Re: Sex & FMS

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Hi Darlene, FMS has greatly affected my sex life, or I should say lack there of. Even when not in a flare, I'm still in pain and have no desire for any intimacy. Along with the pain I have the depression as well. My poor boyfriend of 5+ years has been hanging in there. I'm ashamed to say it's been over a year and he's even going to propose. How is that for a great guy!? I wish there was something I could do about it. Hugs H

From: darlene hughes <ndshughes@...>Subject: Sex & FMS"FMS group" <dominie >Date: Sunday, November 30, 2008, 4:00 PM

I was just wondering how FMS has effected your sex life? I find that if I am in a flare it is just too painful and if not in a flare I have no drive and don't really care about sex. I was just wondering if this was common or if I am alone on the loss of sex drive. If you don't feel comfortable answering on a public forum, you can send me an email at ndshughes (DOT) com. thanks in advance.Darlene

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Hi Darlene, Me & My Husband are actually going to counseling right for this problem. Well, most of the problem. I have no sex drive at all. It doesn't matter how much pain I'm in,I just don't have it. My doctor says It's from the anti-depressants, but I don't know about that? I kind of think it may have more to do with some factor of Fibromyalgia? Take Care All! Pam.S

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and Darlene,My husband and I work hard on our daily intimacy and we work hard on our sex life despite my pain,exhaustion and other issues. We chose to go to Imago marriage counseling to support our connection and communication. It is an amazing process and helps greatly. I believe that anyone married or in a committed relationship and chronically ill needs a support system for their relationship. It is hard on us and hard on them.{ For us as well we have Nell who has her issues and I care for my ill father who lives with us.} Imago really has been fabulous for our already wonderful relationship. Sex being a part of

that.http://www.imagocounseling.com/articles.htmlsue--- On Sun, 11/30/08, H. <bookie0415@...> wrote:From: H. <bookie0415@...>Subject: Re: Sex & FMSdominie Date: Sunday, November 30, 2008, 9:14 PM

Hi Darlene, FMS has greatly affected my sex life, or I should say lack there of. Even when not in a flare, I'm still in pain and have no desire for any intimacy. Along with the pain I have the depression as well. My poor boyfriend of 5+ years has been hanging in there. I'm ashamed to say it's been over a year and he's even going to propose. How is that for a great guy!? I wish there was something I could do about it. Hugs H

From: darlene hughes <ndshughes (DOT) com>Subject: Sex & FMS"FMS group" <dominie@groups .com>Date: Sunday, November 30, 2008, 4:00 PM

I was just wondering how FMS has effected your sex life? I find that if I am in a flare it is just too painful and if not in a flare I have no drive and don't really care about sex. I was just wondering if this was common or if I am alone on the loss of sex drive. If you don't feel comfortable answering on a public forum, you can send me an email at ndshughes (DOT) com. thanks in advance.Darlene

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I agree with you and do feel that it's an extremely important part of any relationship, but how when one is in so much pain. How does one enjoy the intimacy when it's hurting so badly? It hurts me just thinking about it and at the same time I do feel badly for him. I have to say I don't really miss it and I do believe it is because of how bad I feel on a daily basis. , I tried opening the link but it wouldn't open. Thanks for the ideas Hugs H

From: darlene hughes <ndshughes (DOT) com>Subject: Sex & FMS"FMS group" <dominie@groups .com>Date: Sunday, November 30, 2008, 4:00 PM

I was just wondering how FMS has effected your sex life? I find that if I am in a flare it is just too painful and if not in a flare I have no drive and don't really care about sex. I was just wondering if this was common or if I am alone on the loss of sex drive. If you don't feel comfortable answering on a public forum, you can send me an email at ndshughes (DOT) com. thanks in advance.Darlene

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,Try this. If it does not work just type it in your browser and it will bring you to the spotAs for the sex, I know it is hard. There are lots of ways to approach it where it is gentle and does not hurt and you can get absorbed in the pleasure of it. Even if it is just the great closeness with the one you love. It is not as if we are hanging off the chandeliers here. Once the door is open it is easier to to keep it open.Now , I have a therapist and we do the Imago. Jeff is also a life coach. I used to be a life coach around relationships and we have done a lot of Landmark. So we have a huge amount of relationship skills. Still with all those skill the pain and exhaustion of my illness does wear on our sex life but my commitment around keeping it alive has me want to do what WE can to conquer this problem.http://www.imagocounseling.com/articles.htmlHugs,Sue--- On Sun, 11/30/08, H. <bookie0415@...> wrote:From: H. <bookie0415@...>Subject: Re: Sex & FMSdominie Date: Sunday, November 30, 2008, 11:56 PM

I agree with you and do feel that it's an extremely important part of any relationship, but how when one is in so much pain. How does one enjoy the intimacy when it's hurting so badly? It hurts me just thinking about it and at the same time I do feel badly for him. I have to say I don't really miss it and I do believe it is because of how bad I feel on a daily basis. , I tried opening the link but it wouldn't open. Thanks for the ideas Hugs H---

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Thanks to everyone who replied, it does help to know I am not alone. , I think God sends us wonderful men because my dh never even brings sex up, just one more thing to feel guilty and depressed about.Darlene

From: darlene hughes <ndshughes (DOT) com>Subject: Sex & FMS"FMS group" <dominie@groups .com>Date: Sunday, November 30, 2008, 4:00 PM

I was just wondering how FMS has effected your sex life? I find that if I am in a flare it is just too painful and if not in a flare I have no drive and don't really care about sex. I was just wondering if this was common or if I am alone on the loss of sex drive. If you don't feel comfortable answering on a public forum, you can send me an email at ndshughes (DOT) com. thanks in advance.Darlene

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I can't agree more with the guilt. He never pressures me but he does tease when he comes home if I'm in bed he'll say something like "oh good you're ready for me", or something along those lines. He's definitely a keeper and your husband sounds just as wonderful. The last thing we need is pressure on top of our illnesses but I do feel really bad. Hugs HSent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeedFrom: darlene hughes Date: Sun, 30 Nov 2008 21:53:01 -0800 (PST)<dominie >Subject: Re: Sex FMS Thanks to everyone who replied, it does help to know I am not alone. , I think God sends us wonderful men because my dh never even brings sex up, just one more thing to feel guilty and depressed about.Darlene From: darlene hughes <ndshughes (DOT) com>Subject: Sex & FMS"FMS group" <dominie@groups .com>Date: Sunday, November 30, 2008, 4:00 PMI was just wondering how FMS has effected your sex life? I find that if I am in a flare it is just too painful and if not in a flare I have no drive and don't really care about sex. I was just wondering if this was common or if I am alone on the loss of sex drive. If you don't feel comfortable answering on a public forum, you can send me an email at ndshughes (DOT) com. thanks in advance.Darlene

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I have had low sex drive too, but I figure I am going to hurt anyway so why not make his day. I do benefit from it because he is always caring and generous afterwards. I get plenty of back rubs and he is concious enough to do whatever it takes to distract me from the pain so I can give. It is a struggle because of the pain, but why should I make him suffer too.

Stacie

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>Hi, I " m a faithful reader in the group, but rarely post.

I don't seem to suffer as a lot of you do,,,but then with taking

oxycontin every morning,,I think it masks a lot of my problems.

I also don't have any sex drive whatsoever,,but I do blame that on

all the meds I take.. including anti-depressants.

I just had an operation (appendectomy),, that was gangreous. So, I " m

really thinking of asking the dr. about trying to get off some of my

pills. It scared the living daylight outta me when I realized how bad

my appendix got before I went to the hospital by ambulance,,,as to

how bad I was without knowing it.Makes me wonder what else could be

masked by taking oxycontin. Not only that,, I " m always so

constipated,,and now even worse since the surgery. Is anyone else

always constipated? The dr has got me on Lactulose syrup and I " ve

been on it for 3 days now and still can't go. I " m in so much pain

from not going. Mind you, I " ve always problems that way,,,years ago I

had a barium enema, and it showed that I had an obstruction,,but

nothing was ever done about it,, even though I always bring it up to

the dr., but he just doesn't listen to me. I can go to extremes both

ways,,, not going for so long,, and suddenly get diahrrea for days on

end, till I have to go to the hospital, and put on liquids cuase I " m

so dehydrated,, they give me a shot of morphine to stop the darheaa,,

then send me home without any further investigation.. It's been like

this for yearssssss.Why they won't help me, is beyond me...they treat

me like a junkie.

If I was to type everything about my problems here all at once I " m

sure it would end up being a book...lol.

Oh, darn, I got carried away,,,but to tell you the truth,, I could do

without sex for the rest of my life,,so I think I " d better do

something about the meds I " m on soon,,or go to counselling too.

God bless,,,,, Jennie

> Hi Darlene, Me & My Husband are actually going to counseling right

for this problem. Well, most of the problem. I have no sex drive at

all. It doesn't matter how much pain I'm in,I just don't have it. My

doctor says It's from the anti-depressants, but I don't know about

that? I kind of think it may have more to do with some factor of

Fibromyalgia? Take Care All! Pam.S

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