Okay, it finally happened

January 3, 2008

In all the years on this list, now counting 14 for me, I have never had a

negative experience with my son in public that seemed to me to be intentional

until we went to California to see my middle daughter's new baby. We went to

Visalia Ca..My 22 year old daughter just had a baby and we went to see them and

have Christmas. One night we went to Chinese food there. At a table when we

walked into the restaurant and were seated next to a table of six African

American women with a pair of identical twin girls; the girls began yelling, not

talking quietly, saying " It's a DWARF! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! OH MY GOD!...IT'S A

DWARF!'

I just was aghast. My first response was to stand up and say, " OMG they are

BLACK AND IDENTICAL TWINS! OMG LOOK! " But I ignored...within about two seconds

they got up and left...still giggling and left. Thank my God, Jarrod never even

noticed them, but his sister and I heard it and so did one woman across the

restaurant. The lady on the other side, just looked at me, threw her arms up

and with a sympathetic eye, winked and smiled, then shrugged and smiled with a

wide accepting grin, kinda rolled her eyes and went back to eating. I took the

comfort and tried not to show the family what I felt. My daughter asked if I

would go to the restroom with her and I started tearing up and went. We got to

the lady's room and my daughter went " Oh F***! Can you believe that? " All of a

sudden I felt like I had to defend all of human nature. She stops me and said,

" That is so wrong on so many levels! They are for one Black and for another a

genetic anomoly

themselves by being identical twins! omg! "

It is so much what I thought myself and am so glad that Jarrod didn't notice.

But my question remains, were the obviously teen girls trying to be Politically

Correct and still surprised, or were they being rude? I wanted to tell my

daughter, " well at least they didn't say 'It's a midget!' but then there is the

whole part that got me was the word " IT " to begin with in both probable

statements of acknowledgment. Plus the part that working in special education

teaches me about what is and isn't appropriate to begin with, this failed on all

levels...

In the same words Mike Meyers would use.....Discuss.

Willow

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