worried about my husband

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hi all - my name is mandy and I am 26 and married to gary (32) and we

have 3 daughters, 4,2 and 8 weeks

gary has been ill since april 2006 - started with an ear infection

which he caught whikst working at a nursing home - developed into a

chronic ear infection as after umpteen treatments it is still affecting

him.

he got gradually worse and he became exhausted collapsing at work and

blacking out at home. december 2006 he passed out for a good 10 minutes

whilst he fed our eldest 2. this prompted me to get him to doctors

again where they thought he had epilepsy/brain tumours etc and told him

he would have a 12 month wait to see any nuerologists. In the meantime

he had lost 2 jobs because of this

february 2007 we were fed up and couldn't wait that long to find out if

it was a tumour so my parents paid for us to see a bupa nuerologist

he checked him over (no proper tests) and diagnosed CFS/ME in april 2007

he was really ill and lost a total of 3 jobs due to passing out - we

had no money coming in so he applied for over 70 jobs - no one wanted

to hire him so we gave up and he applied for incapacity benefit in july

2007

he is constantly dizzy and exhausted and we dont have the lives we used

to - he cant play with his daughters for 5 minutes without passing out

he has now developed really bad headaches - ie yesterday he couldn't

get out of bed - had sharp headache and bad dizziness - so bad he had

to clutch his head. I have come into living room before to him lying on

floor holding his head

we are worried it might be something else but the doctors aren't

interested. someone mentioned to me about hypotyroid? but how do we

approach this with doctors who aren't bothered?

to add to all this they have stopped his incapacity benefit cause he

didn't score enough points on the medical - currently appealing

his doctor also put him on anti depressents - no idea why cause he

aint depressed.

not sure if this is linked or not but since age of 2 gary's hands have

shaked - it gets bad sometimes that he avoids certain tasks

any help/advice greatly appreciated.

thank you - Mandy

xxx