Guest guest Posted January 2, 2002 Report Share Posted January 2, 2002 You know.. listening to others talk about how they are trying to get their parents to go with them, let you have a CI, etc. My mom is the opposite. She had a CI done in 97 and I each summer I got the... " when are you having it done " . No matter what I would say, she WILL NOT LISTEN to me. To my mom... she is RIGHT and no one else is. She was offering suggestions that just would not work for me. Taking disability leave while having the surgery. Well mother, who will pay for the health insurance while I do that? Not waiting another day, getting it done as soon as possible. Well mother, I don't like the idea of driving four hours in the middle of winter where we have snow and ice. I hope you get the picture... she doesn't. In fact I haven't even told her I was going to AA to be tested for a possible CI. She will find out either just before or after the deed is done. Don't get me wrong.. she is a good person. But I can only take her in small dosages. susan & hobbes michigan At 11:15 PM 8/13/2003 -0600, you wrote: >oh really? haha > >I'll talk to my mom again like tomorrow (after all it is 11:07 PM and Mom's >in bed by now) about calling Rocky Mountain and setting up an appointment. >I want to at least do the evaluation and find out if I'm a candidate or not. > Then we can go from there when we're ready or whatever.. or once we figure >out what to do about paying for everything.... Hopefully the people down at >Rocky Mountain will give us some suggestions of what to do about that. > > >CD Meggers > > >From: <hobbes@...> >Reply- > >Subject: Re: Meghan >Date: Tue, 01 Jan 2002 21:20:04 -0500 > >really? never tried it? well I can tell you my mom is an expert at the >'guilt' trips. > >susie & hobbes >michigan > >At 01:31 PM 8/12/2003 -0600, you wrote: > >I never thought of " guilt trips " .... never even tried this on my mom, >EVER! > > > >we're also trying to find a way to pay for all this *if* i am a candidate > >too.... yeah.... hmmm Thanks! > > > > > >CD Meggers > > > > > >From: M Jansen <nucleus24@...> > >Reply- > > > >Subject: Meghan > >Date: Mon, 11 Aug 2003 20:36:40 -0400 > > > >Hi Meghan, > > You might point out to Mom that it's better to have the surgery done > >while you are still under your parents' hospitalization, and does SHE > >want to be responsible for your being deaf and unable to afford the CI > >down the road. Does SHE want to be responsible for your having low > >paying jobs because you can't compete with the hearing world. Income > >among deaf people is notoriously low compared to hearing folks with the > >same education. So I'd try the guilt trip if I were you. She needs to > >go along for the evaluation and can address her question to the Dr. who > >does the evaluation and the audiologist as well. Once she gets you the > >appointment, the audiologist can give you information that she needs. It > >really is not brain surgery, it's 90 mins to 3 hours, and done on an > >outpatient basis for the most part. Does SHE want to be responsible for > >NOT improving your life. Mothers LOVE guilt trips!! Good luck, > > > > > >Nucleus Volunteer > > > >Hey guys... > > > >do you have any suggestions of how I could... sorta NUDGE my mom to > >call the Rocky Mountain CI Center to set up an evaluation appointment > >and get a move on with the whole CI process? Or at least set up an > >appointment? She doesn't like the idea of anyone *going into my ear > >to put wires and whatnot into the ear/head or whatever* and that sort > >of thing. She's had ear surgery herself a few years ago, but it's > >nothing like a CI surgery I'm sure. Any suggestions or advice would > >be GREAT as I really would like to get going with the whole thing. > >Or at least get the evaluation over with. > > > > > >________________________________________________________________ > >The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! > >Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! > >Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! > > > >_________________________________________________________________ > >Protect your PC - get McAfee.com VirusScan Online > ><<http://clinic.mcafee.com/clinic/ibuy/campaign.asp?cid=3963>http://clini > c.mcafee.com/clinic/ibuy/campaign.asp?cid=3963>http://clinic.mcafee.com/clinic/i\ buy/campaign.asp?cid=3963 > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2003 Report Share Posted August 16, 2003 , for years i had people DEMANDING i get a CI some i hardly knew!! my kids had talked about me getting a CI and dropping hints now and again something about this pushing made me dig in and not move at all in my own time and without saying a word to anyone i began looking into a CI i eventually had all the evaluations done and date set before i told my kids ... they were 24, 22, 20, 19, 17 old enough to drive me crazy if i decided after going through all the research and evaluations not to go though with it about a week before surgery date i causally asked my daughter would she mind taking off a day at work for some mother/daughter bonding lol it was then i all came out i felt in control and very happy with my decision my kids were shocked but thrilled and after a time understood my reason for keeping them out of the loop so do this for yourself susan ...... no one NEEDS to know until the day of if only t help drive and all good luck and btw this was the very best thing i ever did for myself CI has opened my world susan N24 7/02 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2003 Report Share Posted August 16, 2003 david ohhh i know my kids do care about me but getting a CI to me anyway was a very personal decision not something help up for a vote my kids since then have been awesome ... for awhile they forgot i could hear ... and would talk like they always did which is to say sometimes it was not all sweet and rosy language boy were they ever surprised to get " caught " sometime i would frustrate my kids by calling them so i could practice hearing on a phone ... for a while it was a lot of " what??? " HUH???? " say it again " although they did try to bring it to my attention .... that when i call it is sooooooo frustrating to them .... LOL but me being the ever so kind and understanding mom replied " i don't care if you're frustrated ... Deal with it!!!! cuz i'm not stopping " LOL i said for 28 yrs i too was frustrated when i needed to call someone and couldn't hear .. now i am working hard to be able to do just that one day if you being my kids are frustrated toooo bad lol not my problem LOL yep my kids saw the humor in it and did laugh too and i did continue to call and yep i did learn to understand speech by phone so that now i can and do use the phone without help so david i agree my kids care and worry ... just not all the time in the order and/or about the right thing but humor is an amazing tool and i use it often susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2003 Report Share Posted August 16, 2003 , You are so lucky to kids who care about you and your hearing. They were trying to tell you something and worry about you. Pearson sville, WA " To announce that there must be no criticism of the President, right or wrong, is not only unpatriotic and servile, but is morally treasonable to the American public. " Theodore Roosevelt - 26th President Re: mothers OT , for years i had people DEMANDING i get a CI some i hardly knew!! my kids had talked about me getting a CI and dropping hints now and again something about this pushing made me dig in and not move at all in my own time and without saying a word to anyone i began looking into a CI i eventually had all the evaluations done and date set before i told my kids ... they were 24, 22, 20, 19, 17 old enough to drive me crazy if i decided after going through all the research and evaluations not to go though with it about a week before surgery date i causally asked my daughter would she mind taking off a day at work for some mother/daughter bonding lol it was then i all came out i felt in control and very happy with my decision my kids were shocked but thrilled and after a time understood my reason for keeping them out of the loop so do this for yourself susan ..... no one NEEDS to know until the day of if only t help drive and all good luck and btw this was the very best thing i ever did for myself CI has opened my world susan N24 7/02 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2003 Report Share Posted August 16, 2003 You sound like a wonderful mother... I hope you kids appreciate you. About you understanding what you kids say and they forgot remind me of this joke... Seems an elderly gentleman had serious hearing problems for a number of years. He went to the doctor and the doctor was able to have him fitted for a set of hearing aids that allowed the gentleman to hear 100%. The elderly gentleman went back in a month to the doctor and the doctor said, " Your hearing is perfect. Your family must be really pleased that you can hear again. " To which the gentleman said, " Oh, I haven't told my family yet. I just sit around and listen to the conversations. I've changed my will three times! " Pearson sville, WA " To announce that there must be no criticism of the President, right or wrong, is not only unpatriotic and servile, but is morally treasonable to the American public. " Theodore Roosevelt - 26th President Re: mothers OT david ohhh i know my kids do care about me but getting a CI to me anyway was a very personal decision not something help up for a vote my kids since then have been awesome ... for awhile they forgot i could hear ... and would talk like they always did which is to say sometimes it was not all sweet and rosy language boy were they ever surprised to get " caught " sometime i would frustrate my kids by calling them so i could practice hearing on a phone ... for a while it was a lot of " what??? " HUH???? " say it again " although they did try to bring it to my attention .... that when i call it is sooooooo frustrating to them .... LOL but me being the ever so kind and understanding mom replied " i don't care if you're frustrated ... Deal with it!!!! cuz i'm not stopping " LOL i said for 28 yrs i too was frustrated when i needed to call someone and couldn't hear .. now i am working hard to be able to do just that one day if you being my kids are frustrated toooo bad lol not my problem LOL yep my kids saw the humor in it and did laugh too and i did continue to call and yep i did learn to understand speech by phone so that now i can and do use the phone without help so david i agree my kids care and worry ... just not all the time in the order and/or about the right thing but humor is an amazing tool and i use it often susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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