hurt feelings

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In a message dated 8/14/2002 7:49:11 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

Mommy2Adam@... writes:

> She said she really couldn't walk and was dragging her leg

> around. She wanted me to drive her to the urgent care. She went on to

> tell me that her husband had a school class to go to so he couldn't

> drive her. Then she said this " I told my husband I was going to ask

> you to take me to the urgent care and he said. " " oh great the cripple

> leading the cripple " . He also said that she was walking just like me. "

>

Ya know I think I figured out why I did not find his comments funny. His

wife will be fixed at the doctors and I won't be. That is not funny.

jenny

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Your very correct, he does have problems and she does come

second. My husband would miss a class to take me to the doctor.

I wonder why she would tell me what he said?

jenny

[Guest guest]

Good for you. Why did she feel the need to tell you what he had

said? She should have known that you would be hurt by it? I have

to use my wheelchair more often then not lately, I get so upset

and down right mad when someone I know or knows my children and

grandchildren that talk to me louder, and slower and treat me like

I don't have a brain in my head because my legs don't work right.

When I first went to sell at a craft faire, People loved my

work I sold almost out. I was feeling great until I overheard one

of my customers telling another one that " We as a community should

support our retarded, and they do such nice work you wouldn't know

it wasn't made by a regular person. " Why is it people feel it's

necessary to categorize people? we are all people no matter if we

are slow, blind deaf or have a disability of any kind. Now I can

get off my soap box before I fall and break the other arm.

Stout

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In a message dated 8/15/2002 10:41:09 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

liliwigg@... writes:

> You will go on from here, stronger and more caring from this

> experience.

>

> ~ G

>

Thanks G, I feel mad today. She sure crossed a line.

j

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In a message dated 8/15/2002 10:12:09 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

LldyBg013@... writes:

> When I first went to sell at a craft faire, People loved my

> work I sold almost out. I was feeling great until I overheard one

> of my customers telling another one that " We as a community should

> support our retarded, and they do such nice work you wouldn't know

> it wasn't made by a regular person. " Why is it people feel it's

> necessary to categorize people? we are all people no matter if we

> are slow, blind deaf or have a disability of any kind. Now I can

> get off my soap box before I fall and break the other arm.

>

> Stout

>

Oh that was awful for her to say that! What a dumb lady that was.

I have a neighbor in a wheel chair. She is a great friend to me. Last week

she told me people won't talk to her because of the chair. It's so sad!

jenny

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Oh , I am so sorry you had to endure this. You are such a good

mother, friend, neighbor, etc. People anywhere can be completely

insensitive to those of us who are challenged in some ways. Especially

when our 'challenge' is not so noticeable or we just keep doing

our lives without a thought to our own limitations.

Remember, next time the s--- flies, from anyone, - Duck!

You will go on from here, stronger and more caring from this

experience.

~ G

[Guest guest]

There is no reason for any of us to be made to feel inferior or less because

we have to use a chair or any other divide to help us be more independent. In

fact I believe that my husband wished I wasn't

so independent, and mouthy as he calls it. He is always worried I will pop

off to the wrong person and get physically hurt. He wishes that I would

restrain myself, but it really upsets me that there are so many ignorant

people in the world that don't have to be. Here I go again my soap box is

starting to get a groove wore on it can't stand on it to long but when

I do watch out; I'm on the loose again.

Stout

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,

Sorry about how your mom thinks about CMT. I know. Both my parents are very

unaccepting and my father wouldn't even go near a Dr. who would even think he

might have anything to do with my CMT. However, his brother's wife, (my aunt),

has told me he had braces on his feet when he was young. I don't know, and I'll

probably never know because when I try to approach him about this, he gets mad

and says " Do I look like I have anything wrong with me?! " . Like that would

define him as a person, so I have to think he defines me as someone with CMT and

that's mainly what he sees. Which is very exhausting and depressing for me and

probably a big reason I am so embarrased about it.

I won't let hardly anyone know about my braces. I cover them with socks and

pants and, for the most part, have a low self-esteem. Of course, he is not

totally to blame. Our entire society is based on beauty and physical skill and I

have yet to see braces and AFOs in any beauty magazine. Anyway, just wanted to

say, you are not alone in feeling the shame, guilt, etc. of CMT.

Dawn