Case History: Healing the Shadow: Dayu - I: I need your help.

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Case History: Healing the Shadow: Dayu – I

In the last two days,

my back has been hurting. I know I have needed to heal my shadow. Through

a series of letters going back and forth between “Mandy” and

myself, you can see a case history of healing the shadow. I have used

assumed names for the other person – using Mandy as her name and as her

daughter’s name.

Names of my own family

are authentic. My husband’s name is Mark and daughter’s is

Gitanjali (also known as Gitanj or Angie).

“Mandy”

and I have known each other since well before the birth of our children.

Doing shadow work is

not easy, but it is well worth the rewards.

Mandy and I both felt

the other had skills that we ourselves needed, but we couldn’t see our

own potential for those skills. We admired them in the other, but did not

see that we too possibly had them as well. Here is a story of healing

that shadow.

I had moved to the

U.S. 5 years ago, but since then, had not set up a local office, although there

was a room allocated to it in my home. It had accumulated a lot of junk

over the years, and I needed to clear it in order to have a face-to-face

clientele, in addition to my phone practice. The job of clearing up that mess was

daunting… and so this is the story of healing the belief that I couldn’t

do it, that the organizational skills required were somehow “missing”

in my life. Similarly, Mandy felt that her parenting skills were somehow “missing”.

Recently, I got my

permit to work in this country, and so am looking at my job from a different

perspective. The perspective of setting up a local face-to-face practice

as well as my phone practice.

I’m also at

another crossroads. My husband feels I should get another job with “perks”

such as dental and medical benefits etc. I’m wondering if that is

the way to go, or if it’s better to set up a full-time practice.

Perhaps it is a question of more than just clearing up my office. Perhaps,

it is a question of getting really clear on what I want.

Well, one step at a

time… baby steps, baby steps!

Love,

Dayu

From: Mandy

Sent: Thursday, January 10, 2008

9:50 AM

'Dayawanti D'Sa'

Subject: need help

Hi Dayu,

I would like to ask you how/where you

learned your tact of dealing with kids. I admire how you get kids to do things

in a round about way without hurting their egos or dealing with them head on.

This last weekend, her husband’s

name succeeded with (her daughter) in making her eat at a restaurant. He

just manipulated her by getting her order something saying he wanted it. She

ended up eating the entire lunch while she kept saying she was not hungry and

was not going to eat. I told him this was the Dayu

Tactic…………..he of course denied it.

I would like to learn this because with this is all that

works. Is there a book, seminar………..anything? I have seen you

really master this wonderful method.

Thanks, Mandy

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