Guest guest Posted November 6, 2003 Report Share Posted November 6, 2003 , I'm sooooo sorry to hear about your sister. I have six younger sisters, and if they ever decided to get implants after seeing everything I've been through, well...I'm not sure if I could NOT take it personally. I don't even know if I'd be able to speak to them, literally, I don't think any words would come out. I know there's so many issues that make up sisterhood and that things are pretty complex. One of my sisters even went so far to say that " it would never happen to her because SHE never has ANY medical problems " ...sort of acting like it's my fault because I'm weird or something. I think you definitely did the right thing by writing her a letter. I'm sure it made it much easier for you to tell her how you are feeling. I guess all you can do is be there for her if and when she needs you. I hate that even when warned, some people truly think they are immune. I always say, " It happened to me, it could happen to anyone. I'm not THAT different or special. " If you see one person who is sick, then another.. the odds are definitely not in the breast implants favor. WE ARE NOT THAT SPECIAL, it's just that we are not being acurately represented to the public. Blessings, Kacey > I am sure I shared with you all about my sister who got implants > about a year ago. So far she is supposedly thrilled and happy. I > wrote her a letter telling her how I felt about it and trying to > explain my feelings will never be positive ones. What would you guys > do if this was your sister who had seen you so ill and still got > implants? How would you feel and what would you do? I just don't know > how or what I can do to feel right about this. > hugs > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2003 Report Share Posted November 10, 2003 Kacey thanks for responding, I can't believe no one else answered my post about this. If it happened to any of us I believe we would all be hurt by it and like you said, it is hard to not take it personally! I hope none of your sisters is ever so crazy as to get implants despite what you went through. I feel very resentful and hurt and had to let her know that she can never expect me to feel right about what she has done. I mean even if she never has a problem a day in her life with implants, it still hurts me allot to know that she somehow feels like maybe I was the freak or there is something wrong with me because I got sick. Even my mom told me that they think that I had more allergies than my sister, like that is an explanation, I don't feel it is though! The only thing I ever had a problem with was nickel in jewelry. Anyhow thanks for writting Kacey! Hugs C In , " kaceybu02 " <kaceyalong@h...> wrote: > , > > I'm sooooo sorry to hear about your sister. I have six younger > sisters, and if they ever decided to get implants after seeing > everything I've been through, well...I'm not sure if I could NOT > take it personally. I don't even know if I'd be able to speak to > them, literally, I don't think any words would come out. I know > there's so many issues that make up sisterhood and that things are > pretty complex. One of my sisters even went so far to say that " it > would never happen to her because SHE never has ANY medical > problems " ...sort of acting like it's my fault because I'm weird or > something. I think you definitely did the right thing by writing > her a letter. I'm sure it made it much easier for you to tell her > how you are feeling. I guess all you can do is be there for her if > and when she needs you. I hate that even when warned, some people > truly think they are immune. I always say, " It happened to me, it > could happen to anyone. I'm not THAT different or special. " If you > see one person who is sick, then another.. the odds are definitely > not in the breast implants favor. WE ARE NOT THAT SPECIAL, it's > just that we are not being acurately represented to the public. > > Blessings, > Kacey > > > > I am sure I shared with you all about my sister who got implants > > about a year ago. So far she is supposedly thrilled and happy. I > > wrote her a letter telling her how I felt about it and trying to > > explain my feelings will never be positive ones. What would you > guys > > do if this was your sister who had seen you so ill and still got > > implants? How would you feel and what would you do? I just don't > know > > how or what I can do to feel right about this. > > hugs > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2003 Report Share Posted November 11, 2003 , I'm so sad for your sister and for you. I know it's so hard for people to understand us...that's why I'm so thankful for this group. I hate that your family is just passing your sickness off as " you were just more susceptable, or different, or something " . That's just not the case. Sometimes I think, if we can't convince our own families, how are we going to make a difference in the lives of others. But then I think about the subject of sharing my faith with my family, and realize that it is actually much easier to talk to a complete stranger about my belief in Jesus Christ, than it is to evangelize to my family. How weird that Jesus and breast implants have something in common So at least we can take comfort in the fact that we are still making a difference, even if it's not where we would first like to see it. Oh, and just another thought. My friend (with salines who helped me get them) who works for a plastic surgeon was just telling me that she thought she was too big and wanted to get reduced. (This was right before I started telling her about all of my problems/explantation) And after I talked, she told me that she was thinking about getting silicone gel-filled put in. I hope that I made a difference, but if she gets silicone, I will just die. I'll definitely understand what it feels like to be in your boat. Take care and best wishes, Kacey > > > I am sure I shared with you all about my sister who got implants > > > about a year ago. So far she is supposedly thrilled and happy. I > > > wrote her a letter telling her how I felt about it and trying to > > > explain my feelings will never be positive ones. What would you > > guys > > > do if this was your sister who had seen you so ill and still got > > > implants? How would you feel and what would you do? I just don't > > know > > > how or what I can do to feel right about this. > > > hugs > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2003 Report Share Posted November 11, 2003 It is very hard on us when we warn people about what we went through and then they go ahead and do it anyhow! Part of that frustration I feel comes from us wishing someone had warned us ya know? I feel that way anyhow. I don't know if I would have listened or not, at least not from a total stranger, however it I had seen my sister go through what I did, I would have been way too scared to have gotten the implants anyhow. I mean to be honest I knew my sister was still unhappy with her boobs, but I figured that she would never have the guts to go through with it after all she watched me go through. I know that being around so many girls with implants where she works out at and stuff, made it all seem really attractive though. It is hard when it seems everyone is doing fine. I wish I could understand more about why some of us get sick so fast, but it is still my opinion that it happens allot more than anyhone realizes. I still also believe allot of women don't talk about their health issues, and don't relate them to the implants either. Hugs C In , " kaceybu02 " <kaceyalong@h...> wrote: > , > > I'm so sad for your sister and for you. I know it's so hard for > people to understand us...that's why I'm so thankful for this > group. I hate that your family is just passing your sickness off > as " you were just more susceptable, or different, or something " . > That's just not the case. > > Sometimes I think, if we can't convince our own families, how are we > going to make a difference in the lives of others. But then I think > about the subject of sharing my faith with my family, and realize > that it is actually much easier to talk to a complete stranger about > my belief in Jesus Christ, than it is to evangelize to my family. > How weird that Jesus and breast implants have something in > common So at least we can take comfort in the fact that we are > still making a difference, even if it's not where we would first > like to see it. > > Oh, and just another thought. My friend (with salines who helped me > get them) who works for a plastic surgeon was just telling me that > she thought she was too big and wanted to get reduced. (This was > right before I started telling her about all of my > problems/explantation) And after I talked, she told me that she was > thinking about getting silicone gel-filled put in. I hope that I > made a difference, but if she gets silicone, I will just die. I'll > definitely understand what it feels like to be in your boat. > > Take care and best wishes, > Kacey > > > > > > > I am sure I shared with you all about my sister who got > implants > > > > about a year ago. So far she is supposedly thrilled and happy. > I > > > > wrote her a letter telling her how I felt about it and trying > to > > > > explain my feelings will never be positive ones. What would > you > > > guys > > > > do if this was your sister who had seen you so ill and still > got > > > > implants? How would you feel and what would you do? I just > don't > > > know > > > > how or what I can do to feel right about this. > > > > hugs > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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