Case History: Healing the Shadow: Dayu - V: I busted a myth

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Case History: Healing the Shadow: Dayu - V: I

busted a myth

From: Dayawanti D'Sa [mailto:dayawanti@...]

Sent: Monday, January 14, 2008

9:11 AM

Mandy

Subject: Mandy, this morning I

realized something...I busted a myth.

Mandy, this morning I

realized something...and I am so grateful that our conversations back and forth

helped me to understand this….and I really appreciate it.

You were mirroring for

me the fear that what you could do, – i.e. to be well-organized , I

couldn’t do as well as you. (Or what _____ or _____or _______ could do, I

couldn’t do as well).

1. You felt that I could parent in a way you couldn’t.

2. I felt you could organize in a way I couldn’t.

Somehow both of us

were feeling less than the other.

But in fact, both are statements

that are untrue. We have unnecessarily put each other on a pedestal. The

truth is you are good at organization, because you have taken the time and

trouble to do it consistently and value it. Similarly with me and

parenting.

The truth is, I can

learn what you have learned if I apply myself, and you can learn what I have if

you apply yourself to it.

In addition, I am sure

you have had your challenges with organization, as I have had my challenges

with parenting, and in fact, I am not as good at parenting as you

believe…ask Gitanjali!!! Children are very honest! However, it is true,

that I have worked at it consistently.

Let us continue to be

a support to one another to develop the skills the other has…

We just need to be

willing to learn…

I am grateful that

this exchange has helped me to bust a myth!!!

Love,

Dayu

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CenteredinTheHeartSpace

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Sent: Monday, January 14, 2008

8:50 AM

CenteredInTheHeartSpace

Subject: *CenteredinTheHeartSpace*

Newsletter 01-14-08 Healing The Shadow: Owning & Clearing the Mirror Brings

Compassion & Gratitude & Recodes the DNA

*Centered in The HeartSpace*

In Joy

Tappin’ Love as the Energy of Creation

And Celebrating Our Oneness in Our Uniqueness

A

newsletter by Dayawanti D’Sa,

Energy

Psychology Practitioner and Applied Kinesiologist

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Monday

Jan 14th, 2008

Healing the Shadow:

Owning & Clearing the Mirror

Brings Compassion & Gratitude

& Recodes the DNA

Two articles

by Jelaila Starr systematically explain about the steps of healing our shadow,

“The 7 Stages of Emotional Clearing” and “The Formula for

Compassion”. They are given below. These understandings can

be used together with any modality of Energy Psychology that you resonate with

– be it TLR, Q.I., Kalos, EnergyFlows, PIVOT, BSFF, EFT, Switchwords or

TAT or any other method – to clear away the energy and beliefs

surrounding the anger, fear, and the underlying belief that the other person is

mirroring for you.

Quoting from the article below:

“Step 4 of the Formula of Compassion is where

you recognize the aspect of you that the other person is reflecting or

mirroring back to you. It is always a behavior motivated by fear. At that

same moment of recognition, you will also be able to acknowledge that you have

done the same thing that you have been judging that person for doing. If

you truly see this, the anger and pain will quickly turn to empathy and sadness

because you understand, first-hand, the fear that drives you both to that

behavior. ”

Finally…

“Now that you have found

the fear that motivated the behavior, the next step is to ask

yourself, “What belief triggered that behavior?” This is

usually a core belief such as, “I must be perfect in order to have the

right to exist.” Once you find the belief, you now have the gift;

the recognition of that belief and the opportunity to change it.

At this point there is a

sudden shift in your body. The empathy and sadness shift to overwhelming

appreciation and gratitude for the other person as all anger, pain, and blame

are transmuted. In this moment you release the other person totally and

completely. You then apologize and validate the other person’s pain.

Step 9 of

the Formula of Compassion: Your only thought now is how to thank the other person for the

gift. You do this by thanking them with a heart full of appreciation and

gratitude. They will feel this. Once completed, you have cleared the

mirror. The conflict is over and peace, love and harmony is

reestablished. But there is an even greater reward; each party feels a

greater degree of trust in the relationship because they know that when

conflicts arise, each party will stay to work through the conflict and not run.

”

Today I wish you happy healing of

your shadow, and the ensuing empathy, sadness, and finally appreciation and

gratitude…not to mention peace and joy together with an expanded and

recoded DNA.

Love,

Dayu

The 7 Stages of Emotional Clearing TM

by Jelaila Starr

How to clear the negative emotions in our

bodies is a process that most of us have never been taught to do. Society does

not give much credence to this work. Consequently, when we do try to

clear, because we do not know the stages that humans go through in order to

release painful emotions, we get stuck. For many, this leads to feelings of

frustration and so they just give up. But when we give up, we do so at a

price. When conflicts remain unresolved, their associated emotions remain,

creating energetic imbalances in the body on the physical level that lead to

illness. On the mental level, they can create bi-polar disorders and, in

some cases, depression. On the emotional level, they lead us to either act out

in destructive ways such as raging, or in covert ways, using passive/aggressive

behavior. All of these things are destructive to our personal relationship with

our Inner Children, not to mention our relationships with others.

The 7 Stages of Emotional Clearing are given

as a roadmap to help you navigate the stages of clearing that each person

experiences in order to fully and completely clear negative pain associated

with a conflict or other negative event from the body.

The 7 Stages

1. Trigger

2. Identify Trigger through anger

3. Projection and blaming

4. Express and release anger and pain

5. Look for and find the mirror

6. Own the mirror

7. Clear the mirror

1. Trigger

A trigger occurs when someone violates a

personal boundary or agreement.

2. Identifying the trigger

through anger

Once triggered, you react with anger or, if

not anger, at least a sense that something is not right.

Note: Many people get stuck here because they

have learned to immediately stuff their anger when it occurs. An example would

be saying to yourself, “Oh, it’s just not worth getting upset over.”

3. Projection and Blaming

If you are angry, the next thing you do is

blame someone for it. We call this “projecting” because you

are putting the blame for your pain on someone else.

Note: Many people project and blame but they

don’t go past this point and express it to the person with whom they are

upset.

4. Express and release anger

and pain

This is the step in which you vent your anger

toward the accused. Expressing can take various forms depending on the

intensity of the violation and trigger. Mild violations may require just

speaking up about it. Stronger violations may require speaking up and a

few choice cuss words to clear the pain and so on.

Note: Most people will stop short of this step

because they believe they don’t feel comfortable and/or they don’t

have the right to express their anger. In that case, passive/aggressive

behavior will ensue because anger must have a release.

5. Look for and find the

mirror

Once the anger has been expressed, logic can return. Now and only now can

you begin to look for how you have co-created the situation. Beginning with Steps 1—3 of the Formula of Compassion,

you look for the lesson, contract and role that the other person is playing.

Tip: If you are not able to talk with your

guides to get the information you need to find the mirror, try starting with Step 4 of the Formula. Ask yourself,

“What fear is the other person expressing through their

behavior?” Once you figure out what the fear is, you then ask,

“What belief is triggering that fear?” By doing this, you are

tracing your way back to the belief that is at the root of the

behavior. Keep this rule in mind: Beliefs create fears which we then act

out through our behavior.

6. Own the mirror

Step 4 of the Formula of

Compassion is where you recognize the aspect of you that the

other person is reflecting or mirroring back to you. It is always a behavior

motivated by fear. At that same moment of recognition, you will also be

able to acknowledge that you have done the same thing that you have been

judging that person for doing. If you truly see this, the anger and pain

will quickly turn to empathy and sadness because you understand, first-hand,

the fear that drives you both to that behavior.

Note: You may have already completed this step

if you used the tip provided in Stage 5.

7. Clear the mirror

Steps 5-9 of the Formula of

Compassion are completed in this stage.

Now that you have found the fear that motivated the behavior, the next step is

to ask yourself, “What belief triggered that

behavior?” This is usually a core belief such as, “I must be

perfect in order to have the right to exist.” Once you find the

belief, you now have the gift; the recognition of that belief and the

opportunity to change it.

At this point there is a sudden shift in your

body. The empathy and sadness shift to overwhelming appreciation and

gratitude for the other person as all anger, pain, and blame are

transmuted. In this moment you release the other person totally and

completely. You then apologize and validate the other person’s pain.

Step 9 of the Formula of

Compassion: Your only thought now is how to thank the other person

for the gift. You do this by thanking them with a heart full of appreciation

and gratitude. They will feel this. Once completed, you have cleared the

mirror. The conflict is over and peace, love and harmony is

reestablished. But there is an even greater reward; each party feels a

greater degree of trust in the relationship because they know that when

conflicts arise, each party will stay to work through the conflict and not run.

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The Formula of Compassion

TM

By Jelaila

Starr

The Formula of Compassion (the Formula) is a

multidimensional tool that has many functions. First and foremost is used

for deep emotional clearing, permanently dissolves layers from you emotional

blocks. The Formula unlocks and reactivates the “Inner

Technology” within your body in order to do this. And best of

all, each time you successfully complete the Formula and feel the “Inner

Technology” work, your DNA will recode a bit more, changing from from

carbon to crystalline. (Read the DNA Recoding Overview for more on this.)

The

Formula allows you to move through enough of the lessons on your Life Blueprint to achieve the

frequency necessary for full consciousness. In other words, the Formula

lightens your bodily frequency each time you use it to handle a conflict and

integrate the fear involved in the lesson behind the conflict.

Lessons

come to you packaged as conflicts. I have found that I could not complete the

RRA process without the Formula because the Formula enabled me to remove the

negative emotions of the conflicts from my physical/emotional bodies by moving

them up through my heart into my high heart, transmuting them there into

compassion.

Another

benefit of the Formula is the activation of the dormant psychic

glands. Each time you use the Formula you exercise these dormant

glands. By the time you finish DNA activation these glands are ready for

full-time use.

Tips to remember when using the Formula of Compassion:

1. Begin

using the Formula only after you have expressed the anger or other negative

feelings you have. It will not work if you miss these steps. Read the

7

Stage of Emotional Clearing TM for more on this.

2. Feel

the feelings of your situation, express them verbally and physically first, then begin the Formula on the

issue. Feeling them and physically expressing them brings the emotions up

through the Heart Chakra and into the High Heart Chakra where they will be

transmuted and released. These dense, lower frequency emotions are the fuel

that once transmuted into the higher frequency of compassion through the High

Heart (acts like an incinerator), floods through your body like an

orgasmic release and changes your DNA at the same time.

You will

continue this cycle of bringing up old issues as well as dealing with new

lessons using the Keys of Compassion until you have cleared enough to complete

the rewiring of your 12 DNA strands. Afterwards, you will continue to

clear emotionally in order to complete ascension, but now you will have the

support of new neural pathways and their associated healthy behavior

patterns. Ascension is presently scheduled to be completed around

2012. Now let’s move on to the 9 steps of the Formula of Compassion.

The Nine

Steps of the Formula are as follows:

Step One: Lesson

What is the lesson I wanted to learn

regarding this person and the conflict we are experiencing?

Ask your

Higher Self/Soul, angels or spirit guides to help you. Ask them to show

you the lesson you wanted to learn. It will be on your life

blueprint. Your life blueprint is your roadmap through your present

lifetime. It contains all the lessons, contracts and major events for your

present lifetime, along with the people involved.

Step Two: Contract

What is the contract I made with this person?

Ask to be

shown the contract(s) you made to learn this lesson. If using the Formula

to release one individual, ask for the contract that pertains to you and that

person. There are usually many contracts with many people to learn the

same lesson. The ratio of contracts to lessons varies depending on how

long and how many lifetimes you have been trying to learn that particular

lesson. The more lifetimes, the more present lifetime contracts for that

lesson.

Remember

that no one agrees to make a contract with you unless they too, need to learn

the same lesson. In some cases the other person in your contract is there

to learn the flip side of the lesson.

Step Three:

Role What is the role this person is playing to act out

his/her part of the contract?

Ask to

see and understand the role you play and the role the other person is playing

in the contract. Ask for assistance in understanding how the roles look as

they are being played out. I visualize a stage and myself as a actress and

the other person as an actress/actor. It helps me to see the roles more

clearly because I am able to view their behavior as a performance.

Step Four: Aspect

What is the aspect of myself this person is

reflecting back to me?

Once again

ask for assistance in seeing and understanding the aspect of yourself that the

other person is reflecting back to you. They are your mirror, reflecting

an aspect of yourself through their behavior. I have always found this

step to be the hardest to handle. It calls for brutal self-honesty, but

it’s well worth the effort.

Sometimes,

instead of reflecting an aspect of your behavior, they are reflecting something

you judge. An example would be someone who steals from you. You may

not be a thief but you may be judging thievery or people who are thieves.

Step Five: Gift

What is the gift this person is giving me by

playing their role?

Ask for

help so you can see and understand the gift the other person is giving you by

playing their role. The value I mentioned earlier is the value of the

gift, and the gift is the lesson learned.

Process Check

Once you

have completed the first five steps, you should be feeling a surge of

compassion and gratitude for the other person involved in the

conflict/contract. If not, then go back to the lesson and start over.

Sometimes

it takes a few attempts before we finally get to the lesson we are working

on. I find I usually know I’ve got it when I feel a warm feeling in

my heart. It can be likened to a strong feeling of knowing like an Ah Ha!

The final

four steps are used to finish clearing and releasing the emotional

negativity/garbage from the physical body, out the high heart chakra.

When I

think of the high heart chakra, I envision an invisible cone shaped device

imbedded in my auric field. It attaches to my physical body just above my

heart and below my collarbone. When I use the Formula it opens so the

transmuted energy/compassion can move through it and out.

It is my

understanding that the high heart chakra performs the same function as the

colon/anus and bladder/urethra in the physical body. Both perform

functions of elimination for waste/toxic matter. The only difference is

that the physical system eliminates dense physical matter and the high

heart chakra eliminates etheric matter.

Step Six: Acceptance

Can I accept the role that this person has

played, along with their actions, to help me learn this lesson?

Acceptance

is one of the four elements of unconditional love. Acceptance is part of compassion

and is unconditional love in action. This also includes acceptance of who

the person is, without judgment. I find that when I am having a hard time

with this step that I can clear it when I remember they are a soul in a body

like me, and we are helping each other with a lesson.

Step Seven: Allowing

Can I allow myself to let go of my anger

towards this person who played the role to help me learn the lesson?

Allowing

is also one of the four elements of unconditional love. Allowing is part

of compassion and is unconditional love in action. This includes allowing

the person to be who they are and to follow their chosen path, regardless of

how you feel about it.

Usually,

by the time I reach this step, I find it very easy to let go of my anger

towards the person because I am feeling the gratitude and compassion that comes

from seeing the pain they suffered in playing their role for me.

On

another note: Allowing is easier to do when we let go of needing to control

someone’s behavior or choices for

their own good. We tend to control people out of fear that

their actions will hurt them/and or us. If we understand that everything

has a value, then we can begin to release our need to control because we

understand that there will be a value in each and every outcome.

Step Eight: Release

Can I release this person from blame?

This one

is easy when you understand that you are not a victim. On the contrary,

you are an active participant in a contract and lesson that you helped set up.

Taking

responsibility for your part in the contract enables you to release the other

person from blame for the role they played to help you learn the lesson you

wanted to learn. You understand that just as you are not a victim, nor are

they a villain. Devin, my 9D guide, has told me many times that it is much

harder to play the role of a villain than it is to play the role of a hero.

Releasing someone from blame is different than forgiving

them. Forgiving someone is what we do when we feel they

have sinned against us, as in being victimized. Release is the key element

in the Formula. The release is created by your compassion for the other

person.

Step Nine: Kindness

Now that I have released this person, can I

be kind to him/her, and if so, how can I do it and when will I do it?

At this

point you should be feeling the intensity of the release through the high

heart. I find the degree of the feeling differs according to the emotional

intensity of the issue. The more emotionally charged the issue, the more

intense the release.

I have

found, as have others, this step to be the most emotional step. I am

filled with gratitude and compassion when I reach this step and my only thought

is how to make amends and thank them.

Now that

you are feeling the gratitude and compassion, having released the other person

from blame and anger, and realize you can be kind to them now, you are just

about finished with the Formula. The final two parts to Step Nine are:

a) How will you show your kindness, and

When you will do it?

These

last two parts are very important and I encourage you to complete them as

quickly as possible since the process will not be complete until you do. A

letter or phone call to the person to say thank you for the lesson will

do. I find that sharing the lesson I learned from them goes a long way in

healing the pain we both felt.

Caution! Don’t take them through

the Formula. They

won’t understand you and will usually become angry and defensive unless

they know the Formula too. Just thank them for helping you become a better

person.

Changing the Energy

Once you

have completed the Formula, then it is time to do something with the

contract. The contract is energy like everything else, so you can change

its form into something else, sort of like working with Leggos.

I usually

envision the contract dissolving into a thousand pieces of light energy, and

then I send that energy to someone who is ill to assist in their

healing. On other occasions I deposit it into an energy account I have

created to manifest one of my desires like a new house or something. You

can also deposit it someone else's account to assist them in manifesting one of

their desires.

Anyway,

this is where I can have a little fun with the contract and be creative. A

positive ending to a painful lesson, don’t you think?

***

I hope

this summary and the steps of the Formula of

Compassion help you make the appropriate choices for you. More

information can be found in We are the Nibiruans, Book One, the Multidimensional Keys of Compassion Booklets,

and the soon to be released, We are the

Nibiruans, Book Two. These booklets contain all the information

given to date on the Formula of Compassion, the foundation tool or key, as well

as the six additional tools that were given since the writing of the first

book/manual.

***

The Inner Technology

- This is the term we use to define the higher purpose of the endocrine system

and the thymus in particular. When you apply the 9 Steps of the Formula,

you will feel the technology at work. It’s greatest effect will be

felt when you ready Step 5 and find the gift. At that moment the thymus

transforms the anger and painful feelings into the energies of compassion (gratitude

mixed with appreciation and acceptance). These new energies then flood

your body in a tingling sensation. That extremely high frequency energy impacts

the DNA and transforms it in much the same way that intense pressure transforms

a piece of carbon into a diamond.

For

examples of the “Inner Technology” read:

President

Bush and the Formula of Compassion

Homeland_Security_FormulaArticle

***

If you

have questions about using the Formula please feel free to call me at (816)

444-4364 or you can e-mail me at jelailanibiruancouncil.

Jelaila

Starr,

The Nibiruan Council

Author Info:

Jelaila Starr, author of We are the Nibiruans is an

internationally known channel, teacher, and counselor. Through her

lectures, workshops, and articles, Jelaila's message of compassion has touched

the hearts of people around the world inspiring hope and understanding while

providing solutions to some of today’s most pressing challenges.

As a

psychic/intuitive counselor, Jelaila works with individuals to assist them with

emotional clearing, healing relationships, and DNA Recoding. Jelaila's

unique approach enables her clients to clearly discover who they are, what they

came to do, and how to achieve it. Jelaila can be reached at (816) 444-4364.

Email: JelailaNibiruanCouncil

Website: www.nibiruancouncil.com

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