Re: Parents on the dwarfism list (was my apologies)

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For what it's worth, I'm an AH parent who joined this list a while back and I

hardly ever say anything but I read what's up here, just every now and then. My

opinion is that very little of what's written here is of benefit to a child

dwarf and his family looking for practical advice, but I figured out a long time

ago that's not this forum's purpose -- this is just a place for people to spout

off about issues they care about, just like a million other discussion groups.

And I say, have fun and have at it, y'all.

What I am still struggling with is, where CAN people go to learn practical

things for a teenager about driving, going to college, etc.? " Join the LPA "

seems to be a common answer, so we did, but that didn't do anything except cost

us money. So this POLP thing might be the way to go?

Parents on the dwarfism list (was " my apologies " )

Fred, you twit, Tonya is on the POLP list. She's the one with little Knoah.

Tonya, I agree though with Alyce and the others (and Fred mostly). Please

stay. As you've learned, the dwarfism list is more raucous and I'm looking

for other adjectives ...

Anyway, as a veteran of the dwarfism list, from the 1990's when it was only

one, one of the main reasons why it makes sense for the parent list (POLP) to

exist is so there's a safe place for parents, esp. new ones, to discuss

things without having to worry about offending anyone. Of course there are

brouhahas on POLP as well, most likely because it's electronic and not in

person,

but they happen way less often. If you look at the archives of the dwarfism

list, I'm guessing one could see a pattern ... I mean as soon as one sees

certain kinds of new posts, one can kind of predict some of the responses (and

from whom). Sometimes it's related to it being a hot issue (genetic

testing, religion, the value of membership in LPA for dwarf adulst and/or

certain tv

shows ...), sometimes it's the phrasing. You can see that a bit on the POLP

list too but the predictable stuff tends to be supportive things to new

parents. I like the cross-fertilization of having AH parents on the dwarfism

list and a few (well-behaved) non-parental dwarf adults and an assortment of

us

dwarf parents on POLP.

For what it's worth, there's a list that's even more raucous (Adult-LP)

Hope everyone has a peaceful week, remember it's MLK Jr's birthday in a

couple days, his real one.

**************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

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I don't know about the POLP list, but people frequently bring their " how do

I do this " questions here (LPs and AH alike). The result varies with who's

around to answer at the time, but I for one am tickled to be able to offer a

clue if I have one.

I learned to drive in the dark ages (1978) and was taught by a driving

instructor who attached wooden blocks to the car's pedals. I went to a

small college about two hours from home - a good step for me to gain some

independence without being thrown into a large university. Of course, the

appropriate answer about college depends on many things, but that is what

worked for me.

I think the main benefit of this list is sharing experiences - what ticks us

off, how we dealt with something, what product works, etc. But answers

don't always come instantly.

Alyce

On 1/13/08, s <kstephens5@...> wrote:

>

> For what it's worth, I'm an AH parent who joined this list a while back

> and I hardly ever say anything but I read what's up here, just every now and

> then. My opinion is that very little of what's written here is of benefit to

> a child dwarf and his family looking for practical advice, but I figured out

> a long time ago that's not this forum's purpose -- this is just a place for

> people to spout off about issues they care about, just like a million other

> discussion groups. And I say, have fun and have at it, y'all.

>

> What I am still struggling with is, where CAN people go to learn practical

> things for a teenager about driving, going to college, etc.? " Join the LPA "

> seems to be a common answer, so we did, but that didn't do anything except

> cost us money. So this POLP thing might be the way to go?

>

> Parents on the dwarfism list (was " my apologies " )

>

> Fred, you twit, Tonya is on the POLP list. She's the one with little

> Knoah.

>

> Tonya, I agree though with Alyce and the others (and Fred mostly). Please

> stay. As you've learned, the dwarfism list is more raucous and I'm looking

>

> for other adjectives ...

> Anyway, as a veteran of the dwarfism list, from the 1990's when it was

> only

> one, one of the main reasons why it makes sense for the parent list (POLP)

> to

> exist is so there's a safe place for parents, esp. new ones, to discuss

> things without having to worry about offending anyone. Of course there are

>

> brouhahas on POLP as well, most likely because it's electronic and not in

> person,

> but they happen way less often. If you look at the archives of the

> dwarfism

> list, I'm guessing one could see a pattern ... I mean as soon as one sees

> certain kinds of new posts, one can kind of predict some of the responses

> (and

> from whom). Sometimes it's related to it being a hot issue (genetic

> testing, religion, the value of membership in LPA for dwarf adulst and/or

> certain tv

> shows ...), sometimes it's the phrasing. You can see that a bit on the

> POLP

> list too but the predictable stuff tends to be supportive things to new

> parents. I like the cross-fertilization of having AH parents on the

> dwarfism

> list and a few (well-behaved) non-parental dwarf adults and an assortment

> of us

> dwarf parents on POLP.

>

> For what it's worth, there's a list that's even more raucous (Adult-LP)

>

> Hope everyone has a peaceful week, remember it's MLK Jr's birthday in a

> couple days, his real one.

>

> **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

> http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

>

>

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--- Ruth wrote:

> For what it's worth, there's a list that's even more raucous (Adult-

LP)

Hey! I think Ruth owes me an apology! She accused Adult LPs of being

raucous. I thought we were just out of control and frequently used

dirty words. <vbg> [blatant plug -- anyone over 18 with a connection

to the dwarfism community is more than welcome to join AdultLPs. Want

more info? Email me at RMBJustice(at)aol.com.)

Tonya, I hope you do stay. You are part of the community and this

really is a good list. POLP will give you one area of info; this gives

another.

Rose

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Cor! That's what yer gets for tryin to be friendly like and 'elpful!

Don't love yer no more our Ruthie.

Fred, in a sulk:-)

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From: Rickerruth@...

Fred, you twit, Tonya is on the POLP list. She's the one with little Knoah.

[Guest guest]

> What I am still struggling with is, where CAN people go to learn

practical things for a teenager about driving, going to college, etc.?

" So this POLP thing might be the way to go?<

I think on occasion a tidbit of useful information does leak through

on this list (amongst the interesting discussions). If you read it

online and do a search you'll find that items like driving and college

experiences do come up on a regular basis.

But, I agree that for parents the POLP list is a wealth of information.