RE: [SPAM] The passing of my Dad and reaction

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I am so sorry for your loss.

Maybe in some sort of way is going in the living room because he has to make some kind of drastic change in his every day life to help him cope with such a huge loss. Maybe it doesn't make sense to some but it is his way to help cope. Or...maybe, for some reason he feels closer to his grandpa in there.

Again, I'm thinking of you and and your family in these difficult times.

Becky

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From: becky griggs

Autism Ohio

Sent: 11/24/2006 9:58:24 PM

Subject: [sPAM] [ ] The passing of my Dad and reaction

On Saturday the 18th my Dad took his last breath. We had tried to prepare all week for what was coming. He asked the same questions repeatedly and we tried to answer them as honestly as we could. When Dad passed I was at the hospital with him and Bob was home with . Bob told him that Grandpa had past away. When I got home I spoke to and again answered his questions, trying so hard not to break in front of him.

Sunday we were at Mom's we had finished eating dinner and reached for a desk of cards. My brother told him he could not play with the new deck and offered to get him the old deck. At this time looks around the room and starts to cry. It took 5 minutes to understand what it was he was saying, "grandpa dead" we took him home and he cried for almost 2 hours. Monday my family asked why he got so upset over a deck of cards. I explained that even though he had been told that his Grandpa had died, he did not process it until that second. Most of the family just did not understand.

attended the viewing and funeral with us. His one on one aid from school attended with us and took charge of while Bob took care of me. I watched and was amazed how well he handled it. He was completely social appropriate, once during the funeral service he tried to whisper to his aid but was loud enough for everyone to hear " That is my grandpa, he is my buddy".

There is one thing he is doing that has us all baffled. He would never go in the living room at my parents home. has been with us since he was 3, he is now 16, we had tried tons of times to have him join us the living but he just could not do it. He would sit in the computer chair right outside the room but never in it. We have been at Mom's ever day since Dad past away and has walk in the house and went straight to the living room and sat down. Very calm and polite. He has sat there the whole time playing his leapster or watching his DVD. I can not figure out why for 13 years he could not go in there and now he can without issue? Anyone have any ideas?

Even though he seems to be handling this okay I am still taking him to meet with the grief counslor with Stein Hospit. The person that runs it used to be case manage through the center he recieve counseling. So she knows and understands not only his way of thinking but also understands autism.

Becky

Becky

Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD

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