Re: re ldn is my security blanket

[Guest guest]

My opinion, but no, you shouldn't have said anything to the daughter about not getting too involved. I have two sons, and if every mother of their girlfriends had told them that, we would have missed out on some special times. Besides that, it sounds very prejudice. The disabled have a difficult enough time getting along in a world that isn't exactly accessible, and there are always going to be those who are afraid of us as if we had the plague, but we don't need our own kind turning on us! I just don't believe in instilling a spirit of fear in my kids.

Marcie (PPMS)

In a message dated 8/27/2004 10:58:55 AM Central Standard Time, larrygc@... writes:

I have 2 kids too. My daughter (18) started dating someone last December and his mother has MS. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything to her, but I told her not to get too involved, it may not be a good idea for long term.

[Guest guest]

Louise, I, too, worry about my 3 kids and MS. They are 19 to 25 yrs of age. We've talked about not knowing for sure if MS is hereditary, and of course its also a concern of thiers. But, I do have to say, not so much of a concern since I started LDN in 2002. They have seen me at my worst in past years, and have watched me regain my life in the past 2 yrs.... and now know that they have their own Security Blanket with LDN. Yes......."Thank You, Thank You, Dr. Bihari!!"

[Guest guest]

Telling your daughter Not to get too involved because someone she's dating has MS would be like someone telling you they CAN"T get involved because you have MS. It hurts.... alot. I"ve had friends and MY Husband walk out due to my MS, and I'll tell you, They are ALL missing the best time of my life. Too bad for them!!! I guess your daughter will make her own choice in the matter. But being a child of an MSr. and seeing what life could be like, she knows "First hand", and is apparently willing to give herself to that in her relationship. (Being 18, it could just be a "for now things!) There should be more people like her, not ready to run because someone has a disability. I say, "Good for her".

Just my own opinion!

Carol

[Guest guest]

That's my not so secret worry too Louise.I have four sons,at last count,and since it is on both sides of our family (my brother and I and my wife's sister) of course I worry but like you at least we have a little ammunition in our closet!

My brother still has to be in a "home" and my sister in law passed away three years ago.

It still looks brighter now than it did just three years ago though.

Reg.

-------Original Message-------

From: low dose naltrexone

Date: 08/27/04 07:53:30

low dose naltrexone

Subject: [low dose naltrexone] re ldn is my security blanket

Hi ,I havent written for awhile but I had to write this-:

I have 2 kids and my big secret worry is that they will come down with MS too.

like I did and my mum did.

I have told the eldest the risk but

Thankyou Thankyou Dr Bihari for LDN

for if either kid shows any symptom , I now have a security blanket to

use, to stop my kids ending up like my mum, whose got ms bad…( bless her)

Louise OZ

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[Guest guest]

Boy, this is opening a can of worms. Rejecting someone because they, or someone in their family, has MS is easily dismissed as the worst kind of prejudice. But peeling back a layer or two you can then see that it is another manifestation of a parent's desire for life to be as good and smooth as possible for their children. However, it is not the same as discouraging your child from dating a habitual criminal or hopeless drug addict. It's very hard to let our kids make their own choices without interfering. Very hard.

----- Original Message -----

From: LarryGC

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Sent: Friday, August 27, 2004 11:42 AM

Subject: [low dose naltrexone] re ldn is my security blanket

We didn't like him anyway, but that's beside the point. It was, however, a concern that came to mind when we were told his mom has MS.

However, since the subject was brought up. I guess it is possible that anyone my children date may have some reservations about Their father having MS.

22 years ago, when I just got engaged and had the worst, longest, most major attack (but have recently learned it was NOT, as I thought, the First) ever, Had we known it was MS, my future-intended may have, indeed, decided GOODBYE.

May be prejudice, may be whatever you want to call it, but I'm sure it does happen. Actually, when I was DX and I instantly realized 1981 was clearly an MS attack (finally no longer a mystery), my wife did joke "well, if I knew that back then, I may not have married you". Maybe it WASN'T a joke. Hmmmmmm.....

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From: marcie

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Sent: Friday, August 27, 2004 13:44

Subject: Re: [low dose naltrexone] re ldn is my security blanket

My opinion, but no, you shouldn't have said anything to the daughter about not getting too involved. I have two sons, and if every mother of their girlfriends had told them that, we would have missed out on some special times. Besides that, it sounds very prejudice. The disabled have a difficult enough time getting along in a world that isn't exactly accessible, and there are always going to be those who are afraid of us as if we had the plague, but we don't need our own kind turning on us! I just don't believe in instilling a spirit of fear in my kids. Marcie (PPMS) In a message dated 8/27/2004 10:58:55 AM Central Standard Time, larrygc@... writes:

I have 2 kids too. My daughter (18) started dating someone last December and his mother has MS. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything to her, but I told her not to get too involved, it may not be a good idea for long term.

[Guest guest]

Yeah, it should. It's an issue that 'comes up' whether acknowledged or not. Everyone makes their own choices and has their own beliefs. Can't change how people REALLY think, some things just never get mentioned or discussed, but the effect is still the same, people think plenty that they don't share.

But all things seem to work out for most people. If I we weren't meant to be a couple over 22 years now, with 2 children, a house in the burbs, and MS, then it would have worked out differently, no?

Hard to argue with Reality.

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From:

low dose naltrexone

Sent: Friday, August 27, 2004 14:17

Subject: Re: [low dose naltrexone] re ldn is my security blanket

Boy, this is opening a can of worms. Rejecting someone because they, or someone in their family, has MS is easily dismissed as the worst kind of prejudice. But peeling back a layer or two you can then see that it is another manifestation of a parent's desire for life to be as good and smooth as possible for their children. However, it is not the same as discouraging your child from dating a habitual criminal or hopeless drug addict. It's very hard to let our kids make their own choices without interfering. Very hard.

[Guest guest]

i hope and pray that any realtionship my daughter has is not in any way influenced by the fact that i have ms, or in any other perceived drawbacks of either family....

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Boy, this is opening a can of worms. Rejecting someone because they, or someone in their family, has MS is easily dismissed as the worst kind of prejudice. But peeling back a layer or two you can then see that it is another manifestation of a parent's desire for life to be as good and smooth as possible for their children. However, it is not the same as discouraging your child from dating a habitual criminal or hopeless drug addict. It's very hard to let our kids make their own choices without interfering. Very hard.

----- Original Message -----

From: LarryGC

low dose naltrexone

Sent: Friday, August 27, 2004 11:42 AM

Subject: [low dose naltrexone] re ldn is my security blanket

We didn't like him anyway, but that's beside the point. It was, however, a concern that came to mind when we were told his mom has MS.

However, since the subject was brought up. I guess it is possible that anyone my children date may have some reservations about Their father having MS.

22 years ago, when I just got engaged and had the worst, longest, most major attack (but have recently learned it was NOT, as I thought, the First) ever, Had we known it was MS, my future-intended may have, indeed, decided GOODBYE.

May be prejudice, may be whatever you want to call it, but I'm sure it does happen. Actually, when I was DX and I instantly realized 1981 was clearly an MS attack (finally no longer a mystery), my wife did joke "well, if I knew that back then, I may not have married you". Maybe it WASN'T a joke. Hmmmmmm.....

----- Original Message -----

From: marcie

low dose naltrexone

Sent: Friday, August 27, 2004 13:44

Subject: Re: [low dose naltrexone] re ldn is my security blanket

My opinion, but no, you shouldn't have said anything to the daughter about not getting too involved. I have two sons, and if every mother of their girlfriends had told them that, we would have missed out on some special times. Besides that, it sounds very prejudice. The disabled have a difficult enough time getting along in a world that isn't exactly accessible, and there are always going to be those who are afraid of us as if we had the plague, but we don't need our own kind turning on us! I just don't believe in instilling a spirit of fear in my kids. Marcie (PPMS) In a message dated 8/27/2004 10:58:55 AM Central Standard Time, larrygc@... writes:

I have 2 kids too. My daughter (18) started dating someone last December and his mother has MS. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything to her, but I told her not to get too involved, it may not be a good idea for long term.

[Guest guest]

No kidding! I don't think I made clear that at times we try to influence our children in the hopes of improving their lives when we really should trust them to make wise choices based on the guidance we have given them over the years. Believe it or not, sometimes they really do know what they are doing... Avoiding involvement with someone because of a health concern or handicap my actually deny them a relationship that could be the best thing in their lives. It is not the same as trying to steer them clear of thugs and ne'er do wells.

I'd sure hope not to be rejected because I have MS. I am a lot of things besides a diagnosis...

JT

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From: jmlrussell@...

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Sent: Friday, August 27, 2004 6:38 PM

Subject: Re: [low dose naltrexone] re ldn is my security blanket

i hope and pray that any realtionship my daughter has is not in any way influenced by the fact that i have ms, or in any other perceived drawbacks of either family....