being dependent on someone

[Guest guest]

I read a post where someone was not wanting to ask for help. That was the

hardest part about surgery. I just don't like having to ask people for help.

I've always been the one DOING the helping. But, I did ask my daughters and

they were both good about helping. Still, it isn't easy. Also, I try not to

complain but when you are home all day by yourself and hurting.....it is

difficult not to complain. I am learning that few people really care how you

feel and NO ONE wants to here about your complaints. So, I've tried to keep the

conversation off myself. I'm sitting there grimacing, telling them, " oh, yeah,

I feel pretty good today. " All the while, hoping that lighting doesn't strike

me. I've enjoyed reading these notes. It helps me put my pain and situation

in perspective.