Guest guest Posted June 25, 2000 Report Share Posted June 25, 2000 << Although Bob and I have had our ups and downs, I can't imagine going through all of this without him >> Hi, Everyone........Maureen.........Ter and I had this same discussion last night!!! Neither one of us would change our lives, even with the ups, downs, and Gareth. We had a very nice, quiet dinner and came home to the tornado alarms blaring in Kankakee and Bourbonnais. We didn't see anything. .........there are so many of us that can relate to your brother-in-law story. Mine happens to be my MIL. She will lay into me about Gareth and get me upset........never when Ter is around, though. The last time we were home she threw a tizzy because I fed Gareth lunch at 11:30 instead of waiting till 12:30 like the rest of the kids. I told her he ate his breakfast at 7:00 and he was hungry. " Why don't you treat him like a normal child and make him wait. You never make him wait for his meals. " She got so angry about it !!!! Fortunately, my family is the opposite. They couldn't care less about his problems. They treat him like the other kids and ignore the bad behavior. Not that MY child ever has any bad behavior !!!!!!!!!! Only in my dreams does he have a halo!!!!!!!!!! Gotta go...........take care everyone. Margaret Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2000 Report Share Posted June 25, 2000 jeez margaret!!!!!!!! your mil sounds as sweet and caring as mine........not......... i cant believe she got mad over feeding your child......... 7to1230 is 5 and a half hours......is she nuts.......... ashton barely goes three hours without eating!!!!!!!!! shes always hungry......my parents for the most part sound like yours, but lately i am hearing things...........but i am blowing off.........leah ps laura, dont know she has green ooze again, and is sleeping lots......but who know........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2000 Report Share Posted June 25, 2000 Margaret & Leah, My MIL is just as wonderful and I decided not to take the criticism and predjudice of this grandchild compared to her others and told her how I felt. She hasn't talked to me in 5 years. You would think it would bother her not seeing her grandchild.....not....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 I might have you all beat, when it comes to MILs. I have never met mine....she disapproved of me before we met (she has a very nasty name for me). Talked one son into killing another (he was dating someone she disapproved of)....a neighbor intervened and stopped him and his gun at his truck. When was born, she had a comment (that we heard of secondhand). It was kinda like 'I hope you know, the whole town knows about you and your retarded kid'. She also refers to a hydrocephalic child in their town as a 'mongoloid idiot'. She has never met or or and she does not deserve to (in my own biased opinion). Ann with , and Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Ann, i think you might have us beat..........she sounds like she needs nancy's bil's shock treatments.......... good Lord, i wouldn't want her around my kids either...........ikes..............do you live in the same town........... i hope not......... count your blessings they dont have to interact with her.......better off.......leah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Ann, You make all our MIL's look angelic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 In a message dated 6/26/00 12:01:17 PM Eastern Daylight Time, KenAnngerb@... writes: << I might have you all beat, when it comes to MILs. I have never met mine....she disapproved of me before we met (she has a very nasty name for me). Talked one son into killing another (he was dating someone she disapproved of)....a neighbor intervened and stopped him and his gun at his truck. When was born, she had a comment (that we heard of secondhand). It was kinda like 'I hope you know, the whole town knows about you and your retarded kid'. She also refers to a hydrocephalic child in their town as a 'mongoloid idiot'. She has never met or or and she does not deserve to (in my own biased opinion). Ann with , and >> WHOA Ann!!!! This is an evil person!! She makes " Throw Mama from the Train " look like Snow White!!!!! Jeez!!!!!! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 lmao ann, i forgot about " throw mama from a train " how about " throw grandma from the train " or my " grannie is an alien " heheh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 Ann, You win! Unfortunately! My MIL is not nearly that bad, but bad enough. Maybe we should all say a prayer for each of our inlaws, even those that don't " deserve " it. I think, they, more than others, really need it! Hang in there. S On Mon, 26 Jun 2000 11:59:10 EDT KenAnngerb@... writes: > I might have you all beat, when it comes to MILs. I have never met > mine....she disapproved of me before we met (she has a very nasty > name for > me). Talked one son into killing another (he was dating someone she > > disapproved of)....a neighbor intervened and stopped him and his gun > at his > truck. When was born, she had a comment (that we heard of > secondhand). It was kinda like 'I hope you know, the whole town > knows about > you and your retarded kid'. She also refers to a hydrocephalic > child in > their town as a 'mongoloid idiot'. She has never met or > or > and she does not deserve to (in my own biased opinion). > Ann with , and > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Get Your FREE Online Credit Report! > 1/5783/13/_/691668/_/962035175/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 my MIL isnt like that but she is difficult, lets nathan eat too much, and soesnt beleive in any of his meds, always thinks he needs to go to the doc, and my SIL, always has her oppinion, thinks she know, when she still lives with mommy and daddy, no real job, and no BF or dating, and ofcourse no kids, they get on my nerves, and always visiting etc. shawna >From: mfroof@... >Reply-egroups >egroups >Subject: Re: in-laws >Date: Sun, 25 Jun 2000 21:28:12 EDT > > > ><< Although Bob and I have had our ups and downs, I > can't imagine going through all of this without him >> > >Hi, Everyone........Maureen.........Ter and I had this same discussion last >night!!! Neither one of us would change our lives, even with the ups, >downs, >and Gareth. We had a very nice, quiet dinner and came home to the tornado >alarms blaring in Kankakee and Bourbonnais. We didn't see anything. > .........there are so many of us that can relate to your >brother-in-law story. Mine happens to be my MIL. She will lay into me >about >Gareth and get me upset........never when Ter is around, though. The last >time we were home she threw a tizzy because I fed Gareth lunch at 11:30 >instead of waiting till 12:30 like the rest of the kids. I told her he ate >his breakfast at 7:00 and he was hungry. " Why don't you treat him like a >normal child and make him wait. You never make him wait for his meals. " >She >got so angry about it !!!! Fortunately, my family is the opposite. They >couldn't care less about his problems. They treat him like the other kids >and ignore the bad behavior. Not that MY child ever has any bad behavior >!!!!!!!!!! Only in my dreams does he have a halo!!!!!!!!!! Gotta >go...........take care everyone. >Margaret > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Get a NextCard Visa, in 30 seconds! >1. Fill in the brief application >2. Receive approval decision within 30 seconds >3. Get rates as low as 2.9% Intro or 9.9% Fixed APR >1/5197/13/_/691668/_/961982898/ >------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2000 Report Share Posted June 26, 2000 My MIL is the reason Peck wrote the book " People of the Lie " ...It's really scarey. We do feel sorry for her. She is missing so very much. These little children of ours are all dolls and we love them very much. I wish she was a 'proper' grandmother. Ann with , and Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2000 Report Share Posted June 27, 2000 lmao ann!!!!!!!!! we all have fruity mil's it seems like......i know i have issues with my parents but for the most part they are wonderful and they would not even ever think about not loving ashton and accepting her and doing best for her........... they treat her and my son wonderfully........i will say that my mom tends to do more for ashton.....but thats okay....it s all balanced out........take care, leah=======about to embark on my trip to lauras............ikes pray or me................. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2006 Report Share Posted July 27, 2006 In a message dated 7/27/06 8:23:29 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, marjiemurray@... writes: My husband (average height) and I have been married for 16 years. For all those 16 years my mother-in-law always has to comment on ie. how do you get clothes to fit you, ohh you have to use a stool , ohh look at that person staring at you, and many other things. She is amazed that our son who has a skeletal dysplasia is of average intelligence. I realize they aren't the worst things a person could say to me but putting up with hearing it for 16 years is what is tough. My husband has tried to talk to her about it but all she says is " I can't say anything " . My son and I basically try to avoid her as much as possible. My own mother has been saying those things to me for fifty years now, because she has always been very ashamed of me. And both she and my late father always were, besides being alcoholics as well. The worse part for me, was how MUCH they focused upon the stares of others and the ridicule. Though I left their home at a very young age, I have had to spend nearly thirty years of courageously tearing down the sheer shame and insecurities so instilled within me all throughout my formative years. Had it not been for many dear friends and a wonderful therapist, I would be one very unhappy, unfulfilled person. However, there ARE still those moments when my mother, who is very good about STILL saying stuff, CAN bring it all back in a heartbeat-----IF I LET HER. One thing my therapist has drilled into my head, is for me to remember, her words are ONLY words. And her words, as painful as they are, only have the power to hurt, IF I ALLOW THEM TO HAVE THAT POWER. Your mother in-law is NOT going to change, and believe me, I know it is deeply frustrating. Try to accept that she is NOT going to change, and refuse to allow her pathetic words to get within you and hurt you. You must rise above the pain of her hurtful words which are so easy to give the power to hurt, know what I mean? This will not be easy, but you CAN do it. For your sake and your son's sake too. You also need to turn her negative comments into positives when you can, for instance----like the next time she points out someone staring, say in a very nice tone of voice, " Well, Mom, it must be because I am so special, that they are! " Hopefully, these things may help you too! Good luck! Adelaide Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2006 Report Share Posted July 27, 2006 Also I would like to add.....Like she has NEVER stood on a stool?? Now come on....At one point in EVERYBODYS life they have had to stand on something I'm sure...lol.....And this about the clothes thing..I would have to comment when she made those remarks Oh! yeah and they don't cost as much either since their smaller then yours.....And as far as the stares..she must be staring at them to see their reactions so she is doing it to and I would point that out as well.....Or you can just say nothing..It's the ones like that with we-little thoughts to match their we-little brains....and just be glad and proud ya we may be small and they may be tall but we don't have the little minds..They do :-) That's it...just me being me ~JoAnn~ In a message dated 7/27/06 8:23:29 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, marjiemurray@... writes: My husband (average height) and I have been married for 16 years. For all those 16 years my mother-in-law always has to comment on ie. how do you get clothes to fit you, ohh you have to use a stool , ohh look at that person staring at you, and many other things. She is amazed that our son who has a skeletal dysplasia is of average intelligence. I realize they aren't the worst things a person could say to me but putting up with hearing it for 16 years is what is tough. My husband has tried to talk to her about it but all she says is " I can't say anything " . My son and I basically try to avoid her as much as possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2006 Report Share Posted July 27, 2006 Right after reading this post, I checked on one of my favorite bloggers and saw this http://www.dooce.com/archives/daily_photo/07_27_2006.html > > Also I would like to add.....Like she has NEVER stood on a stool?? Now come on....At one point in EVERYBODYS life they have had to stand on something I'm sure...lol.....And this about the clothes thing..I would have to comment when she made those remarks Oh! yeah and they don't cost as much either since their smaller then yours.....And as far as the stares..she must be staring at them to see their reactions so she is doing it to and I would point that out as well.....Or you can just say nothing..It's the ones like that with we-little thoughts to match their we-little brains....and just be glad and proud ya we may be small and they may be tall but we don't have the little minds..They do :-) > > That's it...just me being me > ~JoAnn~ > > > In a message dated 7/27/06 8:23:29 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > marjiemurray@... writes: > > My husband (average height) and I have been married for 16 years. For > all those 16 years my mother-in-law always has to comment on ie. how > do you get clothes to fit you, ohh you have to use a stool , ohh look > at that person staring at you, and many other things. She is amazed > that our son who has a skeletal dysplasia is of average intelligence. > I realize they aren't the worst things a person could say to me but > putting up with hearing it for 16 years is what is tough. My husband > has tried to talk to her about it but all she says is " I can't say > anything " . My son and I basically try to avoid her as much as > possible. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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