Getting down to zero (Carol) (was Re: [One_EFT Healing Highrise] I tried it! and Questions)

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Hi Rose,

There is no shame in this at all - it's very very common and I suspect is

something that anyone experiences to varying degrees.

What you will want to process is the fears of letting it go and of not being

ready and not knowing who you will be or if you will like yourself or fears

of what you might lose - and processing in also how you want to be, and see

yourself being that way, and recognizing all the good that will occur and

shift your focus onto that.

Once that is done the " stuff " that is holding on still will move through

more easily.

Take care,

Carol Ann

Free Zensight Energy Work Ebook & Ecourse

www.zensightprocess.com

I think there may be a little part of me - as ashamed as I am to admit

this - that might be reluctant to fully and finally let go of certain

things. I think this is so because they have defined me all my life. Also,

to let them go, is to let my mother go, and regardless of the abuse and

regardless of my age (58), letting go of mother is never easy, but it has to

be done.

Thanks again,

Rose

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Rose,

May I suggest that you tap on your resistance to finally releasing all of

these thoughts and beliefs. Something like, " Even though I have this fear of

letting go of... "

I also wanted to say that it was very insightful of you to realize that some

of these things are tied in with a (perhaps misguided) sense of loyalty to

you mother. The same applies to your comments about things that have

" defined me all my life. " Try to realize that these are all just stories

whose purpose is to provide a context for your present experience. They

explain how what seems to be in the now got there. But they're *your*

stories, and you are free to change them. Nor do you need anyone's

permission to do so but your own. So you might want to tap on that too. We

all like to have continuity in our lives, and the history stories we tell

ourselves are no exception. But when it's just plain not working for you,

it's time to take the plunge. To borrow a phrase from one of my least

favorite authors, " you have nothing to lose but your chains. "

Good hunting!

Ned

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Just an added comment to this issue ... remember once you have

released the " unwanted " or " negative " stuff what's left is what you

want to have and hold, what's good and positive so you don't

necessarily have to go into this healing process on this particular

issues with thoughts of completely letting go of your mother. Keep

in mind that the only part of her that you will be letting go of is

the hurtful part. These comments and suggestions are made with the

assumption that I am properly hearing what you are saying ... that

there was abuse involved with your relationship with your mother and

it is keeping you from complete healing and self-discovery. If this

is not the case, then the suggestions I am making may or may not

apply here.

I believe it is also important to work on guilt. Guilt for not

loving or not trusting or for even hating my mother. Then this can

bring up the issue of protection. Being angry at her for not

protecting you. You will then want to be sure to work on forgiveness

of mother and self and if I am on the right track here I can

elaborate but I'm going to pause just in case I've heard your story

incorrectly and none of this applies.

Happy to continue if needed. Hope this helps.

Peace & Light, Kathleen

Kathleen Sales, CBT, CCHT

Ancient Wisdom ~ A Healing Place

www.ahealingmind.com

kathleen@...

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> I think there may be a little part of me - as ashamed as I am to

admit

> this - that might be reluctant to fully and finally let go of

certain

> things. I think this is so because they have defined me all my

life. Also,

> to let them go, is to let my mother go, and regardless of the

abuse and

> regardless of my age (58), letting go of mother is never easy, but

it has to

> be done.

>

> Thanks again,

>

> Rose

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