Re: HELP I NEED FAMILY SUPPORT

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I dont know what to tell you.. I know how you feel.. even the people that are around me 24/7.. they dont get it.. and if I do have a minute when Im smiling and doing a little less bad, they forget so quickly and think Im fine.

From: HELEN BROCK <jhbrock@...>dominie Sent: Wednesday, October 8, 2008 10:43:46 PMSubject: Re: Re: HELP I NEED FAMILY SUPPORT

Don't mean to be hard on you, but start refusing. Your daughter should get to work by herself; tell her you can't drive her anymore and she will need to find alternate arrangements to get to work.When your daughter moves, there will be less laundry. Try to take care of yourself and your boyfriend. Your son should do his own wash. And meals. And if he's not paying rent, the vacuuming and other chores.Your boyfriend sounds like he was trying to help by offering to get dinner out, but ask him to pick it up?You have to look at all the little ways to pamper yourself. You have been serving others too much. Now that your children are grown they need to take care of themselves or leave.Look at what someone else can do. Could someone else pick up the groceries? Tell them you're too tired and hand them a list. Put your foot down and give yourself a break.I

know; I did what you're doing with my family, but my kids went to university and have learned to cook and live on their own. When at home, they did their own wash and would vacuum and clean up as I just didn't have the energy to. The house stays messy. My son cleans the bathrooms, the floors and does his own wash. I still do make dinner when they're home, though, so I can't tell you too much!They don't understand how much you hurt, so you have to be more assertive and tell them by refusing to do things they could do themselves. Helen

From: teresa.mermis <teresa.mermis>Subject: Re: HELP I NEED FAMILY SUPPORTdominie@groups .comReceived: Thursday, October 9, 2008, 1:46 AM

>> Hello all...I am writing to ask for help in somehow getting my > children and boyfriend that what I have is not only real but very > painful and limits me greatly. I have 18 and 20 yr old kids who a

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