Love is the context for cure because it makes you intuitive and hard working

[Guest guest]

Have you ever heard of the love movement? It's big, all over. But you've

probably never heard of it, because it's so big nobody has to talk about it.

Really, the only reason to talk about love is to clear up misconceptions.

You know, I have so often heard, here there and everywhere, that you can cure

somebody's cancer, or prevent them from dying of AIDS, if you can just give them

enough love, or if they can just let in enough love. Then, when the person

died, the people holding that opinion would sit around talking about how they

weren't able to give the person enough love, or the person wasn't able to

receive enough love. People hold fast to their theories, even when their

theories kill them.

But love does make a huge difference if you keep it in. You know , the

guy who cured his cancer -- his CureShows are on the Cancer CureShow page?

http://www.wayimmune.org/00-cure_shows/cancer/cure-cancer.htm

I think at least partially cured his cancer because he loved his family.

was not naturally intuitive or hard-working, and when he discovered he

had cancer he was in the process of leaving his family. But as his doctor told

him he was dying, he began working with Keely, who asked him the right

questions, and then he changed his mind and re-bonded with his family. And then

that story had that wonderful happy ending.

There's a great example of how love works.

One of my favorite " Chicken Soup for the Soul " books was the one about cancer,

and the sad thing is that so many of those people who created those inspiring

stories died.

There was so much love there, and so much inspiration, and so little cure. And

you know, sometimes when we tell you to take action to help people, like by

putting bumper stickers on the windows of all four sides of your car, well,

sometimes maybe you don't get it, and you think we're just trying to get you to

do something you don't want to do. You haven't yet realized that when you

express your love by helping people cure things, just helping them in a simple

way like telling them they can with a bumper sticker,

http://www.wayimmune.org/00open/1_save_lives/stickers.htm

without running too many head trips about whether it's going to work or not, you

just do it and have a little faith that the right people will pick up on it,

well,

we're telling you to get into your love, which is going to make you intuitive

and hard-working, and a lot of other things that will cause you to be a lot

better at curing.

And how do I know that you're not already as good at curing as you'll ever get,

so putting bumper stickers on your car won't help you personally? Well, I know

that because you don't have bumper stickers on your car, and anybody who knows

people cure things and doesn't do everything they can to express that people

cure things -- and you can certainly put bumper stickers on your car -- is

dysfunctional, and so not as able to cure things as they could be. That's how I

know.

Right now I'm expressing my love to you, by writing you this e-mail. I can do

that even though I don't know you, just like you can express your love to tons

of people you don't know by putting bumper stickers on your car, which I've also

done with mine.

And what kind of love am I expressing? Tough love.

It's what you're going to probably have to express to the people you care about,

if you ever get into a situation where they're going to die unless they learn

how to cure things, or be crippled, or disfigured, or just continue creeping

along at their petty pace.

So you'll need to get good at tough love. But there's also a better way.

If you simply involve a lot of people, you won't have to be so tough with any

given person. You don't have to beat your husband up to get him to test through

the Hub every morning. Just have a regular Thursday evening where you invite

everybody you both know over.

For the first one, don't tell anyone, including him, what it's about. You just

stand up in front of them, without a word of explanation, and show them how to

cure things. It will work for about 20% of them within the first moment or two,

and then the others will know it's real, and that makes it a lot easier to shut

them up. And you refuse to answer the retrogressive questions they ask, and

just go on and get everybody to try it again. And if you asked them to try it

enough times, at some point most of them will be doing it, and they'll know it's

real, and then your husband will know he should test through the Hub every

morning, and it will become a lot easier to get him to actually do that when you

remind him to.

You’ll still need tough love, every step of the way. You still have to refuse

to do some of the things people ask you to do, sometimes insist that you do; you

still have to ask people to do things that they want to refuse to do, just out

of their stupid principles, their stupid, self-defeating, dysfunctional

principles that will eventually result in their physical death unless you do

something that undoes them principles, and causes them to substitute real,

functional principles. And I'm not talking about feeding people dogma here. I

never tell anybody about my principles. They come into the right ones on their

own, for sure. And love means waiting, and letting them come into the right

principles, but love also means putting them in a context where they can't fail

to do that.

Well, they can fail to do that. Anybody can fail to do anything, if they try to

fail hard enough; that's why they need to be around a bunch of people who are

succeeding, and who may also want to fail as much as they do, but who succeed

nevertheless, because it's as easy as falling off a log.

And you know what? Sometimes tough love is the only love that's presenting any

kind of option at all. It can just be so impossible to love someone when you're

watching them destroy themselves, at least to actively love them and express

that. You may be saying you love them, but all you're really expressing is

failure, disappointment, and concern as you beg them to change. So don't beg

them to change. Tell them what to do. And if they don't do it, leave them

alone, and keep loving them anyway.

Tough love is about telling people what to do, creating contexts in which it's

more likely, though not absolutely certain ever, that they will do it; tough

love is about keeping yourself together and not sacrificing too much for them.

Tough love is about having what you want -- that's how you serve as a role

model.

That's why you're supposed to leave your abusive partner, and help from a

greater distance, so you don't get abused. And if that distance has to be that

you never talk to them again, because if that person finds you he or she will

kill you or maim you -- well, they'll probably get something out of that, out of

never being talked to again; they'll probably get the message. And then, if

they ever have a moment of lucidity, they can wish that you're having a good

life, wherever you are, which you probably will be. And wishing that will heal

them. So you will have helped them, and expressed your love by helping them.

Which is how we express our love for people, by helping them.

I love all people, even people I don't like, which is why I have those bumper

stickers on my car windows -- that way I don't have to talk to them.

And, because most of us don't have abusive partners, we have partners that we

both love and like even though they're not perfect, and I'll tell you this

little story --

A friend of mine, and it will probably be obvious why I will allow her to remain

nameless here, though she will for sure read this e-mail and know who she is,

put a bumper sticker on her husband's truck; and back then her husband was not

so willing to cure things, or know he could, and maybe still isn't -- that I'm

not sure of. Well, his predictable response, the first time he looked at his

truck, was, " Hey, what's that doing there? I don't want a bumper sticker on my

truck. "

And she just said -- " Leave it on. You don't want the karma. " And maybe he did

leave it on, that I don't know about, but if he did, she had come up with a

really good way to remind him, automatically, day in and day out, that people

cure things, and so can he, although probably he didn't even notice it after a

while, and sterner measures were still required.

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