Guest guest Posted May 17, 2011 Report Share Posted May 17, 2011 Art if Judging People May 16, 2010Judging is a way of dominating, and controlling people. Why judge positively, or negatively when there are other options. Are you really walking in their shoes, and do you know what their life’s path has been? It is better to find things that people do well, coming from sincere integrity with love, and compliment them, than to find fault which really is a way to control their future behavior that may, or may not be helpful. Judge your own judgment as to it’s credibility, usefulness to the other, and if they really want to receive it. Judge to help, neither too much or too little. I have a friend with a daughter which she compliments many, many times per day, when instead to be more discerning of the compliments, and amount of them particularly, probably is better for the child who may come to expect, erroneously, the same treatment from others as time goes by. People can become ‘addicts for positive judging’, and in a sense be controlled by the need for more and more compliments or positive evaluations. Close connections with someone requires love, and judgments are unnecessary when just showing love is more meaningful. There is no need to manipulate, dominate and control, but to live with a natural flow of love. For couples living in love, you need to be mindful that you think, and feel as one mind, heart, and spirit, so why judge the union of the selves that merges into an ‘us’ or we? For those with a more ‘removed friendship’, it is wise to straddle the decision to both find love in your heart, and overlook the temptation to judge with use of discernment as to it’s level of ‘welcome’. We have been conditioned to judge people as good or bad according to some concept of what is allegedly normal, and right or wrong. You are not conditioned to love people. Love knows no judgment, but simply accepts people as they are. Any thoughts of changing another does not require judging, but showing love, and being an example of that love. Each person, as they are, contributes to life in ways that are beneficial if one takes the time to see them from the heart and awareness. Always, a smile within, gives out a message of love. ArhataArhataOsho.com 1 of 1 File(s) Art of Judging People.pages Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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