the good of the family and the allowance should not be taken away. jmho. Gail http://www.emandan.freeserve.co.uk/ted.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 <<We don't call it an allowance here, it's the concept you work you get paid...no work no pay. Same for the adults in today's society>> I'm wondering if a child didn't want money and didn't want to do their chores...would that be okay? Gail http://www.emandan.freeserve.co.uk/ted.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 <<I have been criticized for having my kids do so much around the house but I feel it is important for them to take care of things. They do get allowance since so much of what they do is centered around helping with the foster children, but we reserve the right to cut that at anytime due to sloppy jobs or poor attitudes. >> I think you should be commended! I have the tendency to do to much for my kids although I am aware of it and try not to. I heard that one should not do anything for a child that they could do for themselves...and that includes laundry. Gail http://www.emandan.freeserve.co.uk/ted.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 helps out around the house. He helps to bring in groceries, he wants to take things out of the bag. He will notice the trash can is full before DH lol He puts his plate in the sink and will help clear the table. Helps to fold laundry and puts his clothes away. After school he gets off the bus at my work. He likes to help out around there and when he does I do pay him for that. Tena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 In a message dated 2/26/02 8:50:43 AM Canada Central Standard Time, gboughton@... writes: > I heard that one should > not do anything for a child that they could do for themselves...and that > includes laundry. > Gail > > My older girls learned to do laundry when they were in 6th and 8th grade...that was the year I was pg with and slept all the time. hehe. Anyway they finally got sick of not being able to find any clean socks so asked how to run the washer and dryer, the biggest problem was they wouldn't fold. :-( They do now that they're out on their own tho. hehe Joy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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