Guest guest Posted October 10, 2003 Report Share Posted October 10, 2003 Kay, I hope I can make clear to you that our intent in responding to you, or at least mine, was not to make you feel uncomfortable about venting at all.... in fact, I think it needs to be encouraged for everyone still dealing with raw emotions on the whole breast implant experience. No doubt there are strong feelings that have to be dealt with. That is a whole necessary part of any support group, and we know particularly in our situations that anger is going to erupt for most all of us, and needs to be expressed in beneficial ways. I might be guilty of what our pastor discussed in church Sunday regarding relationships....many times people with good intentions want to help FIX something when in fact the other person in the relationship just wants to vent or be heard. They don't necessarily want anyone to fix anything at all! I guess in our experience here on this board, we are prone to offer suggestions or advice about every particular aspect of having breast implants, and so I guess you were bound to get those "I can help fix it" posts. Probably what you needed to hear was just, "I'm with ya, Kay. I've been there, too." And I am sure we all have. I know you are a woman of faith, and I am blessed to know we have such a strong group of women expressing that faith. I am sorry you are going through so much. I hope you will feel confident that this place is a haven for you to come to whenever you feel the need to talk, chat, discuss or vent, and in particular when you are feeling lonely. We are all sisters here, having been down the same awful path. None of us would have ever chosen to go this way, but now that we are here, let's just offer our shoulders, our ears and our encouraging words. Oh, and we are going to offer "I can help fix it" posts, too, no doubt! That was the goal of the group to begin with. God bless you Kay. Patty ----- Original Message ----- From: kayvarni Sent: Thursday, October 09, 2003 3:29 PM Subject: My Anger Not Withheld Dear LadiesI felt that it was important for me to express my anger with this group. I also felt that it was a safe place to do so. Most of you that have read my e-mails know that I am a positive and determined woman. This doe's not make me an angry woman, and I appreciate the kind concern of those that feel that Anger can harm me, I felt that anger not set free amongst a safe enviroment would be anger withheld.This I do know to be harmful to the physical,Spiritual,Emotional body.My faith in God is forever with me, I gave my soul to God many moons ago, It no longer belongs to me. My flesh is of this world and is able to be corrupted by this world.I do not have a fox hole religion, I am not a member of a church,organization,etc. I spent most of my life in the Church,before I actually realized what God is all about. My faith is in tact. I believe in Truth,Love,Heart. I believe that there is a season for all expressions, and a time to do it in. I felt that the time was quite accurate.I believe that God turned this one over to me to get up and stand for what I believe in, to fight for our lives, I go to prayer, He tells me Why do you keep asking the same questions? Did'nt you have faith the first time you asked? I do not have a need to quote scripture, I have a need to help in anyway that I can to stop this terror. If that means there will be times of Courage,Faith,Tears,Anger, I would like to feel that I can share with the group. If this is going to be a problem then I will not burden the group. I do feel so alone at times and when I wrote that e-mail, that was the extent of my ANGER. I am in need of a place to share emotions with this Poison, I am not getting better,Coughing up alot of blood, My Marraige is over,No medical insurance,no atorney.three different cases with the Sheriff's,. People that come into my establishment don't see my pain. The one's that do,I don't express my anger or feelings of defeat. I express things on this site that I normally would keep inside.I appreciate so much the encouraging e-mails, I will write to each one of you individually. My husband kept my computer,I use the one in my office,I lost alot of my information on my other e-mail address. I also had alot of work that I was doing sending letters etc...I at no time said that I was a quitter,Just expressing my ANGER.Kay L Varni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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