Re: It's beginning to look a lot like X-mas:Tis the season to be sneezing (wheez

December 27, 2007

I am very blessed when it comes to family understanding. My 82 year

old mother in law lives with us and she is asthmatic too. Well....

sort of. She has an attack about 15 times a year, takes 2 puffs of

Combivient and she is ok for another weeks. Must be nice!

Also, I just came home from visiting family at Christmas, I always go

see my sister and her family about 180 miles away. I have 4 nieces and

2 of them work as pharmaceutical reps. One for UGO and one for Eli

Lilly. One of them is asthmatic too (mild of course...takes a few

puffs of albuterol once or twice a year)

The only thing I hate when visiting them is that there is no room for

the wife and I to stay at my sisters house with all the nieces and

grand nieces there. We always have to stay in a motel. (No room in the

inn LOL)

Oh, the motels are very nice but they are always lung traps for bad

asthmatics even in non smoking rooms. I come armed with all my asthma

drugs. My CPAP machine is portable and a wonderful help when I sleep

because I breathe in CLEAN, humidified, dust free air all night long.

Happy holidays friends. Thanks for making this the #1 asthma

health group. We are now up to 507 members and growing every day.

Also, I want to thank my co owner Addy and moderators and

for their great work to keep this group going and growing

Doug

Group founder

on Xolair since September 2007

December 28, 2007

I am glad to read people out there do have supportive families. I am now on two

more drugs because of this ordeal.

My sister and I are distant from each other but we have to interact for the

sake of my nephews (her sons). I had to pick up my nephews, she does not give

them up easily, so I had to go to the house. She is not the cleanest of souls. I

walked in and the stench from dog, the smell from her not cleaning and the

horrid candle scent was a set back. She said this was not our mothers house so I

should not have a reaction. (Like THAT makes sense).

When I got the boys back to my parents we all had to shower to rid the smell.

(All who are reading and are familiar with my posts know that this created an

argument).

It does get very frustrating because so many people are unaware. I even had to

have a student removed from my class. She wore a perfume too strong. Her mom

said she bought it for her daughter because she (the mom) was dying of cancer. I

explained I understood and gave my sympathies but also had to say I can't teach

because I can't breathe. She said it was not her problem and I had to figure it

out. So, I had the kid removed from my class. She wrote a letter to the

principal goin on how I don't understand, how uncaring, unsympathetic, etc.

teacher I am. The principal said don't worry about it because they see how I

suffer. UNBELIEVABLE!! The principal also said the school social worker had

proof the mother does not have cancer. She says it so she gets what she wants.

(Now that is down right low!).

I wish I could say the people who live with families with this ailment

understand the ordeal but it is not true and my familiy is a prime example.

As always, I am grateful to be in this group. So many understand in my

immediate world, I feel so alone.

Thanks

uca79iii <bme1979@...> wrote:

I am very blessed when it comes to family understanding. My 82 year

old mother in law lives with us and she is asthmatic too. Well....

sort of. She has an attack about 15 times a year, takes 2 puffs of

Combivient and she is ok for another weeks. Must be nice!

Also, I just came home from visiting family at Christmas, I always go

see my sister and her family about 180 miles away. I have 4 nieces and

2 of them work as pharmaceutical reps. One for UGO and one for Eli

Lilly. One of them is asthmatic too (mild of course...takes a few

puffs of albuterol once or twice a year)

The only thing I hate when visiting them is that there is no room for

the wife and I to stay at my sisters house with all the nieces and

grand nieces there. We always have to stay in a motel. (No room in the

inn LOL)

Oh, the motels are very nice but they are always lung traps for bad

asthmatics even in non smoking rooms. I come armed with all my asthma

drugs. My CPAP machine is portable and a wonderful help when I sleep

because I breathe in CLEAN, humidified, dust free air all night long.

Happy holidays friends. Thanks for making this the #1 asthma

health group. We are now up to 507 members and growing every day.

Also, I want to thank my co owner Addy and moderators and

for their great work to keep this group going and growing

Doug

Group founder

on Xolair since September 2007

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December 28, 2007

>

> As always, I am grateful to be in this group. So many understand

in my immediate world, I feel so alone.

>

> Thanks

>

You are most welcome and are among friends

Doug

Group founder

December 29, 2007

Well, you already know my thoughts about your family situation from

our previous communications on this board and by email. I'm just so

sorry that the beat goes on as it does. You do sound like you're

getting so much stronger in how you cope but I also know that the pain

just goes on. There is a great book called Toxic Parents that was

first published about 15-20 years ago. I'm not sure if it's still in

print but it would be another great source of support and insight for

you if you can track down a copy. May you have a much happier and

healthier New Year - Fran

> I am very blessed when it comes to family understanding.

My 82 year

> old mother in law lives with us and she is asthmatic too. Well....

> sort of. She has an attack about 15 times a year, takes 2 puffs of

> Combivient and she is ok for another weeks. Must be nice!

>

> Also, I just came home from visiting family at Christmas, I always go

> see my sister and her family about 180 miles away. I have 4 nieces and

> 2 of them work as pharmaceutical reps. One for UGO and one for Eli

> Lilly. One of them is asthmatic too (mild of course...takes a few

> puffs of albuterol once or twice a year)

>

> The only thing I hate when visiting them is that there is no room for

> the wife and I to stay at my sisters house with all the nieces and

> grand nieces there. We always have to stay in a motel. (No room in the

> inn LOL)

>

> Oh, the motels are very nice but they are always lung traps for bad

> asthmatics even in non smoking rooms. I come armed with all my asthma

> drugs. My CPAP machine is portable and a wonderful help when I sleep

> because I breathe in CLEAN, humidified, dust free air all night long.

>

> Happy holidays friends. Thanks for making this the #1 asthma

> health group. We are now up to 507 members and growing every day.

>

> Also, I want to thank my co owner Addy and moderators and

> for their great work to keep this group going and growing

>

> Doug

> Group founder

> on Xolair since September 2007

>

> ---------------------------------

> Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile.

Try it now.

>

December 29, 2007

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<< There is a great book called Toxic Parents that was

> first published about 15-20 years ago. I'm not sure if it's still in

> print but it would be another great source of support and insight for

> you if you can track down a copy.>>

I tracked down a copy on amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Parents-Overcoming-Hurtful-Reclaiming/dp/0553381407/\

ref=pd_sim_b_title_1/104-9332936-0489505

Thanks Fran for all your professional advice. You are a Godsend to

this group.

Doug

Group founder

January 7, 2008

>

> As for your mother not understanding asthma, I say join the crowd.

> Everyone looks at you and you're not turning blue and you're not

> falling on floor and you don't have big tumors popping out of your

> ears so they think you must be fine. Just like the old ladies that

> dump a bottle of perfume on them heading into church, they don't

> understand and probably won't understand so don't hold their

> ignorance against them.

>

> My wife thinks my asthma is all a big fake and the doctors are just

> milking my insurance company. After all I'm not laying on the floor

> holding my throat. But when she hears me gasping for breath and

> wheezing she does begin to take notice. That's not often since

> thanks to modern medicine and good doctors my asthma is under

> control most of time..

, " meencantador "

I wish there were some way to let these people experience an asthma

attack just once in their lives. Maybe just once they would get the

picture. But alas.........some people are so stubborn they still would

not get it.

Some people are healthy all their lives, do not understand and really

do not want to. It is called NO COMPASSION! I have run into a few who

suddenly got sick and their minds were changed dramatically.

One boss was really mean when I was diagnosed with ruptured disks in

my neck. He laughed at the soft collar and said I was faking. After

he had disk trouble of his own, he apologized profusely, especially

after hearing I had to have fusion surgery not once but twice.

When I had to hit the ER with asthma his wife really told him off

good. She was the charge nurse at that ER LOL!

Doug

January 8, 2008

It is so hard for anyone to have what I call an invisible illness. Meaning we

are not in a wheelchair or appear to be physically impaired. MY family members

understand and really give mea of support. my parents are in FL for the winter I

am in upstate NY the week before Christmas I had pneumonia. Yes I have had the

darn shot twice. . I was having a really hard time I think I was at the drug

store to long getting prescriptions and with my latex allergy . I could not talk

well or breathe. my in-laws stopped by they wanted me to cook them dinner. They

told me I had better not disturb there son at work . I was so darn irritated. My

husband already knew was coming home to help me. Needless to say husband walks

in door . Says to his parents thanks for coming to watch the kids I need to take

my wife to the ER. They actually got into there car and left. Thank god for my

nieghbor to take my kids.

THey just so not get it . I hate to admit sometimes I wish they would get sick

and people would treat them like crap

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