safety advice, you have probably seen before but read anyway

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Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)

When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady

friends, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My

men friends have female friends and this Information is too important

to miss someone.

Please pass it along and share it with your children.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on

what they look for in a potential victim and here are some

interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is

hairstyle< /SPAN>. They are most likely to go after a woman with a

ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed .

They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with

short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for

women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry

scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through

their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are

off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between

5: 00a.m. and 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery

store parking lots. The number two: office parking lots/garages.

Number three: public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman

and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to

worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year

sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged

because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going

after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or

other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands

Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have to get really close to the

attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these

guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is

following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an

elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question,

like what time is it?, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe

it is so cold out here,' 'We're in for a bad winter .' Now you've

seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal

as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of

you and yell STOP! or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked

to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she

would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an

EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of

it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER

SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you

can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from

behind, pinch the attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow

and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in

a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy

who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through

the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try

pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it

hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a

particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it

is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and

make hi m want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our

instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of

trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers

and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing

down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using

much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked

audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware

of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see

any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if

the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your

body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans : If a robber

asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it

away from you....chances are that he is more interest ed in your

wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse.

RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back

tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like

crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has

saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,

eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making

a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and

this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger

side, put a gun to your head, and tell y ou where to go. AS SOON AS

YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF,

repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into

anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the

person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as

the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find

your body in a remote location.

5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking

garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger

side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the

passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling

them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their

cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and

the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest

your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a

guard/policeman to walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than

dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are

horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is

especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control,

ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running ta rget) 4 in

100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ.

RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get

you raped or k! illed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-

looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of

unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often

asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when

he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a

crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the

police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police

told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a

window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get

run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way,

whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think

a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women

out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said

they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying

that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home

alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ---

This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was

mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they

profiled the serial killer in Louisiana

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save

a life. A candle is not dimmed by light ing another candle. I was

going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your

mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it

onto them, as well.