husbands dealing with our weight loss

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Someone added a line at the end of an email if anyone else's husband didn't like their weight loss. Sorry I don't remember who that

was, but I didn't want you to feel like you were all alone...

When I first started to lose weight my husband was a real jerk about

it. He made comments like "well now I suppose you are going to leave

me" I was so hurt by comments like that, pretty much saying that when I

was overweight I wasn't a threat because no one else would take me.

UGH. I would share my success with him and he would say "you suck", he

is about 90lbs overweight too. It was hard for both of us to deal

with. I just kept reassuring him, that I would never leave, nor ever

want to leave. I would and still do, tell him that I love it when he

puts his arm around me and it fits all the way around me now. We have

both enjoyed sex a whole lot more (sorry if that was too much info)

I used to be a flirt with other men and I always had this barrier of

fat keeping me from being taken serious. Now I have to watch myself

and what I say to other men. I have had to work on that. I didn't

even realize I used to flirt until, like I said, men started to

"listen". In the last few months my husband has come around and I'm

now able to share my successes and he rejoices with me instead of being

jealous that it isn't him. Now, his comments are one like, last night

in bed he wrapped his arm around me and pulled me close and said "if

you keep losing weight there won't be anymore of you to pull close"

Much nicer than before All that to say that my marriage is very

strong and I'm very happy. It has taken my husband and I a lot of

counseling to get to that point so don't dismiss that idea if you think

it will help.

Maybe after a little more time and a little more reassurance your husband will come around too. I hope so.

Take care, Cyrena