What are things that you all would like average sized people to know about you?

[Guest guest]

I am taking this kind of from Matt and Amy Roloff's beginning of their

show..but, I

thought, that it might be important..because people with also some or a lot of

disabilites

have strong views as well.(they mention about " doing things differently " from

other

people) etc..

I have often wondered whether to help a person out,as in, if I can, or if they

are just

standing and look as thought they might need a little bit of help(and sometimes,

when I

do actually offer..I get a " thank you " or usually it is a " Please, do NOT help

me, thank you,I

can do this for myself!! "

I have to add, that I just wasn't totally expecting that comeback, to be totally

frank!!

If I were to analyze this " to the death " and then some...I think that in

general., while there

are some people that go out of their way to be kind and curteous..there are some

that are

really just trying to help, whether you are tall, short, blind, seeing, deaf,

etc...and

sometimes we don't know, either!

One example is about two weeks back, I was in a Safeway..and this man was

patiently

waiting to get to the fish counter..I was behind, this man, there was another

fella in front

of him..well, the first man, was finished..and then, the man that I was waiting

behind,

didn't move..and I motioned for him to go for it..and he didn't, and then he

began to text

or something on his phone/ Well, after a bit, I stepped up, and then, finally he

stopped

using his phone, when I had began to leave..he asked for some fish.

I didn't think about anything at first,,until, this man had begun to walk

away..and then,

the butcher began to call and call this man...I tried to call him as well, and

finally, when

he turned..I just called and waved..Well, that got his attention!

I think that this man was deaf..(I do NOT go around and assume that a person is

hearing

or not hearing! I also didn't know, what to think when I could not get his

attention, prior

to my seeing that he may have been deaf, all along!!)

I am a person who enjoys helping others out, if I happen to be shopping

usually..and I do!

It just wouldn't occur to me, what a person has, or does..etc...

If they are blind..I would still help them! I also get seeing people, like me,

who I help,and

hey! I don't even work in a LOT of these places, that I have been asked to help

at!! LOL!

SO, what I guess I wanted to know, is also, if there are things that you

personally, hate, or

don't mind, or kind of like or think is " totally " groovy " to do with you, or

whatever?

I feel that some people lash out at others..with these large assumptions that

just because

somebody has a disability or they are seen as " different " that they are getting

treated

differently, or ill-treated or dissed in public!

I am here to say, that while the general public is NOT always that nice all of

the time, they

also can be helpful too! They can also care..about a HUMAN being..and not what

size you

are, or if you are " out of it " , or if you are slower than most, or if you are

" more intriguing "

than others in this world...

Maybe they just like you, and there are NO agendas...what about that?

I don't think about " agenda's " if I choose to help out....I merely wanted to

say, that if a

person wanted to help you out,,what or how would that make you feel inside..?

I have asked others to help me reach say a couple of bottles high up on the

grocery

shelves...rather than climbing up there.(which at times, I will admit, that I

have had to

do!!..I hate it..but, there isn't any other way to reach certain items!!)

I am 5 " 2..and that is short,, but it's what I think would be seen as " the

average

height! " SO, it isn't really technically " short " by many people's standards of

height!

I am not too bothered by height, unless it is a friend that comes up to me, or

my younger

step sister and says repeatedly " hiya shortie " ...and yes, I have learned that

nicknames and

cute little names are truly hurtful!!

I used to say hiya shortie to my old best friend..she was very pretty and

talented..and a

short gymnast..and she didn't grow taller until she got out of highschool, and

went to

college! She is now really, really tall! She used to turn to me and say, " Hi

shortie! This is

what you all used to say to me, especially you, ..now you know what it

feels like! "

Ouch!! Sooo UNcomfortable, to say the least! I still get called that...by family

members..and hey, Five feet , two inches is really NOT short!! But, hey, I feel

short...and

annoyed!!

For me, I learned watch it!!

I also keep learning " never assume anything! NOt even if you wanted to! WHich is

a huge

bummer!!

I keep thinking that I can assume to help, or ask to help another..and people

generally are

NOT always soo condescending towards what I say or ask of them..but, off and on,

thru

out the years..I have had snappy comeback answers..as in " I can do it myself,no

thanks to

you! " (when I just wanted to offer some help!! and like I have said..I would help

ANYBODY..it just does NOT matter what size, religion, race, etc...you happen to

be!

People can get sooo ornery and angry...if you try to reach out and ask to help

them!!

ANyhow, I really was curious as to what you deal with..and what you do NOT like

to deal

with...

Would you be able to handle a aquaintance/friend like me, who wanted to help?

and I do

mean, as in being a sincere person..and just trying to do something kind..that's

all!

(no agendas!!!) Because I just don't think like this, when I ask if I can help

another

person!

What would you have to say about this and why?

(I know that everybody is totally different on this).>.but, I thought about

this..because of

the stuff that has occurred to me,and other people I have watched in the

past...and also

some people get sooo distraught, if another human being just tries to help

another..and

they have these super strong opinions..about " getting or being helped!! "

(trust me,,, it's with a LOT of people in general...but, I also wanted to know

your

opinions..because maybe this might be an issue with you, and you wish that you

could

say either " buzz off! " or " yes, I do need a little bit of help, thanks! "

WOndering....

thanks!

/luvscoco99

I hope that my letter makes some sense...sometimes when I am kind of sleepy as I

am

now..I don't write as clearly..so, I apologize for that!!