Guest guest Posted June 9, 2007 Report Share Posted June 9, 2007 I also agree. Awhile back, I'm relatively new to this with " adult on-set " , I realized that one of the things my wife was going through was preparing herself for me to die. Looking back on it, this was certainly a reasonable response which would invoke all the responses Addy mentions in her posting. The things we go through, high risk of catching (lower immunity because of meds) all manner of life threatening germs, Hospitalizations with pneumonia/flu etc, visual effects of your loved one grasping for air, observing your loved one not able to physically do what they used to do, has a great impact on our loved ones. If the roles were reversed I would gladly take her suffering on to me, but it does not work that way so she can not do a role reversal. This disease effects not only us but our loved ones and I decided that perhaps I also needed to deal with her fears and concerns (we just had our 38th wedding anniversary). I do not care about the asthnostics that are not in my circle of influence, some are ignorant of the facts (denial is a very powerful tool), some are cruel, and some could just care less. I have to deal with me and my " family " which includes close friends, and when I discovered what my wife was going through, it broke my heart. It was also an opportunity to grow and deal with life on life's terms. Ron > " don't stay still- move, grow " On Jun 9, 2007, at 7:37 AM, pyle456 wrote: > I agree w/ Fran and about counseling. While each chronic > illness is different in its medical component, they all have a great > deal in common in terms of their effects on patients and families - > fatigue, frustration, denial, misunderstanding, depression, etc., and > counseling can sometimes give us the words we need to use with our > families. > > One of my favorite plays/movies is Tony Kushner's " Angels in America, " > because at its core its message is " don't stay still- move, grow " > regardless of what hardships life sets in your path, particularly > physical or mental disease. > > Take care, all, > Addy > Group co-owner > who doesn't have asthma or allergies and hasn't had them these last 35 > years despite the hospitalizations, medications, doctor's visits, > shots, multiple diagnoses of sinus infections, bronchitis, pneumonia > and the like. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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