Guest guest Posted April 28, 1999 Report Share Posted April 28, 1999 Dear Kathy, Just speaking from experience here. Yes you need to set limits and have consequences for your daughters actions. The word Punishment makes me wonder. My daughter has done it all as far as violence. Now her thing to do is tell me how much she hates me, later in the evening she will be crying and will say that she doesn't mean to say the things she says but it is the voice in her head and that she also can't stop hitting the other girls ( I have 4 girls, 3,5,7 and 9.) My 7 year old has OCD. What has finally helped us is seeing a therapist. has her Psychiatrist who in my opinion only knows about meds and relies too much on Freud. He and I argue every visit. We found a wonderful lady who is patient and sweet and understanding. Once a week my daughter has an hour or more to talk to her. Right now they just read and talk about feelings, also at school the Counselor has special groups for kids with " problems " . One group is for kids whose parents are divorced, the group is in is for kids with Anger problems....the funny thing is that she is shy and sweet at school. BUT thank goodness the counselor believes me. SOOOOOoooo my advice is to get your daughter into counseling. It took so much searching to find a good therapist but it has been worth it. She is also counseling our family on ways to " discipline " and explain to why we are doing what we are doing. I have never met your daughter but I don't think she is using OCD as an excuse. OCD is such a strange animal that I believe it is her OCD making her do the things she is doing. Good Luck and find somebody outside your family for your daughter to talk to. Knod Kathy wrote: > Hi > everyone, > I've > been > noticing > a new > situation > with my > 5-year-old > over the > past two > weeks or > so. In > everything > she does > she > seems to > be > asking > to be > punished! > She does > outrageous > things > that > there's > no way > she can > be > unaware > are not > allowed > (things > I can't > begin to > overlook.) > She is > strangely > not > upset or > affected > by the > consequences > I > impose, > and > punishing > her has > had no > effect > on her > behavior > so > far. She > says ocd > wants > her to > be in > trouble, > and I > half > believe > her, > earlier > this > year she > began > hurting > herself. > She said > then > that ocd > liked > the > hurting > though > she > didn't, > and this > went so > far as > her > " enjoying " > a blood > draw and > kindergarten > booster > shots--very > weird > experience > for both > of us. > Thankfully > this > hurting > behavior > has > lessened > a lot, > but now > we have > this > provoking > of > punishment. > She > suggests > spankings--I > don't > spank, > well, > rarely--instead > I have > so far > withdrawn > privileges. Has > anyone > else had > this > type of > behavior > from > their > child? > Is it > ocd, or > maybe > meds? > (She > takes > 100mg > Luvox) > Or has > she > finally > gotten > around > to using > ocd to > excuse > poor > behavior? > However, > this > situation > does > have > that > weird > ocd > " feel " > to > it. What > do I > do? > When I > punish I > get the > feeling > I am > playing > into the > ocd. > But I > can't > ignore > her > behavior. I > should > add that > this > behavior > is from > a child > who was > formerly > " too > good " > IMO. > She > never > misbehaved! Advice? Kathy > R. in > Indiana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 28, 1999 Report Share Posted April 28, 1999 Kathy,I think it's the Luvox, I've forward it on to Kay,may friend in FT, Wayne IN. she is the nurse I told you about .Her daughter is on Luvox maybe she can help.I'll be praying for you and your daughter. I'm not sure if we'll be able to go tomorrow,e is the same today.I'm not sure her mom can handle her. Hang in there things well get better. ----- OJriginal Message ----- From: Kathy list Sent: Wednesday, April 28, 1999 9:42 AM Subject: new problem Hi everyone, I've been noticing a new situation with my 5-year-old over the past two weeks or so. In everything she does she seems to be asking to be punished! She does outrageous things that there's no way she can be unaware are not allowed (things I can't begin to overlook.) She is strangely not upset or affected by the consequences I impose, and punishing her has had no effect on her behavior so far. She says ocd wants her to be in trouble, and I half believe her, earlier this year she began hurting herself. She said then that ocd liked the hurting though she didn't, and this went so far as her " enjoying " a blood draw and kindergarten booster shots--very weird experience for both of us. Thankfully this hurting behavior has lessened a lot, but now we have this provoking of punishment. She suggests spankings--I don't spank, well, rarely--instead I have so far withdrawn privileges. Has anyone else had this type of behavior from their child? Is it ocd, or maybe meds? (She takes 100mg Luvox) Or has she finally gotten around to using ocd to excuse poor behavior? However, this situation does have that weird ocd " feel " to it. What do I do? When I punish I get the feeling I am playing into the ocd. But I can't ignore her behavior. I should add that this behavior is from a child who was formerly " too good " IMO. She never misbehaved! Advice? Kathy R. in Indiana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 1999 Report Share Posted April 29, 1999 Kathy, I believe your daughter. But, it may not be OCD, it could be something else. Only a professional may be able to tell. My nephew has aspen and he sometimes asks for punishment. The difference is that he does not enjoy and would cry. He always says things that are exactly the opposite to his real desire.. Good luck. TC " Kathy " <klr@...> on 04/28/99 10:42:38 AM Please respond to onelist " list " <onelist> cc: (bcc: Tse Chao/JerseyCity/iNautix) Subject: new problem Hi everyone, I've been noticing a new situation with my 5-year-old over the past two weeks or so. In everything she does she seems to be asking to be punished! She does outrageous things that there's no way she can be unaware are not allowed (things I can't begin to overlook.) She is strangely not upset or affected by the consequences I impose, and punishing her has had no effect on her behavior so far. She says ocd wants her to be in trouble, and I half believe her, earlier this year she began hurting herself. She said then that ocd liked the hurting though she didn't, and this went so far as her " enjoying " a blood draw and kindergarten booster shots--very weird experience for both of us. Thankfully this hurting behavior has lessened a lot, but now we have this provoking of punishment. She suggests spankings--I don't spank, well, rarely--instead I have so far withdrawn privileges. Has anyone else had this type of behavior from their child? Is it ocd, or maybe meds? (She takes 100mg Luvox) Or has she finally gotten around to using ocd to excuse poor behavior? However, this situation does have that weird ocd " feel " to it. What do I do? When I punish I get the feeling I am playing into the ocd. But I can't ignore her behavior. I should add that this behavior is from a child who was formerly " too good " IMO. She never misbehaved! Advice? Kathy R. in Indiana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2011 Report Share Posted June 4, 2011 my 8yr old son had a modified radical mastoidectomy in march this year this was his seventh operation since birth an i thought they had finally fixed him. we had a complete dry ear for almost 2 an half months then i noticed some drainage so i tried to have a look and his ear canal is blocked with a pink fleshy lump, his next doctors appointment it not for 6 weeks should i take him back sooner anyone know what this could be x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2011 Report Share Posted June 4, 2011 Could be granulation tissue. Chloe has had that a few times in response to infection or the trauma of surgery. It has not been harmful to her, and usually just needs drops with a steroid to calm it down. I would take him in if he was mine, or at least call. On Sat, Jun 4, 2011 at 7:50 PM, noah3108 <noah3108@...> wrote: my 8yr old son had a modified radical mastoidectomy in march this year this was his seventh operation since birth an i thought they had finally fixed him. we had a complete dry ear for almost 2 an half months then i noticed some drainage so i tried to have a look and his ear canal is blocked with a pink fleshy lump, his next doctors appointment it not for 6 weeks should i take him back sooner anyone know what this could be x ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2011 Report Share Posted June 7, 2011 > > my 8yr old son had a modified radical mastoidectomy in march this year this was his seventh operation since birth an i thought they had finally fixed him. we had a complete dry ear for almost 2 an half months then i noticed some drainage so i tried to have a look and his ear canal is blocked with a pink fleshy lump, his next doctors appointment it not for 6 weeks should i take him back sooner anyone know what this could be x > the smell has come back now does this mean the C-toma has returned can it grow back in just 3 months? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2011 Report Share Posted June 7, 2011 The smell is probably indicating infection, which may or may not be related to regrowth. On Tue, Jun 7, 2011 at 11:41 AM, noah3108 <noah3108@...> wrote: >> my 8yr old son had a modified radical mastoidectomy in march this year this was his seventh operation since birth an i thought they had finally fixed him. we had a complete dry ear for almost 2 an half months then i noticed some drainage so i tried to have a look and his ear canal is blocked with a pink fleshy lump, his next doctors appointment it not for 6 weeks should i take him back sooner anyone know what this could be x >the smell has come back now does this mean the C-toma has returned can it grow back in just 3 months? ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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