Newsletter 01-14-08 Healing The Shadow: Owning & Clearing the Mirror Brings Compassion & Gratitude & Recodes the DNA

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Jan 14th, 2008

Healing the Shadow:

Owning & Clearing the Mirror

Brings Compassion & Gratitude

& Recodes the DNA

Two articles

by Jelaila Starr systematically explain about the steps of healing our shadow, “The

7 Stages of Emotional Clearing” and “The Formula for Compassion”. 

They are given below.  These understandings can be used together with any

modality of Energy Psychology that you resonate with – be it TLR, Q.I., Kalos,

EnergyFlows, PIVOT, BSFF, EFT, Switchwords or TAT or any other method –

to clear away the energy and beliefs surrounding the anger, fear, and the

underlying belief that the other person is mirroring for you.

Quoting from the article below:

“Step 4 of the Formula of Compassion is

where you recognize the aspect of you that the other person is reflecting or

mirroring back to you. It is always a behavior motivated by fear. At that

same moment of recognition, you will also be able to acknowledge that you have

done the same thing that you have been judging that person for doing. If

you truly see this, the anger and pain will quickly turn to empathy and sadness

because you understand, first-hand, the fear that drives you both to that behavior. ”

Finally…

“Now

that you have found the fear that motivated the behavior, the next step is to

ask yourself, “What belief triggered that behavior?” This

is usually a core belief such as, “I must be perfect in order to have the

right to exist.” Once you find the belief, you now have the gift;

the recognition of that belief and the opportunity to change it.

At this point

there is a sudden shift in your body. The empathy and sadness shift to

overwhelming appreciation and gratitude for the other person as all anger,

pain, and blame are transmuted. In this moment you release the other

person totally and completely. You then apologize and validate the other

person’s pain.

Step 9 of the Formula of Compassion: Your only thought now is how to thank the other

person for the gift. You do this by thanking them with a heart full of

appreciation and gratitude. They will feel this. Once completed, you have

cleared the mirror. The conflict is over and peace, love and harmony is

reestablished. But there is an even greater reward; each party feels a

greater degree of trust in the relationship because they know that when

conflicts arise, each party will stay to work through the conflict and not run.

”

Today I wish you happy healing of

your shadow, and the ensuing empathy, sadness, and finally appreciation and

gratitude…not to mention peace and joy together with an expanded and

recoded DNA.

Love,

Dayu

The 7 Stages of Emotional Clearing TM

by Jelaila Starr

How to clear the negative emotions in our

bodies is a process that most of us have never been taught to do. Society

does not give much credence to this work. Consequently, when we do try to

clear, because we do not know the stages that humans go through in order to

release painful emotions, we get stuck. For many, this leads to feelings of

frustration and so they just give up. But when we give up, we do so at a

price. When conflicts remain unresolved, their associated emotions remain,

creating energetic imbalances in the body on the physical level that lead to

illness. On the mental level, they can create bi-polar disorders and, in

some cases, depression. On the emotional level, they lead us to either act out

in destructive ways such as raging, or in covert ways, using passive/aggressive

behavior. All of these things are destructive to our personal relationship with

our Inner Children, not to mention our relationships with others.

The 7 Stages of Emotional Clearing are given

as a roadmap to help you navigate the stages of clearing that each person

experiences in order to fully and completely clear negative pain associated

with a conflict or other negative event from the body.

The 7 Stages

1. Trigger

2. Identify Trigger through anger

3. Projection and blaming

4. Express and release anger and pain

5. Look for and find the mirror

6. Own the mirror

7. Clear the mirror

1. Trigger

A trigger occurs when someone violates a

personal boundary or agreement.

2. Identifying the trigger

through anger

Once triggered, you react with anger or, if

not anger, at least a sense that something is not right.

Note: Many people get stuck here because they

have learned to immediately stuff their anger when it occurs. An example would

be saying to yourself, “Oh, it’s just not worth getting upset over.”

3. Projection and Blaming

If you are angry, the next thing you do is

blame someone for it. We call this “projecting” because you

are putting the blame for your pain on someone else.

Note: Many people project and blame but they

don’t go past this point and express it to the person with whom they are

upset.

4. Express and release anger

and pain

This is the step in which you vent your anger

toward the accused. Expressing can take various forms depending on the

intensity of the violation and trigger. Mild violations may require just

speaking up about it. Stronger violations may require speaking up and a

few choice cuss words to clear the pain and so on.

Note: Most people will stop short of this step

because they believe they don’t feel comfortable and/or they don’t

have the right to express their anger. In that case, passive/aggressive

behavior will ensue because anger must have a release.

5. Look for and find the

mirror

Once the anger has been expressed, logic can return. Now and only now can

you begin to look for how you have co-created the situation. Beginning with Steps 1—3 of the Formula of Compassion,

you look for the lesson, contract and role that the other person is playing.

Tip: If you are not able to talk with your

guides to get the information you need to find the mirror, try starting with Step 4 of the Formula. Ask yourself,

“What fear is the other person expressing through their

behavior?” Once you figure out what the fear is, you then ask,

“What belief is triggering that fear?” By doing this, you are

tracing your way back to the belief that is at the root of the

behavior. Keep this rule in mind: Beliefs create fears which we then act

out through our behavior.

6. Own the mirror

Step 4 of the Formula of

Compassion is where you recognize the aspect of you that the

other person is reflecting or mirroring back to you. It is always a behavior

motivated by fear. At that same moment of recognition, you will also be

able to acknowledge that you have done the same thing that you have been

judging that person for doing. If you truly see this, the anger and pain

will quickly turn to empathy and sadness because you understand, first-hand,

the fear that drives you both to that behavior.

Note: You may have already completed this step

if you used the tip provided in Stage 5.

7. Clear the mirror

Steps 5-9 of the Formula of

Compassion are completed in this stage.

Now that you have found the fear that motivated the behavior, the next step is

to ask yourself, “What belief triggered that

behavior?” This is usually a core belief such as, “I must be

perfect in order to have the right to exist.” Once you find the

belief, you now have the gift; the recognition of that belief and the opportunity

to change it.

At this point there is a sudden shift in your

body. The empathy and sadness shift to overwhelming appreciation and

gratitude for the other person as all anger, pain, and blame are

transmuted. In this moment you release the other person totally and

completely. You then apologize and validate the other person’s pain.

Step 9 of the Formula of

Compassion: Your only thought now is how to thank the other

person for the gift. You do this by thanking them with a heart full of

appreciation and gratitude. They will feel this. Once completed, you have

cleared the mirror. The conflict is over and peace, love and harmony is

reestablished. But there is an even greater reward; each party feels a

greater degree of trust in the relationship because they know that when

conflicts arise, each party will stay to work through the conflict and not run.

http://www.nibiruancouncil.com/html/7_stages_of_emotional_clearing.html

The Formula of Compassion

TM

By Jelaila

Starr

The Formula of Compassion (the Formula) is a

multidimensional tool that has many functions. First and foremost is used

for deep emotional clearing, permanently dissolves layers from you emotional

blocks. The Formula unlocks and reactivates the “Inner

Technology” within your body in order to do this. And best of

all, each time you successfully complete the Formula and feel the “Inner

Technology” work, your DNA will recode a bit more, changing from from

carbon to crystalline. (Read the DNA Recoding Overview for more on this.)

The

Formula allows you to move through enough of the lessons on your Life Blueprint to achieve the

frequency necessary for full consciousness. In other words, the Formula

lightens your bodily frequency each time you use it to handle a conflict and

integrate the fear involved in the lesson behind the conflict.

Lessons

come to you packaged as conflicts. I have found that I could not complete the

RRA process without the Formula because the Formula enabled me to remove the

negative emotions of the conflicts from my physical/emotional bodies by moving

them up through my heart into my high heart, transmuting them there into

compassion.

Another

benefit of the Formula is the activation of the dormant psychic

glands. Each time you use the Formula you exercise these dormant

glands. By the time you finish DNA activation these glands are ready for

full-time use.

Tips to remember when using the Formula of Compassion:

1. Begin

using the Formula only after you have expressed the anger or other negative

feelings you have. It will not work if you miss these steps. Read the

7

Stage of Emotional Clearing TM for more on this.

2. Feel

the feelings of your situation, express them verbally and physically first, then begin the Formula on the

issue. Feeling them and physically expressing them brings the emotions up

through the Heart Chakra and into the High Heart Chakra where they will be

transmuted and released. These dense, lower frequency emotions are the fuel

that once transmuted into the higher frequency of compassion through the High Heart

(acts like an incinerator), floods through your body like an orgasmic release

and changes your DNA at the same time.

You will

continue this cycle of bringing up old issues as well as dealing with new

lessons using the Keys of Compassion until you have cleared enough to complete

the rewiring of your 12 DNA strands. Afterwards, you will continue to

clear emotionally in order to complete ascension, but now you will have the

support of new neural pathways and their associated healthy behavior patterns. Ascension

is presently scheduled to be completed around 2012. Now let’s move

on to the 9 steps of the Formula of Compassion.

The Nine

Steps of the Formula are as follows:

Step One: Lesson

What is the lesson I wanted to learn

regarding this person and the conflict we are experiencing?

Ask your Higher Self/Soul, angels or spirit guides to

help you. Ask them to show you the lesson you wanted to learn. It

will be on your life blueprint. Your life blueprint is your roadmap

through your present lifetime. It contains all the lessons, contracts and

major events for your present lifetime, along with the people involved.

Step Two: Contract

What is the contract I made with this

person?

Ask to be shown the contract(s) you made to learn this

lesson. If using the Formula to release one individual, ask for the

contract that pertains to you and that person. There are usually many

contracts with many people to learn the same lesson. The ratio of

contracts to lessons varies depending on how long and how many lifetimes you

have been trying to learn that particular lesson. The more lifetimes, the

more present lifetime contracts for that lesson.

Remember

that no one agrees to make a contract with you unless they too, need to learn

the same lesson. In some cases the other person in your contract is there

to learn the flip side of the lesson.

Step Three:

Role What is the role this person is playing to act out

his/her part of the contract?

Ask to see and understand the role you play and the

role the other person is playing in the contract. Ask for assistance in

understanding how the roles look as they are being played out. I visualize

a stage and myself as a actress and the other person as an

actress/actor. It helps me to see the roles more clearly because I am able

to view their behavior as a performance.

Step Four: Aspect

What is the aspect of myself this person is

reflecting back to me?

Once again ask for assistance in seeing and

understanding the aspect of yourself that the other person is reflecting back

to you. They are your mirror, reflecting an aspect of yourself through

their behavior. I have always found this step to be the hardest to

handle. It calls for brutal self-honesty, but it’s well worth the

effort.

Sometimes, instead of reflecting an aspect of your

behavior, they are reflecting something you judge. An example would be

someone who steals from you. You may not be a thief but you may be judging

thievery or people who are thieves.

Step Five: Gift

What is the gift this person is giving me by

playing their role?

Ask for help so you can see and understand the gift

the other person is giving you by playing their role. The value I

mentioned earlier is the value of the gift, and the gift is the lesson learned.

Process Check

Once you

have completed the first five steps, you should be feeling a surge of

compassion and gratitude for the other person involved in the

conflict/contract. If not, then go back to the lesson and start

over.

Sometimes

it takes a few attempts before we finally get to the lesson we are working

on. I find I usually know I’ve got it when I feel a warm feeling in

my heart. It can be likened to a strong feeling of knowing like an Ah

Ha!

The final

four steps are used to finish clearing and releasing the emotional negativity/garbage

from the physical body, out the high heart chakra.

When I

think of the high heart chakra, I envision an invisible cone shaped device

imbedded in my auric field. It attaches to my physical body just above my

heart and below my collarbone. When I use the Formula it opens so the

transmuted energy/compassion can move through it and out.

It is my

understanding that the high heart chakra performs the same function as the

colon/anus and bladder/urethra in the physical body. Both perform

functions of elimination for waste/toxic matter. The only difference is

that the physical system eliminates dense physical matter and the high

heart chakra eliminates etheric matter.

Step Six: Acceptance

Can I accept the role that this person has

played, along with their actions, to help me learn this lesson?

Acceptance is one of the four elements of

unconditional love. Acceptance is part of compassion and is unconditional

love in action. This also includes acceptance of who the person is,

without judgment. I find that when I am having a hard time with this step

that I can clear it when I remember they are a soul in a body like me, and we

are helping each other with a lesson.

Step Seven: Allowing

Can I allow myself to let go of my anger

towards this person who played the role to help me learn the lesson?

Allowing is also one of the four elements of

unconditional love. Allowing is part of compassion and is unconditional

love in action. This includes allowing the person to be who they are and

to follow their chosen path, regardless of how you feel about it.

Usually, by the time I reach this step, I find it very

easy to let go of my anger towards the person because I am feeling the

gratitude and compassion that comes from seeing the pain they suffered in

playing their role for me.

On another note: Allowing is easier to do when we let

go of needing to control someone’s behavior or choices for their own good. We tend to

control people out of fear that their actions will hurt them/and or us. If

we understand that everything has a value, then we can begin to release our

need to control because we understand that there will be a value in each and

every outcome.

Step Eight: Release

Can I release this person from blame?

This one is easy when you understand that you are not

a victim. On the contrary, you are an active participant in a contract and

lesson that you helped set up.

Taking responsibility for your part in the contract

enables you to release the other person from blame for the role they played to

help you learn the lesson you wanted to learn. You understand that just as

you are not a victim, nor are they a villain. Devin, my 9D guide, has told

me many times that it is much harder to play the role of a villain than it is

to play the role of a hero.

Releasing someone from blame is

different than forgiving them. Forgiving someone is what

we do when we feel they have sinned against us, as in being

victimized. Release is the key element in the Formula. The release is

created by your compassion for the other person.

Step Nine: Kindness

Now that I have released this person, can I

be kind to him/her, and if so, how can I do it and when will I do it?

At this point you should be feeling the intensity of

the release through the high heart. I find the degree of the feeling

differs according to the emotional intensity of the issue. The more

emotionally charged the issue, the more intense the release.

I have found, as have others, this step to be the most

emotional step. I am filled with gratitude and compassion when I reach

this step and my only thought is how to make amends and thank them.

Now that

you are feeling the gratitude and compassion, having released the other person

from blame and anger, and realize you can be kind to them now, you are just

about finished with the Formula. The final two parts to Step Nine are:

a) How will you

show your kindness, and

When you will do

it?

These

last two parts are very important and I encourage you to complete them as

quickly as possible since the process will not be complete until you do. A

letter or phone call to the person to say thank you for the lesson will

do. I find that sharing the lesson I learned from them goes a long way in

healing the pain we both felt.

Caution! Don’t take them through

the Formula. They

won’t understand you and will usually become angry and defensive unless

they know the Formula too. Just thank them for helping you become a better

person.

Changing the Energy

Once you

have completed the Formula, then it is time to do something with the

contract. The contract is energy like everything else, so you can change

its form into something else, sort of like working with Leggos.

I usually

envision the contract dissolving into a thousand pieces of light energy, and

then I send that energy to someone who is ill to assist in their

healing. On other occasions I deposit it into an energy account I have

created to manifest one of my desires like a new house or something. You

can also deposit it someone else's account to assist them in manifesting one of

their desires.

Anyway,

this is where I can have a little fun with the contract and be creative. A

positive ending to a painful lesson, don’t you think?

***

I hope

this summary and the steps of the Formula of

Compassion help you make the appropriate choices for you. More

information can be found in We are the Nibiruans, Book One, the Multidimensional Keys of Compassion Booklets,

and the soon to be released, We are the

Nibiruans, Book Two. These booklets contain all the information

given to date on the Formula of Compassion, the foundation tool or key, as well

as the six additional tools that were given since the writing of the first

book/manual.

***

The Inner Technology

- This is the term we use to define the higher purpose of the endocrine system

and the thymus in particular. When you apply the 9 Steps of the Formula,

you will feel the technology at work. It’s greatest effect will be

felt when you ready Step 5 and find the gift. At that moment the thymus

transforms the anger and painful feelings into the energies of compassion

(gratitude mixed with appreciation and acceptance). These new energies

then flood your body in a tingling sensation. That extremely high frequency

energy impacts the DNA and transforms it in much the same way that intense

pressure transforms a piece of carbon into a diamond.

For

examples of the “Inner Technology” read:

President

Bush and the Formula of Compassion

Homeland_Security_FormulaArticle

***

If you

have questions about using the Formula please feel free to call me at (816)

444-4364 or you can e-mail me at jelaila@....

Jelaila

Starr,

The Nibiruan Council

Author Info:

Jelaila Starr, author of We are the Nibiruans is an

internationally known channel, teacher, and counselor. Through her

lectures, workshops, and articles, Jelaila's message of compassion has touched

the hearts of people around the world inspiring hope and understanding while

providing solutions to some of today’s most pressing challenges.

As a

psychic/intuitive counselor, Jelaila works with individuals to assist them with

emotional clearing, healing relationships, and DNA Recoding. Jelaila's

unique approach enables her clients to clearly discover who they are, what they

came to do, and how to achieve it. Jelaila can be reached at (816)

444-4364. Email: Jelaila@...

Website: www.nibiruancouncil.com

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