advice? ideas? HELP

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Sigh. I will warn you all that I am extremely upset at the

moment ......so keep that in mind when reading this. Double sigh.

My daughter is 12 years old. She received the implant at age 5. She

has done very well with it. Not the " TOP " stories you hear

about........but definitely better than " average " .

Anyhow.........she is in middle school now......6th grade......fully

mainstreamed (and has been since 1st grade). We are having such

problems with her wearing the FM. They tested her without the FM

and she " heard " 40% of the information presented.............WITH the

FM she jumped to 100%. YET......she has been lying and sneaking and

well the latest straw is tonight......I went to throw the clothes

from the washer to the dryer and out falls the part of the FM that

she wears. I WASHED IT! I know its partly my own fault for

not checking her pants pockets better but still! Why is it home?

Why was it in her pocket? Why did she throw the pants down to be

washed?!?!? GGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRr. Sorry.

Her grades have suffered this year. She was almost an all A

student......and for the first grading period this year she got one

A........all B's or B- and one C. She has had missing assignments

and we kept hearing " but she never said that was homework! " ........

YEAH RIGHT! BUT....then the night of conferences.......we went to

check out her locker.......and there was the microphone. We

said " Why is this in your locker? " She said " We had a bomb threat

and they wouldn't let us go back to our lockers " (which was

true....sad but true....small town) BUT...then it dawned on

us.......where was HER part? We asked her and then figured out that

she has been just handing the teachers the microphone and NOT ever

booting her part in. Clever I suppose.....but devious! We called

her out..........she cried........said it wouldn't happen

again..........but it did.......so I had the audiologist and TOD talk

to her....got better for a week or so.......then again it

happened........so I had the school counselor speak with her. (that

was 2 weeks ago) and now this.........her FM piece in her pocket.

She just brought me up an apology letter she wrote to the audiologist

(which I asked her to do) and in it it says she was NOT wearing her

part in last hour and forgot about it then being in her pocket.

She had done it again....just gave the teacher the microphone.

Sigh. And now her part is ruined and I am worried sick they will ask

us to pay for it...........We don't have the money for that and she

can;t make it without it.

Anyhow....THANKS for listening and PLEASE help me know what to do.

Thank you! And if you know of another forum or listserver this

should be sent to.........please let me know that too.

TAKE CARE,

Happy Holidays!

(WI)

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Hi, ,

It sounds like the problem is that she is TWELVE! I know that doesn't

help, but unfortunately it's true. She doesn't want to be singled out,

especially this first year in Middle School. We had a kid who used to flush his

hearing aids down the toilet! We teachers couldn't allow him to go to the men's

room unattended! How are her lip reading skills? I wonder if going back to

the old tried and true " sitting in the front row " might help a little. A talk

with her and the teachers together to " brainstorm " an unobtrusive way to allow

her to wear her FM and not have it obvious that it's solely for her? Although

she is mainstreamed, I wonder if the special ed/deaf/HH staff might be able

to help here? Sending you prayers to help you cope at this difficult time.

Wouldn't hurt to ask your doctor for some xanax, either - for you! LOL Good

luck! Jackie :o/

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