~~ Newsletter 08-14-'08 Forgiveness II: The Terrible Cost of Unforgiveness

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Thursday August 14th, 2008

08-14-'08Forgiveness II: The Terrible Cost of Unforgiveness

This week, a series of articles and helpful information about forgiveness will be shared in this newsletter. The second is an article from Dr. Larry Nims, founder of the energy psychology modality called Be Set Free Fast.

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The Terrible Cost of Unforgiveness

http://www.besetfreefast.com/

The Terrible Cost Of Unforgiveness

by Psychologist Larry

Nims, Ph.D.

Creator of BSFF-Be

Set Free Fast

Historically,

forgiveness has been addressed rather minimally and ineffectively in

traditional therapies. We have always recognized that unforgiveness was a

problem in human adjustment. But, we have tended largely to ignore it as a

treatment issue. There are many reasons for such neglect I suppose, not the

least of which is that we really were not sure how to eliminate it. Another is

that many of us are uncomfortable and/or unfamiliar with spiritual considerations

in psychotherapy.

Callahan pointed the way for the technical process of treating unforgiveness.

He deserves much credit for this finding. Still, he did not seem to recognize

and/or acknowledge the enormity of the negative effects of unforgiveness on the

human soul and spirit.

I am

convinced that unforgiveness and related attitudes of resentment and bitterness

are among the deadliest dynamics in the human psyche. Hence this discourse. I

hope to alert we energy therapists to the opportunity and the obligation to use

our elegant techniques to free our clients of this severely restrictive

psychological and spiritual problem.

Here are

just some of the inevitable costs to you and me whenever we hold onto

unforgiveness. They are all in operation, continuously, in every unforgiveness,

whether we consciously recognize them or not. These consequences happen within

everyone every time that we get entrapped in unresolved unforgiveness. We have

all paid these high costs in our lives over and over again. We probably still

do pay them in many unhealed areas of our psyches and our spirits.

Consider

these consequences of judgment, criticism and unforgiveness.

We continue to feel the psychological pain of the

perceived offense. We block healthy communication and potential

reconciliation with the " offender " . We perceive similar offenses by others who remind

us of the offender. We attract similar situations, people and

injuries to ourselves. We give up our personal power to others to

determine how we will feel and respond (actually, we " react " ) in

similar situations. We render ourselves incapable of ever really

knowing, and learning from, the full truth about the event that damaged

the relationship. We take added toxic negativity into our present

relationships. We isolate/prevent/avoid/limit ourselves from

having new, more healthy, and more fulfilling relationships. We become vulnerable to becoming spiteful,

resentful and bitter. We disrespect, distrust and devalue ourselves at

deep levels of our psyches. We block ourselves spiritually from receiving

help and healing from our Higher Source. Our own spirits and souls " shrivel up "

(contract) more and more.

Most

counselors could probably add several more items to this " dirty

dozen " price list. That is a very expensive set of costs to pay for

self-righteous unforgiveness, isn't it? Yet, most of us have some of these

attitudes buried deep within our subconscious minds. I have not seen a client

yet who does not have numerous unresolved hurts and other emotional injuries,

always with judgment, criticism, unforgiveness and related negative attitudes

attached.

Fortunately,

we now have the tools and the therapeutic support no longer to be victimized in

all of these ways by the devastation of anger and unforgiveness. We can readily

neutralize and eliminate all of the psychological, but not the spiritual, costs

of unforgiveness simply by treating ourselves with BSFF.

Here is how:

Resolving Anger and Unforgiveness

With BSFF-Be Set Free Fast

Whenever

you finish a session of any energy therapy treatments, remember to treat for

anger and unforgiveness toward yourself or anyone else, including God if that

is an issue, for every problem you have just treated. Do this after every

session of BSFF treatments, whether you have just done one or a 101 treatments

in that session.

You can

do just one treatment for all angers combined for each person you were angry

at, one treatment for all angers toward God, and one treatment for all angers

toward yourself. You do not have to treat anger for each incident, although you

may choose to in some instances. Just make sure that you treat separately for

every person that you were angry at in the session of BSFF treatments you have

just completed.

Always be

sure to treat angers before going to unforgiveness. Remember that anger gives

rise to judgment, criticism and related hurtful attitudes and these give rise

to unforgiveness. So treat them in that order.

The most

important reason for doing this work at the end of a session of treatments is

to set ourselves free of the terrible effects of judgment, criticism, and any

other related attitudes such as vengeance, wanting to harm or cause pain to

someone, or to put ourselves in a one-up position with someone else.

Taking

such a superior attitude with the intention of causing harm or loss to someone,

including oneself, is a major spiritual problem as well as a psychological

problem. Consider this. When I take a judgmental, critical, punitive, vengeful

or withholding position toward someone, including myself, what am I doing

spiritually? Well, I am playing God!

I am

putting myself up as the judge, jury and executioner. I am, therefore,

violating the First Commandment! That means that God cannot even help me with

my unforgiveness dilemma. I'm on my own with my suffering and the terrible

costs of my own unforgiveness.

Whether

you view this violation from another religious or philosophical perspective or

not, it still boils down to making myself the power and the center of the

universe. That is a very dangerous position to be in because none of us has

that power or authority in ourselves. It is reserved to our Higher Power. So,

this is a losing battle for us--with all of the terrible costs described above.

So,

always treat the angers first. This will also eliminate the judgment,

criticalness and related negative attitudes that lead to unforgiveness. Then do

the unforgiveness step. Notice that, If you try to do unforgiveness without

eliminating the anger first, these negative attitudes will draw you back into

the unforgiveness, sometimes almost immediately. So you are still on precarious

ground.

You must

treat anger at each person separately, but you may simultaneously treat all

anger toward any specific person for all perceived hurts, offenses or failures

that you addressed in that session by using just one BSFF sequence at the end

of the session. Likewise, you can combine in one treatment all the

unforgiveness toward any one person for everything you have just treated about

that person during that session.

Be sure

to always treat anger at self last. If you do not do so, you will have to treat

yourself again for anger at yourself for the related problems of anger,

judgment, criticism and unforgiveness that you treat after you forgave yourself

the first time in the session. No percentage in that is there? In other words,

treat yourself last, so you will have covered all of your anger at self for all

of the problems that you have just treated.

The

marvelous payoff for doing this forgiveness work is that you completely

eradicate all of the terrible costs in less than 15 seconds! Forgive everyone

and enjoy the blessings of the wonderful new freedom you will have!

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