Re: Intro /Help?/ What YEAR were you diagnosed?

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Hi Trina. Your situation sounds a lot like mine did. My husband had emphysema and I took care of him, worked full time and tried to keep house for three children. My fibro didn't start getting bad until that time. I know that the stress of being the only one that my husband relied on wore on me a lot. I, like you, had no break from it for four years as he gradually got worse.I agree with your theory of why you developed CFS. My fibro is definitely from too much stress for too many years. One thing that seemed to tip me into being much worse was a spell where my "slow" son was arrested for assault and spent ten days in solitary in jail. I almost lost my mind. After that, I could never relax.I've been reading up on the theory by Ashok Gupta and I think he may have some answers. He figures that

prolonged or traumatic mental stress combined with a physical stress, such as sickness or an accident, causes the amygdala to be stimulated constantly and the brain is rewired to always be on alert. He teaches a mind exercise to combat these thought patterns.I am trying his program, but find I can't follow it completely as I am still working full time in a stressful job, but I am still trying.Hope you feel a little more connected by joining this group.HelenFrom: ~trina~ <pooh1bear@...>Subject: Intro /Help?/ What YEAR were you diagnosed?dominie , dominie Received: Wednesday, November 26, 2008, 10:12 PM

Hi. I am new. My name is Trina and I feel lost and a little alone.

I was just diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome this past week....

I think it really has started within the past 3-5 years. Any good

books/links with information to help me??

I think it is due to my husband being diagnosed with Dissociative

Fugue, a rare Dissociative disorder that causes amnesic episdoes

(causes one to wander from work or home

with no recollection of what took place).... Since him getting sick

and experiencing episodes 11 years ago, I have had to care for him,

take care of everything

and all finances, kids, etc etc, since he cannot work or drive by

himself... It has taken a huge emotional, stressful, mental toll on me.

There are other things I have experienced in the poll, but for "me",

I am doubtful that this is where my illness stems...I think people

react in their own way even if they experience the same things and

thus, the body reacts in various ways, whether that be in the form of

illness, etc....

Anyhow, I believe it is the stress and feeling sooo overwhelmed and

overworked that it wore me down to the point that I couldn't (at the

present time) bounce back. I was never ever a sick person, so I guess

I feel a little lost right now and feeling like no one understands ,

although it doesn't surprise me

Any help is appreciated.

thank you, ~trina~

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Hi Trina,

welcome! You have landed in the right spot, this is a great group of

people! We are a group of former Superwomen, taken out by this illness

that ate us whole. Cruise through the files, and old messages, and then

check out Dom's newsletter and website. You will find many, many, many

answers there! What I have found here as well, is that there ARE others

who feel like I do, share my frustration, pain, and grief over an

illness that is poorly understood, and often seen as weakness or

laziness to the outside world.

I, too, became ill while caring for an ill spouse. I don't know what

the connection is, but this seems more than coincidence to me...

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