Re: bad mood

[Guest guest]

Hi

Sorry to hear about your many challenges, they are certainly what makes one

strong and builds character.

I was born with Scoliosis I had 3 operations, I still deal with allot of pain

every day.

Its true God only gives us what He has already given us the strength to go

through.

Do you know Jesus as your personel Saviour?

Must go for now do write soon

Dot

dotnew@...

bad mood

I'm in a very bad mood. I am also a survivor of incest and you can

find me on an incest survivors gourp. When I was a kid, i had very

bad asthma. I was sick all the time. I was SKINNY. I had back

problems by the time i was 17, but by then, I had everything

else....dad was a pig, mom was mean, kids at school hated me, I got

an asthma attack everytime I used my energy, and every time i turned

around I was in the hospital. Now I am almost 38 and have to deal

with bursitis, sciatica and scoliosis. They say God only gives you

what you can handle....I guess that's why he didnt give me the

scoliosis till after my childhood afflictions were over, but now

that i reflect on my life, i want to know one thing....WHY? WHY?

WHY? Can't I jut be normal for a while?!!!!!!!

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 11/4/02 8:07:54 PM Central Standard Time,

jessie_meadows@... writes:

> --I am sorry you have had so much to deal with. Not much of a god person

> myself..tend to beleive

> in the power of positive thinking, a sense of humor and taking charge of

> one's own pain.

I agree, no matter where you get your strength from, God, your family or

friends, this group, wherever, a positive attitude and a support system is a

must. I know when I let it all pile up and get me down the pain when I focus

on nothing else but the negative is much worse. Finding this group and

knowing that others have the same problems that I do was great--not that I am

glad that anyone else has problems from their scoliosis, but that I am not

the only one.

I liked your comment, Jessie about going to Shriner's. My pain level has

gotten steadily worse over that past two years, to the point that I am

walking with a cane most of the time, my activities have been severely

limited, and the pain is really out of control. But I volunteer at a place

similiar the Mc house and there are so many people that are in

much worse shape that I am.

I just know that when I get depressed over all the things that I cannot do,

or all the things that I have been through, then it is easier to focus on the

pain rather than try and get through it. I also do not want to discount

anything that anyone else has been through, I just know in my own life, I

have been in both places adn the poitive attitude helps.

JMHO,

[Guest guest]

It's okay... don't worry about it. I just didn't want it to get out

of hand. The main reason for the restriction is that being an

international group we have to remember that others don't share the

same faith and you can appreciate the strife religious discussions

cause around the world.

A lot of people do find comfort in religion and it's not a bad thing.

You meant well. A personal message would be more appropriate in this

case... I am sure you understand my position.

[Guest guest]

Dear

I am so, so sorry to hear of everything that you've been through. I just don't

have any words to make life better for you. The only thing I can do is listen

and say I am here if you need to talk some more. You know, I have asked myself

that question a lot of times...Why can't I just be normal. I also crave for

maybe even one day to be " normal " . Before my surgery I used to stare at people's

straight backs. Now I find myself staring at people who are able to bend at the

waist. I thought surgery was going to solve everything, but it didn't. It gave

me a new set of problems which I'm still dealing with. All I know is that each

one of us has a package to deal with. I know some have more than others.

Sometimes we look at others and are either thankful that we don't have theirs,

or jealous that we don't have theirs, and they, ours. But we have to keep on

keeping on and just trust that someday we will see the big picture because now

we only see a small piece of the puzzle. That does

not mean there isn't a bigger picture, but just that we can't see it right now.

We have to keep on hoping and keep on looking out for that cure, or that magic

that is going to make life a bit more tolerable. In my own life that magic has

been to surround me with wonderful friends, doing what I can and try to ignore

what I can't, living life moment by moment and definitely trying not to dread

the new day. Not that I've perfected it, not so. Yesterday when the alarm clock

went off, my reaction was: Aaagh Shut Up. What a way to start the day?!- Well, I

have my days too. But fortunately I've learnt not to allow myself to even go

there, although it sometimes catches me off guard. I have to confess that I had

to go on an anti-depressant for a couple of months when I was really really

depressed and maybe that is something you could consider, just to get you over

this bump. Then I also got a cute dog about two months ago from a rescue foster

mom. She is just so precious and gives me

so much love, I can't help to smile when I get up. It is a Chinese Crested dog

and I can really recommend the breed. I've never had a dog like her. She thinks

she's a cat, but really is a dog, and goes to the bathroom like a male, even

though she's a, well, she.

There is a very thin line between going on and self pity. I pray that you will

find strength and will see small ways that can make your life a bit easier.

Take care of yourself and please write again-

Sanette

www.sanette.net

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[Guest guest]

Than you all who responded to my bad mood. I am sorry however I

started the religon conflict. It was just a saying I have always

heard, weather it's God ar anyother higher power. I am still not too

sure where I stand on the relious issues anyway so I wil keep any

religous coments to my self or e-mail. The bad mood has passed

however, and I wanted to thank you all again for your warm support!

:->

-- In Scoliosis Treatment@y..., " " <cinder.min@v...> wrote:

> I'm in a very bad mood. I am also a survivor of incest and you

can

> find me on an incest survivors gourp. When I was a kid, i had

very

> bad asthma. I was sick all the time. I was SKINNY. I had back

> problems by the time i was 17, but by then, I had everything

> else....dad was a pig, mom was mean, kids at school hated me, I

got

> an asthma attack everytime I used my energy, and every time i

turned

> around I was in the hospital. Now I am almost 38 and have to deal

> with bursitis, sciatica and scoliosis. They say God only gives

you

> what you can handle....I guess that's why he didnt give me the

> scoliosis till after my childhood afflictions were over, but now

> that i reflect on my life, i want to know one thing....WHY? WHY?

> WHY? Can't I jut be normal for a while?!!!!!!!

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Sanette.

You always shed more light than heat!

I am very grumpy from holidays with and without various family

members and a few other things, and should probably not be posting

anything anywhere at the moment.

I also wish better things and brighter days. There sure is a

thin line between wherever most of us are right now and self-pity,

and it's so easy to find yourself on the other side, bemoaning your

fate. Life is hard and sometimes downright rotten. People seem to

damage each other so much, out of cruelty or egocentric self-

absorption or incomprehensible ignorance . . .

Well, I am going to try and do better this coming year, and will

start by being kinder to myself.

Eliana

Eliana

> Dear

> I am so, so sorry to hear of everything that you've been through. I

just don't have any words to make life better for you. The only thing

I can do is listen and say I am here if you need to talk some more.

You know, I have asked myself that question a lot of times...Why

can't I just be normal. I also crave for maybe even one day to

be " normal " . Before my surgery I used to stare at people's straight

backs. Now I find myself staring at people who are able to bend at

the waist. I thought surgery was going to solve everything, but it

didn't. It gave me a new set of problems which I'm still dealing

with. All I know is that each one of us has a package to deal with. I

know some have more than others. Sometimes we look at others and are

either thankful that we don't have theirs, or jealous that we don't

have theirs, and they, ours. But we have to keep on keeping on and

just trust that someday we will see the big picture because now we

only see a small piece of the puzzle. That does

> not mean there isn't a bigger picture, but just that we can't see

it right now. We have to keep on hoping and keep on looking out for

that cure, or that magic that is going to make life a bit more

tolerable. In my own life that magic has been to surround me with

wonderful friends, doing what I can and try to ignore what I can't,

living life moment by moment and definitely trying not to dread the

new day. Not that I've perfected it, not so. Yesterday when the alarm

clock went off, my reaction was: Aaagh Shut Up. What a way to start

the day?!- Well, I have my days too. But fortunately I've learnt not

to allow myself to even go there, although it sometimes catches me

off guard. I have to confess that I had to go on an anti-depressant

for a couple of months when I was really really depressed and maybe

that is something you could consider, just to get you over this bump.

Then I also got a cute dog about two months ago from a rescue foster

mom. She is just so precious and gives me

> so much love, I can't help to smile when I get up. It is a

Chinese Crested dog and I can really recommend the breed. I've never

had a dog like her. She thinks she's a cat, but really is a dog, and

goes to the bathroom like a male, even though she's a, well, she.

> There is a very thin line between going on and self pity. I pray

that you will find strength and will see small ways that can make

your life a bit easier.

> Take care of yourself and please write again-

> Sanette

> www.sanette.net

>

>

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