[Norton AntiSpam] Re: being dependent on someone

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Well in our family we seem to take GREAT pride in finding ways to be

independent BOTH directions so far so good but both generations must be

dreading the day that this fails to be possible for one or the other of us.

It has rarely ever come to pass without each side being able to ammend or

avert the situation in some special way but it will be bound to happen some

day I am sure. I hope it is not too much of a disappointment to whichever side

or to whomever it happens to first.

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> Hey, it's the one advantage of having no kids of my own! I can act as if

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> But the woman whose take was " Oh dear no, I can't ask my spouse or children

> to lift a finger to help me " ...that's pretty much admitting she thinks

> " family " responsibility only flows one way.

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> In a message dated 9/10/2011 11:55:54 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

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> Please don't jump to the " failed as a parent " conclusion. It's a

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> world now - " me me me me me. "

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[Guest guest]

You are blessed to have such a good friend Devora. And yes, I think most people

like to be needed so when we let them help us in time of need, it does them good

too. Just my opinion.

Pat in Pennsylvania

Bilateral TKR August 2010

being dependent on someone

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> I read a post where someone was not wanting to ask for help. That was the

hardest part about surgery. I just don't like having to ask people for help.

I've always been the one DOING the helping. But, I did ask my daughters and they

were both good about helping. Still, it isn't easy. Also, I try not to complain

but when you are home all day by yourself and hurting.....it is difficult not to

complain. I am learning that few people really care how you feel and NO ONE

wants to here about your complaints. So, I've tried to keep the conversation off

myself. I'm sitting there grimacing, telling them, " oh, yeah, I feel pretty good

today. " All the while, hoping that lighting doesn't strike me. I've enjoyed

reading these notes. It helps me put my pain and situation in perspective.

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