Re: Re: Perfectionism - my dear sweet newly found sisters you make me laugh

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Thank you Cheryl for that post:

My Fibro,CFS,Chronic Pain, Neck and Shoulder injuries all started after a

major work injury after restraining a suicidal girl for 20 minutes while the

Security men watched, did not help, and I was as though the doctors said "

in a terrible Car Accident " .

This happened August 2005 and I have not been the same since.

I had the very good work ethic, raised a family alone, and was looking

forward to an active abundant life.

I used to need everything perfect however life has its way years before I

got sick of helping me to give a little when it came to housework.

I have a housekeeper that comes once a month.

Occasionally I pay my mother to help me eat and get showered from shear

momentum of her structure.

Life has lost some of it's structure.

Take Care all and Happy Holidays,

Re: e way.Re: Perfectionism (newsletter

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>> > Pam,

>> > I had a revelation about this after I got that tetnus and then

>> realized I was too incapacitated to function.

>> > I wanted things done perfect but I couldn't do them so they

>> didn't get done. My poor kids, God bless their souls for being so

>> patient with me.

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>> > I just asked my kids, hey, do you want to learn to do this the

>> way that makes me happy. They agreed. They are perfectionists too,

> so

>> they hounded themselves about not doing it perfect. I told them

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>> to keep doing it and with practice they can be more proud of

>> themselves. I told them I didn't do it right the first hundred

> times

>> either. With that I learned patience myself.

>> > I realized that I had to just let it go and look at it done

> wrong

>> until they learned to do it right, because I couldn't do it. It has

>> taken my kids 5 years to learn to do dishes properly, and I can

>> promise you it was so worth the patience. They don't always get it

>> perfect, but I'm not perfect so I just appreciate the fact that I

>> didn't have to do it. There is no more dried food on the plates

>> anymore, but now I am crazy about making sure they learn to load

> the

>> dishwasher perfectly. Well, not perfect, but you know, exactly the

>> way I think it should be loaded. HEHE.

>> > I have a fibro friend who lives close by and she has really

> been

>> hurting bad lately too from the weather. She commented that her

> tree

>> was decorated this year by her grandkids and she wished she hadn't

>> have done it but she just didn't have the energy to do it herself.

>> She said that my perfect tree was decorated like she would have

> done

>> hers if she would have done it herself. It is driving her crazy to

>> see it. She can't change it though because the kids will have their

>> feelings hurt. Even the presents under my tree are color

> coordinated

>> by wrapping.

>> > We have candy canes that follow our driveway line that we put

> up

>> every year. There are two rows one on each side of the drive. Well,

>> my husband did them wrong and we ended up with one row on one side

>> for three days. I tried to deal with it, but I missed so much sleep

>> that finally I went out and changed them myself. He kept saying it

>> looked fine to him, but I couldn't live with it. Now there are two

>> rows and I am sleeping better over it.

>> > It is crazy the things we do.

>> > I do appreciate Monk and his perfectionism. I often watch the

>> show just to get decorating ideas. I am really bad about this.

>> > I just think things function better when they all have a proper

>> placement. It doesn't help that I have studied Feng shui, the art

> of

>> decorating for energy placement throughout the home. It has not

> only

>> made me more aware but also has givne me a new perfectionism

>> perspective.

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>> > Merry Christmas to all and may your christmas be organized and

>> beautiful.

>> > Stacie

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