Guest guest Posted April 17, 2011 Report Share Posted April 17, 2011 >Bayard, I was reading Skill 10: Unravel the Pathological Matrix ><http://www.immunics.org/00open/prepare/preunr.htm>http://www.immunics.org/00op\ en/prepare/preunr.htm, > >and I really liked what you said....... can I post this on my facebook page? > > " Just as the eyes don't see themselves, we don't see our disease. > >Not until we've cleared up at least some of it. Any aspect of non-physical >disease that remains in what I call " 100% state " is absolutely invisible >to it's host. This is how what we know to be self-destructive behaviors in >those we love can seem completely normal to them. >People wonder why they come down with a physical illness just as some >wonderful break in their life is happening. >It's three days before their testimonial dinner, or they're getting >married, and suddenly they became physically ill and can't understand why. >They know there's a connection, they know that it's not just a coincidence >that they contracted a physical illness right before something wonderful >was scheduled. This is what disease looks like. >The disease was there before the physical illness took shape. >We never really hate a person. We hate their disease. >Disease destroys caring when the disease is non-physical, when neither >partner have any way of viewing the sickness as a disease. When the >disease becomes the person, when it is a non-physical infection, when the >disease becomes indistinguishable from the person, when it invades every >aspect of their personality, when it makes them be combative, stingy, >vapid, or any of a thousand other hurtful ways, the loathing we feel for >the disease - well, for us it is a loathing of the person. >It's easy, or at least easier, for us to keep liking and loving loved ones >when they become physically ill. Even when the physical illness enervates >them so that they verbally or even physically assault us. Even when, as a >result of their physical pain, they manipulate us emotionally. >But when the disease is non-physical, our love is undermined and our >alliance with them becomes vulnerable. Wonderful friendships and love >affairs end because somebody had a flare-up of an illness that was dormant >at the beginning. Or where the partners keep reinfecting each other. >Disease destroys caring. >Really it is our powerlessness in the face of the others diseased and >destructive behaviors that we loathe, that destroys our caring. >That is until we see through it. Until we see only a sick and suffering >person. To see another's disease that clearly, I must have at least have >begun to remove my own disease. >When I love someone who is locked in disease, and I recognize and remove >my own disease, understanding and forgiveness for him flowers in my heart. >Suddenly I do truly love the person. And I see his disease for what it is. >I also don't find the disease as horrible. I'm not even as repulsed by it. >I have my power back. >Now I feel like I can do something. " [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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