Tired of trying to explain..

[Guest guest]

Beth,

I'm proud to be a " domestic engineer. " ;-) I believe it's what God

has called me to be, and it took an incurable disorder to knock me

over the head to realize that I needed to be at home to care for my

husband and children.

Just remember that what other people think is their problem, not

yours. How you handle it and feel about it is the only thing you can

control.

God bless,

Amity Keele

> Tired of trying to explain..

>

>

> Hi Everyone!

> I just wanted to ask you all for some advice. How do

you handle social situations when people realize you don't work

outside the home?

[Guest guest]

I'm luckier than you in that I'm almost at retirement age. People often ask 'are you working?' and when I reply 'not anymore', we just move on with the conversation.

You might try saying that you suffer from a severe pain condition and that looking after your family and house is extremely difficult.

Or..that you have many extremely sick days with your condition and that this just happens to be one of your better days.

It can be tough I know.

ine

Dominie From: bethmrmn@...Date: Fri, 23 May 2008 09:50:56 -0700Subject: Tired of trying to explain..

Hi Everyone! I just wanted to ask you all for some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize you don't work outside the home? For example, yesterday I stopped at a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive($6.00) manicure. My nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & ahhing over them. They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema but I have been able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all asking where I worked & what I did for a living. I said I didn't work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2 dogs and a cat. They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I explain my fibro to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of "Oh, It must be nice to sit around all day" and similar comments. I work at home as hard as can without overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's just a fact. Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this?? BethBeth Moorman

[Guest guest]

Beth,

I am also tired of explaining.

You are under no obligation to tell them anything about your personal

life.

I usually tell people that I prefer to keep the visit professional or

that I do not like to discuss my private life with people other than

my friends.

>

> Hi Everyone!

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I just wanted to ask you all for

some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize

you don't work outside the home?

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; For example, yesterday I stopped at

a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive($6.00) manicure. My

nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & amp; ahhing

over them.

> & nbsp;They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema

but I have been able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all

asking where I worked & amp; what I did for a living. I said I didn't

work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2

dogs and a cat.

> & nbsp; & nbsp; They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt

somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I

explain my fibro & nbsp; to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has

happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of " Oh, It must be

nice to sit around all day " and similar comments.

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I work at home as hard as can without

overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to

take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's

just a fact.

> & nbsp; Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this??

>

& nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbs

p; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & n

bsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp;

& nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; Beth

>

> Beth Moorman

>

[Guest guest]

Beth,

since I have a hobby with beading, I tell them I'm a jewelry designer. (I plan to develop my jewelry line one day and have my business so it will help.

Karine

Tired of trying to explain..

Hi Everyone! I just wanted to ask you all for some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize you don't work outside the home? For example, yesterday I stopped at a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive($6.00) manicure. My nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & ahhing over them. They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema but I have been able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all asking where I worked & what I did for a living. I said I didn't work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2 dogs and a cat. They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I explain my fibro to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of "Oh, It must be nice to sit around all day" and similar comments. I work at home as hard as can without overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's just a fact. Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this?? BethBeth Moorman

[Guest guest]

> Beth the other ladies gave good advice too.I would smile sweetly

and reply , " I am a domestic engineer " and leave it at that. I do vol

work for Community emergency response Team CERT and I am a vol with

he Fire Dept in any type of emergency in our neighborhood I help out

till fire rescue gets there. even if we see a wreck i go give first

aide triage etc then explain to the fire dept what we have and what

their vitals are too. then I help Dominie out by being a moderator

here. I also take Care of my hubby who is on SDDI and our

dogs,cats,chickens and my roses He helps out too.so i tell them i am

very involved in community affairs and a Vol JAXCERT member. Leave it

at that. Heidi

> Hi Everyone!

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I just wanted to ask you all for

some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize

you don't work outside the home?

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; For example, yesterday I stopped at

a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive($6.00) manicure. My

nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & amp; ahhing

over them.

> & nbsp;They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema

but I have been able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all

asking where I worked & amp; what I did for a living. I said I didn't

work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2

dogs and a cat.

> & nbsp; & nbsp; They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt

somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I

explain my fibro & nbsp; to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has

happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of " Oh, It must be

nice to sit around all day " and similar comments.

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I work at home as hard as can without

overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to

take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's

just a fact.

> & nbsp; Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this??

>

& nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbs

p; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & n

bsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp;

& nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; Beth

>

> Beth Moorman

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Heidi! Great ideas!Beth MoormanFrom: heidi <heidilhlokey@...>Subject: Re: Tired of trying to explain..dominie Date: Saturday, May 24, 2008, 10:12 AM> Beth the other ladies gave good advice too.I would smile sweetly and reply ,"I am a domestic engineer" and leave it at that. I do volwork for Community emergency response Team CERT and I am a vol with he Fire Dept in any type of emergency in our neighborhood I help out till fire rescue gets there. even if we see a wreck i go give

first aide triage etc then explain to the fire dept what we have and what their vitals are too. then I help Dominie out by being a moderator here. I also take Care of my hubby who is on SDDI and our dogs,cats,chickens and my roses He helps out too.so i tell them i am very involved in community affairs and a Vol JAXCERT member. Leave it at that. Heidi> Hi Everyone!> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I just wanted to askyou all for some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize you don't work outside the home?> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; For example, yesterdayI stopped at a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive($6.00) manicure. My nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & amp; ahhing over them.> & nbsp;They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema but I have been

able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all asking where I worked & amp; what I did for a living. I said I didn't work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2 dogs and a cat.> & nbsp; & nbsp; They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I explain my fibro & nbsp; to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of "Oh, It must be nice to sit around all day" and similar comments. > & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I work at home as hard as canwithout overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's just a fact.> & nbsp; Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this??>

& nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; Beth> > Beth Moorman>------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

Hi Beth,

Sounds like they are just jealous. I would love to not work a 40 hr week, and am envious of anyone who doesn't have to.

I too worked 2-3 jobs when my daughter was small and I am positive that's how I ended up with FMS.

Working at home looking after a family IS hard work. I would rather come to work than stay home and clean, cook and wash, which as far as I'm concerned is much harder on your FMS.

You need to feel good about what you do and forget what other people say.

Elsa

From: Beth Moorman <bethmrmn@...>Subject: Tired of trying to explain..Dominie Date: Friday, May 23, 2008, 4:50 PM

Hi Everyone! I just wanted to ask you all for some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize you don't work outside the home? For example, yesterday I stopped at a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive( $6.00) manicure. My nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & ahhing over them. They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema but I have been able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all asking where I worked & what I did for a living. I said I didn't work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2 dogs and a cat. They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I explain my fibro to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of "Oh,

It must be nice to sit around all day" and similar comments. I work at home as hard as can without overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's just a fact. Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this?? BethBeth Moorman

[Guest guest]

Hi Elsa- Thank you so much for your positive comments!!Beth

Moorman

From: Beth Moorman <bethmrmn@...>Subject: Tired of trying to explain..Dominie Date: Friday, May 23, 2008, 4:50 PM

Hi Everyone! I just wanted to ask you all for some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize you don't work outside the home? For example, yesterday I stopped at a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive( $6.00) manicure. My nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & ahhing over them. They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema but I have been able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all asking where I worked & what I did for a living. I said I didn't work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2 dogs and a cat. They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I explain my fibro to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of

"Oh,

It must be nice to sit around all day" and similar comments. I work at home as hard as can without overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's just a fact. Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this?? BethBeth Moorman

[Guest guest]

Beth,

You shouldn't have to explain your situation. Your personal life is

yours and yours only and what so many people don't realize is that

just because we are home due to the Fibro, it doesn't mean that we

are having fun.

It is absolutely NO fun to not be able to enjoy being home. They just

don't realize the struggle of how boring it is, how emotionally

draining it is, how financially draining it is, and how we lose alot

of our friends when we are forced to stay home from fibro.

Hang in there,

Hugs and Blessings,

www.sharethecause.com/teresa

>

> Hi Everyone!

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I just wanted to ask you all for

some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize

you don't work outside the home?

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; For example, yesterday I stopped at

a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive($6.00) manicure. My

nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & amp; ahhing

over them.

> & nbsp;They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema

but I have been able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all

asking where I worked & amp; what I did for a living. I said I didn't

work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2

dogs and a cat.

> & nbsp; & nbsp; They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt

somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I

explain my fibro & nbsp; to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has

happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of " Oh, It must be

nice to sit around all day " and similar comments.

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I work at home as hard as can without

overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to

take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's

just a fact.

> & nbsp; Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this??

>

& nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbs

p; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & n

bsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp;

& nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; Beth

>

> Beth Moorman

>

[Guest guest]

How true! Thanks !Beth MoormanFrom: Avila <avila4005@...>Subject: Re: Tired of trying to explain..dominie Date: Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 3:52 PMBeth,You shouldn't have to explain your situation. Your personal life is yours and yours only and what so many people don't realize is that just because we are home due to the Fibro, it doesn't mean that we are having fun. It is absolutely NO fun to not be able to enjoy being home. They just don't realize the struggle of how boring it is, how emotionally draining it is, how

financially draining it is, and how we lose alot of our friends when we are forced to stay home from fibro.Hang in there,Hugs and Blessings,www.sharethecause.com/teresa >> Hi Everyone!> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I just wanted to askyou all for some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize you don't work outside the home?> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; For example, yesterdayI stopped at a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive($6.00) manicure. My nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & amp; ahhing over them.> & nbsp;They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema but I have been able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all asking where I

worked & amp; what I did for a living. I said I didn't work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2 dogs and a cat.> & nbsp; & nbsp; They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I explain my fibro & nbsp; to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of "Oh, It must be nice to sit around all day" and similar comments. > & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; I work at home as hard as canwithout overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's just a fact.> & nbsp; Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this??>

& nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; Beth> > Beth Moorman>------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

You're welcome Beth.

From: Beth Moorman <bethmrmn (DOT) com>Subject: Tired of trying to explain..Dominie@groups .comDate: Friday, May 23, 2008, 4:50 PM

Hi Everyone! I just wanted to ask you all for some advice. How do you handle social situations when people realize you don't work outside the home? For example, yesterday I stopped at a local beauty school to get a very inexpensive( $6.00) manicure. My nails are nothing special but all the girls were oohing & ahhing over them. They are not even long- I have dry skin and usually eczema but I have been able to keep that under control.Anyway, they were all asking where I worked & what I did for a living. I said I didn't work outside my home, but I take care of my husband, 2 daughters, 2 dogs and a cat. They all gave each other a knowing look and I felt somehow rejected or like I was a prima donna or something.How do I explain my fibro to others or gracefully NOT explain? This has happened to me on several occasions and I am tired of "Oh,

It must be nice to sit around all day" and similar comments. I work at home as hard as can without overdoing things and am not lazy.I worked 2 jobs most of my life to take care of my kids alone- I am not complaining about that, it's just a fact. Any suggestions on how to handle comments on this?? BethBeth Moorman