Guest guest Posted January 16, 2008 Report Share Posted January 16, 2008 Well, tomorrow is almost here and I'll go see my DR and find out what's in store for me next. But, I am nervous! What I am nervous about is what he will say will be my options...or, more accurately, nervous that he'll say I have no more options. After arthro, PAO, arthro, mini open, arthro and mini open together...and now being stage 4 with arthritic changes I am afraid my age of (almost) 36 will be a major factor. I'm also afraid he'll say " additional testing, " which I don't think there's anymore left for me to have! Plus, he was just in the joint about 6 weeks ago and saw things first hand...unfortunately things have gone from good to worse though with something tearing post-op and then the popping and grinding coming back full on with the lovely associated pain when walking, placing weight on the joint, and it hurts even when I'm just laying around...which has been A LOT lately. And when the pain flares up, I get nauseous...probably from my nerves from everything. I am questioning if I am developing anxiety from the ongoing drama with my hip, or if this is normal. When I try to disassociate or visualize it helps a little for the nausea, but not much, and it does nothing for the pain...so I am guessing this isn't just anxiety related. I've got my list of questions, hubby will be with me also, but none of that or the reading/research I've done is making me feel prepared for tomorrow at all. I'm not nervous about the option of a THR or BHR if that is the opinion...I am nervous that I will be in pain and told that I need to just grin and bear this all until I get older...which would make me feel like what the heII were the point of the other 5 surgeries then. I don't know, it's not like I don't trust my DR, just that he said he had no answers and might not have any for me at this next appointment either. Sometimes I wish if they'd only spend a few days in our shoes... I am so sick and tired of how this thing is limiting me, and how mine, myhubby's, and our kids' lives have been so revolved around my medical stuff for way too long now. Enough is enough akready! thanks for listening~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2008 Report Share Posted January 17, 2008 I'm so sorry you are having to go thru all this and at so young an age... I think if your doc says you are too young for the THR, you should find a new doc that will do it. The age card is old school! PERIOD! Good Lucka nd let us know how it goes... Marguerite On Jan 16, 2008 9:48 PM, superhipchick <hipsrus@...> wrote: Well, tomorrow is almost here and I'll go see my DR and find out what's in store for me next. But, I am nervous!What I am nervous about is what he will say will be my options...or, more accurately, nervous that he'll say I have no more options. After arthro, PAO, arthro, mini open, arthro and mini open together...and now being stage 4 with arthritic changes I am afraid my age of (almost) 36 will be a major factor.I'm also afraid he'll say " additional testing, " which I don't think there's anymore left for me to have! Plus, he was just in the joint about 6 weeks ago and saw things first hand...unfortunately things have gone from good to worse though with something tearing post-op and then the popping and grinding coming back full on with the lovely associated pain when walking, placing weight on the joint, and it hurts even when I'm just laying around...which has been A LOT lately. And when the pain flares up, I get nauseous...probably from my nerves from everything. I am questioning if I am developing anxiety from the ongoing drama with my hip, or if this is normal. When I try to disassociate or visualize it helps a little for the nausea, but not much, and it does nothing for the pain...so I am guessing this isn't just anxiety related. I've got my list of questions, hubby will be with me also, but none of that or the reading/research I've done is making me feel prepared for tomorrow at all.I'm not nervous about the option of a THR or BHR if that is the opinion...I am nervous that I will be in pain and told that I need to just grin and bear this all until I get older...which would make me feel like what the heII were the point of the other 5 surgeries then. I don't know, it's not like I don't trust my DR, just that he said he had no answers and might not have any for me at this next appointment either.Sometimes I wish if they'd only spend a few days in our shoes...I am so sick and tired of how this thing is limiting me, and how mine, myhubby's, and our kids' lives have been so revolved around my medical stuff for way too long now. Enough is enough akready!thanks for listening~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 If your Dr. tells you there are no more options(I assume regarding saving the joint)than the only other option is replacement. You said you trust your Dr. but really, why has he put you through all of this? Certainly you have consulted with other surgeons? Family life that revolves around an illness is no family life at all. I know this from having a child with a serious illness. It may be time for you to become your own advocate and start making demands on your own behalf. Surely your Dr. can understand that you have a life to live and a family to take care of. Enough is enough. I wish you the best. Deb > > Well, tomorrow is almost here and I'll go see my DR and find out what's > in store for me next. But, I am nervous! > > What I am nervous about is what he will say will be my options...or, > more accurately, nervous that he'll say I have no more options. After > arthro, PAO, arthro, mini open, arthro and mini open together...and now > being stage 4 with arthritic changes I am afraid my age of (almost) 36 > will be a major factor. > > I'm also afraid he'll say " additional testing, " which I don't think > there's anymore left for me to have! Plus, he was just in the joint > about 6 weeks ago and saw things first hand...unfortunately things have > gone from good to worse though with something tearing post-op and then > the popping and grinding coming back full on with the lovely associated > pain when walking, placing weight on the joint, and it hurts even when > I'm just laying around...which has been A LOT lately. And when the pain > flares up, I get nauseous...probably from my nerves from everything. I > am questioning if I am developing anxiety from the ongoing drama with > my hip, or if this is normal. When I try to disassociate or visualize > it helps a little for the nausea, but not much, and it does nothing for > the pain...so I am guessing this isn't just anxiety related. > > I've got my list of questions, hubby will be with me also, but none of > that or the reading/research I've done is making me feel prepared for > tomorrow at all. > > I'm not nervous about the option of a THR or BHR if that is the > opinion...I am nervous that I will be in pain and told that I need to > just grin and bear this all until I get older...which would make me > feel like what the heII were the point of the other 5 surgeries then. I > don't know, it's not like I don't trust my DR, just that he said he had > no answers and might not have any for me at this next appointment > either. > > Sometimes I wish if they'd only spend a few days in our shoes... > > I am so sick and tired of how this thing is limiting me, and how mine, > myhubby's, and our kids' lives have been so revolved around my medical > stuff for way too long now. Enough is enough akready! > > thanks for listening~ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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