Guest guest Posted April 11, 2001 Report Share Posted April 11, 2001 yep it stinks when you wanna have company, but cant clean the house. happens to me all the time. You just do your best and hope your friend is there to see you and not your house. Melinda At 02:15 PM 4/11/01 -0700, you wrote: I shouldn't let myself stress out about Easter but I want to celebrate. I invited a friend over for dinner, the night before Easter. Now I am wondering how I will get the house clean. I can figure out how to cook with some convenience items and she won't mind if I use Easter paper plates. The shopping is a bit stressful but I can handle that. The cleaning is the hardest. I cannot do much and I have been in extreme pain this week, so I can do even little. I have no money to pay anyone. I am tired of being unable to do anything. I am tired of not having any money. I know, same old stuff. I think it is even harder this time because it is the first holiday without Mom, She always made a big deal out of Easter. Lee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2001 Report Share Posted April 12, 2001 In a message dated 4/12/01 1:21:26 PM Eastern Daylight Time, paulsons5@... writes: not having any money. I know, same old stuff. I think it is even harder this time because it is the first holiday without Mom, She always made a big deal out of Easter. Lee, (((((HUGS)))))! I know. But its alright, its not about your house being clean. Hon they will not look at your house. the joy of Easter is what we celebrate not how well your house is cleaned and do not make excuses! Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2001 Report Share Posted April 17, 2001 *hugs to you Lee* How did it go? Personally I think if they are a true friend they wont care how the house looks cause they are there to see you! Love ish. > > I shouldn't let myself stress out about Easter but I want to celebrate. I invited a friend over for dinner, the night before Easter. Now I am wondering how I will get the house clean. I can figure out how to cook with some convenience items and she won't mind if I use Easter paper plates. The shopping is a bit stressful but I can handle that. The cleaning is the hardest. I cannot do much and I have been in extreme pain this week, so I can do even little. I have no money to pay anyone. I am tired of being unable to do anything. I am tired of not having any money. I know, same old stuff. I think it is even harder this time because it is the first holiday without Mom, She always made a big deal out of Easter. > > Lee > > > > --------------------------------- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2001 Report Share Posted April 18, 2001 Easter went fine. My friend didn't say anything about the house. I just locked my bedroom, so that I didn't have to clean it or my bathroom!!! Love, Lee Aisha Elderwyn <aisha@...> wrote: *hugs to you Lee*How did it go?Personally I think if they are a true friend they wont care how the house looks cause they are there to see you!Love ish. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2001 Report Share Posted December 23, 2001 Hello Aureen, I want to thank you for this reminder about expectations. My OCD son has been doing fairly well of late (at least compared tothe early years!) and sometimes I tend to push the envelope a little too far during periods when I am more stressed than usual(ie. during the holidays). I have been way too distracted by " grown up worries " this holiday season and I am afraid my little ones are sort of getting lost in the shuffle, so to speak. I have been on edge an awful lot myself, and my moods definitely have an impact on the children, especially when they are about to go OVER the edge because they are so excited about Christmas coming! For the next few days I am going to make a bigger attempt at taking care of myself, forget temporarily about the changes I am attempting to make in my personal life and concentrate more fully on helping my children to navigate safely and happily though the church Christmas pageant and opening presents. Over the years I have been successful in warding off the relatives, so I guess that is one less worry! Happy holidays to you and your family, in Southeastern PA Aureen Pinto Wagner wrote: Hello listers: A belated Happy Hannukah and a Merry Christmas to all who celebrate. While the holidays are a time of good cheer and excitement, for many of us, they fall short of the " Hallmark holiday " experience for a variety of reasons. I like to use the " 50/50 Rule " for situations that involve a lot of expectations: 50% of it will turn out the way you expected, and 50% won't, but you don't know which 50% will be which. (Feel free to adapt the percentages to 80/20 or 30/70). Holidays are loaded with expectations: Hallmark's expectations, ours, our kids,' relatives etc etc. Breaking free of expectations of how the holidays " should be " may ease some of the disappointment and disenchantment that follows. Most of us want to relive, with our children, our fond recollections of holidays of OUR childhoods. That's where the " should be " can be a big set-up. It's a time to create new memories, and let our children play a role in forming them. With regard to OCDers and others who may sometimes " ruin " the holidays, it may be helpful to be proactive, preventive and positive. Try to spend more YAMA (You and Me Alone) time with your child. Make a list of the situations that typically trigger stress--big family gatherings, lots of noise, way too many presents etc. Anticipate these situations and either avoid (yes, I said avoid--forget about exposure for the moment) or tone them down if possible. Sit down with your child and ask him or her what's special about the holidays for him, what he would like to do to make it special, and come up with a way to incorporate your child's ideas to make the holiday memorable (if it's within reason). Create NEW holiday rituals and memories with your family rather than try hard to follow in the footsteps of the old. During your YAMA time, let your child know the plans, what to expect for each day, give him/her a chance to express apprehensions, and try to rehearse potentially sticky situations. Set consequences ahead of time for behaviors over which your child has control. Decide if your child is prepared to get through some of them or whether it's better to do something different. Give your child incentives and rewards for EFFORT in the right direction. And, acknowledge every positive step your child takes. Build in some time for yourself---breaks from all the hustle and bustle, quiet time for yourself, prepare yourself for handling the unexpected (remove surprised and shocked from this list). The holidays can be whatever and whenever you make them! Peace to all Aureen Wagner Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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